i've never had a boyfriend | it's not just you
2024 ж. 19 Мам.
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this episode is for all you girls who've never dated before! it's not just you who's wondered if you're the only one or if there's something wrong with you?! soph discusses why she's never had a boyfriend and we conclude it's really not that strange.
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I’m a 24 US male and I have not had a girlfriend. I’m definitely suffering from “wanting a girlfriend for the sake of having a girlfriend,” especially because it just wouldn’t make sense for me since I’m in college going off to grad school. It doesn’t make the random bouts of sadness, loneliness and existential worry any less intense though. Yesterday I silently cried while waiting to cross the street after my date canceled (we mutually agreed that she was just too busy). I really enjoyed this podcast though, it’s nice to be reminded that it’s a shared experience and not EVERYBODY ELSE has had 3-4 boy/girlfriends by this point. Cheers, newly subscribed :)
As a guy, it's more attractive that you've never had a boyfriend. I'm 23 and from the uk; I'm the same but I don't wanna be in a relationship till I'm fully secure in my career which i'm well on my way right now. No need to entertain other people when you're not ready, our culture doesn't make that easy though. I admire that you have chosen to delay that choice, someone will really appreciate you for that.
It’s nice to be reminded that it can be a positive for some people because most of the time it can feel like I’m behind or unable to talk about these topics in the same way as my friends can, but I try to stay positive and remember some people really won’t care
@@kiera_klark8171 I think we all have our own timelines, every person values different things. Whilst I thinks it’s unrealistic in this day and age for someone to never have been with anyone, in my eyes it’s a bonus because it shows selectiveness and self worth. Do things on your own accord, don’t follow others. It’s all about the type of person you’re after, me personally I think it’s more attractive that you’ve waited whilst someone else could find that alarming, it does depend on personality a lot imo
No the Phuk it isn’t g
@@misterjay4347 if you wanna date a girl that’s been about, you do you bro. I have more respect for myself than that.
I 100% agree and relate to everything you said Soph! I'm also 24 and never had a boyfriend and it's great to hear someone who thinks exactly like me. Especially the last question, I want a boyfriend if he's someone great and compatible, but not for the sake of just having one and destroying my peace lol. This is the first episode I came across, so will be sure to check out more!
"Compatible" here meaning top 0.1%. It's hilarious seeing this start to affect women now. You collectively spent the last two decades destroying men in every way for your own benefits, now you can't find enough men who are good enough. Can't have it both ways, you reap what you sow I guess.
I watch one about a 30 year old yesterday so now this was recommended. My only advice is to put yourself out there meeting and socializing with opposite sex. As long as they are on their way to something you should be fine
We do like to hear about the random rambling ❤❤❤ makes it much more real :)))
Always look forward to new episode :) I love the contents as a text of English and enjoy the talking two of you! Love from Japan🥰
I had my first boyfriend at 22 .Love comes when you are not expecting it
Thanks for sharing your story, I enjoyed that💕. BTW you are gorgeous Soph, fearfully and wonderfully made! A princess of the Most High, trust in His timing🙌🏿
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I love this show. Great stuff ladies!
thanks so much!!!
I’m a 23 year old girlie from Japan, and never had a boyfriend. Hearing Soph's stories, I really relate to you. For me as well, I haven't felt the strong genuine feeling of "I want this person to be my partner". Although I do like talking about love life with my friends, I never felt the need to make a boyfriend. My friends always tell me that I am a healthy single and I really agree haha It was my first time hearing your talk, but I really love how you guys are sweet and genuine💞All the best:)
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i love you babe.
I had my first real relationship around 20. It was very late for my friend circle but some of us just need their time, so take your time!
That's right, it's not just you :) Majority of women have had their expectations and mindset warped beyond repair by social media. Sorry that there aren't enough 6'4 millionaire male models to go around.
I don't even know where that dumb ass idea came from, but it sure as hell wasn't from REAL women that aren't Instagram addicted girls...stop believing that women are all superficial like that
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I'm 22 and never had a boyfriend but there's this guy who really likes me and wants to go out with me but I'm scared and I have emotional blockage which sucks, any advice?😢 I'm definitely feeling pressured to be in a relationship because of my age tho
I think you should give it a try, it's an opportunity to have experience. Go in without any expectation whether it will go well or a disaster, in the end you will going to learn something from it. Because believe it or not as much as you want to you will never going to be ready. try not to think about this from a societal perspective that you have to do it. it's your life, you are doing this for yourself not for other people. it's good for you to have experience, it's good for you to fuck up now rather than later and yes 22 is still very young. And about emotional blockage, again you don't know that it will going to affect the relationship negatively, for that you need to go in a relationship to figure it out. And you can get help. start healing in the conjunction of dating, you don't need to choose one, you can do both of them together. again, always remember you will never be going to be ready. this is new for you that's why you are feeling anxious, once you become familiar with it, you'll be fine. Good Luck.
I only leave the shower head on the wall when I'm being lazy haha
Why?
I’m 24 and never been in a relationship. I don’t go to clubs or bars, I don’t do hook up culture. I go to the gym, play basketball with my friends, I like skateboarding and hanging out with my friends. But I’m still ignored by woman. I’ve realized if u ain’t a bad boy or fit the bad boy stereotype be expected to be ignored completely by woman. If you’re an old soul, be expected to be ignored by woman. They want excitement, and if u can’t do that for them, they don’t want u. Woman choose to be single, men can’t.
Women aren't a monolith. The sooner you realize that, the sooner you'll find someone.
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I’m almost 37. Beat that.