Two plastic Easter eggs filled with mung beans (Vent?) TW:sensitive topic mention
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My grandma basically thought I had been hurting myself so she said she wanted to check for wounds. But not just my arms and legs, my private areas as well. And I said no. But she just said and I quote: “okay fine I’ll call a doctor and get him to do it.” So I went to hide in the bathroom. My dad told her that it was inappropriate and not necessary at all. So thanks dad :)
Afterwards I talked with my dad and my grandma. So we’re on good terms now. But she did say that the check was fine because she was a girl. (I didn’t even say yes to the check)
I started self harming when I was in year 5, so when I was about 10. In year 7, teachers started noticing my scars and reporting me to the teacher that handles my years wellbeing. I was taken out of class several times where I lied about it. Then, in year 8 during a vaccination, a nurse spotted them and I was kept in the hall for about 2 hours, where the nurse questioned me and got our well-being teacher. I denied everything and went back to class. That same year, I told her I was self-harming. She got a different teacher to take me out of class and we had a 10 minute talk. They then ignored me for the rest of the year. Gave me no advice and no way to cope. Throughout that year, they’d called my dad several times and told him what happened. I didn’t want them to because we don’t have the best relationship and my mum left. That was the main reason I didn’t originally tell them. My dad said nothing, he didn’t help and didn’t even ask me about it. Now all my siblings know and so do my dad. They practically ridicule me about it and make jokes all the time. It’s shitty cause my older sister used to self harm and they showed her so much love and affection during that time. They tried desperately to help and accommodate her. I still self harm to this day, I’m at the end of year 9 and going into year 10. I turn 15 in September. I’m so sorry about what happened to you and you have every right to be angry. That was an invasion of your privacy and there were so many other ways she could’ve helped. That being said, take advantage of the help others will give you and I hope you get better soon! Posting this on an alt account cause I’m insecure lol 💜💜🥰🥰
That's the difference between internet and rl that's why pppl are afraid to talk abt their problems too
If you or anyone else need to talk lmk :) stay safe and I hope you have a good day/night
I’m sorry that happened to you. I hope you do stop self harm, but there is nothing i can really do about that. But all i can do is say im sorry that all happened. I hope you feel better soon, and even though it might seem like self harm might be the only option, i hope you can stop eventually. I hope you feel better soon tho- 🫶🫶🫶
I actually gasped reading your comment, because of how similar our stories are. I also started self harm young, when I was 11. I quit for a few months and went back to it at 12, and never stopped after. At 14 some friends caught on and told our head teacher because they didn’t know what else to do (I don’t know what the American equivalent of it would be, but most likely it’s the same as a counselor), who called my parents. My mom got me two cats 2 days later and threatened to kill them if I ever self harmed again, so that’s fun. My dad ignored me. I stayed clean for like 6 months out of fear for my cats, but I did relapse eventually. My point is, I’d forgotten what being clean was like. My skin didn’t ache anymore, showers didn’t sting, I didn’t have to worry about bleeding through my clothes or trying to not show I was in pain whenever someone brushed against the cuts accidentally. The first few months were really hard, so I fought the urge by staying out of home, and befriended my neighbors, which was a shock to me because up to then I had no friends. They weren’t exactly chill, so I’ll admit I was constantly high after starting hanging with them, but it did get my mind off self harm. I never got addicted to whatever they were smoking (I never really found out lol), I didn’t use it enough to and I have a pretty high resistance I guess. As I said, I did relapse, but I was so scared for my cats it never happened again. It’s been more than a year since then, and I have been clean. What I mean to say is, getting clean was shit, hard and I had more lows than highs. But it was worth it, and now I’m 16 and I finally feel like it will be okay. Even with a shitty family and stressed as hell with school, I feel better than ever. It is hard, but I hope that one day you can feel the same. Sending love❤
My heart literally stopped when I read the self harm part-
i hate when people say "oh am a girl/boy too so its *fine* " when its not fine edit: i can feed my family with these many likes-
Same… it’s still inappropriate and gross
Same!!! Or they say ''im related to you so it's fine''
Once my grandmother made me take a shower with her and she said "it's fine, we're both girls"
mhm!! it’s uncomfortable too
The worst one is “There’s nothing I haven’t seen!” Just because they changed you when you were a baby
Okay just to clear things up. Because some people think my mom wanted to body check me, but no it was my Grandma.
im so sorry you went through that, i hope you feel better now
I’m so sorry you went through that, glad to know you’re fine now
I’m fine so don’t worry.
Glad to Know😅
Bro I hate when people say that “it’s fine” when in reality it’s actually really inappropriate no matter gender. I literally have boundaries about that, but I feel even worse for you.
Someone saying it’s fine because they are the same gender is WRONG. It it’s still a huge violation of someone’s body considering how you’re young too. I’m so sorry she put you in this situation and I’m glad you didn’t let her. Please stay safe!!
You and your dad dropped this 👑
I understand, sometimes people can be a little.. touchy..? I’m sorry you had to go through that, I might not know the exact feeling but I can understand the similar parts. I’m glad you’re better now! 💗 ^^
I'm so sorry! I hope ur fine god bless you!
im sorry you had to go through that and my mom almost did the same to me just cause she saw a shaver on the counter i didn't to anything but i was still freaking out just over the fact that i don't really care whether she's another girl or not its UNCOMFORTABLE same thing with changing in front of her and other stuff its just a no
That’s actually terrifying. I used to s/h too. Ur not alone
Bro people need to understand if someone doesn't want to show their inappropriate parts of their body even tho you are the same gender as them doesn't mean you can force them to do it - message to anyone who's reading this and also for my mom too (she always says that it doesn't matter if another girl "I'm a girl" sees your intimate parts of your body; it does matter!)
Oh my goodness yes! I know someone who's younger sister constantly has that problem with their mother. And yk what, were all female. If I'm in their bedroom. And they wanna change, I'll stand by the door facing it so neither me nor their younger brother barges in
So sorry for u !!
Your dad’s a savior and deserves to be worshiped. He literally saved ur life there 🥹
that must’ve been terrible. I hope you are alright now
Omg that is so not okay!! If u aren’t comfortable YOU HAVE THE RIGHT TO DEFEND URSELF! No one is allowed to do anything to ur body but urself!
That’s horrible dude, my mom made me do body checks every week the month she found out I SH and god that destroyed me. I hope you are feeling alr
Hope you’re okay! 🫶🏻
It would have been okay since she was also female, but only if it’s on your terms. I feel bad she was forcing you like that, and I’m glad you both are better now. (Also I love your pfp. Are you German?)
It’s not okay when people say: “It’s *Fine* I’m a boy/girl too” It’s *not* ”fine” You said no and that means no
I’m so sorry that happened 🙁
I understand checking in on family, especially during hard times when self harm is more likely to happen, but she also wanted to basically violate your privacy and check your areas that no one else besides you should be touching. That's so weird...
Story time for when my mom found out about my SH: She checked my texts with my gf and found out, tried to force my pants off and see them, I started sobbing and hide under my pillows and would not move.she called cops and sheriffs to get me in the car and we drove to the hospital, we stayed in the hospital 16 hours. Then I was transported to Virginia Baptist,and stayed in another hospital for 6 days and nights
that sounds horrible! Are you okay now?
@@Mystery_0X uhm yes I’m fine now, she took most of my stuff tho
@@Michael_Fitzgerald11 I’m glad your safe and okay. What your mom did was not right at all!
I hate when people say their the same gender as me, and they do something physical. (like a full body check like in this video)
Same thing happened with my mom 2 days ago
I know it's a bit late to coment but yeah! I mean one day a girl was practically forcing me to show her my inappropriate part of body and when I refused she was like "c'mon It's fine were both girls". AND IT'S NOT!!I still have my right to have privacy even if were the same gender!!
Are you ok now, I feel so sorry
Hope you and everyone who sees this comment who has done sh is getting better. Here's a random thing I made up You're not worthless. We all have a worth. We just have to find our worth. It may take a long time. It may be hard to find. But it's there. You may be told you don't have a worth. But you do. Maybe the person who was told you that is struggling. Perhaps they don't know their worth either. But we all have a worth. Even if it's just existing. It's very valuable. I may not know you. I may not meet you. I may not understand you. But I'll be there for you ❤
granny going senile i think
If thy person does not allow, thou shan't force upon thy person. - Me (Basically means if someone is told no, they are not allowed to force the person by any means. No means no 😌)
Reminds me of the time where my school counselor forced me to rip off the bandages and not letting me leave her office and these bandages where stuck on tight so it was like getting a painful wax and my fresh sh wounds had reopened the experience overall distressed me emotionally and if I ever see her again I don't think I'll be able to stop myself from punching her in the face from all she's done (At the time didn't realize I could sue her for emotional distress from this experience but now it's too late for me to do that) Bonus: Same counselor also ridiculed me after I brought my emotionally support cat with me which is legally as an emotional support animal and I have the paperwork to prove it she even went on saying she had cat allergies and I couldn't bring her with me even though she never sneezed neither we her eyes become watery indicating an allergy also this was after the first incident
I’m so sorry you went through that. Are you okay now?
If you or anyone else need to talk lmk :) stay safe and I hope you have a good day/night
I ate the bandaids Jk I stole them when I relapsed (7 weeks clean yaz)
good job on being clean! im proud of you!
Cool! :D Way to go man!
Self harm isn't good, and it shouldn't be allowed, but it won't be solved by mental hospitals or by force. Someone needs to help someone to make them stop. self harm is inflicted mostly for family problems. SO someone should help someone from it.
What your grandma did was not right! Even my mom and grandmothers wouldn't do that!
so sorry this is off-topic..but how did you make the lgbt wrist bands ? and im really sorry this happened to you, i self harm too.
I make the wristbands by using gloves and different wrist accessories. Then I just select the colors of the pride flag. (If there’s more colors then you can fit on the wristband or gloves you can just use the outline to put different colors. ) I hope this helped ❤️
@@Mystery_0X ah, didnt really help cause idk how to get 2 wrist accessories. do you know the numbers of the items ? you dont have to give them, but im really trying to make them.
@@-.little.brat.- the numbers I use for mine are wrist 29 and glove 8.
@@Mystery_0X tyy
She was doing a full body check…. For bandaids…?
Yes and no. She thought I was harming myself, and that I was using bandages to cover up marks
j'ai besoin d'aide, ma mère est méchante
Are you okay? This translates to “I need help. My mother is mean”
She wanted to check out of love for you it sounds like. However, I don’t think it was okay for her to threaten to call the doctor.
Deutsch, ja? Ihr Profilbild zeigt die deutsche Flagge.
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What’s that supposed to mean? Lmao.
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Was that supposed be an insult? Lol
Why d8dnt you let her check you're too sensetive
To be honest. Your right, I was being sensitive at the time. But she didn’t just ask me if she could do a body check. She was going to force me to do it, even if I said no. (And a full body check meaning I’m completely naked and her checking for wounds.)
Dude wtf
@@Mystery_0Xthat’s only fine if it’s your mom, and somewhat ok if it’s a girl doctor.
why didn't you leave them alone you're too desensitized
@@Mystery_0X No you're not sensitive lmao they probably just have a miserable life and this is how they get off on the internet I don't do s/h but parents shouldn't judge their kids they should be concerned and want to help them (you know, like any decent carer..) You aren't 'sensitive' for wanting to keep your body private, especially if its vulnerable to you
Not taking no as an answer and threatening to get doctors (aka strangers) to do a body check on you? I’m so sorry you went through that. You are my new favourite channel because I am a Lesbian AroAce and I am British German.🇬🇧🇩🇪❤️🧡🤍💝🖤💜🤍💚🖤