4 AWFUL Habits That Make People Disrespect You
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There is a way of gaining respect and power that is not about projecting strength, but the truth of who you ARE
So in this video we’ll be using Viserys Targaryen's dinner speech to show how you can influence effortlessly and command respect you for who you truly are.
⏰TIMESTAMPS⏰
0:00 - Intro
0:28 - Force
1:00 - Manipulation
3:44 - True power
4:35 - #1: Share the complexity of your emotional truth
5:04 - #2: Own clearly when you're asking someone else to behave in a way that makes you feel better
6:06 - #3: Power is most effective when it's consistent
6:51 - #4: Don't pretend your demands are requests
7:34 - How to stop confusing demands and requests
10:41 - How to build social power quickly
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This kind of videos make me to appreciate I'm living best time of humankind.
Nah that was the 90s
Sure. Then identity politics videos show up and I remember it's the worst time of humankind.
Utelias. I agree with you mate 🥂
@@Vivi_9 Not really lol.
@@arturomillan well they shouldn't bother you if you don't care. Cheers!
It's hard to think you have power when you're all alone. Power over yourself I guess. As a species we are very social. Without a social cirlce or our own small tribes/groups, we are alone and struggle to survive for multiple reasons. I'm a very calm, patient and understanding person but can't seem to keep a circle of friends, the handful I make for a while always end up ghosting me and don't give me a reason. I can't fix a problem I am unaware of.
Well, you can have power on your own, by knowing yourself (who you are, what you can and can't). Too many people just follow others rather than taking responsibility for their actions and then complain about poor results... Regarding your problem: it's a tough one. I do know that feeling. It can be one of the following: 1) you don't invest enough into their needs and they look for getting their needs elsewhere 2) people change and need to move on. In that case, it's for the best of both of you. 3) you got some bad habits you're not aware of, or creep them out. The former can be best fixed by finding honest people who are not afraid of speaking out about what they think. The latter is a bit more difficult. People can be creepy because we don't know them better, or (perhaps in your case) that your relationship becomes more intense and they notice things about you that they either don't like, or can't match with the image they have of you (like being a happy go lucky guy, but they slowly realize that it's more of a facade). To fix this you have two options: have superficial buddies, or find people with whom you can be who you really are (that's the difficult option)
@shadowsax You described your situation so perfectly I feel I could have written it myself. Making new friends can be very difficult and a lot depends on your environment. It may have nothing to do with you! I don't know your age, but if for instance a woman is married, has children, and works, she has very little room in her life for a new friend EVEN if you could be the best friend she ever had. Today many people are so very self involved that the relationship of a true friendship is hard to find. All you can do is keep being you, doing the things that interest you, being friendly but also safe and don't settle. Some friends are not worth having. All situations are not ideal for making friends as I have unfortunately found out. I moved from a city to a small town in the south where I have no family or friends. I am unable to work. I have no husband or children. I am very much alone and many of the normal avenues I would take to meet people are unavailable to me. I'm very social and have long fun conversations with neighbors and people I meet when I'm out. It would be nice to know how to take those kinds of situations to the next step. Does that make sense? Your heart and your time are precious and valuable. Guard them and don't give them away freely. Don't be discouraged, it really may have nothing to do with you. Keep being your best you and doing what you love and friends may find you. Best wishes my friend.
I have had the exact same problem and it is infuriating. I have been ghosted by so many people, its just awful.
I think it's normal for friends to not always be there with you over longer periods of time. Have you tried building family?
Self absorbed? Maybe you have a big ego and its not fun being around. Making everything about yourself.
This is SO GOOD. When you got to the part about how we treat ourselves when triggered by acceptance or rejection, it was a light bulb moment for me!!
I just watched this today. I needed this. Thank you Charisma on Command. Been following you all for years
Beautiful message and information, thank you Charisma on Command!
This is amazing. In other words be vulnerable but don’t allow outcome to dictate how you feel or affect your confidence. 👏🏼💯🙌🏼❗️
I didn't know I needed this video so much. Thank you!
Charlie, this has been an incredible and insightful video. I've come to realize the gravity of your words in my heart, in my mind, and in the people around me. Moving forward, I will keep my mind aware of others' ways of influence as I move to live with the value of true power. Thank you for your ongoing positive, eye-opening, and ethical philosophy. It has personally helped me to help take control and live a fulfilling life with the people around me.
The only thing missing in this season was a character like tyrion who is smart and funny. And kudos to cristan cole for excellent hair
I thought his name was Ser Crispin?
@@AbcAbc-sp1odI see what you did there lol
These videos are life changing. Keep up the amazing work!
This is now my favorite video of all time on this channel! Thank you so much!
Thank you for everything brother, you're constantly improving my life
I think it's one of the best videos I've watched. Thank You!
Another incredible video, thank you so much ✨
This was quite deep, thanks you guys
One of life's great paradoxes: In order to command respect, you must first have respect for yourself regardless of your circumstances or how others treat you - true self-respect. When you have true self-respect, you understand that how others behave says everything about them and nothing about you.
well said brother
I love what you guys are doing! Insane! Thank you so much for this video.
I needed to hear this. Thank you. 🙏🏽
This might be one of your best videos of all time. Wow!
1000 of this type of videos in this channel. Charisma on Command is goated
This is a good message for people.
4:23 I was not expecting that face on the right
It caught me so off guard. Is this an actual character in the show? Why does he look so big mouth?
@@beatyouryeet that’s Sir Roderick. In this video they edited his mouth to look a lot bigger
@@bradhuygens but why?
one of yours guys best vids for sure
Wow, thanks for the video.
There is a difference between power and having the respect of others. Knowledge is power but too much knowledge can get you killed. To gain respect keep your friends close and your enemies closer. However, it is often difficult to tell the difference between those you may THINK are your friends and those who pretend to be for personal and/or financial gain at your expense. I discovered the difference at a point in my life when I hit rock bottom and rock bottom has a basement. Once you observe others they become pretty predictable. People will always test your boundaries. Make your boundaries clear and defend them at all costs. Most people lie. Never lie unless you have to. "Nuff said!
This may be the best video yet
amazing job Charlie
I love this channel.
Brilliant, you are wise beyond your years....men or women at any age can gain something from your expertise
This is really really good.
Thank you
Ty! Missing puzzlepiece located
This video helps a lot as i'm going through a difficult situation with toxic people
stay strong
Charlie my man! Great video, there is an adequate share of Charisma on Command in the improved version of myself.
You are just amazing... thanks for guiding
Try another channel that might guide you toward great things. If you enjoy ideas about mastery and masculinity, I invite you to explore the videos I share on the Mastery Order Channel. Challenge yourself with some concepts about manhood, explore your masculine potential to the maximum and become the kind of man you would admire. We can only better ourselves together, as men among men, so I invite you to use what I share and, of course, share your own opinions so that others can benefit from them as well. Looking forward to your points of view. All the best to you!
@@MasteryOrder already subscribed to that.
@@sushant.280 Glad to have you on board. I hope you can use the ideas on the channel to your benefit. All the best to you!
@@MasteryOrder thanks...this knowledge is so needed in East(India) also.hope to learn a lot from you in future...
@@sushant.280 Use what I share to your advantage and never hesitate to ask for a second opinion if you ever get stuck on your challenges. All the best to you!
This had so much packed into such a short few minutes… I am showing this to my children!!!
This is really good! Thanks 😊
These things are so amazing, really helpful! Every video is so packed with information I just choose one at random and take few days to work on it, come back and choose another! The details are so clear when explained but something I, personally, would never think of in my day-to-day life. Amazing! -Kind Regards
Glad you guys are back! Great video too, how can you not love some HotD ;)
This is pure gold!
Shoutout to the editor behind the subtitles. How the sentences were chunked into parts with transparency was just the right tempo. The highlights were fine too for filtering the main words. I started getting tired of the trend of rapid-firing individual words in shorts - otherwise I might have not thought about this too much.
Thank you for sharing this honesty with all of us. 🙏🏽
U r so helpful my brother
can u do one for jack harlow like how to be flirtatious like him and funny like him or just how to flirt like him?
You don’t want to be like jack harlow
Good to hear your voice Charlie, I loved everyone else who took up the mantle, but good to hear ya in these trying times
I love your got series. 👁👄👁
Originally was using this channel trying to get girls Charlie, now, it's a regular reason for me being on KZhead for hours. Thank you
Robert Greene's 'The Laws of Human Nature' and Robert Cialdini's 'The Psychology of Persuasion' are absolute MUST READS if you are interested in the topic of persuading others through manipulation or sheer intelligence. Heavily chunky books but worth the read, you will learn a lot!
It's power for me. 😌
amazing to see how this channel has developed, keep up the good work!
You are a great person. I learned a lot from your channel content.
This video came to me at the perfect time. Thank you! Do hope to see the podcast come back as well
At 10:23 … this has to be one quote that can last forever for everyone!👏🏽
The people, who don't respect you, will filter themselves out creating space for those who do. couldn't agree more
This Is very good info love it well done
Dude you are amazing! Wanna be like you.over expecting no.but yes
Yay! I was waiting for this your GoT analysis were so good I hope this continue that saga
Meanwhile my math teacher walking towards the camera at 10:30
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Interesting video with adequate examples. Thank you
First notification gang 🤝🏽
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I like the story-telling concept of this video. Very helpful points. Reveal who you are in order to gain respect. Great work.
Now I have recognize what is the true power😁
Be yourself but spoken scientifically 😊 thank you!
Assuming you're a decent person, otherwise I'd say the real message is to be a person of integrity
really good video
If you enjoy ideas about mastery and masculinity, I invite you to explore the videos I share on the Mastery Order Channel. Challenge yourself with some concepts about manhood, explore your masculine potential to the maximum and become the kind of man you would admire. We can only better ourselves together, as men among men, so I invite you to use what I share and, of course, share your own opinions so that others can benefit from them as well. Looking forward to your points of view. All the best to you!
I saw what you did to Sir Rodrick :)
can you do a video on how to talk to shy people
That'd be a good one.
As a non-shy person, I have the ability to make even the dullest wallflower bloom... The way I do that, is I promote my confidence around others, and I encourage the shy person to engage. It really is a talent I believe. I'm very outgoing, I'm friendly and agreeable, and I do what I can to make people feel good in their own skin... But yeah, I would love to see a video of him covering that!!💯🔥❤️
someone was trying to manipulate me for their benefit and now i know for sure how it is explained. thx
As someone who first discovered your channel through the GoT breakdowns, I've been waiting for this since season 1 ended. Great stuff!
Nice
ditto
Glad to hear Charlie, your other colleague Ben is great too but you were long gone and it's good to hear your voice again! also show Viserys is such a nuanced and layered character!
I was thinking the same thing. Good to hear your voice Charlie! I can hear, in the latter half of the video, your own intense personal journey down a path of wholesome living.
Feels bad to say, but I honestly can't tell the difference
This is genuinely helpful advice! Thank you!
When are you doing a podcast again guys?! Great video!
Disdain the things you cannot have ignoring them is the best revenge
Yesss
Well this video is surprising me. Mostly because I can finally put a word on what's most changed since I left my mom's nest. I became powerful.
Valuable content!
One of your deepest videos, thank you for the way you treated the subject
This video is all I needed today
I agree with everyone else here - this is a halo video for the channel!
How to be the most powerful man in the room. "Have a gun"
GOT breakdowns are back!! 😮
Great video!
I would love to read your book Charisma On Command, but my god, why is it $142 on Amazon?
this is a damn good video.
Also, if you want to be a salesman, start by making a product that’s actually useful to people. 100,000 ads for Skillshare won’t get you that far when KZhead has free content that’s just as good.
I mean, I do all of the positives you mentioned, and yea I do get my way some times, but most times than not, people don't go with you, because they don't have to, and you're just not that important in the grand scheme of their relations. Even when we do all of this, we still don't have power. As Cersei said: Power is power. And as Varys said: Power resides where men believe it resides.
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Does it always or most of the time have to work out?
Its an illusion created between those with power and those without.
True 100 %
How about making an episode on Khabib Nurmagomedov? He's from another world, and the way he deals with reporters and impose respect seamlessly is inspiring
I wouldn't consider incentivizing as force; it is sort of the opposite of force. In true force, someone gets what they want at the expense of the other without the other having a choice. In incentivizing, both parties have choice and both parties are supposed to benefit from the interaction.
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Qual é a causa da procrastinação? _Acredito que seja multifatorial._ Ser ganancioso é uma das causas mais típicas de procrastinação. Pretendemos atingir nosso objetivo o mais rápido possível subindo uma escada gigantesca que se torna mais desafiadora para nossos cérebros a cada dia. Em vez disso, concentre-se em formar hábitos tomando pequenas medidas cotidianas. Se você quiser terminar um livro de 350 páginas. Comece lendo 10 páginas por dia, não 50 páginas por dia. _Minha mãe tem pouco estudo mas já dizia, de grão em grão a galinha enche o papo!_
The MAN is back! Missed that voice.
A must have video for power/authority/conviction charisma 👍🏽 tag it to the most favourite videos in you playlist
Could u make a video on Matt Smith/Daemon's magnetism too??
Was open with my now ex gf about something medical that made me feel weak, rather than show empathy and compassion, she questioned why dismissed it completely. Next thing I know she left me.
She sounds like a bad person, you're better off without her!
If you did it from a place of wanting her to show you love, you weren't being truly vulnerable. If that's the case, you probably don't believe you're worthy of love, and therefore felt the need to manipulate her into showing you love by being vulnerable. Like Charlie says in the video, if you express your feelings not to get a certain response from the person you're expressing to, people who aren't right for you will know to leave, but you'll get so many people who do adore your authentic self.
She wasn't the one, bro. Don't look back, and don't fake if she comes back. You can do better than that.
@@shootatsquare You deserve better. 💖
If you waste my time trying to convince me of something that I don't care about, then I'm going to be mean to you until you go away.
How can you self consciously force these mannerisms? I get the idea that this is a course in feigning social skills. They should be unconscious, effortless. Not bogus
I can't buy the course.
0:00 I'm pretty sure it doesn't.
Lonely mechanic 84
What a magnificent performance by Paddy!!!
bro bring a video on aemond targaryen body language and personality(adult aemond)
WOW; golden nugget for lack of better words! cant thank you enough!