When Accepting Your Anxiety Isn't Working
It's so easy to tell yourself that if you just accept your anxiety, it will go away. Unfortunately, this isn't true. While acceptance is important, trying to simply force yourself to accept your anxiety will only leave you feeling frustrated and disappointed. There are better ways to overcome your anxiety - ways that don't involve pretending that it doesn't exist.
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My mind refuses to let go. It doesn’t want to accept. It constantly spins trying to make myself accept, then starts scrambling and spitting out every reason I should worry which keeps me stuck. It’s so frustrating.
I’ve realised, high or low, versions of anxiety will follow you all the way through life. Thats why the term “longterm freedom” is so true. Anxiety is very uncomfortable and our natural response to it is trying to feel better. If we keep treating it like a problem it will stay and grow. By simply allowing your anxiety to coexist while understanding that it’s nothing but perceived danger, our minds automatically adapt to our behavior and calms down. Accept and feel, don’t avoid.
Beautifully said ♥️
shaan i want you to know that i thank god everyday that i found your channel
It's hard when you don't have the money for an anxiety coach. I tried to sign up and it you could only pay 1,000 or less they won't even help you. I understand that everyone needs and wants money. But so many people need help with this but just don't have that kinda money! The world is so messed up 😢
My anxiety has gone down so much after watching your videos and I didn’t even feel like I did anything. Just by hearing you explain the way to handle it has unconsciously affected me. I still have work to do but even medication has not helped me as much as you !! Now I sleep better, breathe better, not as much freaking out in the car on the highway lol. I’ve been stuck with this for a couple years already, there’s no rush to “get better” but the improvement makes me hopeful, it’s okay if it’s slow. I never would’ve thought looking up how to stop a panic attack on KZhead and clicking on one of your videos would actually help. Thanks so much Shaan.
when i learned acceptance i basically just told myself "this is my anxiety okay. Just accept whatever comes and dont do anything." For me it was digestion related i let my stomach gurgle If it was sweating, heart palpitations etc responded with nothing and went on doing whatever i was doing. Shaan and DARE Response taught me well about the flight or fight Response and what it is and i am thankful for both teaching me the right way.
Glad to hear :)
What is dare
In my 10 years of experience I've had with this sh** I can say this is 10000000000000000000% true and this is the most important thing to understand to recover
I wish you'd have had this video out when I was trying to recover lol took me a long time to fully understand how to just let it be
How long did it take to understand ...did tou find this channel late
Good video Shaan, keep it up!
Such a great and truthful video thank you for this 👏👍
You are the liberator man ❤❤ Much love from India
I have been looking at how to process emotions and letting them go i noticed it become a compulsion as you said when we accept something we don’t look for a way to get rid of it , thank you for your videos i hope i will reach recovery soon cause am learning new things everyday ❤
This insight Shaan has is amazing. I had severe panic disorder last year after a sorta bad "worst cold ever with mild pneumonia symptoms". I recovered somehow with these videos and DARE. Recently I got covid (omicron? who knows) and my physical and mental anxiety is back with a vengeance. So I believe the same techniques will "work" (paradoxically of course). But man what a journey and I can't believe I'm going through it again so soon. And perhaps the fact that I'm even admitting to doing more than carrying it with me is probably a problem. Still, I cannot thank you guys enough for this information.
This is spot on. I feel accepting doesn't mean liking or disliking. It means being able to accommodate what is. It then begins to reduce. My anxiety no longer stresses me out.. paradoxically
Hello Shaan, Thank you for helping me recover throughout my journey. I'm glad I found you. I hope you have Happy New Years much love.
Happy new year!
You you Sir❤
That chest and back tightness does not go away really frustrating
I'm suffering 24/7 dizziness 😢
Hi Shaan I would like you to make a video on the fear of fear
how do you deal with flashback and overthink about the past trauma due to emotional abuse and you deal with it everyday after social anxiety cured and still suffer from different anxiety
Your videos are my lifeline these days :)
Plz add me
I feel the same way…
Same
I keep having intrusive thoughts of “I don’t want to be here anymore because it’s too scary” but I’m not suicidal. How do I accept those thoughts, they terrify me
I found that saying a dismissive comment to the thoughts work. Like for instance, i'm so tired of feeling this way, I might as well end it!! Laugh at that thought, or... Oh shit, that's an interesting thought🤔 then just do whatever you were doing. Try not to go down the rabbit whole with those thoughts.
@@noneotha33 that’s my biggest problem I go down a rabbit hole because I think “oh my gosh do I really believe this?!” And I analyze it to death and feel guilty
You don't need to do anything. Just say 'whatever' to it. Be dismissive and try to live your life like you used to. try to engage yourself in something, people say distraction doesn't work but it is the only option sometimes. If it gets too much just write it down somewhere in a piece of paper. I don't recommend doing that (using methods) for a long time because it might become a way to avoid things and rely to heavily on the mode to cure your problems. Trust me I've been through almost all of these things and there are days when I'm just simply pissed because of the fact tht I'm so self aware that I'm always trying to look for a solution- interrupting myself all the time. I think that's the anxiety. It's best just to leave it alone or be just meh towards it.
@@itsisha9762 you are right but the problem is that the thought keeps coming back..so is it going to be there forever?
Howd u go
I do accept my symp i understand it still i get symptoms 24/7 which makes me feel scared inspite of knowing everything i cant help myself😞😞😞
Definitely you can over come i also struggled with dp/dr by accepting you can recover but accepting alone can't you should not focus on how you should feel ,this isn't like this this should look like another way , should or shouldn't let it be don't fight focus on daily it will go believe me ,i recovered 60 percent
I feel you this is my feelings right now😢
im going through this and thank you for your videos,really helpfull,í prayed to the Lord Jesuschrist,and í came across your videos,í dont know if you believe or not,but God bless you!
Where is the free E book?
Your video "accept now go away" is missing in ur channel??
Is it normal to have severe memory problems with dpdr
Shaan, why don't you give us a simple explanation and example of how to properly 'accept and allow'? I've watched dozens of your videos and you never give us an example so we can try to understand what you mean and apply it to our own symptoms...
Mentorship
Read the free report and you’ll understand better. Every situation is essentially the same. It’s all about understanding the problem and why you need to do nothing about it.
I've seen many of the success stories. And many of them are young people. I'm 64 years old. And I don't have years and years to wait for this to go away. Actually do have some health issues. I've had them checked out by doctors and they are real they are not in my mind and they're not a symptom of anxiety. But those health issues do cause me anxiety. I tried accepting health issues that I can't do anything about. Unfortunately I think I'm still stuck in a loop. I do know what's going on when I suffer from a panic attack. I accept it not to make it go away, but just so that I don't cause it to keep going. It's very counterintuitive.
What if some people don't have the money for guidance? What do we do
Watch these videos and apply the principles :)
Show caption in this video plsss
I went back to lifting weights pretty hard like I used to but the day after seems my anxiety spikes a bit. Why does this happen?
It doesn’t matter what causes it. What matters is that you realise what is happening and what it is (percieved danger). Then respond correctly.
I also started lifting weights again but anxiety is just vanishing. Fatigue਼weight loss and muscle tightness in back is worse. How r u .plz respond.🎉😢
Can someone guide me a little? I have allowed my sensations such as my numb hands but the problem is since I use or we use hands 24/7, I sometimes can't accept the sensation and even when I do, I think I have some sort of intrusive thought or something that tells me I can't grip something. I do get muscle weakness and once I accept the symptom, it goes away but when I grap my phone, my mind wants me to put it down as I can't hold it and then I am back to square one where I feel weakness again and then I am stuck in a loop. How do I break this habit? It is that one intrusive thought where you grab a baby and you feel like it will fall off your arm or something like that. I used to have such thoughts but I would brush it off but now am obsessing over them.
what is the song used in the intro?
please let me know
I honestly don’t know. I know it’s not licensed is all.
So acceptance is not about what you do, it's about what oyu don't do
Hey Shaan Why did not you find it appropriate to answer my questions that i asked you on your previous two videos did i ask you anything wrong so u did not reply... I am a bit disappointed with it really... Had great hopes from u but
They were not appropriate questions.
@@anxiety_recovery U mean whatever i was worried about is baseless and it has nothing to do with the anxiety i have suffered in life and i can go ahead in my life without any issue as i was perceiving....
@@anxiety_recovery Ok... But to make us comprehend properly if you could make a video on this.... I would be really grateful to u for my whole life.... As this is the only thing that creates doubt in mind else rest is fine... Plz Shaan