Oppositional Defiant Disorder?
Are you seeing any of these signs or symptoms on your child or a child you know?
Hello and welcome to another video about behavior disorders. Today we’re going to talk about Oppositional Defiant Disorder.
Oppositional Defiant Disorder, or simply ODD, usually affects children and is characterized by disobedience, anger, lack of control, and a recurring pattern of negative behavior. It is often challenging for caretakers and educators to deal with kids who suffer from this disorder.
The oppositional defiant disorder is a common behavioral condition among school-age children and can be defined as a persistent pattern of negative, hostile, defiant, and disobedient behaviors observed in a child's social interactions with adults and authority figures in general, such as parents, uncles, grandparents, and teachers, and may also be present in their relationships with friends and schoolmates.
We all know that disobedience is an increasingly common problem in the school environment, which directly affects children's development and compromises their learning. It can be linked to several factors, including oppositional defiant disorder. ODD is little talked about, but awareness has grown alarmingly within society in recent years... continue watching to learn more about Oppositional Defiant Disorder.
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Do you see any signs of ODD in your child or someone you know?
Yes my kid have signs of ODD.. that's why he is not able to continue school
Yes. My 16 yr old
This is 1000% my child and I have no clue what to do ? he is breaking this family adn making it very unpleasent to be with at all times. I had to start home schooling him because of this.
I have it, it makes me look like a fool
Thanks for the clear explanation. How do we treat this disorder effectively? Thanks
My grandson has been diagnosed with both ADHD and ODD. I have been working on a reward system for him and positive reinforcement instead of yelling, taking away electronics, standing in the corner etc since I read a beginner’s guide on parenting children with ADHD . I’m new to all of This and i am learning everything I can to help him as much as I can. today was the first time he’s apologized for telling me he hates me. He was calm when he faced an issue with his clothes and we handled it well. I literally choked back tears because in moments like this. I know we’re doing our best to figure out how to manage everything in a positive manner. Because it has been quite overwhelming when I have 3 kids to take care of and it affects everyone in the family. I’m very proud of all of them and grateful for all the information that is available.
@@CorwinSTP I have never heard of it before. I’ll look it up. Thank you for the information. I appreciate it.
I stand with you my daughter has 4 children and the 8year old I believe has odd and now hits girls and punches them at school also he verbally abuses his mother and throws things
@@yolawells7015I’m sorry to hear that. I go through that with the 10 year old. The cussing has gotten out of control and some of things he says shocks me. I’m trying everything to get him to stop. I’ve taken everything a way from him. Put him in timeout etc. after a few times in time out he’ll slow down a little. He’ll say well if you didn’t make me mad or if his bothers made him mad then he wouldn’t say the cuss words. He hits his brothers and has hit me recently. I’m learning everything I can and how to handle the situations. Everyone that I talk to tells me they would’ve whooped his butt. They don’t realize that’s not how you handle these kids. You have to just figure out how to work with them because they’re are different and they are still kids.
Thanks for our testimony of a real success situation. Seemingly very small; yet to a parent/grandparent of an ODD child that that small apology is HUGE. Thank you for taking the time to share this. You by your commitment are making a positive difference in your grandchild’s life. It is very encouraging.
As a person that has odd it does not hurt anybody more than it hurts the child. Being constantly told there is something wrong with u does cause damage. Also allot of the times (not every case but most) children with odd developed it from bad parenting/abuse. So picture this. The child has developed a strong defiance and negative feeling towards the parents, and they arent wrong for feeling that way, a child can ask for help all they want but bcuz their home is terrible, and who will belive a child with odd? in my experience, no one, the child cannot defend themselves at all or even explain why they are valid for feeling this way bcuz they are labeled as defient, annoying, destructive, liars, and problems starters, now if you were labeled as that , tell me would you be happy?
It is true being told something is wrong with you doesn’t help.
ODD in 2023 is known as a catch all diagnosis.. meaning they just label them that so they can justify their $250 hour therapy sessions so the bad or abusing parents can be happy and have a label and say its the child not me.. its sad now a days its lot easier to profit off the Misery of children... notangieluna3 is correct
I'm a single father that had to fight like hell to get custody of my two kids from their addict mother that abused them extremely. And iv had them 5 years now and my son is 14 and has a great life and every opportunity to do well and I have done every counseling available, years of clinics and zero ground is gained. He would steal the buttons off a blind man's shirt. I can't even go to sleep without him stealing money, breaking into anything that is locked, he is expelled from his district for constant posession of marijuana vapes. He has been to jury 12 times. I don't know how to get thru to him. I constantly compliment his actions, I reward his accomplishments, very few and far between tho. If an adult isn't looking at him he is trying to steal. And NEVER tells the truth. About the pettiest of of things. It's so heartbreaking seeing the path he is choosing. Because he is very intelligent. Good grades when he could be at school. But he can't go now and I live 40 miles from next district and he got us kicked out of our home in that district and was in alot of trouble there too. What would you consider am effective route? All he wants is money and status. I can't find anything that he will stick to. Dirtbikes, fishing, iv tried everything he mentions.. he literally steals everyday. I catch him sneaking out of house literally every night. E.V.E.R.Y. night. I'm a single marine veteran on my own. Please help me get my son back. He is diagnosed OSS, ADHD, and PTSD. And nobody can ever get him to speak from the heart. He manipulates to play victim to every mentor he gets. Everyone sees thru it but he will never budge. He gets mad at me to an extreme extent for even saying something when I catch him stealing. He could have cheeto cheese all over his fingers and hands and swear to God with all the emotion that he hopes would snag an Oscar and tells me he hates me for not believing him when he says he didn't eat 1 cheeto. While I'm staring at fing cheese on his fingers and still chewing a mouthful of them. It's exhausting and me and my daughter are at our wits end in deep depression because it just gets worse by the day. It's like an unmovable rock. He could burn down the house and be mad at me because I didn't buy him marshmallows to cook over the fire. I can't understand it. He is very loved. And I'm the only person he's got. He has stolen from every relative to an extent they won't have him at their houses anymore without me there. I have to take him to work everyday. He is almost 15
@@patrickbergen1271honestly, and it breaks my heart to say it, I would tell you to invest at least half as much in the second kid you barely mentioned. She exists too. And it may be the case you can be sure to have done everything you possibly could for the 15 yo. Knowing when to give up is also wisdom. Who knows, maybe having always been there for your problematic son could even be the root of it all and he may change when your desperate fatherness is gone. But please, don't neglect the quiet one. Save at least her.
My youngest son was just diagnosed with ADHD and ODD. My husband and I are good parents who set appropriate boundaries. We both work a lot, though. Our son is the youngest, and our other children are grown and married with their own kids. So, he spends a lot of time alone on our work days. There is no abuse, no yelling, no fighting. We have a nice home. He has everything he needs and wants. None of our other children have ODD. It's hard not to feel like it's our fault. His therapist is very clear that it isn't.
I spent the vast majority of k-12 in ISS “in school suspension”. I was constantly being at home suspensions. As well as being almost kicked out of every school I’ve been to. The first elementary school I went to had to make a little room for me in a closet. Once got caught with an ice pick in second grade. I learned early that the school couldn’t really inflict a punishment that wasn’t acceptable to me. So I just did what I wanted. I’m doing well now actually. Never been to jail as an adult, I’ve had a stable job about 9 years and married with kids.
Wow congrats and keep going
Congratulations, what would you suggest for my 8 year old son? I’m trying to help him as much as I can
@@hearme4581 I had to make a lot of mistakes and figure things out for myself. I didn’t have guidance. The things now I know now that would have helped me sooner would be structure, as in developing routines. Goal directed activities maybe things like Boy Scouts or martial arts. Practicing stoic philosophy can also help learn to avoid impulsive behaviors and help with controlling anger outbursts. It took me 30 years before I figured things out for myself. Patience with him is the most important thing in my opinion. I became very used to people giving up on me when things got hard and it did take its toll mentally.
What would have worked for you back then to behave? Do you know?
@@brebrown5338 yes actually. Once for a track and field day in 2 or 3 grade a guy who was an army vet came and did the field day with me. Did the most push ups, sit ups, jumping jacks and did the second fastest track time in the school. I guess the tldr is one on one with a mentor who didn’t try to force me to do things
My grandson has this and has acknowledged to me that he wants to be good but he lives in a household where their is constant yelling at him. He has low self esteem and is just 9 and I know he has felt this way since he was 7. I wish I could do more for him but I live out of town. When I am with him and treat him with love and kindness I see little of the bad behavior.
This must be extremely difficult, and yes most likely he behaves bad in the household to receive attention in some way even if it is negative. I am glad you show him love when you can.
I hope this video brings more awareness to this problem. I recognized my child having this about 8 yrs ago. I could not get the school, therapists or anyone else to listen to me. They all laughed it off and told me I was either exaggerating or to wait it out-it’s just a phase. This left me with no game plane on how I was to reach my child to get real change. Many many fights and a lot of wasted years have gone by. At this point my teen child has issues that others are clearly seeing and pointing out. My message to other parents-if you truly believe your child is O.D.D., educate yourself on it and start making changes NOW! There is so much advice these days on how to handle this that I did not have access to. Take the reins and enact real change fast! Good luck to anyone watching this video 🍀☺️ 💪🏼
I'm going to follow your advice! Thank you :)
@@Zanniroxwell Good luck to you and your child 💕
We are looking at having to get a lawyer to get her in cdc classes. The school has been fighting is, saying it's just behavior. She had recently been diagnosed with autism, and they don't agree with it. The updated her iep, but the person the school system uses says that she doesn't have autism. So they say that she's not eligible for self contained classes. She is already on lots of meds for different things. If the gets diagnosed with this I hope we all can get the counseling and help that is needed. Mental health care, for the most part, where I live is a joke. Counselors don't tend to stay with her very long, and that makes it worse for her, and it always feels like whatever place is helping is trying to say that they are equipped to help her.
@@tazgamerplays I hope the lawyer helps you against the school. I find dealing with the school exhausting. Good luck to you 💕
@@brown_eyed_girl Thanks. Right now we are getting everything printed out, and going to get her different doctors opinion on getting her into those classes instead of regular classrooms. We want to have everything we can ready.
I had a friend with ADHD and ODD. The shame from being constantly corrected as an ADHD child resulted in him developing ODD. Unfortunately his oppositional behaviour persisted into adulthood and resembles narcissism as he is unable to receive any feedback from others and learn from his mistakes. I observe him going through life concerned only about his needs and surrounding himself with sycophants who do not challenge and thus enable his maladaptive behaviours.
Watching this video made me think of one of my students, i always knew it's something out of his control. Much appreciated.
I think questioning your environment and everything involved in it is crucial for everyone.
It is crucial, but willpower of an individual is the difference between becoming "another brick in the wall" and being someone who makes a difference in society. People with ADHD often struggle with moral values.
@@ildart8738 depends where you get your morals from buddy.
I believe my 8year old grandson has this you described every thing my grandson does and this started when he went to nursery then school he was given red cards for hitting out at other children and the last 2years hits out at girls including his mother as a nan he saw me cry but showed no empathy and just blanked me I am now going to try and get him help I thankyou for your programme x
Sounds like my daughter, and she does have neurological, brain issues, adhd, and autism. This has never been brought up, so today was the first time I have heard about it. We will be getting her treated for it, so she and us can get they help we all need. As parents we have been asking for help for us on how to be better parents for her.
I have Autism ADHD ODD. I'm struggling with ODD its been affecting me for a long time. 20 years old and reflecting back and it started when I was 12 in year 7 high school started getting detentions not listening to the teachers. From me not being aware of my condition what was wrong with me I never gotten treated and it resulted in the condition gotten lot worse to the fact it ruining my parents life and also brothers life as in my brain it feels like as if I am getting attacked when I get told to do something or improve on and this make me have difficulty of following instructions. Cost me getting my independence many of things. You do have empathy and feel bad for each time you act out. Truth is through schooling you see lots of people acting out and not listening to teachers instructions and schools don't do enough to educate students about this condition. In school you have a lot of bad influence as what you see and around is what you become.
What you say is true Tyson not many schools do what is necessary. The good thing is although it has taken time you are aware of what you have and that is the first step to make everything better.
@@thrivingwithrichardbass yes exactly.
That’s what my grandson says. People are always yelling at him. If you ask him to do something, he becomes defiant. He could be just asking him to brush his teeth, or wash his face. Never mind asking him to do his homework. He is six years old and of course needs directing. All he wants to do is play on his tablet and watch movies. The minute you ask him to do something constructive, it’s a battle field. He is only going 1/2 days to kindergarten and lately he’s been suspended from school which last four hours. Mom and dad work, I (grandma) watches him. I am exhausted mentally and physically. My grandson hasn’t been diagnosed professionally. His parents don’t agree with me on the diagnoses. I am retired and not having any fun starting over with my grandson.
I have these diagnosis as well. I needed very strict teachers. The military fixed me up for the most part.
My grandson is 6 and has all the signs of ODD. He’s also been diagnosed with ADHD.. WE HAVE NO SUPPORT SYSTEM here in the country. Everything is 20 miles away and I can’t drive. This is horrible. One person said it was hard on the child ? Yes but it’s also hard to hear “ I hate you, I hate this house, I hate this room, I hate my bed, I hate Santa clause,I ate everything “” everyday and I mean EVERY DAY !! What is a grandparent supposed to do to help their grandson ? Im just at my wits end
First of all I am sorry to hear you are going through such a hard time Janine but here are some general tips that might help: 1. **Establish routines:** Stick to a consistent daily schedule. Predictability can be beneficial for children with ADHD and ODD. 2. **Set clear and simple rules:** Clearly communicate expectations and consequences. Keep rules simple and easy to understand. 3. **Positive reinforcement:** Praise good behavior and offer rewards. Positive reinforcement can be a powerful tool for shaping behavior. 4. **Provide structure:** Create a structured environment to help your grandson know what to expect. This can help reduce anxiety and disruptive behavior. 5. **Encourage physical activity:** Regular exercise can help manage ADHD symptoms and provide an outlet for excess energy. 6. **Seek professional help:** Consult with healthcare professionals, such as pediatricians, therapists, or counselors, for personalized advice and strategies. 7. **Connect with support groups:** Online or local support groups for grandparents raising children with special needs can offer valuable advice and a sense of community. 8. **Practice self-care:** Take care of your own well-being. It's essential to recharge and manage stress to be better equipped to support your grandson. I just released a new video today which talks more in depth on this here is the link: kzhead.info/sun/o9SSc7qwiKOeZ68/bejne.htmlsi=ZV46WaLOAGBZ7sx5 I know you are far from help but online is an option for support!
this is fun to learn about my disorder and how i can get help with it even with therapy
Remembering when my narcissist abusive mother used this diagnosis my brother got after he tried to run away from her to keep him under her thumb and convince professionals he was the problem. ❤️
Most of the time my 6 year old son try to do the opposite. Like for all of these years he fights every day as soon we are taking him to the shower for years! Also if I said, lets go to the pool, he replied: NO! I don’t want too, two minutes later, YES! I want to!, I said ok let’s go, my son replied: NO! I don’t want to… like wtf. Please help
They like to play the opposite game. My son is the same way. You almost have to trick them into getting things done. My son is 13. Breaks my heart.
I was diagnosed when I was 8 was supposed to get help but never did, now 28 and only being re diagnosed last year I will have to suffer with it for the rest of my life. I have it due to childhood trauma.
Thanks for the clear explanation. How do we treat this disorder effectively? Thanks
ODD is linked to ADHD. As a kid with ADHD I suppressed my emotions, but it was very hard for me. With regards to ODD, I think these are kids that have ADHD, and since they don't fit into normal society, they start to experiment, and become sh*t disturbers just to make their environment a little more exciting. I was the same way in high school. What many people don't realize, is that people with ADHD need more stimulation.
Our grandson only exhibits his odd at school. Why because school was and is the problem. He was bullied, they did nothing, he had depression they criticized and called him non-compliant and lazy, now they do everything this video says not to, despite years of trying to get them to understand. So your analysis is off, he's never been diagnosed with add or adhd and psychologist is adement no signs of it.
Please recommend where to get help specifically for ODD. Thank you
My niece has this disorder. The whole family is at a loss as to how we could help her. Inspite of the frequent visits to counselors, psychiatrists, psychologists, ( and even healing priests) , we are on the verge of hopelessness. Please help
Same thing with my 5yo son. I'm just about at the point of acceptance that it's gonna be a lifelong disorder. I'm afraid he's gonna develop CD or APD
Every child is different and what you guys are doing will pay off in the long run, showing support and love is what and ODD child needs and it gets better as they grow older. I do go over parenting ODD more in detail in my books and workbooks. The link is in the description. I will also continue to upload more videos on ODD.
@@thrivingwithrichardbass Thank you I'll definitely chk it out. His is thought to be genetic and bolstered by his temperance. Worse part about it is watching him suffer and not being able to take his suffering away
Same here although I never used any type of substances when I was pregnant.
The progression of ASPD is Adhd, odd, depression, conduct disorder then at 18, ASPD. These people need structure, consistent simple rules and boundaries with consequences. They need to know that they will go to jail, if they commit crimes. They can benefit from therapeutic children's homes, somewhat. This is a genetic disease. Only antipsychotics help.
I have ADHD and I had a phase after my parents broke up that felt similar.
Great Video! My 6 years old has this disorder and as a family, we are dealing with many behavioral issues.
Me too !
Me too 😢
@@rachelc6087has your child been diagnosed?
@@Zanniroxwellis that an official diagnosis?
I have ODD and im try to learn more about it for i can try control it but i have ADHD and ODD so its hard for me
Can ODD be selective? For example, exhibited at home but not at school or out anywhere else ?
Sorry not sorry. Its not difficult to STOP doing what you're not supposed to be doing OR START doing what you're supposed to be doing. No excuses. That's life.
I believe that we all carry these traits .
It is prevalent in adults as well.
If a person has cancer, do we blame the doctor, or do we support, listen, ask questions and work together with the doctor for the solution or do we blame the doctor for his or her focused and skilled determination to help? This video would seem to say that the child is the victim of the doctor, that the unfortunate circumstances and defiant and assulting and damaging behavior is almost diserved and no responsibility is ever to be placed with the person providing it. Lets start addressing the situation, calling the behaviors what they are, and start helping not hurting the doctor. - a survivor of childhood trauma.
Looking back over my childhood from what I know about my dad I believe he had this in childhood and adulthood. He was abusive to me
My son has this disorder it’s not severe at home, but can be a big problem at school. We as a family have been through a lot. What can I do as a parent to help him?
The good thing is that it is not severe at home, what are you doing different at home. Maybe getting on the same page with his teachers might help him. He requires consistency. I would need more context in order to fully answer this question, but I do have a book based on possible things to do and workbooks depending his age as well. From the link of the book in the description you could check my author page and check the workbooks as well.
Brilliant video
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My niece who is Sicilian decent seems to suffer from as all we are, this terrible anger
It's not ODD, Sicilians are fiery and really excitable....
My son has this and adhd😢
I think my son may have ODD how can I find out and what can I do to help him.
In order to find out if your son has ODD he would have to get diagnosed, if you see a pediatrician let him know about this concern and he should be able to recommend a psychiatrist or psychologist.
I have odd too 😔
I think my 9years daughter going through in this....I feel so helpless
My Mom fixed my so-called "ODD" behavior with a belt. Cleared up pretty damn quick; almost like a miracle! Same for any "ADHD" and "ADD"... pulling that stuff at the supermarket got you a stern warning the first time, and a wake-up call the second time. I'm appalled at how every bad behavior kids naturally exhibit is now being excused as suffering from some "condition" as if they needed therapy for it. You know what? I'm glad I got the belt. I'm not spending my life (and my money) on shrinks and pills trying to manage all my different "conditions".
Yeah, my mom bought a book called "Assertive Discipline for the Hyperactive Child". I'm not too sure if she ever read it, but she surely could have nearly read in brail off of my ass by the end of the summer.. I never snuck out, I never stole the family car, I was home by 10 and certainly NEVER DARED talk back or argue. 😂 I think you might be right.. they outlawd spanking a few years ago and look at society....
I also have ODD and Autism
Learning assertiveness skills is the solution to this problem.
Having a parent who disciplines and follows through is also a solution.
I think that my daughter has this disorder. She has 4 years old. Can someone suggest a book for parents to guide them about how to handle it?
you could check out my book about the topic : a.co/d/haJpam0
Time for that Ned Flanders treatment plan. 😂
2:48 ODD vs CD 3:09 ODD can progress to CD
stop blaming mothers and parents for disorders , this does not have to be mentioned since it is a disorder that has been studied for many years
I second this. As a parent of a teenager with ODD, it is terrible how much healthcare workers and education professionals seem to blame everything on parents. In addition to you loved one screaming and cursing at you, professionals that should know better just keep blaming you as well. All the whole giving a long list of all the things you as a parent must do at every waking moment to avoid the crises.
My child has this and its horrfic
My great granddaughter has this
It is always the parents
Therapy and prayer. God can and will help you. I believe he can’t
(FACTS OVA FEELINGS). ITS NO SUCH THING OF BEHAVIOR DISORDER. OLL THE ONES THA SAYS AND THINK THIS JUST BECAUSE OTHERS THINKS AMD DONT SEA THEIR LIFE PPL PLACES THING AZ THEY DO AND THIS TOXIC POISION SOCIETY DOES IS THE VERY SHIT FOR BRAIN R THE VERY ONES THA DISFUCTIONAL
I stopped reading at the “facts ova feelings” part
@@Mindyours5512 You made a good call there.
Spare the rod……and you get this.
Children with dark skin and thick dark curly hair seem to be targeted
The Scottish?
jesus, assimilation much?
Wow, great job blaming the teacher!!! Wait, isn't that what the student is doing? Wait, maybe the author of this video has ODD!!!