GIRL CHAT: Is It Ever Ok To Keep Secrets From Your Man?

the extra secret bank account filled with money got every African mum CLAPPING 😂😂. They always tell us a man may leave but your education or money won't!! 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽

I don’t see anything wrong with having another bank account because the way men act nowadays , you never know ! And just for emergency purposes period .

I agree with loni and Jeannie..comparing yourself to your partners ex’s is unhealthy

Adrienne was coming through strong. She don't want no other chick thinking she has one up on her because shes been with her man. I feel her.

The old lady in titanic said it best, “A woman’s heart is an ocean of secrets”. 🤫

Clearly Freddy believed in keeping secrets from his spouse...

Ladies don't let ur man feel as if he has a 100 percent hold on u. Thats when he's gonna start taking u for granted. Sometimes they dont need to know EVERYTHING, just whats important.

Being nosy is fine, but do you want to know about his ex because you want to know how he was and how that relationship shaped him... or do you want to know what she was like to compare yourself to her?

I'm moving in with my boyfriend but he's already seen me with no wig so the secrets are all out :)

This is old because Jeanie and Freddy got a divorce right

Adrienne ever since she’s been married has been acting so brand new and like she suddenly don’t understand anything.

bruh i agree w loni n jeannie period. comparison is the thief of joy. when u compare urself to ur partner’s ex’s its ALWAYS messy. even if u find out u the “cutest” one, u still gonna be pressed wondering why he liked that girl n why she look different then u. don’t get held down by the past.

You don’t have to tell each other everything. Just the important things. People are allowed to have some privacy 🙄. Separate bank account is important. Look at these stay at home moms who get divorced and have nothing. No job. No name for themselves. At least have some money to get you an apartment and food until you get your life together and never depend on someone to take care of you again.

Depending on the situation. You have to keep SOME things to yourself, for yourself. But definitely having another bank account. You have to secure yourself IF something was to happen. Keep that to yourself!

Adrienne is young. It's not a secret stash account. It's just my money for my purpose.

Loni’s facial expressions kill me. Over here LMAO 😂🤣🤣🤣

I just love Tam. I'm praying for you and the family to have a long successful and blessed marriage.

I definitely want to wait until I’m married to move in with someone💯

Adrienne is assuming that the ex cares about the new significant other. Not everybody is trying to one up or feel like they got something over you. I’m sorry we’re all different but to me that’s whack. Like what if the girl doesn’t know you don’t know and she or he just doesn’t care.🤷🏽‍♀️

Omg I'm with loni there are somethings only me and the lord know and I'm taking it to the grave.

Freddie? 2:12 Ok The Real youtube team, I know we’re gonna get flashback episodes but this is a little ridiculous. Topic thoughts: I agree with telling my partner just about everything. It’s those little things that you keep in hiding that turn into big things and honesty, trust and transparency is IMPORTANT to me in a relationship. There are things that you can’t and shouldn’t share (best friend secrets, specific details about past experiences, etc) but gambling debt and addictions? Nah fam.

when you feel secure enough in your relationship, it doesn't bother you to know his ex

Who else at to recheck the upload date when Jeannie said “Freddie” ??

I never tell my man how much money I have in my bank account

I don't tell my man everything and he doesn't have to tell me everything. I don't care who he's been with. He doesn't care who I've been with. We say what's important. Outside of that we don't think it matters.

I miss these light hearted chats where they talk about their personal lives

If someone contantly talking about his exes and comparing you to them its a major red flag

When Adrienne asked "what was he doing that was so..." i was done

I swear these women live in Lala land when it comes to their understanding of men and the pedestal they put their relationships upon.

Anything regarding your mental/physical health like addictions or exes, I feel like as a partner I deserve to know. But having a separate bank account I feel is just about preparedness. You NEVER know what the future holds or what will happen between you and your partner. My mom said as a girl you should always have money set aside for yourself just in case.

I never understood Adrienne more than I do in this video. She’s always looking in deep with everything she speaks!!!!!

I feel like people who move in before marriage or even engagement I would like to consider it a “test run” because it gives you the chance to see what would happen and get used to what they do in the morning , what time they do when they wake up , how do they do things around the house... and then once marriage kicks in , you feel like you have a sense of that person and took that time and figured that it worked for them and took the next step to be with that person as their life partner !

No. Secrecy in a relationship on either side is not ok. Secrecy is dishonest and once you break that trust it's HARD to get back. Privacy however is perfectly fine. Privacy and secrecy are very different. Privacy is a reasonable boundary and should be respected, secrecy is intentionally keeping something from your partner in a deceitful manner. As far as the seperate bank account goes? For as long as I've known what a bank account was, my parents have had seperate ones. They still know at the end of the day that everything they have is each other's, but I think the illusion of having seperate financial assets helps to keep the peace and prevent a lot of fights about money.

I feel like Adrienne and Tam usually agree on relationship stuff

Lonni and Jeannie speaking straight facts💯💅🏾

The secret account is a basic for a women. You never know what will happen next, but you can swiftly get out of it, if it happens 🙏 (gambling problems, beating, cheating) And avoid being the :"I have nowhere else to go" kind of woman. Because it's a terrible place to be in your life. ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜 Peace, Love, and Coconut

"if that person doesn't matter, why would you feel weird about sharing it?" THANK F***ING YOU! PREACH

The look Loni gave Tam when she interrupted her and Tam shot it back🤣😭. I'm deceased😂

Why does everyone care so much that’s it’s old, if you haven’t seen it then it new to you. Old or new it’s still good topics

Adrienne has said this many times “NO WOMAN CAN THINK SHE HAS UP ON ME WHEN I WALK INTO A ROOM”

I feel like ppl who use the “what happened before us doesn’t matter” approach have a high body count

I love them!! Even though they have different opinions they don’t pop off on each other and still try to hear the other person point!!

when it comes to couple statistics id take them with a grain of salt, many keep living together just bc they wouldnt afford living alone

I agree with loni. Not even just my man. Some things i won’t tell anybody. It’s my business. Your man doesn’t have to know everythingggg.

I tell my husband everything. I am too honest just like Tamera and Adrienne

My husband asked me all sorts of questions from my past relationships and I asked him nothing. He still knows each and everyone of them and it's so annoying because it is used against me.

I think a lot of women are misinterpreting the idea of learning about their partner's exes and learning secrets that might sting a little. It's natural to be curious and to wonder where you fall alongside other women. This does not mean you are trying to use what you learn to shrink your own self-esteem or make yourself feel unworthy. Sometimes being curious is the reason itself for you wanting to know. I agree with Adrienne in that it makes you feel closer to your partner. Clearly, if your partner was with someone else at any point, there was a reason. It allows you to learn these reasons and thus learn about your partner. Also, Loni stresses me out in these episodes... and men absolutely care, especially the possessive ones! I really wonder what her life has been like.

I feel like hiding something because you don’t want them to find out and doing something for your own personal doings or future references just in case things don’t work out... gambling & following or stalking exes... that’s weird but a personal bank account is not a big deal! If y’all have a joint account that’s cool... but having a personal account too shouldn’t be made a big deal! But as far as things that can fr fr affect the relationship outside of finances then be 100% honest especially if you love that person and you trust them and you want them to trust you

Truthfully, I agree with Tamera and Adrienne when it comes to telling your man everything.

Im like Tamara and Adrienne. I OBSESS OVER EXES. OBSESS. It's torture! I've stopped now but god it was awful

Loni to Adrienne: “You got the ring RIGHT NOW!” 😂😂😂

I think it’s a good idea to at least find out why they’re past relationships ended. It helps show how that shaped the person to who they are today and if the other person broke up with them- do they still have feelings? If they were cheated on or cheated themselves- that could impact your relationship. I know that people shouldn’t worry and people can change, however it’s being prepared for how the person thinks and makes choices. Like if an ex cheated, the person could have trust issues or if someone did the cheating, like I would want to know. By asking about their past relationships it helps set boundaries for yours with that person. I also think there is time and place for conversations, you don’t have to air out all your laundry soon. People earn that over time and that gives you more conversations throughout the relationship.

Adrienne makeup and tameras hair and makeup 😲😍😍😍

Girl he is married to You why does it matter?

This is throwback. Wooh! But on the real, the majority of ppl have secrets and as adults you should know the difference between the ones that need sharing and the ones that you keep to yourself. It's good to have a little mystery. Also, having that second bank acct is not crazy, it's practical. I don't know if it's cultural or not, but my mom always told me to have a rainy day fund.

I think honesty is better rather than keeping secret especially when it come to relationship with other people. In my opinion, couple should get married before moving in together.

I am for having a separate bank account. I don’t want to get my mans approval to do stuff with my money. That is so insecure I don’t care about what you did before me. My guy now tells me about his ex’s and sometimes i want to hit him in the mouth because I don’t want to know and I don’t care. When you tell us that it makes me go okay now I gotta check that so I don’t do it you can’t be who you really are.

Jeanie I totally agree with u when it’s totally different when it comes to LIVING TOGETHER!!!

The bank account is not whack tho lol

That moment when u get all excited because u saw it's a 14 minute video andthen realise it's old😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡

I don’t believe in having a joint checking account, but a joint savings account. Like saving for a trip together or whatever you two want to get together. But don’t have a checking account together. My bf doesn’t need to know what I’m buying 🤣

keeping secrets from your spouse is an unhealthy relationship

Love Adrienne’s body when she is this size it fits so well with her height.

I 10000000 percent agree with Adrienne!!! I want to know everything. Pure honesty

Loni: I'm a numbers person Also Loni: Forgets the 14% of couples that don't even last a year (meaning only 56% of the couples actually make it longer than 3 years)

JESUS CHRIST IS LORD FOREVER PLEASE LET US ALL REPENT AND SURRENDER OUR LIFES TO JESUS CHRIST OF NAZARETH. GOD ALMIGHTY BLESS US ALL IN JESUS PRECIOUS MIGHTY NAME AMEN.

I want to think that if he is truly in love with you, there should be no other Competition!

Jeanie’s bangs!!!!!!! 😂😂😂😂 iconic

Loni is so confident

Nah girl!! When you marry a man with no self control you HAVE TO have that extra account!

I enjoy hearing Tamera input on the Real. She funny and down to earth.. It too bad she is no longer on the show.

Omg I freaking love Tamara & Adrienne I totally agree because I'm just like them!!!😂🤣🥰😘

I think you should tell someone if you have a gambling problem because that will lead to debt. But the separate bank account is fine. If you make that money yourself it’s your business.

Keeping big things like that are bad. You shouldn't have to tell your man everything. As long as it isn't something detrimental to the relationship..

It will always going to come back to the surface. Might as well tell it all

Tameras whole look ! I love it .

I have no need to keep secrets... I can talk about anything. Im not ashamed. If he wants to ask me something.

I don’t keep anything from my husband, I learned as a kid that a lie has more consequences than the truth. There’s nothing wrong with having separate accounts, everyone’s different.

People who live together before they're married are more likely to get a divorce than people who waited till they were married or engaged are because they're likely more liberal, and thus more likely to see divorce as an option. People who insist on waiting till marriage or engagement to move in together are probably more religious/conservative, and thus not as likely to divorce.

I’m split on this I agree with tamera and Adrienne on the wanting to know who my mans been with but I do think there are some things to keep secret

It’s just seems like an insecurity to wanna know about the guys exes, don’t need details. Don’t compare yourself, just sounds like torturous

I’m with Adrienne on this one %1000 o wang to know aaaalll , it doesn’t mean I’m gonna hold it against you or get upset about it but I want to know 😅

Till we get married in next 5 years I will tell my secrets and the best way to tell someone a secret it’s to say hey I wasn’t ready to tell you some of the things just be polite

Study after study show that living together before getting married actually gives you a HIGHER chance for divorce. Also, some couples will "slide" into marriage, meaning they probably wouldn't have married if they weren't living together but did so out of convenience or just settling.

I honestly love Jeannie so much 😭😭

I think so. You don't want them to know everything. I said too much and am reminded about it all the time. 🙄

Our generation is so messed up it’s so sad to see all these comments about it’s okay to hide bank accounts and etc...

My husband said, “ It better only be if it’s a gift”. 😂

Tam’s eye shadow is 😍😍😍👏🏾

i learn soo much from this show!!

As long as it ain’t hurting someone, you or me if I want to keep some secrets I can!

Adrienne and Tamera had good messages.

What is Loni wearing?!🤩I love it! Especially the skirt! Wow!🤩

ok secrecy vs privacy. I think most women want to share everything with their man and realize somewhere in the marriage that men just arent trustworthy. They are always doing some kind of BS to let you know not to trust them too much. ALL men

I'm an open book with my man, but I believe there are things you have the right to keep to yourself and your higher power (like Loni mentioned) AS LONG as it does not affect the other person. If he or she should know, tell them. It all depends on the situation but in terms of money, I think it's fine to have a separate bank account but let that person know maybe?

The first question is something that came up in my relationship with my boyfriend. I wanted to know about his past but he didn't really care as much to know mine. He only asked me about mine after I asked him about his. His answer was kinda short sweet and to the point while mine was more detailed (mind you he had been in relationships before whereas he is my first boyfriend but I've had crushes). But he seemed to feel some type of way when I told him my past. The farthest I've gone with a guy before him is holding hands and being kissed on the cheek. (I know he wasn't/isn't a virgin.) Meanwhile, I wanted to know even more than what he told me, but I didn't want to pry. So guys are weird about stuff like that. They don't care and girls are nosy 🤷🏽‍♀️😂

“I’m not talking about that loni,sorry for you”😂😂 loni got salty real quick😂😂😂😂

Jeannie doing the most talking & assurance when her husband the one with a whole girlfriend & baby on the way while with her.... Wow that was deep

Loni yeeet off Adrienne’s arms away had me dead!!!!!!😂

I completely agree with Loni! My sex/dating life is no ones business but my own. I’d rather not know about my mans ex people..no thanks. It would completely drive me crazy and create insecurity that is unnecessary. I’m the here and now and so is he. I’d rather spend time enjoying each other and focusing on that.