Tell me about the one that got away... (Strangers Answer)
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@@idab6864 the last one on this video looks a bit like Thorayaa but regardless, I so resonated with her answer. Despite our own free will and what we think we want, often the Universe--the "Source" if you will--knows best.
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I’d say thatt I’m the one who got away.. sometimes people don’t really value the moment until it’s no longer a moment so we’re left with the memory’s. I gave her my heart, my loyalty,my time and my love. I gave her multiple chances and she ruined them both because of her insecurities and neediness along with lack of loyalty, maturity and independency. So I was the one who got away because I realize my worth. Sometimes you keep going back to the same person over and over again until they completely destroy us and you realize that sometimes it’s the things we love most that destroys us which is why we must let them go. We don’t leave because we don’t love them, we leave because we respect ourselves and we realize our worth.
Last one said the least but felt the most 😢
The first guy.. I really applaud him admitting what he had done to lose that girl. That is honesty !!
Me too! I’m glad he’s been able to process it, fully understand it, and admit it… out loud, to all of us… strangers! ….and possibly even her! She may see this, a friend could spot it and forward it to her. I wonder what’ll happen! Because seeing that much growth could be a deal-maker. And who knows what position she’s in within her life right now. Maybe she still has feelings for him? Maybe I’m too bored today? 🤓😆
Me too. It really made me reflect on whether I can be more authentic in my own life.
Mee too
I did this to the love of my life and it remains my biggest regret. Toxic masculinity doesn't always present in the stereotypical, obvious ways. Sometimes it's an inner struggle.
@rfleisher1 Biggest regret and live every day with the shame and guilt.
20 years ago, I would have answered that there was one that got away - but - 10 years ago, I reconnected with her and it quickly became clear that she was not 'the one'. I had romanticized the memory of her over the years - but reality had a different story to tell. Sometimes I miss having the belief that she is perfect and out there somewhere - because it was a nice place to drift off to in my mind. Maybe you could say that 'belief in romance' is the one that got away.
Wow
I have your story, in a different form. I totally fucked up but evolved and grew from my mistakes. Got a second chance and wow.. those five years spent in regret were definitely wasted
Wow, this is profound.
Sabotaged my your own brain...
Wow that is very interesting. I’ve often thought that my memory of someone could be changed if I saw them again, and how the memory might be nicer. It’s true that who we knew years ago, could be very different in reality.
Damn, he said it. Self sabotage because it’s easier on your ego.
Although being vulnerable with people when they don’t reciprocate the way we want, can feel foolish and humiliating.
Facts!!! Only love people that love you back@@katierojas8066
Meeting the right person at the wrong time can be the hardest thing about this life.
Heart breaking.
This is my story. Love was never our problem. It’s been 3 years and I still cry when I think about him. Time has helped. The pain isn’t as frequent or as deep. Or, rather, I’ve learned to live with the pain.
@@angeladellinger7063 I don’t know the specifics of your situation but as long as you are both alive, your story doesn’t have to be over.
Is there this thing as right person in wrong time I’m wondering…
My goodness so true
The one that got away is always the hardest to think about, if only because it's all full of "what if?"s
Why do you hate men?
Bro, what the fuck? 😂😂😂@@vandalsavage6743
Those "What if' questions can drive you crazy for sure.
The last ladys answer seems to me to be a good example of that reading between the lines.
truest thing ever
Seeing people from such a close perspective visually, just makes you realize all the little ways people are so beautiful
...THIS!!! I think about this every single time I watch one of Thoraya's videos
The one that got away was my husband. Our marriage was breaking from all the regular pressures of life. He got a shoulder injury and ended up addicted to pain meds. They caused him to behave differently. He had an affair for 6 months with a co worker, when he broke it off she told he she was pregnant. We divorced. Our kids were age 3 and 8. I raised them alone while he was in the throes of addiction. They had no relationship with him as I would not allow it. I however stayed in touch from a distance. I told him he could come home if he got clean. It took him 8 years. We remarried and our kids are 18 and 23. One is pre-med and the other in film school. He’s been clean ever since. People aren’t perfect. We all make mistakes and bad choices. I forgave him because I love him and I know that he quit on himself not us. So I made him fight for us to find himself.
I applaud you my friend! You’re a strong ass Woman! …and incredibly intelligent to boot. 🫵🚺 I’m so very happy your family is back, where it belongs, together. You did that! …You and him. Y’all didn’t take the easy road, throw in the towel, give up, and move on. You held on and glued that thing back together. I’m truly inspired by you both. Congratulations to him on his recovery… It’s one of the most difficult things a human being can ever possibly endure.💪🫶
P.S. If that’s you, in your profile photo… You’re absolutely stunning. Your cheekbones, my lord, and your hair is so shiny ✨
Amazing glad you got your happy ending ❤
Thanks for sharing your story. Go mamma! So pleased for your family.
mam you seem like you are the one that got away not him
It's crazy how people don't know how beautiful they are. To see them portrayed this way out in the sunshine. We see ourselves in camera and mirror but it never captures the raw beauty when someone is expressing themselves telling a story sharing who they are. The little nuances of how they speak and their smiles and emotions in their gaze. I'm probably beautiful, and I don't know it. We can never see ourselves this way, as someone else can.We're so used to our own face.
You, are beautiful! And.. amazing! ❤
Such an amazing observation, I hadn't thought of this consciously but reading your comment made me realise you're spot on ❤
I thought exact same thing when I watched each person expressing themselves not only in words but in gestures, eyes, smiles, lips, hair blowing in the wind … so beautiful 🥹
This is so true
Exactly very true.
Mine, she didn't get away; she died. I love you Maria. Whatever, forever.
Mine too…🖤
♥️♥️♥️
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fuck, that's tough. best regards, stay strong!
That was tough!! bless you dude !!
I’m so glad all of them got away because the one that stayed has been by my side for 26 years.
That first guy has come leaps and bounds in learning to be vulnerable, he deserves the best ❤
My husband and I were both each other's one who got away. We met at 18, got engaged at 19, broke up at 20, lived separate lives for a decade and then reconnected a few months before COVID hit. I was working down in NYC, and he was up in Vermont, where he's from. When remote work made it possible I came up for a "visit" ... and never left. A few years later, now both 34, we tied the knot on the mountain where we live together. You never ever know what life will bring. 💛 Thanks for collecting and sharing these stories. So beautiful!
Awwww this is so sweet! Sometimes timing really is everything. Love it✨
When you’re young you think you have your entire life to meet “the one” but in reality true connection only happens once, maybe twice if you’re lucky. Or sometimes not at all.
I really really hope you’re wrong! As someone who has lost the love of her life!
@@hummingbird4934it’s what YOU make of it and what you bring to the connection, the interaction. Remember stay true to the strength of the person you know you are and are working on. Be genuine and keep moving, flow through and let be what should-including yourself.
Very very True!
Golden comment
3rd time lucky for me 😅! Married this time round and happy ❤️🇹🇹🏴 my love stories were crazy deep
When I look back on "the one that got away" from my life, I realize that they actually weren't healthy for me, and it's good that they're gone.
Yes, I was wracking my brain thinking if I have one that got away. That is too overshadowed by the terrible way my last relationship ended, after 10 years. It's best that that ended too.
Sometimes "the one that got away" was the immense beautiful potential we saw. ❤
@@temporarythoughts I think that's it. For most of us, the reality would set in if we got to see where that potential would go.
Same
Same. We loved each other with TOO much emotion that it became toxic AF. We had to split to save ourselves. We have no contact but certain songs or memories will stop me in my tracks even the are both happily married. Things turn out the way they are supposed to
“ be vulnerable, just risk it . Its scary it hurts but its alot easier to deal with knowing you said what needed to be said as opposed to hiding behind false words to protect your own ego… it makes it alot more easier to live with.” 1:19
That was a beautiful sentiment!
It's sort of interesting how the majority of women in this video don't have "the one that got away", this says a lot about we are in relationships. I think women tend to fight a lot for a relationship to continue but if nothing good comes out of it, they know they've tried their best and don't have any regrets
It's true. Women tend to stay longer and try harder to make things work. When they leave it's usually for a reason and they don't have anything left to fight for.
I agree. Leaving is a last resort.
As I got older i realised that these 'ones that got away' are just in your mind - 99.9 % of women (in these situations) are creations of what you make of them in your own mind. that perfect girl/guy was far from perfect. And maybe even the memories you carry with you are also, edited and not really as things were.... - So many people torture themselves with false memories or connections that weren't even as they really were.
I can relate to this, in my case all I needed was closure, and then I realized that I didn't really know the person, we only seemed to get along when we were far away from each other, and the thoughts that made me miss her (probably the same on her end) were pure imagination
Are you still hurting?
True. The one's that got away for me it was for the best
@@sgreen9088 No, very much the oppostte in fact.... I have an opinion based on life experience. Is that a problem?
It's called Limerence
The woman at 10:40 is so wise
Yea!! Thanks for making my weekend start off phenomenal ! 😘
I was connected to her understanding, as I feel the same way.
Thoraya is the best therapist outthere
Why do you hate men?
@@vandalsavage6743? how did that question turn into this conclusion? Im not tryin to be rude, just curious 😊 Or maybe it was all a joke that just flew all over my head 🙈
No. I wouldn't say she's the best therapist but she does give great opportunity to talk about things you otherwise wouldn't out loud
@@fiatkallesdotter dont worry its just a troll that comments the same under all comments
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Wow powerful words coming from a guy “Be vulnerable, just risk it, it’s scary, it hurts but it’s a-lot easier to deal with knowing that you said what you needed to say. Opposed to hidding behind false words or means words to protect your own ego”
There was a guy I was with in my early 20s that I had a real connection with. He broke my heart when he just disappeared one day without even a goodbye. Then, when I was 27, I met and married the perfect guy for me. He was my best friend and we were inseparable for 32 years until he passed from cancer. I knew from our first date that he was The One. It made me think of the song by England Dan & John Ford Coley with the lyrics "It's sad to belong to someone else, when the right one comes along". I think that happens to a lot to people, they get married and have children and then they meet 'The One'. Turns out getting dumped way back then was the best thing that ever happened to me! As for my husband who's crossed over, he will always be my husband . . . love may not survive being dumped, but it does survive death. Till we meet again.
Your husband was the one....hope you realise that..
@@sarahmottram3369 that is literally what she said :)
@sarahmottram3369 You must not have even read her comment. She _clearly_ states that her husband, not the guy from her early 20s, was The One.
I clicked on this knowing I’d cry but I made the sacrifice
I connect so much with the first man talking. A lot of the time, i had the feeling of sabotaging myself! Its a really sad feeling when you understand it.
I've come to the realisation that there is no 'one' and tomorrow is a new day. It really is.
This reminds me of a story I saw on a reality show one time about an interracial couple. They were in the military together (white guy and black girl) and she was hesitant to tell him her feelings because of the racial thing and also he was her superior. Years go by after she left the military and she had a dream about she was giving birth to his baby and the baby boy nearly died but miraculously recovered. She couldn't stop thinking about the dream for a long time and it was driving her crazy so much that she looked him up and found his number and called him. He was amazed to hear from her and said he had stayed single all these years and always liked her. They ended up getting married AND the dream of literally happened exactly as she saw it with her baby boy miraculously recovering after nearly dying during the birth.
Wow. Beautiful
Never had a "one that got away", have had plenty of "I loved them they didn't really know I existed"
i felt this ❤
Me too. To both parts of your comment.
Same ❤
"but no one ever like him" hit hard.
Yes.
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Blame Google for deleting inboxes. It was a great way to message creators and each other.
Wishing you peace/comfort on your transition from this physical life. I hope you have no regrets, felt true love/support more than once & are satisfied w/your contributions to people’s lives that love you. God bless you. 🙏🏽♥️
Commenting for visibility , that Thoraya will see your post. I hope also you have found peace in the end.
@TMICharlie I, too, am commenting so as to help push your comment upward. I hope you have a peaceful passing, and have felt love in your life. Sending you love this day and always.
I hope your wish to meet Thoraya comes thru ❤
The best thing about this video is, that people tell their sad stories with a smile. That gives me courage that I don't have to be afraid of grief. thank you
LOVE THIS TAKE
Grief is actually the right word, that's exactly what that feels like.
Beautiful yes ❤
I was married for 40 years to someone I wish had gotten away.
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Sorry to hear that.
That part. I should've got away and stayed away. Lbvs
LOL!
Lmaooo
Spanish saying about respecting the autonomy of the person we love: If you love someone, let him go If he comes back, his love is yours. If he doesn't come back, he never loved you at all.
As a christian i personally think there is nobody that got away. I believe there are people in our lives for different seasons. Some things are simply not meant to be, if they were they would just be. We humans tend to romanticize things and make them see greater as they actually were. Oftentimes i hear from people that the people they thought they fell in love with, was an illusion.
@@soleil7259 As a Christian, I agree but these idioms remind us of respecting the autonomy of others in order to affirm the decision TO WALK AWAY (book by Gary Thomas).
It is worldwide saying lol but a meaningful saying indeed ❤️
@@tinaali3686 I wonder how it's said in other languages. I only knew Spanish. Probably sounds really cool in French.
The first guy broke my heart. He gave great advice.
Take catharsis where ever and whenever you find it. These videos are life: beautiful, sad, funny, revealing, compassionate. Thanks.
Initially I wanted to run from the video cause of the sad feelings. Listening felt like group therapy.
Agree :~)
@@sgreen90881,000%
I am in a situation where both myself and my partner were the ones who got away from each other. We spent 4 years on opposite sides of the planet only to randomly run into each other again and well, now we are getting married. Not really sure if this counts but there was definitely a 4 year period where we both sat there and pined away for each other without even realising it; communicate your feelings ppl as I lost 4 years with my best friend and the love of my life over what essentially amounts to a miscommunication.
Congratulations to you both 😊
Least your now getting married!!
Yay! I love stories like this.🩵 I’m so glad you found your way back to one another. •And super good advice about COMMUNICATING! It’s essential. Communication is everything in any relationship. I have a question though. You said that you were pining without realizing it? I’m confused… Does that mean you’d moved on and weren’t thinking about each other? Or you were pining and didn’t realize the other was pining as well? It’s gotta be the latter of the two. Congrats to you both! 🥂Cheers 💛
@@SeattleRaindrop206 yeah it was the latter of the two. I was Australia and she was in the UK and while we both tried to move on we just couldn't and so we eventually confessed to each how we still felt. I regret that time without her but it did have the effect of making our love more intense; like it runs deeper now or something.
I also lost someone due to a misunderstanding. Now, many years later, I can’t stop thinking of him. It was an international thing, too- so I don’t even know which country he’s in by now 💔😢
I'm the one who got away. Twice. I had to. The first time I had a 6 years relationship with a beautiful man, inside and out, but he was an alcoholic who didn't wanna quit and couldn't give me what I dreamed of. He even said that he'd never be able to quit drinking if I stayed with him 'cause he felt too loved for who he was and therefore totally demotivated to quit. So I left. And he quit. The second time I had to leave after 10 yrs because we hurt each other badly and realized we're best friends but not good as each other's partner. So again, packed my stuff and left. And then I realised I never had a love that wanted to really make me stay, probably never will but that's okay. I'm 53 and I'm better off alone than in another painful relationship. I love myself enough now, and I'm happy.
You did right by you and saved yourself even further heartache. All the respect to you.
@@i-dashThank you, so very kind of you ❤
That takes both introspection and guts. I'm glad the other people involved were also able to be honest or at least accept it for what it was too- shows respect for each other. In a lot of relationships when it's not right, only one person tries to be honest with themselves and leave while the other clings and asks for second chances out of denial. Good on you for believing in yourself despite how scary or new something may be, you were secure enough in yourself to thrive! And you are! :)
Reading your comment gives me hope.
Thank you for this
That girl talking about love from camp, her words hit hard... Dont let your downsides pull you away from anybody, do your best to become better person and if someone is better than you (which is imo stupid to say because people aint numbers so we cant rly be compared) take that as a motivation to brcome better, not as an obstacle to your relationship
THIIISSS!!!! So many ppl run away from quality ppl because their fears of failing in a relationship is deeply rooted in an insecurity/insecurities. Instead of trying to put words to the things they're feeling, they instead retreat inward and come to conclusions without giving the other person a chance to express how they feel. This is something I'm learning as being on the receiving end of a break up 3 months ago, but I know that ultimately ppl make decisions for themselves and it's up to us to decide how to react. Sigh... healing takes time, but you learn in the process.
I’m crying while reading all your stories in this comment section. Real love doesn’t happen very often, if you find it fight for it.
I just gave up! I thought I didn’t deserve him anymore. How stupid!!
I agree with the people who said that the longer time goes on you realize that what happened was meant to be. You get to a higher understanding and you see why it didn't work and couldn't work and you're happy that things ended
The first guy was so honest and self aware. Really thank you for sharing
I related the most to the last person talking about how there isn't really anyone who got away. we just live our lives, we meet people, share life with them , some stay, some don't. Both ways its okay. Because i still got myself at the end of the day. And that all that counts. And some i'm really glad they got away.
Hearing the huge themes of self sabotaging our relationships out of fear and security plus feeling not good enough , it's so interesting how deep connections help show us these things.
30 years ago...and I still think about her. She taught me what real love is.
The pain from losing someone is for the memories you'll never make. Don't let that pain stop you from making those memories with someone else.
For what I thought were practical, reasonable, “realistic” reasons I could never fully commit to the man who loved me with all his heart. We had something incredibly magical but I could not figure out how to make it work in the “real world” and just when I thought I was ready, almost 50 years after we met, he died suddenly, unexpectedly a week before our planned reunion. Don’t wait. Reach out. Find a way. Love is worth fighting for.
Oh my god :(
The real world is the fourth and fifth dimensional world that we are in right now,, we are shifting out of this third dimensional illusionary and distorted world full of labels, division and duality. Twin flames are designed to show the world that love can transcend everything in the external world❤ we are energetic beings that attract each other via vibrational frequencies when we are a match. We predestined our connections and even our family members in each lifetime.... so we are accountable for whatever shows up, and being conscious of the frequency we emit . And why wouldn't we trust ourselves to bring in whatever we knew we would want? 😊
There is no such person as the one that got away. If they were for you they wouldn’t have gotten away. The “one that got away” is just your lesson to be learnt to become a better person.
I agree. I have thought deeply about my serious relationships and I wouldn’t want any of them back. They had their time and taught me/gave me what I needed.
The one that "got away" was my high school sweetheart, first love. I didn't feel ready to stay with the first person I loved, wanted to see what else was out in the world. It's now 40 years later and I made the wrong choice. He was the best person I've ever known.💔
That's very sad
Aww, I’ve heard of people finding their high school sweethearts at the end of their lives- after they were both divorced or widowed. Maybe there’s still hope?
@LittleLulubee I used to think maybe that would happen, but heartbreakingly he died of leukemia at 38 years old.💔 But I believe his spirit is with me and we will be together again in Heaven.
@@kathylovesmk Awww, I’m sorry 💙 I believe we’ll reunite with our loved ones, too 💕🕊️
@@kathylovesmk😢😢😢
I feel sorry for the fianceé of the 2nd one... that "but now I'm getting married with someone else" screams of the poor guy just being a consolation prize.
*I'd rather not talk about her...* I just hope she's doing well, that's it.
Positivity, breeds ❤. Duh.
Yep. It's destiny.
@@Lisa-welder1 😤🙏🏽
Ladies and Gentlemen the grass is not greener on the other side. Just give your all to that person you have now, it will be worth it.
Thanks
I will never understand this concept of the one that got away. When I let go, I let go forever and open myself to someone new. Each new person teaches me something about myself, making it easy for me to move on. 🤷🏽♀️
Yes! Learning and discovering is best for a peaceful life. Great mindset 💪
it isn't easy to move on when you arent in the place you wan to be in life. you wish things were better but cant magically change your situation.. thats when you start to drift to when times were "better". and many usually tie those times to when that one person was around for you
For me, the “one that got away” is the young, romantic, sexy, dream lover. She left me for “Jesus”. How can you ever measure up to that? I didn’t let go. She did, and it wasn’t for anything I did wrong.
You will never understand. When you are all in and the other person walks away for whatever reason - it difficult to make sense of why it didn’t work out. Or maybe you had different priorities but between you there was magic. Hard to put into words but the thought of your life taking a different direction with someone special is crazy.
I met the love of my life and he was wrong for me in many ways. We loved each other deeply, everything was just magical, every aspect. We laughed and cried together. And maybe fought 2x in 3 years. The problem? He had an addiction to his laptop and various images of women. I cant compete with that. 5 years later and been single since. It is a shame really .😢
It’s been 40 years and it still hurts 💔🙏💔
Same. 😢
The one that got away? I don't really know. Most of my attempts at relationships have ended with rejection. Though there is one that comes to mind at times. The girl I had my first crush on back in 4th grade. Her family moved away before the end of the year. She and I had a great friendship and connection. She was the first and possibly only person to have an actual crush on me. We were kids but I felt like the feelings were innocent and for real. I really loved her name and I just think back and wonder and hope she is doing alright, where ever she may be.
Awww, so sweet 🥰🥰
The “one that got away” was from homophobia. It’s a devastating and debilitating experience. I can still smell her though after 45 years. Love
hahahahaha
@@astroboirapsure wasn’t you. Hahaha
@@lorettanericcio-bohlman567 🤭🤫 I refused to use a strap on
@@astroboirapyour loss 🤣
Did you find someone else?
My best friend, Aurora. Twenty years old, valedictorian of her high school class, halfway through her math bachelors. Super smart, funny, beautiful, fit, kind, fun, soft. Everything I wanted in a girl. Made me feel high every time I kissed her. Couldn't believe someone like her was as into me as she was. Her funeral was two weeks ago.
@autoteleology sending you blessings on the loss of your love 💗
❤ 🙏 🌈. She's still with you. Letting you know she's still there. Godbless you
Met the right person at the wrong time. I'm praying the one who got away will find his way back to me. I love you, Manny❤
My first and greatest love of my life got away, simply because of our age, timing, wasn’t until years later that we had realized it was always us, but time had moved on, both married, and then in 2009, he passed away, still breaks my heart.
Damn, I’m sorry 💙
The first gentleman's experience is so enlightening, so appreciate you sharing your experience ❤️
The worse thing is when a person can fake a friendship and be flirty and have you convinced their the one, by how they look at you, body language, things they say etc...then you open up to them a year later and they show people your messages make fun of you and basically crush your soul. Then you react , demand answers when they ghost you, and basically look like the crazy person, but still have that person in your head four years later because your feelings were real and they enabled them. That's evil.
This sounds like a really emotionally immature person. Potentially an abuser actually. As much as it hurts...you dodged a bullet. A MASSIVE bullet. You also deserve so much better 💛
That shit really happens and I feel you on that 😢 I’m sorry that you went thru that . I believe I went thru something similar. They chase , they get you , use you , disrespect and discard you . Evil . What’s harder is the phase of trying to forgive yourself for allowing such things to happen 😢and your feelings were very real and valid
His name ... Mike Strickland,cutest, sweetest little cowboy. It was the mid eighties,he moved back home to Wichita Falls. Should have asked him to stay.
If you still wonder-look him up, see if you can find him, talk to him, and maybe something will blossom maybe something wont -a hopeless romantic
@@I_D_K_I’m on board with this plan!!🙋🏻♀️ I co-sign. I second it. Come on! 💘💖💘
Hello from Wichita Falls, TX
@@angelscraftycrap please connect them 😂
Look him up! Keep us posted!
Wow when that person said she didn’t think she was good enough for the guy she let go- oof. I felt that deep in my heart.
That last lady is so beautiful people are so humble!
The one who got away returned to me after 20 years in Nov. of 2022! Life is good.
I can relate to the girl who talked about “The Red String Theory” ❤
The one that got away is such an interesting concept because it can be so many things. It can be someone you deeply loved but the relationship was toxic or otherwise not working out and yet you can't help but wonder "what if they/we could've changed?". It can be a (mutual) decision to separate because someone had to move away or despite getting along well the vision of the future was just too different and you can't help but wonder "what if it would've worked out had we tried?". It can even be a connection with a stranger over a short period of time that had such an impact on you that you wonder "what if I we had stayed in touch?". But generally, I think we shouldn't be too hung up on the past. It doesn't help anyone to think about the people that left us or that we left or that we didn't stay in touch with because there was a reason they left or we left or why we didn't stay in touch and whether that was a good reason or not, it ultimately led you to where you are now. Sometimes you can reconnect with someone years later and even that isn't lost time because maybe you needed to grow separately from them. But "right person, wrong time" is certainly the most heartbreaking version of the one that got away.
@Donna Ible-White. This one here spoke to me.
Love your comments. Truly inspired.
In my case, we both wanted each other, but it ended because of misunderstanding 💔😭😭 I wish I could find him now, but it’s been forever…
I know I am that got away. I opened up to a boy when I was 17. He saw the parts of my life I was very private about. I was in love at the time. I believe it was because I was young and naïve. We dated for 6 months. And looking back, 6 months is not that long but we were always around each other and it felt like we understood each other and accepted each others flaws and short comings. Long story short, he showed me multiple times that he wasn't as serious as I was which was understandable for our age at the time. So I decided that it was my time to let him go and it did hurt how fast he moved on as I was still emotionally in a bad place. After 8 months of breaking-up, he showed up at my parents house looking for me, and I didn't answer because I knew that I was starting to heal my heart and if I opened up,I would have caved in and let him back into my life. That was the day... I realized that he knew I was the one who got away and regretted his choices. Fast forward, 8 years later, I heard from high school friends that he was married now and has a son. So.... it sounds like he is living his life and has a purpose. I was only good to him and he didn't understand it at the time. So the day he showed back at my parents house, I knew he regretted what he did and missed me. I know I am the one who got away. And I never regretted not opening up. My life is much better now, I am healed and I am very much content with my life.
The one that got away is just the one you couldn't accept how it turned out. If someone truly is meant for us it will be AND if not it won't no matter what
This is what I have come to terms with in my reality.
03:35 Imagine your wife mourning a life with another man right before your marriage and even visting the place she fell in love with him for her bachelorette party. traumatizing.
Shaming someone for being that vulnerable is not so great. Moving on from situations doesn’t mean you won’t find yourself revisiting them in your mind. Someone may have a partner that they had to force themselves to move on from even with how strongly they felt about the person, that’s true strength.
@@TayTay14333 And revisiting these experiences (shes not only doing it in her mind, but decided to do so for her bachelorette trip) doesn't mean, this won't hurt your current partner or damage your relationship with him, because it may look like you were not able to entirely move on and dedicate yourself to someone new. Feeling that way is fine from her standpoint. Having an opinion about her standpoint is also perfectly fine and doesn't need to mean shaming someone, but showing empathy for her partner.
@@hieronymuslex4990 Thank you. I was waiting for this comment. Like wtf are people in these days. She is clearly still in love with this other guy. What would happen if this guy suddenly appeared at her wedding? She'd be in pieces, she probably would call of the wedding. This is the man she still yearns for.
The level of maturity in these individuals gives me hope.
The one or ones that "got away" were never meant to stay. If they were "the one" we would still be with them. The rest are just rumination and fantasizing about a person who's greatness existed in our minds. Our experiences with others are open doorways we walk through, and either leave, closing the door behind us until there is another door/life experience we walk through - or - we walk through that door and realize we have come home - and stay. The right person feels like "home". The wrong person always feels like there is something a bit off, never quite right - timing is off, age is off, location is off.
Sometimes people purposely pushes people away. Hence, the one that got away. Your comment applies to some situations but not all.
This was so human and genuine.
He understood me. He was gentle. Kind. I fell in love. I hope he is well and happy. He taught me how to love myself at my worst. I regret losing him the last time we spoke a little over a year ago. My heart hurts. Miss you, sweet A.
I can relate to this❤ I'm a strong believer if this person is meant for you he will make his way back into your life.
Omg, it was only a year ago?! I’m pining for someone from decades ago, and I don’t even know what country he’s in by now 😭😭 If you regret it, go find him! There’s still hope for you ❤
40 years later I still think about him
I'm the one who got away ....from me. Took me over 35 years - lots of experiences, heartbreak, and self reflection to learn the only one I could ever count on was me.
What's worse, having the one that got away or never having someone you've ever felt that connected to?
My thoughts exactly 😢….I have never regretted breaking up with someone….no one has ever made me sense a deep loss.
Yeah I'm with you. I don't know that I've ever been close enough to anyone to feel like they "got away". I've been at piece with the ending of relationships in my life.
I think the latter is way worse. But I also think there’s always hope 💙
Having the one that got away. If you are the reason for the end of the relationship you never really get over it. Especially if you know they were your person. The pain is immense
Great question!
I met a women in florida in 2017, and back then I was an alcoholic (4 years sober now) we started to click, started to hang out everyday. For once in my life, I honestly had someone very special to me. Unfortunately, it all came to an end because I couldn't control my anger issues from alcohol , and I just couldn't continue to treat her the way I did, because I knew she deserved better. It was hard to let her go, but I believe it's one of the reason why I'm sober for 4 years strong, and to this day, I still think of her and hope she is happy. ❤ sometimes hard love is needed to change the person you are and it's okay! God bless
God bless you 💙
My one that got away crossed my path 17 years later and we've been together for the last 12 years and still going strong ❤
I am lucky. Been with my best friend/wife since we were 16 and 17. Me and the wife have been married 32 years.
The last one is where the wisdom is ✨
the one that got away, left me the moment i had my last episode of psychosis. it took me to have that happen to take my mental health seriously and stay medicated. feels like right person wrong time and i wish he would have given me a chance again. in his goodbye he said "maybe we will cross paths in the future but for now *blocked me*". it still saddens me. its been 3 years, but i have vivid dreams of us still together and those make me feel his energy again when i wake up. i've grown since then, dated since then, but haven't found the same connection.
Man, some of these made me sad… the “what ifs” in life can be haunting…
That one that got away is my spirit. Now I'm just fats and muscles.
Why do you hate men?
You are not alone. 🫂
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@@vandalsavage6743 Seek help
Go find your spirit again. I am off to find mine!
I was the one that got away, and thank God for that! I met my husband a couple years after.
i relate to the women who said they were the ones who got away - crazy what happens when you learn to respect and prioritize yourself. also related to the person speaking on learning to love yourself and believing that genuine love from another person would then come. in the process of both of these hard but so very important truths.
Just wow. I love how you disarm them, Thoraya. The level of openness is both beautiful and astounding. These clips bring humanity to life in such a raw and touching way. They feed my soul in a myriad of wondrous ways! ♥️
I've had many ones who got away, the hardest part is always that I could so easily imagine a happy life with them. There are so many paths that life can take but ultimately it only takes one, and that's really sad to me because it means losing out on all the possibilities that could have been. I can only hope that there are alternate universes out there where I got to experience the love I felt was taken from me with all the ones who got away.
I immediately thought of him when I heard “the one that got away” but I also agree with the last person. I think some people were meant to cross your path but weren’t meant to stay. Could be for the experience or just as a lesson. For me it was both. If you’re going through it right now, might feel like you’ll never come back from it, but you will… the memories will never go away but they won’t sting anymore.
I really appreciate these kind and wise words, they just hit into my heart now. I will cherish the shared story but I know there are other people down in the path to experience life with, or learn a lesson from.
@@jasminezhou256 I’m so glad, and yes that’s the spirit 💕
These videos are not good for my mental health... but i love them
I'm in love with those persons, everyone is a gem on its own. Thanks for all the good you are doing Thoraya 💫
Not sure what was more beautiful - the video or the stories left on the comment thread ❤❤❤ Love is such an amazing force - thanks to everyone for sharing ❤ made me shed some tears!
@12:10 - wow! Praise to him! He knows the difference between telling someone about what you did and recalling the memory of that event WITH your special person - that is the purpose of living. He found it. Amen.
The one that got away, it wasn't right place right time...
I can relate to the 3rd person. I rejected a lot of individuals that could have been good for me but I was going through a lot at the time. Sometimes you do meet the right person at the wrong time. I thought I met my person 3 years ago. It was tough to accept the feeling wasn’t mutual as he too was going through stuff at the time but I think he was one of the kindest individuals I ever met. He told me, “ I’m sorry I can’t give you what you want but I do hope you find someone that can.” We never spoke again but I hope he’s doing well
There was one. She caressed my heart so sweet and made her way in my mind. She never left my mind and there was never a single day to go by without me thinking about her. But as it is, I let her go but that love for her is still there.
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I agree with the last one. If it was meant to be it was meant to be. There is no getting away from it.
I love your videos! You make me feel my real emotions. When I was in college I had a philosophy course about love and one of the books we read was by Leo Buscaglia and his books put me in touch with my deepest feelings, your videos bring that feeling back to me. Thank you for what you do - I look forward to your work all the time.
All of these people look so beautiful. Thank you for capturing strangers in such beauty and light.
Life is such a confusing mess. I wish I could find the beauty in the chaos, but find myself wishing it was easier to understand.
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This is my deepest and most guilty secret, only because it would hurt the girl I currently love to share. I’m a therapist, and one phrase I learnt was that crushes, falling in this way for someone else, is something to cherish - glimpses of perfection unsullied by the potential coarse friction of a shared life. A wonderful story that occupies the recesses of our mind, and plays with our identity even after they’ve moved on.
But you crushed on your current love, too. There's nothing wrong with revisiting the early days of your current relationship as well. It's a good way to appreciate where it started and to be so lucky to be where it is in the present.
My God, this is beautifully phrased and so deeply (and sometimes painfully) true!
@@mmwoodcockart the hard truth is that I’ve never felt as drawn or inexplicably connected to anyone before or since. Our lives crossed at precisely the wrong time, in such an ironic way. Yet as briefly intertwined as we were, I’ve never felt so fully accepted or understood by another human being. I worry I never will feel that way again. But I wasn’t worthy of her, honestly, so I’m glad she is unencumbered by me.
Aw this was beautiful watching peoples’ faces go through the emotions
This reminds me of a date with a guy after my ex gf and I split, it was just us guys I wish I'd went back, i never thought I'd date a guy being a guy myself