My Parents Said They'd DISOWN Me!! | Marrying Outside Of Culture, Ethnicity + Race
In this video, we talk about parental pressure to marry within the same culture and the fear of opening up the topic of wanting to marry someone of a different ethnicity.
We receive so many comments and questions, and this is by far the most asked question on our channel. 'How do I tell my parents that I want to marry someone from another culture?' Many variations, but it's the same question over and over. We sat down and discussed some of the cases we know of, as well as troubleshooting the issue, speaking about the actual difficulties marrying outside of the culture can pose, and sharing the Islamic viewpoint and rulings.
Please feel free to leave your thoughts below and share any stories you know of, or may be going through yourself.
May all of our intentions be purified and our hearts softened.
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Timestamps:
00:00 - Intro
01:53 - Reading comments about not being allowed to marry outside of culture
04:44- Islam, Quran, Hadith approach to marrying outside of culture
07:31 - Typical scenario, is it racist?
11:01 - Parents refusing, consequences, solutions, marrying for parents
17:29 - Islam and cultural values being abused by parents
20:59 - Problems with marrying outside of culture, language barriers, dress, rituals
31:30- You can’t have it both ways (children and parents)
37:34 - Preserving cultural values or diluting culture values
44:35 - Disguising racisms, tribalism, colourism as religion and culture
48:50 - Would you allow your daughter to marry the Prophet (saw) or Sahabah?
51:03 - Racist comments we have received and closing thoughts
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My wife is Lebanese/Syrian, I am from New York with parents from the Caribbean. Basically, black American. We heard all the racism from the beginning, especially from the Lebanese side. Alhumdulilah, we are still happy and together 12 years later with 4 kids.
As-salamualaykum guy's if you are a true believer, it shouldn't matter what country you're from. I'm a revert African American. My husband is Moroccan. We've been married for 24 years. His parents were wonderful to me, Alhamdulliah. My parents were not Muslim. But there are other family members who are Alhamdulliah
Beautiful. Alhamdulillah ❤️
@@TheXs.Official Jazallah kiran
But your project was a racist who traded black slaves . Truth is most Arabs are very racist
Who cares! Get a life.
@@khaliahabdus-sabur9844what is Islam? When did Islam meaning submission become the brand of a modern religion, a concept that didn't exist in 7th century? English adopted the word Islam in 1200 AD. What was Islam before religion? Even the Arabic Deen was never translated into English as religion before 20th century. Moses and Jesus never invented religions because the concept didn't exist at that time, so when was the first religion, characterized with the brand such as Chriatianiry, Catholics, ever invented?
I’m a white English revert and my husband is Egyptian Arab born and raised in Cairo and the conversation of our ethnicities never came up from either family alhamdulillah, both sides just accepted it without question. And on the point of cultural dress, I think any white girl would love the chance to get married in Asian style clothes because c’mon, we all know it’s the prettiest😂
Culture is temporary, Islam is forever. Oh people of Knowledge, be steadfast and hold onto the Quran, a book of Guidance and light.
From a non believer..., that's incredible!
Islam is not forever. Read your books. In more than 15 ahadith found in the Sahih of Imam Bukhari, Sunnan of Imam Abu Dawwud, Jamii of Imam Tirmidhi and others, the prophet said Islam has a specific lifespan on earth, these Ahadith state allah gave Islam 1500 years. After this, Islam will die out.
Fabricated Hadith. If Hadith contradicts the Quran or established Islamic principles, it is categorically false regardless of which book it is found in. Numerous verses in the Quran state that no one knows of “the hour” except Allah. The Hadith you reference refers to the end of the world/judgement day, not the end of Islam specifically. Contradiction, therefore fabricated and false.
@@TheXs.Official Do you have any verifiable evidence that the quran is true? If so please tell us the evidence in question?
@@Jazz-fg2dm Quran chapter 21:30 - Do the disbelievers not realize that the heavens and earth were ˹once˺ one mass then We split them apart? And We created from water every living thing. Will they not then believe? This was written 1450 years ago, explaining the beginnings of the Universe and the splitting of Atoms and that life without water does not exist. There are hundreds of other verses I can give but I will show you the power of the Quran by challenging you with one verse.........so I want you to explain to me how a Man who lived in the middle of the Desert 1450 years ago came out with such a verse. I will wait.
My husband is from Pakistani I am from Germany we are married almost 31years
Hi guys, I have followed you for a while now, I am a Christian and believe in loving and accepting other cultures and beliefs. Some really valid points you made. God made us differerent to learn from one another and love one another. I am a black South African married to a Afrikaner (white afrikaans,which in some areas is still taboo), we have been married for 5 years and going strong. We have found in our faith that religious people use religion to hide their racism or their culture as an excuse not to accept others. True believers know that our most important mandate is to love one another as He loves us without prejudice, condemnation or judgement for we are all human!
Bilal ibn Rabah al-Habashi was a loyal Sahabah (companion) to the Prophet Muhammad and thus one of the earliest converts in the newly-emerging religion of Islam. He was also the first mu’azzin (prayer caller) in the Muslim faith. Rabah is the first person of known African ancestry to become a Muslim. Rabah was born on March 5, 580, in Mecca to slave parents, Hamamah, who was once a princess of Abyssinia (Ethiopia) but was subsequently captured and enslaved, and Rabah, an Arab slave from the Banu Humah Clan in Mecca, Arabia (now Saudi Arabia). Rabah was born into slavery and belonged to Umayyah Ibn Khlaf, a leading member of the Quraish, the Arab tribe that controlled Mecca at the time, and head of Bani Jumah, a clan who were allies of the polytheist Meccans. Rabah was described by his contemporaries as of impressive stature, dark brown complexion, with sparking eyes, a fine nose, and bushy hair. Rabah converted to Islam sometime around 615 after he heard the message of the Prophet Muhammad and five years after the Prophet began to gather followers. Converting to the new Islamic faith was a challenge for this enslaved person since it was not the religion of his owner, and many of the earliest Muslims faced ridicule and harassment from non-Muslims once their decision to embrace Islam became known. Rabah’s owner Khalf, who was anti-Islam, discovered Rabah’s conversion and immediately subjected him to torture as punishment for converting to Islam. Khalf ordered his men to take Rabah to the desert during the long, hot summers where he was stripped naked. On other occasions, heavy rocks were placed on his chest to force his renouncement of Islam. News of Rabah’s torture and his resistance to it eventually spread leading the Prophet Muhammad to send Abu Bakr, a wealthy trader and his close friend to investigate Rabah’s plight. Bakr came to an open field where after witnessing Rabah’s torture, decided to negotiate with Khalf for his freedom. Abu Bakr exchanged three slaves for Rabah whom he cared for and nursed back to health. Once he recovered, Rabah was taken to the Prophet Muhammad and would remain with him, and loyal to him for the rest of the Prophet’s life. In 622, the Prophet Muhammad, Rabah, and rest of the small Muslim community migrated from Mecca to the city of Medina, Arabia. There Muhammad would establish the Islamic religion in that city. The Prophet appointed Rabah minister of the Bayt al-Mal (Treasury). In that position, Rabah distributed funds to people in need, including widows and orphans. Muhammad also appointed Rabah as the first mu’azzin or prayer caller. Rabah accompanied the Prophet Muhammad during his early military expeditions and was given the honor of carrying his spear. Rabah fought in the Battle of Badr in 624, during which he killed his former master, Khalaf. Rabah also participated in the Battle of Uhud in 625 and the Battle of the Trench in 627, all of which helped rapidly spread the Islamic faith across the Arabian Peninsula. After mourning the death of the Prophet Muhammad in 632, Rabah left Medina and moved to Damascus, Syria, helping to establish Islam in that region. His precise death date is disputed among historians who claim he died somewhere between 638 and 642 in Damascus. Rabah married a woman named Hind, and she and their children migrated to Ethiopia. Subjects: Global African History, People Terms: Gender - Men, Africa - Ethiopia, Asia - Syria, Asia - Saudi Arabia, Religion-Islam, 6th Century (500-599)
thats amazing
Alhamdulillah,Amazing video.I had wanted to marry an Indonesian Sister, I'm an African brother from Zimbabwe. We both looked forward to embracing our cultural differences, but My parents quickly declined, they didn't want Indonesian relatives. When i broke the story to her she cried immensely. We had to part ways unfortunately. Well, I'm at a stage were i have to marry the person my parents want. For me, Culture doesn't come as a Primary Requirement
That’s sad . Your parents are putting culture above the deen of Allah. May Allah guide them
It’s commendable that people have pride in their own culture and race. I support that.
Very unfortunate situation, brother. May Allah put barakah and ease in any situation you find yourself in.
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i love indonesians but sadly this one didn't work out
May Allah swt bless you both. This conversation was so good to hear
I want to share my observations of your daughter. From my observation as a retired educator with testing training of children; your daughter is very, very intelligent and properly has I high I.Q. Please continue to nurture her intellect by introducing her to music, literature, art, science, math, and other developmental experiences.
Thank you for your words. We pray that she is increased in all of her attributes and send blessings to you and your family ❤️
These all are haram according to Allah 😂😂
This was a very interesting video. You learn a lot about other cultures when you take the time to hear their stories.
Masha Allah very impressive, beautiful podcast.i have so believe and faith in this young generation that, they can change a lot of mindset about racism in islam.May Allah reward you guys for bringing this sensitive issues on the spotlight ameen.
Subscribed. As a fellow pakistani brother, I pray to have a relationship as wholesome as yours. Mashallah to you both and your child.
Wow alhumdulillah love this video. You guys are awesome. May Allah make it easy for all to get married to whoever they want and may Allah bless your boths marriage with lots of happiness
Excellent episode.. I hear alot about these situations... alot to do with culture and there upbringing and the famous words what will people say ...
Far too often!
I ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ you guys. Valid valid points. Currently having this same convo with an African friend. Will share this video.
Also i don’t understand parents/ families who’s willing to DISOWN their own child because the child don’t do what they want!!!! And they say we love or family is important to us. Bullying. You love me if I do what you want. So many women have been killed / abused because of what parents want.
Thank you!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Sneak peek is so on point ❤Love you X's🥰🤗
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I gave it a like even before watching ,coz I know it's gonna be good ❤
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Love is a powerful tool it comes with respect and happiness
Fantastic podcast well done❤
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Lovely video ❤ thank you for sharing
My dear brother and my dear sister may ALLAH bless you both and your child. This is a very good topic!!!!!!!!!
Ameen. May Allah shower his blessings and you and your family also!!
I was constantly told growing up, to think for myself, I didn't know it at the time but was being raised to be a leader.
Islam is for all, we are all equal. We are all made from clay.
Good stuff... * I shared you on my Socials!
Thank you!! 🤍
So true I feel sooo strongly about this, being racist is haram marrying from another culture is not where is the issue
I’m an American and my partner is Algerian Muslim, we have had to take our relationship very slowly as I never considered myself religious and so the spiritual connection has been one where I have had to make more effort to convert as it’s a requirement from his family and him for me to convert to Islam. It’s been a crazy journey of ups and downs and learning to accept a new way of beliefs and truly adopt the practices for me. We still have not married it’s contingent upon my shahada.
Take your shahada If you want to, don't take no shahada for no man he shouldn't even be looking at non Muslim women anyways, don't let anyone pressure you into becoming Muslim only do it if you want to
We love you two. My wife is Filipino and I am Black/White/Asiatic Indian.
Im British and married to a Pakistani .i moved to Pakistan and have lived here now 33 years we never had a problem , i have 3 children they have been brought up in both our cultures my two older children want an arrange marriage me and my husband will support them in what ever they decide we have no problem in a love marriage or arrange marriage as long as they are happy thats all we wish for them .
Its Haram stopping your child from marrying their own choices...As long as they are muslims..the perants need to agree and support them
What's up X's!🎉 "You Wrong"😂 Keep keeping it Real! Thanks for sharing your thoughts about this topic.
Really nice to hear from you again! 😂❤️
Thank you guy good conversation
That’s crazy I can’t believe it’s such a big issue I’m mixed myself though so I don’t see an issue lol but that’s wild
even within the pakistanis there is colorism...... People are just looking for ways to feel superior, which is comical and sad at the same time.
So true!
Yes colorism exists in all the seven continents. It is actually disgusting. It makes me sick how people fall for this kind of foolishness. It is sad and frustrating.
Masha Allah! Beautiful Couple!
Loved that last point .. would you let your daughter marry the Holy Prophet
48:50 MAKE SURE TO SAY Sall-Allahu alay-hi wa salam after he mentions Prophet Muhammad (Sall-Allahu alay-hi wa salam). Also, I read that we should spell things out like instead of saying, "Prophet Muhammad (SAW)" or "Allah (SWT)" we should spell it out like: Prophet Muhammad (Sall-Allahu alay-hi wa salam)and "Allah (Subhanahu wa Ta'ala). Jazak Allah Khair for such a great video and may Allah Almighty continue to increase you all in hs ranks, firm upon the deen, and always smiling as a result of Allah Almighty's Kindness, Ameen.
my opinion is religion is more important than race I think people of the same faith get along better and people can be any color because that's how God created you, it cant be changed, you cant choose it but you can choose your faith, you can choose your religion congratulations to you
Hazrat Bilal r.a was black.. and one of the beloved sahabah of our beloved prophet Muhammad pbuh and muezzin who gave azaan in Ka'ba.. mash Allah beautiful couple..
Waalaikum as Salaam. there's another topic unaddressed... money, money, money, money, moooneeey. and class, caste, status; and how "cultural differences," language, level of observance are utilised as thin pretenses for these discriminations. also, what about an in-depth talk about Islam and slaVery, what is allowed, what is prohibited, what is discouraged yet permitted. and another topic, Islamic methodologies of cooperative economics (and how these pertain to contemporary practices like Fair Trade, Democratic Socialism, and additionally). And wheneVer you're ready for it, In'sh'Allah, a talk about citizenship in a democracy and how this allegiance affects/influences/hinders our Deen (considering the militaristic and economic exploits committed directly by democratic goVernments and facilitated through the auspices of democratic goVernments; and the difference between going against the Filial Piety Regime of Macca 1400 years ago and challenging a republic that has revolving leadership doors and is extremely difficult to shame or call-out compared to a Monarchic/Family rule predicated upon Traditional Family Heritage and constructs)-- ok, that's a bit much. Shukran. also, if you raise the shot somewhat about the waist, it may be unnecessary to worry about having to crouch (unless, of course, you have plans to suit of for United and do the robot). Blessed Love And Peace.
Racial prejudice is all over the world, and in Al Islam has some issue along race and color line, too.
From my experience, I have found a lot of pakistani parents tend to confuse culture for religion and follow this through my thoroughly opposed to the teachings of Islam.
Seeing forward they disavow you as their daughter also. Please do let know in the future, we are waiting with impatience😂😂😂
That only thing that brings me peace on this topic is that at the end of the day, it’s Allahs plan and nothing/no one can stop that. Make dua and leave the rest in Allahs hands.
SubhanAllah ❤️
Oh yes a city blows up and it's Allah's plan. WTF?
Can any race become Muslim? Would it be accepted? Also, I live in Buffalo, NY, and we have a heavy Muslim community, but they are separate because there are Arabic Muslims, thai/Burmese Muslims, and there are rven some Indian Muslims. Are the teachings still the same?
Yes brother, any race can become Muslim. Islam is a belief system not a racial thing. The teachings are same but people growing up in different cultures may do things differently.
Islam is not a race brother and anyone can become Muslim.. just read and see it for yourself إِنْ شَاءَ ٱللّٰهُ .
Honestly, I asked this question because I've never seen a white/European Muslim
@@bushidokuro9667 Have you heard a country called Albania. Kosovo or Bosnia. they are all white and muslim too. but if you are talking about western withe Look for Yusuf Estas. Dr Jeffrey Lang, two white muslims..
Nothing wrong with interracial marriages but I have to ask, why do some purposely seek a spouse of another culture/race/nationality and refuse your own? That’s a bit weird IMO
It depends on who you grow up around. If you live in an area where there isnt many from your background naturally you will gravitate towards someone unfamiliar to your background. This is a strange comment because when you pass in the hereafter your cultural background literally means nothing. Its tribal mentality to think someone should only be with their “own”.
@@HareHayica I think your comment is strange because I never said someone should “only be with their own”… either you read wrong or did not comprehend. My comment was about those who only want to marry someone outside of their background I.e rejecting their own. If you think it’s wrong for people to only be with their own then surely it’s wrong for people only to be with someone different?…
@@civildiscourse7626 because your comment is implying that people purposely seek people outside their own. In reality there are few that do this
@@HareHayica “there are very few that do” ok, and that’s why I asked “why do SOME purposely seek…” So actually my comment was quite clear, even to you.
@@civildiscourse7626 it was the fact that you put “refuse your own”. That’s why I said very few do. Your comment is making implications by the way it was phrased. Its a generalization that people who search for others are refusing their own. In reality “their own” could be the very ones not choosing them so they would have to seek people outside “their own”.
I'm glad you used the term interethnic as I was taught there's only two RACES. HUMAN AND ANIMAL 😊
please, don't yell, thanks for the info
We can only change how we see outsiders when we change how we view those within our own cultures. Charity starts at home. I think we have more work to do beyond racism . I must say though, in general we are doing alright if you compare us to the western culture that we live in. Western, Liberal, capitalist societies are generally better when it comes to racism but I would argue that these very ideals are not compatible to humanity. By the way, is your channel's name a new name? What's the story about the name?
Pakistan is a very diverse nation. There are blond haired blue eyed Pakistanis in the far north, far eastern (Mongolian) Hazara Pakistanis to the west and Afro Pakistanis in the south. Pakistan is a blend of its immediate neighbours, western India, eastern Afghanistan & southwestern Iran.
There are pros and cons to interracial marriages. I'm completely against racism but think that background culture can impact mindset and expectations. All marriages have hurdles, but interracial ones can have more depending on which cultures they are. That said, I wouldn't stop my child if they liked someone, and I would consider other races in an arranged marriage, but language and other factors would definitely be concern. I have many mixed marriages in my family. They can work out well.
With marriage, it's really on a case by case basis. You can't say from the same race is best or different race is best, same family is best, different family is best, because every person is unique and every situation is different.
@@cyberspace7208 completely agree
@@cyberspace7208yes you can say different family is best. Because incest heightens disabilities!!!
This is an issue if you are an immigrant to the west.. But if you are born in the west the people you grew up will have almost the same mindset as you...
Who cares! Get a life.
At some point you got to stand on your ace. Its okay to love your family BUT as a man you one day have to take a stand for who you will be and what you will have. Go your own way.
Some Muslim don't follow what prophet said to all Muslims about marry once the person is good Muslim and good person finish the must to give person the woman to marry. May Allah clean they are heart . and know right thing in islam
Islam allow us to marry a good man if parents had no valid reasons to say no
Of course that's true. But it comes with certain consequences. If one is raised by good parents, but since not all parents are perfect, they may have their own reasons to say no. It can risk alienation from parents.
Islam allows it, but the family pressure and consequences can often be too much to deal with. Sad situation.
Guys "Amara" is also black, it's a short for "Amarachi" ok? :)
BEAUTIFUL COUPLE MA SHA ALLAH MAY ALLAH BLESS YOU AS LONG AS ONE IS MUSLIM.
Who cares! Get a life.
Can Muslim women marry a non believer even though if they both love each other? That’s the most important thing to religion i guess!
It's disheartening to see how some Muslim communities forget that Prophet Muhammad's (PBUH) last born was half African. The ignorance and prejudice within our ummah are appalling. As Muslims, we must educate ourselves about Islam's diverse history and treat each other with the respect and dignity taught by our Prophet (PBUH).
Why they pushing it at Egyptians tho😂😂😭😭(jk suf, may Allah bless you guys)
If people are afraid to marry a convert to Islam because of their family not being Muslim, then whom would the converts marry, especially if there are many single converts. Also, you guys go to school, work etc with non-Muslims and dont have a problem with society norms those places. Converts are a perfect addition to any Muslim family, and this will definitely push them away since many choose culture, " what people will say" over marriage to a good Muslim.
Not all muslim are like that dear.. This is an issues for a certain cultures...
Pakistan Karachi Lahore. Walikumasalam brother and sister. I am Ahmar Hafeez. Pakistan Karachi Lahore
It's not always racism some times they want a similar home
My sister name is Amara. Ahmar Hafeez Pakistan Karachi Lahore
You should discuss polygamy
Been so close to doing this video multiple times. People are going to send for me 😂
It’s caste issues!! It’s also what religion is the child going to take on!! It’s never going to change
i love pakistanis the ladies are ladies always friendly.
Ameen
Big up Jamaican bro.
I have NEVER seen ONE of these shows where the BLACK PARENTS are disowning their children for getting involved in interracial relations. That is disgusting if Black parents don't feel the same way about their children.
Question for the Muslims : can a non Muslim man marry a Muslim woman?
I too look Black so I am obviously a Black man.
This is the biggest issue muslims face in these days.. If you are a Muslim man you are more likely your family will accept your if she is from a different background but if you are a woman it is a different story all together.... So those muslim convert sisters who marry a muslim men you will be shown hospitality that will not be shown to your husbands foreign brother in law..
Acha.
Pakistani mostly not allowed because we have culture of marry in the family (cousin)
There is no place where racism is so prevalent like in muslim community although Islam prohibits racism.
Assalam aleikum The X’s, ❤
W/salaam, Al-Aswad ❤️❤️
If i become Muslim im going to marry a girls of different colours
Why?
@civildiscourse7626 because you can have 4 wives. I would marry 3 before 30 years and get married to the last one when im 65 years old and marry a 18 year old
@@tobiasgriffin but why different colours?
@@tobiasgriffinthis is only a luxury the top 1 percent can afford. Many men practice one part of a ruling or religious declaration and ignore the others. You can only do that if you can fully provide out of pocket. As in affording separate homes, food…basically all needs for the women and children. This literally barely applies to the men in this generation.
@@tobiasgriffinrealistically you won't
I rather chose my culture over any religion. Religion is for mongrel,NOT indigenous people
Been knowing this since the 70's! 'You Black Man, me Black Man too", said almost every Asian Man growing up when there was any kind of argument and he was on his own. We always said, 'really, can I marry your daughter'? SILENCE!!!! Hypocrisy is big in both, "Race".., & Religion! To me the Religious people are far far worse, because you're supposed to be a Child of God. Ain't we, "All Gods Creatures"? Apparently NOT, even if we're of the same Religion. Let's not even get into Colourism!!! For decades I thought it was only a Black ting. NOPE! Pray, forgive my Swahili, but...., FK em! PS.., I don't speak Swahili..... Si Mi Ya...🇬🇧🇯🇲
@Winstonbrown1516 - Ridiculous comment. Absolutely myopic and brain dead. Brown people barely marry outside of their village and you expect them to marry their daughter to someone from a completely different country and culture?! Just because you're the target of the same skinheads?! Grow the hell up. As if black men gladly let their daughters marry Indo-Paks! Tell you what, why don't you go and try to marry a Nigerian Yoruba first and then come and talk
Imitating Shayton with this racist crap is so irksome. The children of Adam need to get their crap together.🤔
so why is she covering up her hair like that? whats there to hide? its just head hair
She's muslim that's why..
- Man said Asian noses -👃🏼
It’s a beautiful thing!
The elephant in the room is RELIGION which U guys are dancing around! Prohibition by RELIGION! That's the main issue that people find difficult to overcome.
Sunan Ibn Majah 4337 It was narrated from Abu Umamah that the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said: “There is no one whom Allah will admit to Paradise but Allah will marry him to seventy-two wives, two from houris and seventy from his inheritance from the people of Hell, all of whom will have desirable front passages and he will have a male member that never becomes flaccid (i.e., soft and limp).’”
Racism is not okay, but religious bigotry totaly is.
Wym
حتى الصحابة خليتهم سود ، ما في غير بلال ، من وين سود ، هولاء الباكستانيين عاملين حالهم يفهمون في الدين أكثر من العرب ، ولم يفعلوا شيءا لنصرة المسلمين في العالم ، خليكي مع السود احسن لك جايين تتعنصرو على الناس
There is nothing wrong with a family wanting to protect their culture and race. Families do better when theres hedgemony. Theres a difference between who u will pray with and who u will allow in ur family.
That's the mindset of a disbeliever and such is rejected in Islam. Nationalism is disliked in Islam and the only thing that matters is your religion. Race and culture will do you no good on the day of judgment and when you are in the grave the only protection that will matter to you is your deeds. My wife is from Indonesia, I am a Nigerian and we do very well as a family. My mum and family love my wife and there is no disunity. You are just making excuses and trying to promote a practice that was rejected by the prophet Muhammad.
@mdidris4414 @mdidris4414 yeah I understand how this would trigger u. And I don't want to be disrespectful. But I dont care if u want to reject me because I don't like ur culture or if I find it incompatible with my own. Nobody owes u anything. U mentioned how ur family accepted an Indonesian. But u didn't mention how her family feels about u. I guarantee u weren't their first choice. U think islam permits a daughter from marrying against her father's wishes? U have a right to try and create the family u want, but every other man has the same right to have their own standards.
@@absolute757 I can hear the jealousy and hatred in your voice. You talk ignorantly without knowing the facts, only because you incline more towards your culture than what Allah has commanded you to follow. I was the families first choice, so much so, that her mother started crying when I was having second thought about getting married. See her mother judged me by how much I feared Allah and not because I come from a specific culture. The prophet Muhammad, married some of his black companions to the Arab woman when they complained about not being able to find a wife, and the prophet himself married a Jewish woman from a different tribe. I am sure that if we meet, we would see that their is little about you that represents Islam and more of an inclination to South Asian Hindu culture. Let's see how far you're culture will get you on the day of judgment when you were trying to promote disunity amongst the Muslims. The religion you follow is your own desires and Hindu culture, may Allah guide you to Islam. And when it is said to them, “Follow what Allah has revealed,” they say, “Rather, we will follow that which we found our fathers doing.” Even though their fathers understood nothing, nor were they guided? [2:170] Hadith below mentions character, Islam, and not culture. “If there comes to you one with whose religious commitment and character you are pleased, then marry your daughter [or female relative under your care] to him, for if you do not do that then there will be much tribulation and mischief in the land.” They said, “O Messenger of Allaah, what if there is some other objection?” He said, “If there comes to you one with whose religious commitment and character you are pleased, then marry your daughter [or female relative under your care] to him,” three times. Narrated by al-Tirmidhi; classed as hasan by al-Albaani in Saheeh Sunan al-Tirmidhi, 866
@@absolute757 my previous comment was deleted for some reason. But I was saying that you sound jealous and full of hate. You make assumptions based on my ethnicity which shows that your real issue is racism and envy. The mother loved me so much that she started crying when I was having second thought about getting married. See, her parents judge me on my religion and character and not a culture that mostly has nothing to do with Islam. We have a very good relationship and they love me very much. The question then comes if you really are a Muslim if you incline towards culture and your desires and not towards the sunnah of the prophet Muhammad. When his black companions complained about not being able to find a wife, the prophet Muhammad married them to the Arab woman of his community. Also, the prophet Muhammad married a Jewish woman that was not from his tribe. You follow your own religion and not that of Islam. Let's see what good your culture will do on the day of judgment. May Allah guide you to Islam.
@@absolute757 also, in Islam there are plenty of Hadith which say that if a man comes to you and his religion is good and you reject his proposal, then there will be mischief in the land. Scholars say that if the father rejects a proposal of a man whose religion is good, the daughter can bypass her father and find a more suitable walee. Parents are not allowed to force their daughters to marry someone who they don't want to. In the hanafi mudhub, a woman does not need a walee to get married. This can be true if a father rejects her daughters marriage proposal to a pious man based on his ethnicity. “If there comes to you one with whose religious commitment and character you are pleased, then marry your daughter [or female relative under your care] to him, for if you do not do that then there will be much tribulation and mischief in the land.” They said, “O Messenger of Allaah, what if there is some other objection?” He said, “If there comes to you one with whose religious commitment and character you are pleased, then marry your daughter [or female relative under your care] to him,” three times. Narrated by al-Tirmidhi; classed as hasan by al-Albaani in Saheeh Sunan al-Tirmidhi, 866
For arab men they have more acceptance to all other muslims find out why? I personally think because the guy is arab the prophet Mohammed peace be on him was also Arab.
The Arabs I knew were elitist and racist
This Muslim thing is getting on my nerves.
Whats getting on ur nerves?
Bro how you gonna have gheera over your wife and allow her to come on social media so thousands of men will see her. What's up with the so called 'practicing brothers' nowadays. Learn Islamic history and how to be a rajul from the sunnah. Not sunnah of social media.
Who cares! Get a life.
Bro do you even know what gheera mean?
It's not racism!! You don't want children marrying unknown people that seem unsafe!
Safety? Really as if crimes are Based on race 😂? C'mon you know it's racism dressed in Safety measures. Let's call spade a spade.
Lol because of their race? Yh that's racism