Why you can’t articulate like you think
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This video shares three secrets to articulate speech from reading six books. We discuss how to use rich connotations to imbue words with deeper meaning. Second, practicing "Emotional Bridging" to connect with listeners through shared feelings. Third, employ "Whisper Drafting" to internally refine thoughts before speaking. Additionally, "Cognitive Priming" prepares both speaker and listener for precise communication. If you're wanting to learn to speak more articulately and satisfactorily, I do believe this video will help you achieve those ends.
RESOURCES:
Blue Sky Phrases To Avoid: docs.google.com/document/d/10...
Cognitive Priming Phrases: docs.google.com/document/d/1P...
Books I Read:
The Language Instinct by Steven Pinker
The User Illusion by Tor Norretranders
Elements of Eloquence by Mark Forsyth
Word Power Made Easy by Norman Lewis
Stolen Focus by Johann Hari
The Well-Spoken Thesauras by Thomas Heeler
Thank you for watching my friends. It means the world to me!
I wish we were taught this kind of knowledge before we were forced to make oral presentations in class, as children.
SO TRUE
I agree in part, but it's a pretty tough ask to get a child to understand a concept like "mentalese"
Bro really had to say oral 💀
Oral gawk gawk 9000
@@Iloveallah893 ...?
Being taught to articulate what you mean properly should be a vital lesson for everyone to learn.
Its kind of sad how many people say they didnt experienced this during parenthood.
I think it’s a skill developed and refined throughout our lives. This video is def helpful though
I can’t believe there isn’t a sharper focus on this in high school
I’m a middle school science teacher, and the English teacher and I talk about this all the time. The kids are constantly blowing off her class and asking her when they’ll ever use this stuff in life, and we are both baffled that they don’t realize how important it is to be able to communicate. Kids just don’t care until it’s negatively affecting their life. Even getting them to journal about their day and little things like that is like pulling teeth these days. Many will sit and not even try. We try so hard to point out all the things in their life that can go wrong if they don’t put an effort in but it feels so far into the future for them that they aren’t motivated, and they aren’t conscious of themselves enough to notice how it’s already affecting their daily lives.
@@KallieMae Schools mostly focus on written communication (my school at least) and that's just frustrating because I'm a student who genuinely wants to improve his communication skills but I have to go to platforms like this to do that. We can't even rely on schools to teach us about things that matter most. Teachers should be inspiring students to learn essential skills, but instead they focus on teaching kids how to answer the questions correctly so that you can get a good grade on the exam. Yes writing is important but I think we can all agree that learning to articulate your thoughts clearly while speaking is way more important than summarizing a text you'll never see again
Journalling has helped me tremendously with articulating my thoughts. It's essentially self-expression practice. When you take the time to articulate your thoughts and emotions beforehand, you can speak about them confidently later. I highly suggest it to anybody trying to get to know themselves (everybody).
100% can vouch for this
real
Journaling is great for formulating your thoughts and allowing yourself the space and time to pause and really think about what you want to say and how you want to say. Allowing yourself to be present and focused 💙✨ ABSOLUTELY AGREE WITH YOU
This comment read effortlessly.
How you do it? Virtually - writing from a keyboard or with a pen on paper?
No ad break and gets straight to the point with zero filler. Exactly what an educational video should be!
Just hope he's not gonna charge a couple hundred dollars for this "lesson" he's releasing... 😩 Seen so many of these youtubers that preach about how they have learned to do something that most people find hard and made it easy only to find out they charge an arm, leg, and the kitchen sink for the summary just to end up telling you something you already know but just can't seem put into motion.
Got 3 ad breaks
@@mangasprai i have ad blocker lol, meant him stopping to promote BetterHelp or HelloFresh
A Curiosity Stream (or so) plug at the end is okay.
At the end is completely fine, it's like showing the credits of a movie. I'd even be okay if it was in the beginning if there were chapters on the video to skip through it@@zombathinlostleghackercat5233
My brain is rotten from media and tiktok / dopamine. I can tell that in the past few years I am unable to formulate thought in the same way that I used to.
Swap scroll time for reading books. You recognizing the problem was a huge step forward
Same
@@jeanlucdecoster do you think we can reverse the effect?
@@MrSwedabsolutely.
@@MrSwed yes but it takes effort and consistency and allowing yourself to get bored… and realizing the benefit in that
My problem is that my mind goes blank when trying to articulate my thoughts. I can still picture it, but I end up forgetting even simple words (I know the word I want to use, but it eludes me). And then for some reason, I am unable to pick out a similar word that could sort of describe what I’m trying say. Kind of like an infection spreading throughout my vocabulary.
Im just talking out of my rear here, However; could it be excessive caffeine intake? Im trying a personal test and reducing caffeine to 0 to see if it helps. I listened to a podcast by a doctor relaying that caffeine doesn't even give you energy. It just slaps you with induced stress which makes you become alert
@@MontanaWeatherby I wouldn't think so, unless it's a permanent effect from my younger years. I used to drink tons of sodas and energy drinks. However, now I might have a cup of tea every few days. I've never been a person who has to have their coffee in order to start the day.
same here
@@omamba5105 could it be because you're nervous? Anxiety or any type of unease which can effect your concentration, could cause these "blanks." Without knowing you or these situations it's hard to help. However, as with anything, practice makes perfect, put yourself into those types of situations and work your way out of them... it's a learned skill.
I used to experience this all the time. From childhood through to my mid-thirties."I had the thought, but I lost the word." My relationship to expressing language improved drastically when I started spending more time in my body and using my hands. If you're anything like me, you might find that developing your senses of kinaesthetic awareness and palpation lead to huge improvements in the language centers in your brain.
00:00 📚 Understanding Connotation - Connotation refers to the multitude of experiences, emotions, associations, memories, and meanings behind words. - Language doesn't fully capture our 4D thoughts; it's a 1D representation. - Two actions to communicate more connotation: avoiding Blue Sky language and using emotional bridging. 05:07 🖋️ Articulating Your Thoughts - Frustration in articulation often occurs when we have a clear thought but struggle with the verbal expression. - Whisper drafting, a technique from Teddy Roosevelt, helps create rough drafts of sentences before speaking. - Requesting more time to think before responding can improve clarity. 08:02 💡 Cognitive Priming for Precision - Cognitive priming is a technique to make your speech more intentional and precise. - It breaks the automated back-and-forth of conversations and keeps both parties engaged. - Accountability for your words increases, leading to more careful and thoughtful speech.
Great breakdown!
pretty sure he used ai lol@@pratfo
@@Private_Account101 I still appreciate the cliff notes, while a fascinating and useful subject I just don't have time to listen to the whole thing.
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Thanks
Imagine two Joseph Tsars having a conversation with one another.
That would be a perfect, pristine, and beautiful conversation. A work of art. Textbook. Joseph really helped me really think about my speech.
I’m in process of learning English. My level isn’t as high as l would prefer to express my deep thoughts, but your knowledge helps me grow every time I watch. So, with all gratitude 🙏
When I first met my girlfriend of 4 years, she could barely hold a conversation in English. She is a native Spanish speaker. After 1 year she was speaking proper English better than most native English speakers. Try to start thinking in English, then work out the grammar after you have an idea of what you want to say.
"I'm in the process of learning English." That is how your first sentence should be written. I would still give you an A for your entire comment.
By commenting "I'm in the process of learning English" you cognitively primed the reader of your commen. Great job
You’re doing great pal
I recently found out I’m autistic at 40. I love my job but I’m having communication problems. Videos like this will help me and others like me a lot. Thank you.
How did you find it out
@@stafflex6220his leadership got mad at him and decided he must be labeled as retarded for thinking differently from them
If u dokt mind how did you find that out ? I’m 25 and I feel like I might me on the spectrum but I don’t really know how exactly to find out or who to go to
@@danielgarcia-gv6cdit's 2024, everyone is on the spectrum
What i love the most about this video is how little filler there is in it. You jump into the first point in less than 10 seconds which is so nice to see
You could say it's well articulated
Your plants are dancing.
Best lesson I've learned is being comfortable with silence so you can take time with your words.
Silence is magic 🙏🏼 Not enough people appreciate the silence that holds all
Articulation usually has to do with comfort. When most people feel safe, they can articulate their thoughts and feelings quite well.
Most of the times when I am supposed to express important thoughts I struggle with thinking about the correct words that will engage with the listener emotionally and influence action because there is limited time to process most especially in a group discussion. My favorite gem from this video is the whispering because I feel like it will help me understand my counterparts position in the discussion whilst forming my opinion with in the most accurate wording. Thanks for sharing bro, you are a blessing to this generations oratory community.
Stop thinking of the words and focus on the idea that you are expressing. Let the words flow from this idea. The words will match the idea . Don’t fake it.
I never had problems with public speaking or explaining others or comforting others but the one thing is that I could never express was my mind and thoughts (in words), if i was in discomfort. I always would be just speechless or tell about my problems in breaks which frustrated me even more .Your video totally understood my problem and thanks for helping me out!!!
I love your style! No meaningless intros or outros, straight to the point.
Blue sky phrases are my favorite. they end any conversation like a charm, while not being too impolite
That's me. I really don't like talking to people (especially at work), I'm a polite introvert and tend to stay extremely busy so I don't have to talk, needless to say I'm an awesome worker, lol.
This editing technique to alleviate some of the pauses within the video is genius
Which I didn’t mined in the first place anyways
I'm amazed at how he expresses his thoughts so well.
I see what you did there
Love how you're doing exactly what you're talking about in this video
Honestly while this video is pitched for articulation, a lot of this information I also found useful from a storytelling perspective, especially the cognitive priming tip. You've earned a new sub for sure!
This is one of the channels that gave me the courage to start my KZhead channel 8 months ago about self development. Now I have 866 subs and > 500 hours of watch time. I know it’s not comparable with others but I’m still proud I started because I’ve been learning so many lessons that I could haven’t learned without getting started in the 1st place.
Just hopped off a call wondering why I could not articulate what I think in my head. The timing is impeccable! Love your content God Tsar XVI
Glad to meet you here Joseph, you are truly amazing. ❤
Have been checking out regularly for your new video. You do a great job, man. Keep it up!!
I've always wanted to intentionally take a journey from where I am now, feeling incompetent with my ability to speak and articulate my thoughts, to a place where I feel confident and capable of doing it. Then document that process and provide that knowledge to others. It looks like you've already started this and I'm so excited to learn more from you!
I'm so glad that you decided to use the phrase, "invites the question" in the first phase of this video. It exemplifies your studies well.
I mainly clicked on your video because I have seen it (and the other recent video) on my home page and I loved the way you were able to visualize these problems in your thumbnails. Really clever and attention-grabbing. And now that my urge to compliment those thumbnails has brought me here, the content of the video itself has convinced me to subscribe. You are playing the youtube-game well.
Omg your thumbnail - its incredible. After watching all your videos I’ll be able to proficiently express how impactful sharing your knowledge has been for me … This information is lighting up my soul and igniting so many answers to so many of the questions I have had. In sincere gratitude and adoration. ❤
The best way to convey the true depth of your thoughts with words is simple: trial and error on a massive scale. In other words, we talk to each other until we click with each other. It also helps to stop listening to those people who have vested interests in dividing you to propagate wars, for example. Practice makes perfect. Musicians that are skilled enough to flawlessly play the things they hear in their head on an instrument in real time are akin to professional communicators.
You're a lifesaver! I hope that you can continue sharing your knowledge with us🙇, simply thanking you is not enough to show how grateful I am
Massive respect for getting straight into the actual content with no drawn out intro
For people looking to improve their levels of confidence with speaking in social situations please read this. You don't have to change the way you speak, and you don't have to put conscious thought into it. I personally have lived my life by these steps and what I have found is that now I am overly critical of my thoughts and words. It's not a nice way to think, please only use these tips for public speaking, don't change your personality.
Excellent writing and ideas, great job on this video. I look forward to seeing your work unfold in the future.
This is the problem of my life, really looking forward to watch this video
This is a small detail, but thank you for making the intro extremely quick and immediately getting into the actual information
I love the way you captivate your thoughts and speak which such emotions, the volume and pace of your speaking really emphasize the topic and transfered your ideas and thoughts so seemlessly. I aspired to achieved even a quarter of you are now and hopefully one day I may rise to the horizon that you are currently. Thank you for inviting me on this journey of self-improvement, cheers!
Joseph Tsar you are the best English teacher I have come across
So insightful. Thanks for sharing, Joseph!
Bravo! This is the second video of yours that I am watching and both of them have already intensely changed how I express myself. At least in written form, where I can afford the luxury of prolonged contemplation.
Grateful for you and this channel. All the information you share is SO HELPFUL!!! I’ve been upset and discouraged recently for the reason you talked about at 8:15. You articulated the frustration that I didn’t have the words for, so THANK YOU MUCH ☻ also very intrigued about the software you’re working on
Where had this been all my life? But at the same time, as prions and amazing as this video is, I'm not gonna have any life changing realization where it clicks and u turn myself around. Great video!
This is a great video not only for the information, but because I literally see you utilizing these techniques in this very video.
i just loved the way you just jumped into what the video is about
I can really relate to your comment "Getting asked a question is like a calm pool of water disturbed by a stone."
Great video. Articulating thoughts from your mind to others is a valuable skill. It creates a much deeper level of connection, understanding and comfort and a overall much more fulfilling conversations and richer life. I wish this was something that we were taught from a young age
Remember the overwhelming sensation you experienced as a child when you were exposed to something novel that ignited a symphony of emotions within you, and forever etching itself into the tapestry of your existence? It is that exact sensation I am feeling this moment.
i am surprised everytime you are able to pick those books up so gracefully
What I really enjoyed about this videos was not the good ideas you presented, but the way you were speaking. What I mean is the gaps in your speaking were not removed in post-edit. I really liked that. It gave me more time to think and understand what you were saying along with making this video more natural. Thanks :)
Thank you for saying "invites the question". The question almost never begs
Basically, you need to think about your thought process like a mind cabinet in Disco Elysium. Start a thought internalasition and come back to it later to verbalize your thoughts and ideas
Aha! I've always felt the words definitions and what they represent being flat or not descriptive enough. Now you put concept and "words" to it. ❤
Hey Joseph, great video, and especially I love how you use LANGUAGE to paint a picture. You also show us pictures that highlight those picture thoughts. Brilliant! I suggest you add to your list of connotative how’s exactly that: rhetorical figures that help people SEE your message. That is: metaphor, analogy and of course, story. On your “frustrated” example: note that the phrase you suggested is exactly what a listener would be thinking as they unpack the meaning, having heard that you were frustrated. Rather than saying it, we can help the listener access the feeling by telling a story that makes them feel it, then they’ll access their own experience which gives meaning to your feeling. They now share it. You glossed over PAUSING but that is actually the number one way to allow listeners to process. Studies show it also gives authority to the speaker. The listener attributes intelligence to a speaker who pauses naturally. Finally, another way to help listeners process is to ask them questions. Then WAIT while they answer the question in their mind. All of this isn’t just “articulating your thought”, it’s ENGAGEMENT. And that my friend is what makes oral communication magical.
This is supplemental kind-of-preaching that is important on a Sunday
Thanks! It felt like you spoke my mind and helped me put them into easy to understand words.
Precision, Emotion, Practice and Priming
Dude, Joseph you are quickly becoming master at articulating speech! Absolutely can't wait for the speech software you're designing sound super cool! I love how you did exactly what you said you were doing in the video-- perfectly describing the social habits and complexity of putting our intellectual thoughts into words. I absolutely love how you broke down the common thought habits of, It really hooked me- was super engaged in what you were explaining and it clicked really well with me! I really understood it all, I'm really going to put this into practice--I feel like I have this elusive untold message that I want someone other than myself to hear. It is just like painting a picture! It was almost like your teaching me 1 on 1 in like an elite masterclass tutoring speech session! I always thought I was like the only one who was impressed by and have acknowledged fluent beautiful public speakers like MLK, Barack Obama how they talk, in a very mature, intelligent way that has really stuck out to me! You and me both!
Excellently explained. The mentalese visuals to breakdown It’s abstract - brilliantly done. Instantly understood.
Straight to the point. Thank you!
This has been my Achilles heel in life. Thank you 🙏🏾💖
The pedagogy on this one is exquisite.
Great info. Watched it twice to understand it better and it is worth watching twice not to miss anything and getting a second thought on the points mentioned.
Well done and thank you for putting this video together and sharing it with the world
my guy! thank you for the value! subbed
I just met you and I already love your brain. Thank you for sharing.
I love the idea of defending something as MY thought. It’s a multipurpose tool you can use for anything.
This was a KZhead recommendation. I am absolutely horrible when it comes to speaking how I am feeling or thinking. At least when it comes to my significant other. With this, I can try to learn to say better what I want to say.
For a video on communication i find them a bit long winded…. No offence as i think the content is great!
This great!! Your work enriches my life.
It’s so fascinating that my brain, even tho I’m aware of the techniques you’re using is still drawn to listen.
What an interesting topic! Thank you for covering this, subbed!
This is the most interesting and relating video I've seen in a while
Your videos are great! Keep it up. Thanks for the help I really appreciate you. I hope to one days speak like the most eloquent wordsmith of all time, Terence Mckenna, and I’d be proud to know half his knowledge also. For anyone that wants to listen to English spoken in the most articulate way, with the most impeccable use and timing of words, I recommend listening to Terence.
I am happy I came across this video. I am very introverted myself, and often feel very misunderstood when I try to explain my thoughts. Often I just accept the misunderstandings because I have no clue on how to make myself clear. This feels very frustrating, as if you're itching but are paralysed. This video feels like a great starting point for me to work on this problem. You've earned a new subscriber.
I find that some people will never be able to understand you as you are, when they themselves have a fixed opinion of who you are. If a person wants to see you a certain way, they will, even if they misinterpret or twist reality to fit their narrative. No matter how articulate you are, you can't reach those who have already decided who they think you are. You'll only be able to change their mind with action, not words. Even then, you may find that there's nothing healthy about trying to control what isn't in your power: if they feel more comfortable thinking of you a certain way then they will, and that's their choice. Your loss, but at no fault of your own. It's important to recognize when you're well said, and just as important to recognize when you simply weren't heard~
This was a good video! Straight to the point, no ad break, and generally very well done. I’ve always considered myself a decently articulate person who struggles more with what connotation, specifically, I want to imbue my language with. And something I want to add that I feel might’ve been missed in this video is the use of synonyms. He does touch on this with what he calls “blue sky words”, but what I mean is by knowing a lot of words, I can associate each one (all with the same meaning) with a specific connotation/association. I.e. to say “I took something” feels very general and not in any particular span of time, where as “I grabbed something” is feels faster, and perhaps more impulsive. It’s also important to keep in mind that being too verbose does no one any favors. You’re here to communicate effectively, not confuse and dissuade the sharing of ideas.
The thumbnail designs are getting pretty creative!
One of the best ways to hedge a response is to compliment the question. "That's a good question," doesn't demand, but *requests* time to think.
Love the channel Joe ❤️
Wow i have to subscribe just because of how well you explained all this in such a short video, i often find myself repeating bits of videos so that the ideas stay in my mind but i dont think i had to do it more than 1 time in this video, that Cognitive Priming really does work i guess!
I absolutely love your videos. I can't wait to improve my articulation
It was a great video, thank you. However, I would like to add, we are accountable for the words we say/speak to ourselves too. Our mirror conversations can be a solid foundation for developing confidence, empathy, conversational skills, and personal lexicon. Most importantly, when we talk to ourselves about anything and everything and it’s something we enjoy, want to be good/improve/grow at, and concurrently that helps us prepare for the external world, we learn to be kind to ourselves. And others. Kindness and wit in conversations are indispensable, I believe. And we understand the value of all of it when we begin with ourselves and how we talk to ourselves. 😊
thank youuuu sir Joseph Tsar!
You cognitively primed us at the start showing us all the books you read. Nice
People always ask "Where you at?" but they never ask "How you at?" 😞
How would you answer the question "how you at?"
@@kareem8064 Imagine Charlie Day from Sunny. "I'm here!"
Just read whole books aloud and practice on the prose. It’s done wonders for me
This is straight gold Thank You! 🙏
Astonishing knowledge - I almost wrote, but decided to express it how I feel - so it was rejuvenating and flourishing deep study over communication. Thank you for your effort! The second point is like beta-testing of phrases in the sandbox, before they upload to loud frequencies. Good real-time measurement! The third one is about so deep connection, that is excellent to explain difficult matter with close people, who somehow are stuck in paradigms and stereotype beliefs. Great results of your shaking and shaping words :)
Holy crap. Sentence drafting is such a good idea! I remember when I was a kid (and I've seen other children do it even today) I would repeat what I just said out-loud but at a whisper so I could hear it again and decide if it felt right. Roosevelt just did the next logical thing and whispered it BEFORE saying it out-loud so he didn't have to worry about being embarrassed
I think that the ability to tap into the connotations that we share in a culture is what makes poetry able to convey ideas sometimes that seem much more difficult to convey with prose. It's like if I am talking with my best friend, he knows me better than almost anyone, and so I'm able to convey my ideas MUCH more accurately and with much less explanation than if I was trying to convey an idea that I had to a stranger. I think that poetry allows us to bypass needing to use a bunch of words to try to rigorously DESCRIBE the imagery that's in our heads and is backing the thoughts we're trying to convey, and just convey the imagery to our audience directly, using imagery and emotional language that we generally share widely as a culture.
Paving the way for success.
Youre not just accountable; you exchange ideas. And genuine ideas come from being relaxed. Worrying too much about accountability sounds like a case of trauma. Of which, is just excess tension. Revision, or rather, refinement, is where tension comes in handy. In any case, the written word allows for an expansion of thought. And when you say that people who say "war" automatically know what you mean, that is an assumption. That would only be so if they saw a movie or heard stories. Otherwise, they could just be playing a role in of what war is comprised of. Labels, in that context, only work within a culture.
This channel is so underrated
As a growing and aspiring musician, the reference to a symphony playing the piece a composer wanted an audience to hear really rang out to me. Ive often felt extremely limited in my ability to articulate my thoughts and deepest emotions into words. Music is a way for me to express myself in a different way as well. I noticed that the correlation between music and speech are quite similar, and its truly something beautiful. Ive often heard teachers and directors saying that learning jazz improvisation is like a child learning how to form words. The toddler babbles and screeches and yoodles until the sounds its making are congruent and recognized by the fluent adults. Very similar to jazz improv and other forms of musical expression.
This was a fantastic video. Thanks duder.
There’s a Stephen King quote that goes like this: “The most important things are the hardest to say. They are the things you get ashamed of, because words diminish them -- words shrink things that seemed limitless when they were in your head to no more than living size when they're brought out. But it's more than that, isn't it? The most important things lie too close to wherever your secret heart is buried, like landmarks to a treasure your enemies would love to steal away. And you may make revelations that cost you dearly only to have people look at you in a funny way, not understanding what you've said at all, or why you thought it was so important that you almost cried while you were saying it. That's the worst, I think. When the secret stays locked within not for want of a teller but for want of an understanding ear.”
From the start -> to the point! Awesome video!
You should make an expensive course. This is a must. Hoping we will get that soon!!!!
THANK YOU SO MUCH
When I talk to myself in the mirror it’s like I can say everything I’m thinking almost perfectly, it does take a lot of time and thought tho, and I notice I always tend to rush my words for the sake of not wasting other people’s time.