WHAT HAPPENED TO PERSONAL STYLE ? | OVER THE TRENDS | HOW TO FIND YOUR PERSONAL STYLE
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Carolyn
It occurred to me this week that I want to be INSPIRED and not INFLUENCED. “Inspired’ is a creative term, “influenced” is a monetary one. when I’m inspired, I want to be a better version for the best version of myself I can be! When I’m influence, I simply think that buying something will make me be that person!
This!!! exactly!
Super statement. So true!
Oh my days this is so scary I wrote this exact phrase in my notes on New Years I wrote I don’t want to influence I want to inspire I don’t want to be influenced I wanted to be inspired. This is one of the most surreal experiences for me right now
Exactly, I've always treated and looked up to influencers as my inspiration. If I don't like something I'm not watching. Simple 😊
Incredibly insightful observation! I’m absolutely fatigued by all the influencers telling me what’s trendy, whats outdated, what’s hot…like I just want to feel inspired to create and not just buy everything cause it’s hot right now.
I think this is why I can’t get away from thrifting. As the self aware Aries I can’t stand doing things because others are doing it lol. As soon as I see too many people in it I start avoiding it
I am the same exact way. It irks my soul. I’m a Libra though.
Yes I hear you cookie ….I want to be seen but not looking like everyone else and from a distance … I am okay happy for you to comment but then walk away and let me shine… I don’t want to feel uncomfortable because I look different than most others , but it doesn’t mean I am soo extrovert I can handle all the lingering attention
I just love when you see a thriifted piece and how it should inspire you and start your mind going into how it going to work in your life. I just so addicted to searching for the finds.
thiiiiis. fellow self-aware aries here 😹🙋🏾♀
Carolyn this was so thought provoking and I thoroughly enjoyed it.
I found this so interesting , I was a fashion student in the 1980s and now my Daughter is a fashion student and I find her attitude so different to what mine was . We all wanted to stand out , be different , now they all want to blend in , look like what they see on social media . I say create , don’t follow , absolutely we are all influenced by our surroundings but , hopefully those surrounding aren’t just social media . Well done you , for breaking away from that narrative .
let me ask you, was there a time where gatekeeping your fashion finds was a thing? like the joy was in the journey of locating/recreating something you were inspired by. Im a millennial but always loved fashion. I have a faint memory of this being the case but would like to confirm 😅
I don’t remember keeping places , sources to myself . I just followed my own interest , inspiration and as I said always wanted to be myself , not what other people were wearing . If I noticed others adopting my style , I would say usually I knew it was time to move on .
I was a teen in the 90s, and I would say there were some gatekeepers. Not just with fashion but with music and our favorite bands. You wanted them to become successful but you didn't want the songs to become so popular that they were everywhere and go commercial. I think the gatekeeping kind of started ending in the 2000's with social media because now we could all look up what shoes Rihanna had on or whatever
At 70, I still love what I love and shop accordingly -I don't want to look like everybody else. You addressed STYLE so beautifully, thank you.
Yes! Do it like you want.
High-waisted wide leg pants are my jam!
lol especially if it fits your body type imo.
Mine too! A forever wardrobe piece!!
Lately, I don't watch content from a couple of influencers I follow as often as I used to. I get a bit turned off by them because they kind of only show what they have bought, instead of giving advice about how to create your own personal style. Your video and your message are much needed. ❤️
I agree
I really love the humanistic approach to this video. It really brings back home how creative we were before social media and Pinterest. Allowing ourselves to get back to what we know as far as who we are and what REALLY makes us glow. I found myself getting away from what I know works for me. looking back at old pictures truly shows me what my style was and is till this day. I’m 42 and proud to say I’ve always loved easy relaxed simple clothes and interesting accessories 😊
I totally agree! Who has money to keep adding to their wardrobe every season?? Maybe a piece or two here and there. I love how "influencers" love to say what's in and out of fashion. If you find your own personal style, it becomes timeless. I think it's ok to evolve as you grow, but for the most part I know what I like and what I feel comfortable in❤
Figuring out WHY you’re drawn to a look before trying to emulate it is so key, because then you can really let your individuality take over instead of just replicating someone else. And the tip about looking at the runway is excellent, the raw design principles of the garments really shine the most there.
Thank you for this post. I totally agree. I’m quite bored of style influencers posting the same ideas, outfits, trends, sponsored pieces. It’s gotten repetitive and boring. Styling matching sweatsuits with a long wool coat…. A button down with wide leg jeans and a sweater over the shoulders… we’ve all seen it. And the never ending “core’s”, I just can’t. I want to see fresh and new ideas… actual personal style ideas. So thank you and I’d love to see where you go with this.
My mother recently passed and I've been doing a lot of thinking lately. I've just started a real, earnest attempt to revamp my closet with pieces that suit me on a deep level and its the most exiting process! For the first time (possibly ever) I'm starting to LOVE the clothes and shoes I have. Another interesting side effect is that I'm less and less concerned about my weight and body insecurities. I'm positively distracted by my love for the clothes.
Thank you for the video too!
Also, quality over quantity is soooo key!
My mom died suddenly in 2020 and this EXACT thing happened to me. It’s interesting seeing it written here so succinctly. ❤
This was the most intelligent, unique, and enlightening analysis of personal fashion that I have ever experienced. Ms. Carolyn is brilliant. I’ll have to watch this several times, there are so many layers to absorb. Loved it.
Finally!! Thank you for speaking up! A lot of these fashion influencers seem to lack their own personal style nowadays. Everybody's channel wearing the exact same thing talking the same way about the same thing. I'm over it! what are they influencing us to do walk around looking like twins?! These fashion influencers are starting to look like robotic retail influencers not stylish fashion influencers same content,same look and no personal style. PLEASE MAKE IT STOP✋🏾
I love this video because you’re not serving us monetized fish (influencing us with items) You’re teaching us how to fish ( a systematic way for us to find our own personal style and stop over consuming while moving futher and futher from feeling like ourselves)
You are correct in your analysis. I am a modern man with a personal preference for the Humphrey Bogart look. Pants with pleats, clean shoes, properly laced oxford shoes, shaved with a touch of spicy fragrance. When you look good you also feel good and ready to take on the world. Best wishes.
Hi Carolyn! This is 75 years young, and I must say you did it again! What an intelligent, honest, and thoughtful video! Great job! ❤️❤️❤️
I feel the over stimulation. But I also feel like I’m evolving and my style is evolving
Sis i love that you made this video. I was just saying that all the content creators and influencers are influencing each other. Wearing and saying the same thing and it's getting boring. I love your unique since of fashion and it inspires me. Please continue to be unique. Everybody seems to be chasing the partnerships and not the art of true style. Most don't have it. They may have fashion, but they don't have style. I love it sis... unplug, get re-inspired and inspire us!!!!!!
Omg! Boomerang is my favorite movie! I’m not sure what my “style” is, but I loooove to see a great pair of jeans with a screen print tee and a blazer. That’s my jam.
That's legit my daily uniform lol
Such a great movie!
I'm actually amazed how much the exercise of imagining your own fashion collection from scratch and giving it a name clarified things for me. I get so caught up in types of fashion and what styles appeal to me when it can really just be boiled down to big boxy cuts and durable materials that just look cooler and cooler the more worn they get. It was just a lightbulb moment of "oh duh, canvas, leather, denim. Earth tones and deep saturated warm colors. Loose cuts I can comfortably move in. Big dramatic collars. No sleeves unless it's a jacket." that cut through all the noise.
Isn't it so amazing to allow ourselves to pause and get creative. your fashion collection sounds like it would be so coooool! similar to mine
YES. When I was a teen, I used to be sad that I could not follow one visual style, because I like things from different styles and subcultures. After a while, I realized that this is ~personal style~ and that a lot of the people I followed (the ones who had a somewhat ""unique"" style) had different influences too and did not try to fit in a box. When you post a pic of a outfit nowdays, there are always people asking "what's this aesthetic?" bcs they think you should have one, to give them a simple answer.
I'm doing a 100 day challenge of no thrifting, no shopping and simply playing in my own wardrobe and aiming to wear and share a 100 different outfits that just make me happy. Day 20 and already feeling reenergised by what I already own. I found I was just buying more and more and not appreciating what I already have. Genuinely personal style is the best. Great thoughts here! x
I wanted to take a moment to express my appreciation for your recent commentary. While I typically refrain from engaging on various platforms, your words resonated deeply with me, prompting me to break my silence. Your thoughts on the overwhelming influence of certain trends and influencers in the past year struck a chord. It's refreshing to find someone who shares a similar perspective on the saturation of new merchandise and suggestions flooding the market. Your decision to shift focus towards appreciating what you already have, shopping your own closet, and embracing gratitude is truly commendable. Your post eloquently addressed the inaccuracies and pitfalls that many women encounter, leading them into debt and fostering feelings of insecurity. It's a brave stance to challenge the status quo, and I wanted to applaud you for speaking your truth so articulately. I genuinely hope that this year brings you the courage to continue sharing your perspective and living your most authentic life. Your voice is a valuable contribution to the ongoing conversation about self-worth and contentment in an era dominated by external influences. Thank you once again for your thought-provoking commentary. Wishing you a year filled with authenticity, courage, and continued self-discovery.
Wow! You are an amazing writer 👌🏽👌🏽
Wow, I feel honored by your breaking of silence with me :) Thank you for confirming me and connecting with me as well. I will say that this space can at times be hard to navigate, and I am realizing that making this video will be a new foundation for me to create from. I have a feeling it will be difficult because I am human and I still like to shop like I have several money trees in the back yard LOL but it is very important to have intention and understanding of what and how we consume. I hope I can continue to communicate that in a way that makes sense while also still having fun and feeling fabulous ! thank you again for commenting
As a diehard fashionista approaching 60, I've come to realize that mass consumption doesn't heal scars or personal insecurities. I'll always love fashion, but I'm committed to a more conscientious approach in how I consume it. Thanks for the insightful perspective!
Yessss people feel like if you dont follow certain trends that you're not stylish or "can't dress" like chile my style is my style its been this way forever i just throw different spins on it as time goes
I watch alot of Korean dramas and Korean youtubers who just walk around Korea. I enjoy watching what the people wear, and I love seeing sundresses with cute sweaters with simple low heels it's such a feminine esthetic to me. I'm going to be adapting that look for the summer.
I must say, this was the perfect conversation that most of us needed. I started this year saying I have too much stuff, I don’t need anything else and I certainly have no room. I’ve been influenced to buy things that I won’t EVER wear and I LOVE BEING AT HOME! You’ve helped a lot of people with your honesty and vulnerability.
I feel you. Im staying home as much as possible until it gets warm LOL ! and it may be time for a purge my dear. Just face the beast and get rid of the things you don't enjoy or understand in your closet. Clear and cleanse the space.
I’m so happy I’m not the only one who thinks like this. I honestly think you have amazing style! Even if you purchased a “trendy” piece, you still finesse it your own way, YOUR OWN STYLE. I’m honored to have found you last year. A lot of people I used to watch, all started wearing the same things. Literally the exact outfits. Influencers seem to have stopped their own style, just to make the money, and sell to the masses. Thank you so very much for being YOU, for speaking up on the madness in a sea of uniformed trends. LoL - “cookie” Tanee 😉
So many of us are aligned to this. I currently post videos of outfits I put together from shopping my closet and they showcase my personal style - we don’t all have to be edgy or fashion forward 😉 Truth be told, if money wasn’t a factor in shopping, my style would be similar to what it is now but with a different level of quality. I really enjoyed this video! Proud cookie ❤
I agree that fashion trends have become very uniform and individual style has taken a back seat. I refuse to fit in , my eclectic artistic soul needs creative expression.
I'm so much happier and satisfied with my personal style after getting color consultant and knowing my kibbe style. it has helped me to know what colors, styles and patterns suit me rather than following a trend that looks the ugliest on me.
You are 1 of 2 KZheadrs that I watch. Everyone else got weird to me this over consumption is toxic...they are wearing all of the labels with zero style. Chillleeee! Then they are always saying how they got this or that on a good discount smh...I didn't realize I felt so strongly about this lol
Who is the other KZheadr you watch?
@@tndobson1 Living Fearless ❤️
This is why the things I thrift are usually my favorite items. I got off social media (some time last year) and I’ve missed your content in my fashion girl repertoire.
This is spot on. I searched the Ralph Lauren fashion shows on KZhead and i was blown away with INSPIRATION! I pick and chose what resonates with me and am always wearing what I like. Then I see others copy it. Then I move in another direction just because I like being different & true to me
This is one of your best! I so appreciated this one. I have worked in a fashion space for 18 years and never let the trends dictate what I wear or wore. I always incorporated my personal style into whatever department I worked in. I was told by my manager who is a Buyer that she’s never seen me wear anything twice. Gurl, of course I have! I just mix it up! It’s so freeing to be your unique, beautiful self! Thank you Carolyn, I love the direction God is leading you, stay the course. ❤❤❤
🎀I have always worn what I personally like, regardless of trends.🎀
It has been so long since I’ve heard anyone talk with such passion and clarity about what they love in fashion and why specifically for themselves. Yes! What is the fit going to do for you when you walk?!?! Not just in a 2D posed photo
Omg !!! I have been screaming this for a good while. Everybody looks the same, clothing isn’t exciting to me anymore. So I’m in the same space of redefining my style.
So from a senior fashion/style person I have always watched old movies from 1920-1970 the variety the style Amazing
I’m so happy you said this!!! I’ve been feeling like this with personal style all the way to the way people style their homes. I always try to incorporate my own style because that’s when I feel most in tune with myself. I think everyone is getting addicted to clicking on a link to purchase and it being at their door. Instant gratification is causing us to lose who we are to the core.
I honestly feel like this is a long overdue conversation and I’m sooo grateful that you started it. I’ve been in a season of being authentic with me and engaging back to what I like regardless what it popular opinion. You’re timeless! Thank you for this!
Back in the day I used to work on movie sets and would run around looking for items that aligned with celebrity's style aesthetic. I developed my own sense of style not by having the latest and greatest but curating my own personal style & identity. All I see now are copycats. We all look alike & have to get the same things to be cool or fit in, etc.These high end designers are making a killing off our lust for the things and they really dont want to see us in it. In comes the infuencer to help people spend money. So I adjusted my attitude and behaviors. Now I like all the things but if it does not align I have to decline.
Well said. I’m an artist and I express myself through fashion. For the most part I wear what I want….not what I’m told to wear. I don’t follow trends or fads. I have a personal style. Thanks for the distinction💐.
This is one time the nosey KZhead gods got it right! I was literally standing in my closet looking at my clothes saying yo myself “who is this person?!” Nothing looked like or felt like me. Since the pandemic I am wfh. I don’t really go anywhere so I just shop and shop then never wear it because it’s REALLY not me. I’m not a girly girl but have every designer bag in my closet just collecting dust. I decided I’m going to purge and figure out my style. Turned on KZhead as background noise and you were the first video to pop up. This “Think Piece” was on point! Preciate you. New subscriber here 😊
SAME! I have so many items on Poshmark or I have donated bags of clothes and shoes. I am wfh also and I really don't go anywhere. I am in t-shirts and leggings most days. 😕
F.I.T. is my Alma mater. This is one of the best personal style talk video I ever listened to. Very honest and full of integrity. Great job Carolyn.
This was needed. I am rebuilding my wardrobe after holding on to clothes for 10+ years… none of which I actually felt my best in. I’m getting a lot of inspo from Pinterest, but I find myself trying to keep up/be on trend or on brand that I have lost my personal style. Thank you for reminding me to go back to what makes me ME.
Carolyn, carolyn, thanks for your honesty, humor, and introspection. I'm over 60, but not 65 yet. Fashion is important to me. Interior design is "my my" deep thing! They really are close cousins. I have been questioning the need to have the next new thang, and the "sponsoring" to encourage more consumption. It's incredibly disturbing. I've found myself tempted to buy/ try, get subscriptions and have boxes coming monthly of clothing, makeup, perfumes... it is insanity!!! I've quit being influenced by "Influencers", but I take their talent and adapt it for my lifestyle. I sew, and am now learning to thrift for some things and alter for myself. Thanks for encouraging others to press the reset button. Access the what's and why's and be true to yourself. And be financially astute. I applaud you, your style, beauty, talent and evolution 🎉
And let's be honest Carly. A lot of people never had personal , no shade, just truth. That's why they are so easily INFLUENCED. I LOVE THIS VIDEO.
I think your channel came up in my feed because this is the conversation I am craving! Seriously! Buying "the latest thing" can't compete with investing in your personal style.
OH MY GOD I LOVE YOU. I’ve been feeling this for years and I’ve been basically just yelling YES THAT at this entire video. Subscribed!
I am living in a constant state of being overwhelmed with "inspiration", influence, pictures and "guidance" to what i should wear. I am watching streams like this because I really like this new notion that women AND men want to step back and get to feel, create and decide themselves what they want/ should/ can wear in society. So many things have to be considered! Like sustainability is now a huge factor for me. So I can only say you are so right with working from your inside towards what you want and need for yourself and taking a step back from all that noise!
You are so on point with this conversation. It really struck a nerve for me as well. Because it really made me realize. That people act like sheep’s in this society these days. At the same time made me proud of myself for never following any of this stuff.
Your channel is such a breath of fresh air. Thank you for sharing your insight with us. We LOVE you for it!
You go girl ❤
First off..shout out to Baltimore! Secondly, thanks for this Ted Talk (lol) I truly needed it. I have so much stuff and I don’t wear it. I feel like my style is all over the place but I’m going to use your tips and hone in on my personal style and what brings me joy. ❤
Aye BALTIMORE !!!!! lol yes miss mamas! get the purging and resetting your wardrobe !! thank you so much for watching and commenting my love.
This is my first genuine subscription. This channel is a vibe
That hairstyle is super cute ❤
I’ve been told I’m fashionable and based on how you defined it, I suppose I am lol. But you definitely helped me open my mind to even more possibilities as far as understanding my aesthetic. Thank you! You just gained a new sub!! 🎉🎉🎉
omg thank you so much for taking my request to do a video on essentials! Cannot wait for that!!!!!!! And loved this video, so on point!!! With literally everything!
Really interesting thoughts and great analysis of the difference between fashion, fads and style. Something that really stood out to me is your background, growing up around a photographic studio, your dad's friend teaching you makeup etc. ❤
I'm so happy I found this channel! Thanks for sharing your light and wisdom.
Gurl' you are inspiring me to take my ass back to fashion school and get my damn degree in Fashion Merchandising. I LOVE your channel.
Wow! This is so thought provoking and as someone who has been happily influenced by your style, it's refreshing and so appreciated to know that it's coming from someone who has actually reflected on these things and thought carefully about them.
On point! In my big age, I still love fashion and will watch fashion shows and make notes, then shop my closet to pull together an outfit! Thrifting helps me to tweak my wardrobe and find that special something that evokes a memory, or feeling. I love your think topic! It really helps me to be happy with my personal expression of who I am and desire to show the world. Thanks so much!
“ yourself in clothing form” ❤ that part!
Love how you explained everything ! I personally feel the same way when it comes to personal style and trends.
Finally a breath of fresh air and truth.
Loved this talk, it’s cool to see someone get excited about fashion in a different way 💗!
I so appreciate you discussing this topic. It needed to be said.
Loved that you admitted to being influenced and questioning some of your own purchases is HUGE! Salute to your evolution 👏🏽 👏🏽👏🏽
This!!! We are all 1 of 1. Let that sink in 💗
Wow!! You are everything! So happy I found you!💖💖💖✨✨✨
Loved this video and topic. I never comment on videos which is probably bad but I completely understand what you mean. its great to watch someone who still has their own style! keep doing what you are doing!
Carolyn! This was perhaps 1 of the most educational, entertaining videos. I like the way you're going 😊
I was scrolling through KZhead and came across your video. LOVVVVEEEEEEEED IT SO MUCH!!!! I have struggled finding my personal style because I thought it had to just be one specific style. After listening to you and seeing your pictures… it’s changed everything for me!
You hit the nail on the head! I have become sick of the word aesthetics and missing the word style! Over the past year I’ve been trying to reinvent my personal style and I am loving what I am becoming! Love this video ❤
Caroline!!!!! Sis!!! This is what I was waiting for. I literally just said this on my recent post. I’ve been posting less, and scrolling less bc I am bored! I no longer care to keep up with anyone or anything bc that shit had me f’d up last year! I’m focusing on me and what makes me happy. More vlogs like this! Love it! ❤️❤️
Your thoughts are so valid and on point!
This is my first time watching any of your videos. I agree with everything you spoke! So refreshing to hear someone else vocalize my own feelings. I'll be back for more!
I have to share this with my circle, it’s so easy to get trapped in over-consumption and just buy all the things but this video was a helpful reminder to rain it in and reassess the choices I’ve been making. I especially loved the idea of what pieces I would include if I were starting a brand. Real food for thought.
CG, you are the OG and I'll forever stand 10 toes down for your videos/channel. Period. (lowkey wish you'd start your own podcast).
You couldn’t have said it better! I was definitely over spending when I first started my channel. This is one reason why I design versatile pieces.
I love that you say, I want to be inspired not influenced. Powerful insight.
Lately I could not put into words how I felt about the aesthetic and trend driven culture we live in. You articulated this perfectly! I feel heard and understood lol ❤
Yes!!! So refreshing!! Wow so glad I found you, I’m sticking around 😊
Awesome commentary, Carolyn! I thoroughly enjoyed it!
Girl, you hit the nail right on the head!
I really enjoyed this "chat" and we all need a reminder to not get swept up in trends. My goal in watching articulate, knowledgeable fashion gurus like you is to develop my own personal style, so you made a lot of sense to me. I am 61 and just fell in love with fashion last year. I am a creative person in home interiors and journalism and what a surprise it was for me to realize fashion is art as well! As a newbie in this area, I really ejoyed your video.
Yessss!!! fashion is art!! I love that you are diving into it! thank you for watching the video xoxo
Such a WELL put together conversation! I feel like you spoke my exact thoughts. I was overstimulated with fashion and thought it was crazy because I LOVE fashion and I LOVE shopping. Influencing should be inspiration but we really do get caught up in the trend of specific items. I think the idea of redefining personal style is SUCH an important topic. ❤❤❤❤
What an excellent and refreshing take carolyn!!! Thank you for sharing ❤
Loving your take on this. Reminder needed in this moment . . Style is cool, not fashion . . . Power to the people!
I appreciate this episode. I truly feel that we are more authentic when we allow ourselves to live in our truth and set our own personal style !!
This needed to be said and I enjoyed this video. I am looking forward to your upcoming format.
Love this! So true, everyone looks the same
I love this, anything that has me thinking about my style instead of trends. Oh and naming my style! That’s good! I did that.
Carolyn I feel the exact same way about style! I like how u made us think about an imagined brand. Makes a lot of sense. 🌟
Instantly liked the video before I pressed play just based on the title alone!
BRAVA!!!! I loved everything about this! I thought I was tripping or entered the twilight zone when I started using and watching this platform with all the anesthetic this and aesthetic that. I was like, where's the individual and peraonal style and mind? Thanks again for this redreshing video and prompting people to think...for themselves.
Resonates so much. Loved every minute of this video. I subscribed immediately !
Totally agree. I’ve always bypassed trends and aesthetics. While they can be nice, they aren’t always “me.”
This was great, I totally get it - thank you for sharing this particular video. This was needed/this industry needs your truth. You're definitely set apart.