I've stopped taking care of myself.
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00:00 - Introduction
02:00 - Sponsorship
03:50 - I. Sleep
05:59 - II. Diet
09:18 - III. Exercise
11:20 - Final thoughts
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For exercise you can try 30 days yoga with Kassandra morning or evening challenge. It's not too much. It's perfect to pick pace.
For food, try making soups! Personally, I love making minestrone soup since it is super filling and comforting. Finding recipes you enjoy and can fall back on even when you are less motivated to cook is so important. Also try making foods from other cultures. I’m Indian, and I would recommend you making vegetarian biryani!
i'm excited!!!!
Can you add in a mid morning nap ?
I have recently started a 90 day regimen on medical marijuana which has broad-spectrum activity, in particular, relieving depression, anxiety, pain, migraines etc...I sincerely believe that spending time and money on your mental health is the best thing you can do.
I've stopped taking care of myself too. I gained some weight, I sleep late, I'm on phone too much and I skip meals too. I realised I'm self sabotaging because I'm struggling with depression. I guess self love really is a journey.
I sometimes dont eat anything,, wen I feel sad, I usually dont want to have anything.. I need to get into a better habit because ive lost a lot of weight,,,,,,,,
literally same 😭😭
same I was struggling with anxiety especially for the last 2 months and I stopped taking care of myself and I don't feel good about it. I know it's hard to overcome depression and all but let's convince ourselves that better is coming, let's accept what we have and move on. Just watching this video is an important hint that me & you guys want to improve. I wish for all of us the best. lots of love
Maybe self love is giving ones self the space to 'let go' a little. Plan a movie and ice cream night. It's really necessary to just be a 'vegetable' sometimes.
I feel you. I hope you can find some joy in turning your self sabotage around
*“You’ll watch an entire Netflix series even when the first episodes are slow just because someone told you that ‘it gets better’, but what if you looked at your goals like that and watched your life get better instead?”* Love from a small channel💙
' i got sick of myself and my bad eating habits' haha, as someone who cares also a lot about taking care of myself i have also been not taking the best care of myself. Great video to watch, keepin' in real as always
Same here! I’m ruining my life day by day
The thing with me and the whole working out thing is that I absolutely love exercising because I feel so good after the workout, or even just by walking outside for an hour or two makes me feel so good. But I have a hard time removing the shame that I feel with myself. Like, I don't want to leave my house because I don't want anyone to see me, because I know I am not at my best where I wanna be, and I just feel a lot of shame because of that.
I feel the same😔
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I am totally feeling the same way!!!
The little singing at the start got to me :')
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Me too. I was like, "Wait a minute! She can SING!!" :)
THING THAT CAN HELP TO IMPROVE: 1. Meditate 2. Set Goals 3. Read Daily 4. Judge Less 5. Eat Healthy 6. Love Yourself 7. Wake Up Early 8. Start A Journal 9. Quit A Bad Habit 10. Ask For Feedback 11. Learn A New Skill 12. Believe In Yourself
My life has been a complete and total misery ever since Bigfoot stole my precious girlfriend in the middle of the night.😒 He even took all her clothes and the T.V.
Good points, totally works!
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*Don't be afraid to start all over again.* *This time you are not starting from scratch.* *You are starting from experience.* 📚
Experience is the best teacher💯
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One specific point about sleep; some people find it easier to have a short period of sleep at night and make up for it with naps during the day. You might try it, or even have a little more sleep at night and some naps. Other than that, it is oddly comforting to know that our heroes struggle with stuff like this too. Of course, we hope everything works out for you.
Great point, worth trying!
This actually not a good long term strategy, and it will have some serious consequences over time. I highly recommend matthew walker, the researcher mentioned in the video, to better understand the current science on sleep, he is very compelling
I’ve had my Maltese for 14 years and Morkie for 10 years 1. Ignore Fred when he wakes up, he will go back to sleep 2. Get a backpack for Fred and take him with you on long walks.
I go through this, being a creative. This is why I don't have pets. It would becone harder for me to focus. My sleep is so often restless, and my creativity is also better at night. You are definitely not alone in your struggles. I admire you, and what you say is very relatable to me 💯
I completely agree with the point that every single thing you do, vote for the person you like to be. I started exercising regularly from past 2 months now its been my habit. I don't want to miss any day without doing any physical exercise which makes me maintain my streak. Also I started reading books which helped me Learn a lot and that also became a habit in me. Now I read a chapter of a book daily before going to bed. Atomic habits by James Clear is really nice Book.
That's great you both exercise and read. They are both important.
Due to my tendency of indulging in self- criticism, self- loathing, FOMO and self-absorption I fall sometimes into depression and stop to take care of myself. I must point out that these feelings occasionally arise in my head is quite normal. The main thing is not to let al these feelings be sprawled all over my head. I have to admit that I can’t cut back on it all at once, little steps to self- reinvention can go a long way. Your video was a lot liberating to me. Thank you ❤️
I’ve been not taking the best care of my studies and school work lately, I’m gonna follow your steps just by finding out what keeps me back(probably social media and Netflix) and then limit my time on them and gradually get back to studying. Thank you so much Lana this really helped me a lot ❤️
Thank you for being so open! Wonderful to see someone also in the thinking/exploration stage. Good luck moving forwards, and remember to show yourself compassion x
Thank you!!
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I love your editing style so much. So simple and yet so mesmerizing! Especially the b-rolls in nature that you put 🌻
This is so relatable! I love that you shared your approach to get you out of a rut like this, I found it very helpful 🥰
this came in very timely for me because, after giving 101% to taking care of myself in July, i got into a slump again in August because of a major life event that happened. and now, i feel like i am back to square one - doing activities that would just self soothe and give temporary pleasure. i'm glad i'm not the only one who feels this way
Exactly what I needed to watch. Can't believe how much I can relate, puppy amd everything, thank you 💕
Thank you so much Lana for not only highlighting your progress but also showing that it is normal not to be your best self at times. But gently reminding yourself that you can still change and the goal is not to stand still. Love and light to you!
I feel you! we feel stuck so many times in our lives and it's great that you're sharing it...like you said, everyone mostly show progress and goals once they're there. And also we ourselves are always waiting for THAT goal to happen, THAT moment when we feel energetic, happy and healthy,etc...we need to enjoy more these moments of realizing we need some change, and do it step by step. Hope you enjoy your journey :)
I love what you said about sharing your struggles and not only the good results. We need more of that 👌🏼👏🏼
Me too. I needed to hear this.
Your videos always makes me feel like i have booked an appointment wdh a therapist🥰❤️…. I truly needed this!!Lvyh❣️
Thank you for sharing ❤️ You are a really big inspiration to me and motivate me to do better and get better. I’m struggling daily with myself and can’t seem to do something to fix it but this gave me motivation towards the first steps so thank you
Hang in there Lana! Many of us found you through your book club reviews. You have inspired thousands to read and improve themselves. We hope you will feel better and improve yourself as well.
This couldn’t have come at a better time!! ive been in the biggest slump since i went into lockdown again :(
Very much relatable, Lana! Thanks a lot for offering unusual yet important opinions 🥰
I have been taking care of myself for the past 57 days and I feel incredible. I used to hate going out to run or do exercises but now I enjoy them quite a lot.
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love this video! Thanks for sharing those "not very perfect" segments. Everyone is struggling on their own and social media always makes ppl feel more pressured to be a better version. I think this video is so much better than sharing a perfect self disciplined routine for example. It pushes me forward in another way. I would say yes, self-loving is a long journey and it is harder in post-covid age with added depression and life difficulties. But to feel ourselves less taken care of is a start, and instead we will start to think what do we really need.
This video came at such a timely moment! Just yesterday I made a decision once again to try and work out my bad habits and make definitive changes to make my life better. I constantly feel such a high resistance to get things done and it ends up being a mountain of burden sitting in the back of my mind which i do nothing about until i have a deadline to meet or if i really have no choice. Watching this makes me feel like we are working through the thought process together and it really helps me feel like im not alone in this! Thanks Lana 🥺
The amount I relate to this topic... was feeling like I was finally digging myself out of the hole I was in for a bit of time, but now I can feel myself going down again.. Great video as always.
I’m in the same spot. Definitely needed to see this. We’ll get back up ☀️
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I do relate to this video very much. I am on the process of getting balance and boosting my creativity ,productivity and well being,now I feel better about myself than the guilt I felt for ignoring myself and things that matter to me
For the first time in a long time, I didn't feel lonely in my thoughts and feelings. Thanks for sharing, I found your video very useful and inspiring
Thank u for letting us in your beginning💖
I just feel like this video was especially made for me! ❤️ I already feel somewhat better, knowing I am not alone! Creativity has never worked great during the day, at night with the cool air, the darkness and the stillness of everything and with everyone else asleep everything just fits perfectly, and it just feels natural to keep at whatever creative endeavor one is at!
One of my biggest mistakes in my life: 1. Seeking pleasure while neglecting to give my body's basic healthy needs. Now I am doing everything that I can to bring myself back to that energetic person that I used to be, but a healthier one. Hopefully I'll be back soon.
I just love you ❤❤❤ and yeah, I am so excited about your newsletter.
''Cooking with my heart'' I forgot when was the last time I did that! You made me re-evaluate certain things and certain new habits of mine! Too focused on productivity and not so much in making my daily task pleasant. All in a hurry, so I can get back to work, not cool! Great topic Lana!
Great stuff, Lana. Thanks for sharing your struggles, I'm sure many people will find this relatable. Good luck, I'm sure Fred will adjust and start waking up later or you maybe can get to sleep earlier!
Thank you for another peaceful and a relaxing Sunday video Lana. :) I haven't been taking care of myself either... But after hearing you, I think it was a sign that I really need to look after my body, and my mind more. Thank you Lana! :)
Thank you so much for being brave and sharing this. It has resonated with me deeply. First step is to admit that there is a problem. Second step is to take a step to change. That has been the hardest. for me Thank you for the wakeup call!
You can tell how much you love your dog! They bring so much happiness to people it's unreal
I really needed to see this. The last few days I’ve been in such a funk and I know it’s majorly due to my poor food, sleep and exercise choices. Thank you for this - even small decisions lead to good habit forming. ❤️☀️ ready to get back on track
I really appreciate this video. It takes a lot of vulnerability to film something like this, but it’s so worth it because there are people out there who can relate to and need to hear that they’re not alone
This has made me consider some of the changes I've needed to make and work on and how I adjust and think about them. Thank you!
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Love how Lana keeps it real! very real
This is very relatable. Getting into a rut is too easy and getting out sometimes seems so daunting. I like how you break things down into simple steps for yourself and explain your thought process.
I’ve been struggling so much with my sleep habits lately and think the same way as you with the solution oriented mindset! Loved the video and the discussion around creativity and sleep❤️
Thank you!!
I read somewhere or maybe heard somewhere that after the day is over you’re only in your own energy and have time for your authentic creativity to come out !! I’m definitely more creative after hours
I had a hard time motivating myself to do workouts for a while until I discovered intuitive dance and included strengthening exercises that I chose in the moment. It has become one of my favorite times of the day because I can let off steam to music I love and I never felt like I had to push myself until now.
I do "food prep" once a week which makes it easier to whip up meals later. I have horrible sleeping habits... go to bed around 4am to 5am and then sleep (or at least I'm in bed) for at least 10+ hours. Sometimes the sun is just rising when I do go to bed. This is partly, I think, to do with medications I take but I know I really need to make a change! Thank you for your videos!!
I wish you the best! Let you be you, maybe for 2 weeks don't care about this, and then start slowly and gently to introduce yourself to a new world? With new habits which are fun? That's my way of doing something, always let your feelings in at first, live them to the fullest (for example bad habits) live them. And then after a while, say to your little self, come with me now, we'll change a little bit, cause we are tired of being "lazy" whatever..
just wow again, lana!! so timely for me. GOD bless your more!
Yes I can relate to late hours being conducive to creativity. It's like at this part of the day your creativity is freer and bolder. Ideas coming from then feed into the next day's work.
Beautiful opening of this video 🎵. Your singing is so soothing that it heals everyone.
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I feel you girl. It's so hard to go to bed on time and stay on a structured schedule and the discipline to do so. I'm glad you made this video because it's time for me to take a look at my sleep as well in fact I'm reading a book right now called why we sleep
Thanks for the time stamps
Yay! More singing please! 😃
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That intro is everything! You need to do it more often ♡♡♡
It's great to see that you are comfortable enough to share your downsides , it's not people do generally as you said. And you content is as great as always 😄..
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I love how you tell a story through your own experiences. 🌟💕
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I'm totally with you on the puppy thing! Totally worth it! You go girl!
Thanks Lana, I really look up to you and it's nice to know you're human too😊
Good video! Keep experimenting with it all. And as far as the workouts go, you already have the perfect partner for walks. The puppy will go with and grow into walking more and more. I hear you on the 5:30am wake up from the dog… it’s hard, but it also can become a whole new scheduling tactic. Naps can help too. Sleep is important!!
That was a very creative opening. Loved it.
Many times we wait for motivation when motivation is actually created through doing. Something I'm taking to heart these days. ❤
From now on, before I make any decision I will remember Lana's words: " So, How are you voting today?" Thank you ❤
Supergreat video dear Lana! Keep doing your hard work, you are a real inspiration for many people to become a better person! 🥰🌸
Thanks so much!
Get that Goggins mindset Lana, the struggle is the purge of negativity
Her voice is so soothing😌
Thank you!! :)
I had the same problem when I got my puppy and at the beginning, I had to go out with her every 2h. I was exhausted for a few months. But- I promise it will get better! What I did is to put her in a closed box next to my bed and she would just scratch when she wanted out. But that prevented her to wake up and play whenever she wanted. I trained her to know when sleeping time is. Many people think they have to mold around the dog, but it’s their job to do that. I know trained her to eat at 09:00 and go out at 10:30. Of course, I go out with her later in the evening. But what I am saying is that - with a bit of training - it Will get better. I was going insane in the first months, with no one to help me. You can do this! Fred will be the most rewarding thing ever after you get over this phase. Because it is just a phase. Good luck!
just wanted to say that your hair looks amazing, Lana
Hey Lana, I absolutely love your channel!💕
I've been enjoying grow with Jo workouts lately 😊
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“Gently” is the magic word. ✨🌸🦋
I found this comforting to hear today. I think it’s also a post Covid vibe that’s going around as I am having similar feelings about life in general right now. I do have to maintain a certain level of self care for my mental health so I be very careful to not let it go too much but I can relate to this... feeling or experience you are having. I clap at my cat if he bothers me in the AM? Cruel to be kind?! Also could you take your dog for long walks too? I have just started yoga up again as it makes me feel so great I never want to avoid it. Running with goals and dips in the sea make up the rest. I hope you come out this blip better ❤️
I was meant to see this, because this is word for word what I have been going thru thx Lana ! I'm gonna do better now that I've been made aware
Thank you, Lana! I appreciate this so much. I always give so much love and time to others - but I struggle so much with giving it to myself. Appreciating myself, cooking for myself, working out or even just cleaning my apartment. Every task just seems like a chore to me and I’m like „if only I’m seeing the mess, I can leave it“. So thank you for this :)
What to do, when everything feels meaningless? Doing the exercises, cooking, etc. - but I don't see any sort of meaning in life right now although I just finished my exams and I'm waiting with a good feeling for the results
God bless you in your studies 🙏🏽
When i have this feeling i take a walk outside and it really helps.
Its called nihilism same here too✌️
Same here .you are not alone!
Is it lack of meaning like boredom or lack of meaning like hopelessness/pointlessness? Being outdoors helps, as does intense exercise. Find a goal which actually had meaning or interesting to you - not necessarily a goal you should have or others want you to have. One just for you. If you have no idea what that might be, you may want to speak to your doctor about possible depression.
I loved your singing at the beginning! Love your videos!! 😍😍
Thank you!! :)
@@LanaBlakely no problem!!!
really love listening, you Lana!
I love that you shared your plans as they are today even though you're not entirely sure what direction you want to go in for exercise :) I completely agree with you that too often we only share those accomplishments and not the initial hurdles. So thank you for that.
Sleeping is one thing I can boost fully say I changed for the better in my life 🙂
You sing SO GOOD GIRL!!!
Lana: "at least I wasn't in bed, scrolling through my phone" me: [sideeye monkey]
It's meeee😭😭😭 Here to take help.
I just found your channel and I relate to you so much and have been binge watching your videos since yesterday
Loved your singing in the beginning, you re a great inspiration 🌻
You're so pretty and I love your topics, keep going 💜💜
Your videos are always thoughtful and sincere. You are articulate and well grounded . Thanks for videos. Take care of yourself. God Blesshiu and your loved ones.
Can confirm the best writing I've done happened between 9pm to 1am, the ideas flowed- mind you working a 9-5 job does that.
great video as always
Very timely. Feeling the same thing. We can do this!! 💪🏻💪🏻
You are always strong and hadn’t been for that you wouldn’t be who you are and you always teach us that through your amazing opinions and life journey! I hope u never stop growing and always keep finding the desire you have to keep going!
Thanks so much!
Wonderful voice, Lana, excellent video!
I definitely relate to the creativity channels opening up for me later at night. I find if I'm "bored" in the evening and I can get myself to sit still and not do my go to of video games or endless KZhead holes -- then I find myself being very creative! If I write something at that time, I tend to be less filtered, more honest, more vulnerable. I made my last two KZhead videos at night surging with creativity. But I have to have enough energy and not be sleepy or tired to be creative at night - which connects back to your point about good sleep habits!
I really needed to hear this today. ❤️ps. I also have a 6-month-old puppy and started training leaving him alone. Now he can be by himself for a few hours without any problem, and even bought a cheap security camera thing so I can check up on him when he's alone. It took some practice but so grateful for putting in the work now!
That's great to hear!! Good job