Therapist reacts to Baby Reindeer
2024 ж. 22 Мам.
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I was not expecting this show to snatch my DSM...but it did. When I watched baby reindeer at first I thought it was you average show to binge..and thennn I quickly realized that Netflix was playin. Let's react to Baby Reindeer.
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This is one of the best real-life-survivor stories I’ve ever seen portrayed on screen-kudos to Richard Gadd for not only getting through it all, but then engaging in the narrative therapy of writing and acting out a one-man play about it, and THEN committing it to film through Netflix. He has a ton of insight and intelligence on describing and exploring the confusion that is the aftermath of SA, and this is groundbreaking filmmaking (and I say that a survivor - and yes, fellow ADHDer, HSP, and bi person). I’m glad there’s a handful of therapists like yourself explaining some of what’s going on in the series, because all of his reactions make total sense to me, though many gen-pop reactors seem stuck on how he “should have” reacted differently. We don’t react in rational ways when we’re in danger when we’ve been groomed, trauma-bonded, and our boundaries annihilated. We switch to flight/fight/FREEZE/FAWN responses-the latter emphasized due to a difference in power imbalance at play. Appreciated this commentary, thank you.
Baby Reindeer spoke to my soul. It bounced around in my head for days. I also watched 'A Friend of the Family' right after Baby Reindeer. My brain was processing and processing. So many dots connected. My monster groomed me as a teen and was in and out of my life until I was 50. I don't share my story where it isn't safe, but I have seen so many people make ignorant comments about similar stories. I am overly empathic and sensitive so it cuts deep when I hear people say 'that person was an idiot. there is no excuse for them. they deserved the abuse. they must have wanted it.' Anyway, watching Baby Reindeer was rough but I am many years removed from my worst trauma and ready to confront it. Shani's video is 10 minutes and 23 seconds of gold! Every sentence felt like Shani was looking right through me. I am going to talk to my psychiatrist about HSP, but he isn't a therapist. I wish Shani was in Colorado cuz I need someone like her! Shani, you may like the movie "Blackberry". It is fun. Thank you so much.
Me too take care x
Yea i had to take several breaks from watching this series. I started on friday evening and finished on sunday evening. Im between episodes i couldn't stop talking about it. When i finished the series i couldnt stop thinking about it. Richard is a great story teller.
Love from London ❤❤
Believe me I have an abundance of empathy and got stuck in very unhealthy situations because of it. But as I have got older I have been fortunate enough to work out when it was taking me somewhere unhealthy. I had to do a lot of work on myself but it was worth it
I dont see the serie, becouse is very difficult to me see this tipe of movie… but I thank you I allways offer a hug to people, becouse I need one sometimes, it warm my heart❤❤❤❤❤
The thumbnail i thought it meant something else lol
If its what i think…ohh nooo
I think your take on the final episode - final scene, is off from the message that it was sending and I'm shocked to see you have missed that mark. You suggest it's empathy, that the message of the final episode is empathy. I don't think so at all. The final scene is portraying what trauma survivors do. We replay the trauma over and over. We relive it intentionally and unintentionally without even understanding why we do it. Our whole identity is now revolving around the trauma and the one thing we want to escape from is the one thing that brings us meaning. That was the whole point of that final scene. He was listening to those voicemails on the way to the bar, again, demonstrating how survivors relive their trauma and wound up at a pub with no wallet asking for a diet drink. Subconsciously, this was intentional because again, at the core of this scene is not empathy, it's someone reliving trauma. Given the timeline of everything leading up to that scene there is in no way shape or form that Donny's level of healing is at empathy yet. I'd argue he's reliving his trauma. Empathy will come at a much later time. This also points to one more MAJOR message. The show, we can all acknowledge that Martha is mentally unwell. Yes, but so is Donny. The broken attract broken. That scene reversed with him as "Martha" shows you this.
Well. The Scottish lady who the movie is based upon is NOT happy, In fact I think it's absurd of Mr. Gadd to make a movie about living people.
Ok Martha 🙄
Do not speek abuut my personal feelings u impostor!!! Sent from my iphone