How Alcoholism Can Impact Your Children | Vicky Pattison: My Dad, Alcohol & Me | Channel 4
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Undergoing medical screening, Vicky will find out if her own lifestyle has done irreparable damage to her body, and learn how our genes and behaviour can lead to a susceptibility to addictive behaviour.
Keen to find out all she can about how to keep herself healthy, Vicky will speak out about the devastating impact addiction and alcohol has had on her and those around her. Follow Vicky as she explores her own fears about addiction and the physical and emotional damage it can do.
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As someone who very rarely drinks, I've always found our country's obsession with alcohol, especially the peer pressure non-drinkers get, to be very weird and a bit worrying. I've had people unable to comprehend that I just don't like drinking and coming up with any excuse for me to have a drink, despite me repeatedly saying I don't want one. I'm all for people doing what they want, but when going without a drink for a month is seen as a big challenge, maybe we need to ask ourselves if we're actually a nation of functioning alcoholics.
I agree with you on this 100%. Since stopping drinking a year ago I've come to realise just how obsessed people are in this country with alcohol. People proud to have no memory of the previous night. Desperate for the weekend so they can get hammered. Can't wait for their fortnight holiday so they can be drunk every day.
Countrily is getting bad with that attitude in regards to other casual drugs use too. Addicts have very defensive mindsets, automatically thinking you are snooty or prudish if you do much as dare to lead a completely clean lifestyle.
Some people forget you can still have fun without drugs and booze. Some people just need to find something else to do with their time. Peer pressure mostly.
When I first moved to the UK I was mocked by people because I refused to drink alcohol. Dad had an issue with alcohol which disappeared as I reached my teenage years; my maternal grandfather was an avid alcoholic, our best family friend was an/still is I think, an alcoholic. I have witnessed and had experienced men becoming violent when drinking. My first instinct when I see someone drunk is to leave. I had lived with people with alcohol issues and despite loving those people so much and knew they’ll never ever hurt me, as soon as they were drunk, I would go stay in my room. And no, those weren’t my parents. To this day, I am afraid of alcoholic, I am afraid that if I drink I’ll turn like my dad or grandad but at the same time I am blessed with the most “supportive stomach”. As soon as I have a drink of wine or spirits, I become nauseous, my stomach hurts, I have heartburns and I am very uncomfortable. I do have 1-2 beers/year but nothing much. It’s horrendous to grow up around alcoholics.
It’s the same issue here in Ireland. I’m 21 years old and alcohol has never been my thing. I’ve only drunk maybe three times max and I disliked it each time. I didn’t like the taste. I didn’t like being around drunk people and I didn’t want to get drunk myself. I started university in 2019. In terms of pressure, my first year was easy because I was only 17 and couldnt drink legally. Then second year was Covid so nothing was open anyways. The pressure began in my third year. It wasn’t easy being one of the only students in my shared accommodation who didn’t like to drink or party (because all the parties involved alcohol). Nobody understood it. People interrogated me. They tried to pressure me into drinking despite me refusing so many times. Some people assumed I had an alcoholic in my family who put me off drinking. They even assumed I thought I was better than everyone because I didn’t want to drink or party with them. They couldn’t accept the fact that a young woman born and raised in Ireland simply did not like alcohol.
I just reached my first sober year in 17 years on Boxing Day. I struggled for so long, especially because both of my parents had drink problems. Last Christmas I finally cracked up and started shouting "I can't do this anymore!" Out of the blue. My fiance turned to me and said, "that's it, you're free". It seems he was right, because i haven't wanted a single drink since. Maybe it was just one of those things, whatever it was, I'm so happy it came when it did. I almost died from alcoholism 4 years ago. Now I can live again. To all still struggling, don't give up on yourself. ❤
I had issues with alcohol and that nearly ruined everything I had. I have a great wife and kids and am now 2.5 years without a drink.
That's great to hear!
Well done. Keeps going and stay strong.
Awesome well done
Well done and wishing you all the best in life. Happy new year
Amazing...may you stay strong, great 2024 and beyond for you and your family❤
So much identification, I took the decision to stop drinking and I am 19 yrs alcohol free
I’m trying, good luck to everyone else who’s trying
Good luck to you, I hope you conquer the alcohol demon you’re fighting. 💪
Keep up the good work You can do this 👌🙏
My father died age 40 from choking on his own vomit whilst he was so drunk he was totally out of it. I haven’t touched a drop in 20 years now. One of the best things I’ve ever done. I just hate seeing my own kids drunk now. It hurts like a knife going straight to my heart.
its sad my dad died the same exact way and it is a sickness because its been a handfull of times i wake up with vomit all over my bed and i tell myseld im not drinking again but by the next hour im already drinking from drink all day i try my best too hide it from my mum but its something u cant hide worst thing is im 20 years old and already a fully blown alcholic lol and no this is me sitting in my room downing bottles of vodka not going out and having a few that stopped being fun before i turned 18 lol
You can do this 💪 speak to those around you that your close to or if that's not a option there are so many people who feel the same and organisations out there ❤ @@RadzBudz
My parents are both alcoholics and absolutely destroyed my childhood. I’m terrified of ever becoming like them. So I don’t touch alcohol, or anything for that matter. I had a little girl and the mum had psychosis. So it’s just me and littlen (she is almost 5) and it is terrifying and heart breaking to think I could easily become like my parents and make her feel like I felt. My dad was supposed(?) to be my hero growing up. But half the time I was watching him fall asleep in his food, breaking things, falling down the stairs and falling asleep there. Appearing as if he was dead. But he was just pissed… I feel like I spent half of my childhood secretly protecting them from themselves. I don’t want my daughter to have to do that. I wish I could have the same fun as everyone else and get silly drunk every weekend. But it’s not really a safe option for me.
Mate, you're not missing out on getting drunk and making a tit of yourself, the time with your daughter is far more valuable and fulfilling, I know because I was/am in a similar situation, looking after my disabled son alone when his mam left us, 20 years later and I've got a young man with me who is the most loyal best person I've ever known, it's been difficult at times but I wouldn't trade time with him for anything, and you will get nobility status from friends who know you put your offspring over yourself.
Alcohol was destroying my life and my soul , and I was hurting my loved ones. I am happy to say. I am 1.5 years sober.
Shes amazing for coming out and saying this opening up about addiction is so hard to overcome. I hope they get the support they need through this. Alcohol has fucked up my life for years and i dont drink at all now because i am now wary/ scared of what it will do to me and even now not drinking for 8 months i still have a very weak stomach and throw up sometimes... alcohol is toxic poison.. the amount of times id sit there shaking being sick ill never go back to that it almost ended me a few times and its not a nice way. Replace your drinks with other sugary drinks when you first stop drinking ( most crucial time) ( try and add in lots of sugary things etc to replace the sugar u got in alcohol) and anything that will make you feel relaxed shouid help too. Alcohol withdrawals lasted for months for me and it can be nasty.. everyday though will get easier gradually. Stay strong you can do this. ❤
Vikki’s dad seems very sweet he probably feels guilty about it 😢
It’s all well and good to have a drink to unwind on a Friday night but at the end of the day it is a poison
My aunt died at 43 through extreme alcoholism she left behind 4 children my uncle is a recovering alcoholic My brother has been in and out of prison due to being a violent alcoholic Most of his life people may think it's great its not when you have a drink problem or you are part of a family who have alcohol problems the families suffer immensely because you can't help an alcoholic they have to get that help themselves and when they don't its absolutely devastating sadly I saw all this from when I was around 8 years old and had to grow up around it and it has damaged me psychologically witnessing a lot of what I have It destroyed the life of two of my aunts children who lost there mother
So sorry to hear this. I agree the only person that can help a alcoholic is themselves. Hope you have a more brighter future
What a great programme - opens up a lot of dialogue around alcohol and alcoholism
This poison wrecks good people and families. For those who have given up, you are doing the right thing. Stay strong and positive.
Admittedly I like who I am when tipsy, (being drunk are for idiots!) When tipsy my anxiety are safely packed away for a bit, however, sadly not drunk alcohol in over a year, for what reason is still unknown but I am sure I will drink again. Yes I am very prone to depression, and much of it is due to medical problems that messes with the brain chemistry, (you’ll be shocked by the fragility between physical ailments and how it off-balance your brain chemistry without much influence from you.) I’ve found my own way of dealing with such crap, and unfortunately talk therapy hasn’t worked for me and only made matters worse, especially as I’m a person who don’t deal well with compliments and a lot of talking therapies are laden-crap with fake compliments. I found understanding me from within and having spiritual awareness helps a lot. Drinking, drugging to cope is a feeble cop-out and people are just too eager to feel sorry for themselves, life is more than that. Make your own happiness and you do it yourself by appreciating who you are and what you have. Life is what you make of it, so stop comparing yourself to others, we were all born to be our unique self. And start dumping all the negativity around yourself and if that means family members, friends etc, so be it. Micro-manage your existence, ie KZhead your favourite songs, clips etc. Learn to enjoy a moment at a time and honestly push out negative thoughts and replace them with happier memories. It’s your life so learn to appreciate it with the now, not with the negative past or you will condemn your future with more negativity, so change the record
My Mum has an issue with alcohol. She says she isn't an alcoholic, but I remember her having a bottle or more of wine almost every night. One night, before going to a company Christmas party, she was already drunk and was swaying around whilst she spoke at me (by that, I mean she was monologuing to me and not letting me say anything).
my mum used to drink wine she would drink 6-7 bottles a day and would hide them anywhere she could
If her Dad didn't stop drinking for her he certainly wont for her kids. Alcoholism is a disease. It is not a choice. We drink without giving our consent unless we get help such as AA then a mental, spiritual and emotional shift happens through the 12 steps and the fellowship aspect. The kindness, the compassion, the friends you make.
Yes, well said. My father was an alcoholic, he tried very hard to get sober, for himself, for his family, but he never stayed sober for long bless him. He was a hard man, and the relationship that Vicki has with her Dad is worlds apart from what I had with mine. I couldn’t really converse much with my Dad at all, though I really yearned to. He was completely emotionally unavailable, and was abusive also, but I loved him to death, he was my Dad. I’m sober almost 11 years. My drinking was like Vickis, I described myself as a binge drinker. I didn’t drink every day, more of a Friday night kind a girl. Fell on my head coming home one night 11 years ago. That gave me such a fright, woke up next morning, looked in the mirror and saw the eyes of an alcoholic staring back at me. Went to AA that night, have never looked back ❤
Thank you for sharing that and well done on 11 years. I really hope Vicky is reading these comments as not only would she benefit from our fellowship but she would be a great fellow to others. @@carolineb7796
It's so brave to go viral for her and her dad. Addiction can bring so much shame and embarrassment for everyone involved.
I wish I had the money of Channel 4 to help me through my experiences and alcoholism. Good luck to her, I hope she breaks the cycle.
My thoughts exactly: if only I had a production company, make up team, agent, and budget to help me turn my addicition issues into a well produced documentary, seen by tens of thousands. I'd feel pretty suported. Still best of luck to her.
Its crazy how some people feel the need to drink to be comfortable even talking to other people.
My siblings and I grew up with an alcoholic parent and two of us never drink and one of us rarely. No hereditary or disease component. And the alcoholic parent has been sober for 30+ years. Quit cold turkey as is said.
i can relate to this i grew up with my mum being a alcoholic most my life it’s been hard but she’s now been sober 4 years and i decided to give up alcohol too i’ve now been 3 years sober, its ruins lives and can cause so much upset
Thought I was lucky to get a Beer or a glass of wine with dinner every night at the age of 11 two rehabs and a lot of trouble later i don't think I was.... DO NOT NORMALIZE DRINK OR DRUGS TO YOUR KIDS... it really does not help my family bonds are terrible.
Wow! Who’d have thought being an alcoholic parent could affect your children?! What insight!!
NOT EXACTLY NEW.
My Dad was a very heavy drinker and he worked with people of a similar mindset. Regrettably he’d bring his alcohol issues home and would often beat the shit out of my Mum, I was only a young kid so couldn’t do anything and in Scotland where we lived at the time it was perfectly lawful for a husband to be physical with their wife so the Police wouldn’t intervene despite my Mum pleading with them to help her. Thankfully it’s not like that now but it was in the 70’s. I’ve since worked in a role which brought me into daily contact with people, both male and female who had alcohol and other substance abuse issues, I’ve seen people die as a result of these addictions on one end of the scale and I’ve seen it in its most basic form, simply destroy peoples lives. I don’t drink and haven’t for almost 15 years but I did use to, I wouldn’t say to excess, but I did used to enjoy getting drunk and I would drink to be sociable. I stopped drinking by sheer will power, but you have to want to do it for yourself not for anyone else. The man in this video will I believe never stop drinking until it kills him, his daughter however seems very genuine and I believe she will change her life around and I hope she does as she clearly doesn’t like who she is at the moment.
people with underlying difficulties maybe ADHD too, self medicate with alcohol ..... someone close to me is 8 years sober, and well look at all things, not just your father's position
Beautiful inside n out ur vikki
Most of us drink too much as it either de-stresses us or it works as a social lubricant. I work as a teacher and you'd be quite surprised about the amount of teachers who go home and have a bottle of wine to unwind. One bottle a few times a week would be fine, but I know many begin slipping into daily use after a while. Some can drink in moderation, but a good many cannot. And the reason why alcohol is so popular is because in the short term it does work in relieving the stress in the moment (the only long term solution is reducing stress - which for many teachers means quitting the job)
My dad does the same. He hasn't always done it but since I grew up he got re-married and lives far away now with his wife but I know that every/almost every night that he comes home from work, he has some beers or wine to de-stress. I keep telling him to cut back and he says he knows and will try but I don't think he takes it seriously at all and doesn't think it's a real problem - just says it's nice after a long day of work to have some. I think she does the same so it's not even like she can talk sense into him. You can relax without alcohol!
And my Sons father died at age 59 years old due to drinking mainly whisky
Guys what happened to your other videos.?
I was sober for 3 years but fell of the wagon in February. Alcohol abuse is rough! I use it as a crutch for mental health problems but that's an excuse tbh. I know what I'm doing to myself.
while i sympathise with addiction vs someone who just likes getting smashed there needs to be a limit for how much someone can have on a night out some bouncers will refuse entry if they pick up on someone being to drunk but its rare especially in pubs they need to be turned away at the doors and refused to buy from shops one warning sign should be the people who drink just for the effects
It must have taken a lot of courage for her father to come on TV to publicly admit to his addiction. He comes across very sweet but troubled, I understand you can’t know anyone from a tv documentary and no one knows what goes on behind closed doors but he seems pretty genuine. Vicki (apologies if I’ve misspelled her name) on the other hand, she just comes across disingenuous. It’s almost like she’s forcing something that isn’t there and this again for her is just content to stay relevant, if true then it’s pretty sad. If she does genuinely have a problem with alcohol which is sadly, increasingly common now anyway, then I do wish her and her father the best and I do hope they get the support they both need.
I'm no psychologist but My dad was never a big drinker You know a weekend guinness .. But on my mum side my Tide in his later years was .. Can its be hereditary..
Very important short video to release
ONE DAY OR DAY ONE
this bird ever off the lime light. fame mad!
Why be so cruel ??
Northern
I was a mean and unpredictable and sometimes violent drunk . I stopped drinking.
So do I luv I become a really nice person which I fucking hate😡😂🤣😂🤣
I hate who she is when she is sober too
She looks more like 44.I guess it is the effect of alcohal. So parents doing rugs or smoke or getting divorced, should impact kids similarly then?
*WEED*
Nah gave that up yrs ago my heads fried :/
Exchanging poison for another poison. Great idea genuis.
I agree weed is 10000% safer. No hangovers, no sickness. Genuinely is a plant and not a man made poison. Laws are backwards... If they genuinely cared about our health alcohol would not be in so many places like it is and like the only thing people can do that's legal in most places too which doesn't help.
Honestly, I'd much rather people smoke weed than get drunk. I don't smoke it myself, but I've been around plenty of people who do. I've never had a stoned person try to start a fight with me or act aggressively, but I've had plenty of drunk people do it. Drunk people are wildly unpredictable, but stoners just want to chill out, play Playstation and eat junk food.
@@LukeStevensPhoto coming from a alcholic and a weed addict lol id say both as bad as eachiver one fucks ur body alchol the other fucks ur fianaces trust me it gets a lot more pricy then alchol and also your brain gets fried permently lol ive stopped weed for a few months and still got brainfog but i gess weeds good cos u dont wake up needing a joint like u do with alchol shakes atleast for me
I can't with this chick. Very disingenuous in my opinion she just wants to be on TV.
She seems a little false.
I’m convinced she has a coke habit that’s the real issue… and yes she doesn’t come across sincere
I’m convinced she has a coke habit that’s the real issue… and yes she doesn’t come across sincere
Horrible woman - and growing up with an alcoholic parent does NOT excuse her rotten ways.
never drank but was abused for 9 years by an alcoholic shit sucked since i was a child
I feel so bad for you sorry about that that’s just awful I hope you find happiness and control in your life moving forward good luck with everything 😊