Jordan B Peterson -- If You Are Introvert or Extrovert, Here is what makes you happy.
2019 ж. 13 Шіл.
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Peterson gives a talk about 2 types of personalities and how to understand yourself. By the end of the video, he mentions how to choose your partner based on these personality types. These 9 minutes you will never regret watching.
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There is nothing more in this world than I love being left alone- reading and watching movies
Introverts rule the world in our minds.👍
"you meet a group of 20 people then you go home to be by yourself for two weeks" haha lol that's totally me i'm an introvert 😂
Same. And it enrages me when extroverts see us as some kind of deformity rather than people with different preferences.
Snap! Mixture!
I believe this is actually most people.
me too 😆
@@mannycalavera2335nope, most people are average on extraversion, spending 2 weeks on your complete lonesome is pretty rare
introversion is something great. Greetings from an introvert, of whom there are fortunately a lot in Germany too
Hi fellow German.
Greetings from The States. German language sounds really nice to when spoken softly. Especially by females.
Positive vibes from an introvert in the states! Germany is beautiful I must say (:
introversion is great until you have high neuroticism lol. that together creates social phobia
It's like every time I turn around everything is telling me to just move to Germany like my dad. lmfao [Completely unrelated. My dad is extroverted af. sksksksk]
We’re lucky to live in a time where we can attend online lectures for free
I'm extremely introverted. I can open myself to people and have deep conversations but I can only make superficial friendships. They don´t last on the long run. I would like to learn how to have a long and meaningfull friendship that lasts.
I don't know how to do so either. I can refer you to a facebook group that I think is helpful, if you want?
@@Lifespiration I would like that. Thank you.
@@danielgomezgomez8551 it is a group managed by coach Daniel Kartnz. Just search in facebook by the name of the group " men of abundance - how to start living fully authentic, free and impactful"
@@Lifespiration Thanks.
Future authoring program might help?
Extrovert: You're too quiet. Introvert: thanks, you're to loud.
The question "does being around groups off people make you energetic or does it make you exhausted" makes me conflicted because on the one hand I tend to overthink a lot in social situations due to struggling with social anxiety at the moment. But on the other hand, when I'm not socially anxious, most of the time I'm actually the most extroverted person in the room and I totally thrive off of social interaction. If anything, when getting into new environments I tend to search for people to interact with and that I may be compatible with, but then what tends to happen is over time I get drained and just want a break. It sucks to say the least lol, but it also kinda sucks that there doesn't seem to be much attention to my kind of personality. Even the way Peterson said it: you either thrive off of social interaction, are drained by it, or if you're in the middle "you can take it or leave it in regards to social interactions". It's not always that simple (idk why I wrote all this haha, but there you go for anyone that's interested I guess)
BRO! Im exactly the same. Thought i was the only one lol.
I too relate to this. I did the understandmyself,com test and turned out I am fairly high in extraversion but extremely high in neuroticism. That did explain it for me, as in that sense people like us percieve a new environment as a place of potential danger, but once we make sure thats not the case, then we can act like ourselves. I'm super happy to see that both of you guys seem to experience the same thing I do :D
It is called ambivert. You should look up Carl Jung on ambiverts, it's very interesting.
@@emiliolucero6156 Yeah in a sense I agree. I still struggle with this issue but I'm doing much better with my anxiety now and am actually in the process of overcoming it. Recently my "comfortable side" and "anxious side" have been blending more and more, and I can see that a big part of it is literally just getting comfortable with what makes you scared, like pretty much any other fear. Obviously there's other shit that goes into it, tho, cause beforehand simply trying to expose myself to people wasn't totally cutting it since I had some deeper-rooted issues. Anyway there's another overshare from me haha
Im happier with no one around and can go the rest of my life without being romantic... Every romantic relationship I've been in has always been because they showed interest in me... I never approach anyone. And all my romantic relationships have also always ended on my terms... I just get bored and want to be alone more than being with them... I couldn't be happier
Introvert doesn’t mean u want to be alone. They actually have deeper relationships
I'm very introverted and I feel like I'm pretty happy, I used to be really anxious when I was younger but now I'm not, I'm just happy because no one else can bother me when I'm alone and it seems like from the comments a lot of other introverts I agree with me.
I found myself not completely being one or the other. A happy medium. I can be in a social gathering and enjoy my alone time at the same time no problem.
I dont know if Im the same but i try to enjoy myself on groups but if you have me choosing, Id prefer to be by myself. Dunno why but Im more comfortable that way.
@@pauljohnagustin237 that happens to me too, I know how to entertain myself and I made my house in such a way that I find my happiness in there. I don't need another person next to me to talk to or walk with I can do all that open my own with my music and my headphones on. Hey, have a nice day!
I feel the same way too, but nothing is as peaceful as enjoying time alone :)
Im definitely an Introvert. I find most people and most conversations to be seriously mindless and honestly annoying. I really prefer sticking to myself, unless absoloutely necessary.
Thanks for the original videos 😎
Thank you for this upload. Mikhaila Peterson's podcast with awakenwithJP sears she mentioned that high trait extraversion and openness also have introverted qualities. She explains more indepth on that podcast
Im triple withdrawn introvert.I hate groups as they drain me but i love one on one and small groups of friends interaction.I dont believe in the concept of balance,i can easily use my extraverted intuition when alone to entertain myself
I love being alone, I love making jokes, I love one-on-one interactions, I love being around well-socialized extroverts even though it drains me, what am I?
Ambivert, somewhere in the middle probably. I envy you.
@@fred6907 why 😭 ???
Cuz one direction towards the extreme is not healthy in the long run. Too much introversion will border on social anxiety, which will hinder social interaction and self improvement. I'm not on the extreme end, but wish I was more in the middle. Hard to get to know people when I'm more introverted than I want to be. My ideal mix would be a dose of both.
You're what is known as a social introvert. You enjoy the interactions but they still drain you.
Introvert
i hated socializing during christmas, when i got to finally share my thoughts to my "friends" i was trembling. i found it hard to sleep that night as i recalled the way i talked to my friends
*HER* Is what makes you happy
I'm introverted, but I learned to switch to extraversion on occasions that required it at university due to FOMO. I have not stopped being introverted, but I made certain friends and attended certain events that meant I forced myself to be sociable just to fit in at least for the duration of those events. On the whole, I like being alone or with few very familiar people, but I find that can limit my experiences and opportunities. It also builds me up for more anxiety when meeting or even just briefly engaging with new people. The whole world becomes a massive field of anxiety pins waiting to pop my introspective balloon. As I have gone into my 30s, my introversion has returned in its original intensity, maybe contributed by the lockdowns. I cannot stand social obligations that guarantee new people will be present and will demand my acquaintance. I cannot stand unannounced surprise social encounters or engagements. I cannot stand social occasions of any kind that put me out of my own driving seat in whatever context. But I also find that extended periods of time alone make me depressed. I am at a loss as to how to strike the right balance
I feel what you feeling and I envy you for the fact that you could manage attending events and you forcing yourself to be sociable. Quick question: how much time does it take you to recover to your normal status after socializing? It takes me at least 3 days. For this reason I quit socializing.
I’d say to spend time alone until you start to feel adrift and then find a good excuse to socially challenge yourself
Agreed
Usually, people who are more social are happier. Introverts, don't be too upset. Extroverts, don't be too happy. The key is to find a suitable environment for you. Being an extrovert in the Tyrannical age is a catastrophe. Extrovert sees the world as an opportunity to socialize. Introvert sees the world to be a retreat and be alone. It is a quite stable trait. you are able to learn skills to expand your introvert/extrovert character. But, it is not that much. choose your working environment that matches your personality. choose your partner with a similar trait.
Any studies/psychology work based on what's the best environment for an introvert - big cities or small towns?
just an opinion, but I think the answer is counterintuitive... I think big cities are best for introverts because you can just blend in/ disappear in the mass of people, where as small towns are a closer knit community... but then again it's just an opinion
I'm a hyper extrovert lol, I cannot stand being alone. Ever. Being alone is absolute nightmarish HELL. I thrive in social settings and love public speaking. I see absolutely no logical point whatsoever in doing something alone, such a concept is absurd to me. But to be clear that is only in reflection to my own life, I'm fully aware that there are far more introverts out there than extroverts, especially in the modern era, and I have nothing against them, in fact I kind of envy them, because I'd rather swim in lava than be alone.
Right! I dread days off, if i know those around me are busy. The thought of doing something, even my favourite hobbies, alone is a solemn affair. I wish i enjoyed just my own company more 😔 or wish that society had tighter communities.
introverts make up 1/3 to 1/2 of the population. I guess you spend a lot of time on social media.
I appreciate that you're cool with us and recognize that there are people who just have different preferences. I hate it when someone says "you're quiet." Got fed up and said "yes I am." They froze.
@@bengsynthmusic Ben dont take no shit XD
@@hassaan1670 Absolutely. Self defense is important. Thanks.
I am a 100% extravert, a very social person and love interacting with people in real life, not just online. I`ve been told that I`m the life and soul of any party. I find that introverts although can be good company at times are basically anti-social, it`s not really possible to get close with introverted people.
This is why sum introverts don't like extroverts. Where is it written that everybody has to run their mouth all day? You can get close to an introvert but you have to be the right person. Anybody coming across as fake, shallow, stupid, annoying, and immature, will get rejected by the introvert. Not all extroverts are annoying but every annoying person I know is extroverted. They ask questions about things that shouldn't concern them. They give their opinion when whatever's going on is none of their business and nobody ask what they think. I got my earphones in my ear but the extrovert is still talking. "What's in the bag?" "Why are you wearing that hat?" "That's all you're wearing?" "You're not cold?" "Why you have a bald head?" "You never shave your beard." You see, annoying stuff like that. This is why we don't like most or half the extroverted population. You're the life of the party. Great! Good for you. Everybody's not a talker. Sum people run their mouth all day and sum people don't talk much. It's called a different personality, nothing to do with being anti social. Genetically the introvert is wired to be introverted just like the extrovert is genetically wired to seek attention by running their mouth day, always gotta stand out and be seen. The quiet one has nothing to prove. That's part of the reason Why quiet people are quiet. I get to work in the morning, say good morning to my supervisors, clock in on the computer and then go upstairs and get to work, simple as that. I'm not looking for anybody's validation, don't need it. This is because I'm comfortable in my skin. I don't see the necessity in talking just to be talking, makes no sense. Just say a few words and that's that. My extrovert co workers have to stand there and speak layers upon layers upon layers upon layers of gibberish. And then they can go upstairs. Jeeez, trying to get the extrovert to understand introversion is a severely complicated task. We have to be labeled as anti social, don't trust the quiet ones, serial killers, mass shooters, krazy, depressed, low self esteem. It's really the other way around. The one that's always talking most likely has low self-esteem. Introverts for the most part wanna left alone. Extroverts gotta be seen and heard. Theres an old saying that goes "empty cans make the most noise." "I'm here everyday always talking and laughing but how do you know I don't cry myself to sleep every night when I'm at home." That was said by my extroverted highschool teacher. We keep hearing all these negative stereotypes about introverts but I'm willing to bet the people who really need to check themselves are extroverts.
@@nyc4life448 you are right, at least there shallow,superficial,fakeness in thinking make them extroverts appear friendly ,talktative, open and smiling people ''The one that's always talking most likely has low self-esteem. '' totally right about that
@@nyc4life448 YES. That's what nobody ever mentions: the huge immunity to peer pressure that comes with being a true introvert. Loved your rant
@@nyc4life448 you're associating extroversion with the act of talking for the sake of talking and for seeking validation. You're entire essay is incorrect
Introverts are approachable in general, you just have to be able to communicate with them, introverts are in no way anti social. I consider myself to be extroverted as well and some if not all of the best friends I have are introverts
What do you do when people give you a really hard time because you are a positive loving extrovert?
Same with empaths. Social events can be exhausting........
I’m introverted but I hate that I’m an introvert.
It sucks at times but it does have its perks .
Same 😢
Sales can be very introverted, operations is very extroverted..
Introverts can do very well at sales. Sales isn't idle chit chat.
Agreed. I am extraverted. I find excuses to get out of my seat and talk to people. My degree is Supply Chain Management.
I'm proud to be introverted , nothing wrong with your human nature. I'd learned to accept it.
Nothing wrong with it, but nothing to be proud of either. It is not a choice you made, it is not an accomplishment
20s is young. When will people get that
How to become one to fit in
Honestly it depends on the group
yeah definitely. if I am in a group that I don't like I am an introvert but if I am in a group that I like then I am an extrovert. I think i am or we are somewhere in the middle of the spectrum peterson talked about.
I am an extrovert with extreme social anxiety. :(
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ambiverts ........where are you ???
I can't stand extroverts!
Why ?
Shut up
lol 😂 what's up
Her
yes
It’s what makes you happy
Wait, does he mean "niche"?!? Pronouncing it as "nitch"?!!?
Yes, both pronunciations are correct
I just don’t like humans at this point lol
Definitely more introverted, but I fucking hate it. Life would be easier and I would be happier as an extrovert. Bottom line. dont give a fuck what anyone tells me.
Sorry to hear that I like being an introvert, but can’t speak for your life 🤷♂️
I feel the same. Everything from parenting to planning parties to speeches to even vacations with other people is harder being an introvert. When do you get alone time as a parent? Never. Extroverts I know don't stress out easily and seem to "have it all" so to speak.
It's not good to be introvert i think
What the fuck man
It is awesome sweetie
😂 probably not. I hate it.