Father Knows: Exes || Father Knows Something podcast
2022 ж. 14 Қар.
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Welcome back to Father Knows Something! Real People. Real Stories. Real Dad advice with a dash of ADHD, and maybe a couple of millennials chiming in from time to time to add their thoughts.
This week's episode discusses write-ins that all relate to the exes. How to deal with exes, should some couples be exes, and how to take back and ex and forgive them to really move forward.. Your help is needed on these tough write ins.
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I would like to chime in as a former insecure partner. I did it all, look through the phone, ask partners friends and family members weird questions to trap them, dig and dig until I found what "I wanted" to find, and of course I always did, cause every person including me, gets curious and has their odd 2am google searches and what not. I had one partner who cheated and honestly I wasn't even bothered by it I almost got like a kick out of being right. Being jealous and insecure is your personal battle to deal with, regardless of the circumstances that lead to it. Therapy in whatever form you have access to, access it. It will change your life to let go of the suffocating feeling of wanting to have control of your partners thoughts and actions, and just enjoy them as they are without worrying about if they might find someone else attractive, of course they will it's normal. Love yourself and surround yourself with activities and people you respect and make your life better instead of focusing on the what ifs and the inevitable negativities. It's hard but you can slowly change your whole life with every little positive change you make for yourself. Much love for everyone trying their best today ❤️
Sorry for the wall of text, I am a rambler. This wasn't exactly a response to the story just thought to share in case someone needs to hear it, I know I did few years ago.
Im so proud of your personal growth and I hope you’re living a much happier and freer life my friend 💗
@@rebeccatomlin3916 I really am, little sappy but the love of my life who I have nothing but respect for, who has helped me with warmth through my few insecure moments I still sometimes have, proposed yesterday. I am happy and enjoy life and can't wait to get better and wiser with every day that comes.
Couldn’t help but empathize with the situation. I hope to one day get to the point you have. It’s quite exhausting but I just can’t seem to stop
@@Besitoskitty Right there with you girl. Im a MAJOR overthinker and it gets the best of me quite often. I try to tell myself..."Just let it go, worry less, it's not in your hands"
I had a successful "rebound". When I was 18 I finally dumped my 2.5 year on/off messy situationship with this one guy. Then literally the next day I met my soulmate and we have been together for 4 years. I'm 22 now and hes 25. I definitely struggled in the beginning with wondering if I was just projecting feelings onto him to avoid my heartbreak with my ex, but he was perfect in every way and took things really slow with me. We were just friends for 3 months before we began dating. I think the concept of a rebound can be harsh, sometimes the universe drops people in our laps right when we need them most.
Yes, I've known a few cases like yours; the ones I'm close to also struggled with those questions and fear of being judged/misunderstood. I'm so glad for you that you found your soulmate so early on!
My mom was 19 when she moved to New York from Puerto Rico, she met a guy and they started dating, a good few years in they broke up but his mom and my mom stayed in each others life and they're still best friends to this day. They connected very deeply and she was there for my mom when she was all alone in New York, and showed her all of her old lady friends who my mom is also best friends with to this day. She was like a second grandma to me. She had to set boundaries with the guy like Morgan suggested, but they kept the relationship going. It's true having to heal first, but you don't have to avoid his mom because you don't have to necessarily be around him when you're with her. She could even help with the healing process. I hope she's able to separate her from her ex because it's 100% possible. Love the podcast, love Jerry, love everyone.
“This is a family show 🤨” I don’t know why this made me laugh so hard 😂😂
Looking forward to the episode! Timing is perfect for me. I left two months ago.. it was extremely difficult, he was abusive. I almost wrote into father knows something a few times, but I got out. I’m okay. I’m 31, living with my parents again (haven’t lived with them for almost 10 years) My mood is up and down.. taking things a day at a time.. Looking forward to looking forward. Much love to this awesome community 💕💕
Thank you for letting us aware, and I’m glad you shared… Ps you can always write in / or join our Patreon and do our group sessions. We would always love to hear from you that’s why I’m here. Jerry/dad
I met my husband the day that I officially ended things with my ex (2 year relationship) I’ve been with my husband for 6 years now and we have a 2 year old together. You never know. We did take it kind of slow, but not as slow as I had wanted. I don’t have any regrets but I do wish I would have focused on myself a little more, because I gave too much of myself to my husband for the first couple of years, and I became what he wanted me to be.
I moved really quickly with my hubby too. He had just gotten out of a marriage and he was broken. I like to joke I was his rebound. But something about us feels like we have known each other for as long as time has started. Like we have been together forever. We have been together for 17 years, married 14. It's been blissful. We have 4 girls. And my soul feels so complete. I feel we came into each other's lives when we needed to and healed both of us. Sometimes things are meant to be no matter how fast they progress.
Very similar experience here
for the corn addiction story, ill say this: if the boyfriend was being genuine and had an actual addiction or at least suspected it, i first and foremost would go to therapy, both individual and as a couple. addiction can be debilitating and just because its not drugs, doesnt mean it shouldnt be taken seriously. if you want peace and trust in your relationship, it would be 100 times easier if you knew its something that can be worked towards. especially since an addiction like that isnt personal, or because of a lack of attraction. it just is. and it would probably be best to get a professional's input and have some methods to root out the core of the issue, then start moving along. now, for the girl who broke up and found her ex's carbon copy: be very upfront, and tell the guy why you need to take it slow. that you want to get to know him better, but are worried your recent experience would prevent you from seeing him for the person he truly is. dont suddenly withdraw without reason, just explain and see what you can work out. he sounds like a cool guy and would probably understand.
I have no idea how I just found this channel, but I’m so happy to be here!!! Love you guys
currently laying by the pool and listening to the episode. couldn't think of a better way to spend my afternoon. love to listen to you guys! ❤
I love getting ready for work to this podcast ❤
Jerry is a staple to my morning routine at this point
Thank you, Justin, for your correct use of "disassociate" (which I see confused and switched with "dissociate" so often!)! :)
I'm very excited had no idea ur dad had a podcast.
I love the his shoe analogy that was hilariously great!
What a wonderful way to start my morning ❤️ thank you 😊❤️
I would LOVE time stamps!!
I can’t believe I’m this early. I just had to check to see if there was anything posted! 😌 It’s gonna be a good morning!
Tierra, enjoy your morning. I am traveling in Israel these past weeks. So I just was checking if the dynamic duo of Morgan & Justin launched this episode ….and They did … Thank for watching ..
@@jerrysiegel3354 Safe travels and enjoy your trip! ☺️
My exe broke up with me after 10 years out of the blue in the middle of a mental health crisis. I continued to look after him until he healed enough to be on his own. He's very much still family and is always hanging out with my parents or keen for a chat. I wouldn't expect him to be friends with my current partner, but they get on fine.
after the guy i liked ghosted me these stories are comforting 😭 thankful he wasn’t like these exs🙏🏼thankful he let me go
As someone who was friends with my ex’s family (father and step mother) and had a VERY toxic on and off thing with him. I personally could not maintain that friendship with them.. because being around him wasn’t an option. I would go back, they knew it and I knew it. I had to break the cycle. They know I love them but they understood why I couldn’t come around.
💯 with Justin on runaway insecurities. I do feel like you missed his addiction. We overuse the word all the time, which is a problem. I took him at face value. It's important as a partner to hold them accountable! Addiction isn't a simple lack of self-control, it's an illness! The lack of understanding saddened me. There are addictions where limiting access literally is the solution. I was not happy with the takes on that story. Would you say the same to an alcoholic who confessed struggling with alcoholism to his partner and her response was "Deal with it! (on your own)" Yes, communication, yes, therapy, yes, he has to put in work. Also, please add accountability and support for his illness! :) /srs, compassionate
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I emded a four year relationship back in December of 2020, in Janurary of 2021 i started talking to M, i knew him since august 2019 from work and always thought he was a cute and sweet guy. We ended up clicking on every level and are now engaged. We have been inseparable since the moment we started the talking phase, we have so much in common and are always on par with one another. I never believed in soulmates but damn he is pretty much it. I love him to pieces. What happened for me was that emotionally, i had been clocked out of my last relationship for a long time so it was just incredibly exciting and freeing to leave my ex. I felt at peace and i felt no heartbreak really because i just wasn't involved with him at that point. I healed during the last year of our relationship, 2020 because i was already doing my own thing, we lived together but we were very seperate on our own terms. It was a very clean break which im thankful for.
I agree 100! About the mom still being friends with the ex gf morgans point of view was great snd i hope you take her opinion to heart hang out outside his circle and zone go out for some food or drinks or shopping even ur home but not where he is
OMG I'm so early on this lol my insomnia keeping me on it!
If you listen long enough I guarantee I we’ll put you to sleep.. Jerry/Dad
For the porn story- I genuinely think this is a her problem. If there is no evidence of him looking at stuff, theres no change in how you’re being treated, and it’s truly just an issue in your head, that is something you need to deal with. Weather that’s couples or individual therapy. It’s not a him problem if he’s not doing it. If he is, then that’s a different story, but you don’t know that. You can work on yourself and your half of the relationship, but you can’t hold it against him, if he’s not even doing it as far as you know. Like they said you can’t control what your partner does on their phone, and you will never know 100% what they’re doing. That’s where trust comes in, if you don’t trust him and never will, just breakup with him and find someone who doesn’t make you worry. Because it seems like no matter what he does at this point, the insecurity will always be there.
I don’t appreciate how set in stone Morgan is when it came to the porn addiction story where he’s downloading it & they got back togther. Yes I get where if he’s not trying to change then definitely call it, HOWEVER OP never said he wasn’t trying. It’s not up to Morgan to decide that after the second time therapy should’ve already been implemented. There’s another episode where Morgan flat out says “there’s people out here really not aware of how they are or act, like genuinely doesn’t know” so how is this different? He said I have an addiction … if Morgan’s bf told her that, Morgan ( a self aware being) would know to say okay I’m here for you and I feel therapy will help our relationship and your addiction. OP didn’t have the same reaction and or doesn’t know how to do that which is why they’re writing in. Please Don’t be so quick to Villanize OP’s Partner, give the same advice and grace you gave others in your last episodes. Alejandra is really good at playing devils advocate and definitely would’ve been beneficial here.
I have such good stories about mine lmao 🤣 you guys would have a whole episode about the insane stuff I’ve had to deal with 😭😂 lbvs
YES!!!! ex's once, however Friends for Life :) ....Jerry is one of My Favorite X*Beau's, ....His friendship has Never faltered :)
Morgan how did i know you were going to one up your dads advice lol God love ya but you do that allllll the time with everyone! They say something and you offer your input as though more valid. The shoe analogy, your dad says it’s true! Your response, in a sense but……
You say, but ppl aren’t shoes…. Analogy is using example of different context….not literal
I adore your Dad! Feel free to set me up🤷♀️just a thought.
With the ex and M story , I think she needs to heal. I think people focus a lot on the external and forget in a relationship you are primarily responsible for yourself and what you bring to the table. A healthy relationship needs two people who are ready to be together and know themselves well enough to work and communicate well with another person. After a break up you have to relearn yourself, you have to let go of the past , you have to mourn, learn from your mistakes, and you have to regain your independence ( you were heavily connected to another person you have to learn how to live without their support inorder to make sure you're not just replacing what your ex gave you). After all of that is accomplished you are a whole person with a past ready to make decisions based off of your judgement and intuition, not a person defined by their recent past desperate to feel better.
Where do I send in write in’s?💛
Father is an expert yapper
I started seeing my now husband several weeks after a break up from an 18month relationship.
My grandparents got divorced, but my gramma and her ex MIL remained friends their entire lives.
“show their wears” has me dead
The dating pool is so disgusting. I'm so happy to be out of it! It makes me really sad that so many people tolerate disrespect and question if they're the problem. KNOW YOUR WORTH!
It's 5 am but here I am and I'm 2nd :)
I died 💀at 47:35 Jerry’s reaction to what Morgan said & then Justin’s response (his body language made it funnier) 😂😂😂😂 I rewatched it like 4x not gonna lie. 😆😆🙈
I just opened my Twitter for the first time in like 2 years. Holy boobies 😂 they're everywhere!!
hahaha
If you can't trust him, and don't believe him and are stuck in the past. BREAK UP! Stop trying to find reasons to get upset and trying to find a reason that you'd have to break up with him again, and just break up! This ain't the relationship for you.
Morgan’s boyfriend said is best when explaining the boundaries in the picture one….
27:17 i have no advice unfortunately but this kinda reminds me how one of my bf’s exes and i have ALMOST the same date of birth and then this other ex apparently has a similar personality and life story to mine lol
personally I would never stay friends or cordial w an ex’s family. For what? He’s clearly moving on you should as well. leave all of them in the past. find someone new do you really think his mom won’t mention him?? Lmaoo that’s very naïve she’s not your mother or mother in law now. Have a hi n bye relationship w her at work. MOVE ON!
Hello everyone!
Hello!!! Good morning
Triggered a bit by Jerry. I wish Morgan or Justin had told him that …if u can’t work it out… “go live on ur own” ISN’T an option anymore. It’s unrealistic, unhelpful + a throwaway answer that he must not know, but they do. Being informed may help change his answer(s) to something helpful. Wasted opportunity.
Love you guys but holy moly the amount of ads in this episode 😳 insane plus your promotions....big turn off
awhh I just went and peeked idk why KZhead put so many in 🙀 I deleted the markers
Let them make the bag lmaooooo😅
@@heyitzsalmaa lol
#1000th like
Morgan’s take on cheating is always the most pick me thing I ever hear😒girl stop normalizing men being whores and saying people having boundaries is they being insecure n controlling
Is it just me or does Justin seem weird in this
Definitely weird