A Gay Mormon Love Story: Elder | Op-Docs | The New York Times

2015 ж. 6 Шіл.
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This short documentary tells the story of a gay Mormon’s love affair while he served on a mission in Italy.
Produced by: Genéa Gaudet
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  • It’s funny how his religion is what brought them together, but also what kept them apart.

    @ashleetrieu8320@ashleetrieu83205 жыл бұрын
    • A tale as old as time itself

      @thisir0nb3ast@thisir0nb3ast5 жыл бұрын
    • Actually sad

      @CarlosRodriguez-ox3bg@CarlosRodriguez-ox3bg4 жыл бұрын
    • oh how true!

      @sonquatsch8585@sonquatsch85854 жыл бұрын
    • Oooohhh my! Nailed it.

      @VioletJoy@VioletJoy4 жыл бұрын
    • So poetic! 😢😊

      @milesowens3273@milesowens32734 жыл бұрын
  • "How can you be that much in love and not be together" that hurt

    @indiego6794@indiego67946 жыл бұрын
    • he was a smoker. NEXT!

      @stumack9755@stumack97556 жыл бұрын
    • Stu Mack it’s for a church, honey!

      @acates1064@acates10646 жыл бұрын
    • because uhhhhh jesus and muh gawd

      @caramel7050@caramel70505 жыл бұрын
    • Indie Go Unfortunately their story is not too uncommon in that way. Individuals sacrifice their own personal happiness everyday for various reasons. It’s a sort of daily torture that your mind never escapes.

      @christyblake2881@christyblake28815 жыл бұрын
    • Sad

      @evelyngrnw453@evelyngrnw4535 жыл бұрын
  • What amazes me so much in these documentaries is that they have so many clips of how they looked and what happened way back then. It’s so much visual to the story with that

    @jessicashemone@jessicashemone4 жыл бұрын
    • Almost like it’s a documentary

      @Pataganja@Pataganja4 жыл бұрын
    • Pataganja lol

      @sydneyreyes7852@sydneyreyes78524 жыл бұрын
    • But agreed

      @sydneyreyes7852@sydneyreyes78524 жыл бұрын
    • Almost as if that's what they're supposed to do in documentaries

      @Kwasisakyi1@Kwasisakyi13 жыл бұрын
    • @@Pataganja I think they meant more that...when all of the old clips were filmed, they probably weren't filming with the intention of it being for a documentary and him sharing this story - it was just them filming their trip. Its just lucky they had all the old footage so they could put this together

      @lunalove9395@lunalove93952 жыл бұрын
  • genuinely so upset when it ended, i could listen forever

    @lemnlyme@lemnlyme4 жыл бұрын
    • YES!!!! Me too!!!!

      @SandiByrd@SandiByrd4 жыл бұрын
    • It's so beautiful , i was thinking same ! He loves him , that's all I know !

      @sanchariguha5337@sanchariguha53374 жыл бұрын
    • Me too

      @musaka9651@musaka96514 жыл бұрын
    • I’ve watched this video at least a dozen times and it always draws me back when I think about it.

      @gpt76@gpt763 жыл бұрын
  • UPDATE from NY TIMES ARTICLE "Though Tom left Gianni in Italy, their relationship continued in various forms over the years. Gianni still lives in Pescara, where he is an artist and cares for his elderly mother. Tom returned to the United States, where he remained closeted but eventually left the Mormon Church. (His marriage to a Mormon woman ended in divorce, after which he came out.) Tom now lives in Salt Lake City with his partner. Although their romance has ended, he and Gianni still consider themselves deeply connected and close friends."

    @YouTubeYouTube-hb7yq@YouTubeYouTube-hb7yq8 жыл бұрын
    • Thanks for that update!!

      @JanetteBuhler@JanetteBuhler7 жыл бұрын
    • 😢

      @ginap2765@ginap27656 жыл бұрын
    • Thank you!! I had just typed "What happened?"

      @bilindalaw-morley161@bilindalaw-morley1615 жыл бұрын
    • Cauz gianni is his soul mate and no matter whom you marry or meet or fall in love it's different with your very own soulmate .

      @kangtavenus1236@kangtavenus12365 жыл бұрын
    • Pri Opoku tell Tom the “small still voice” was God.

      @dagmarsigridmanondenijs-bl7156@dagmarsigridmanondenijs-bl71565 жыл бұрын
  • "And I finally knew who I was, from a kiss of all things." I love this.

    @lilliec6083@lilliec60834 жыл бұрын
    • The first time I kissed I thought, at last, THIS is how it should feel.

      @Massev6871@Massev6871 Жыл бұрын
  • "God, I'm tired of fighting and I'm tired of asking You to take this away from me, I've asked You a thousand times, take this feelings away from me, and You won't and You haven't, so I'm going to do what I need to do, and you do what You need to do, and that's the deal, You wanna punish me, You go right ahead, I'm tired of hurting." Im so hurt for him.

    @zapantaronez@zapantaronez4 жыл бұрын
    • Ronez Zapanta that made me tear up so bad, poor dude couldn’t win 😢

      @ivypriscella@ivypriscella4 жыл бұрын
    • The truth is tho, that we are all children of God. I’m so happy he found his way. The companion rule was made for heterosexual individuals so you don’t insight issues in the area you are assigned. It is sad that he was alone and further more than he couldn’t find the peace and love he wanted in his life. I’m glad he found his way.

      @AlexZ-lc6nl@AlexZ-lc6nl3 жыл бұрын
    • 😔😔😔😔

      @carichaos1651@carichaos16513 жыл бұрын
    • God is didn't exist

      @emifatikhatin6254@emifatikhatin62543 жыл бұрын
    • I am 48 years old and I am at the end of the rope too.

      @hectorabcdefg9076@hectorabcdefg90763 жыл бұрын
  • I'm screaming "STAY!" at my phone. My heart brutally hurts over this.

    @NymphetamineOrchid@NymphetamineOrchid4 жыл бұрын
  • Call me by your Mormon.

    @aznwilly8013@aznwilly80136 жыл бұрын
    • melvin tayko 😂😂😂😂

      @Indigo-lp5sl@Indigo-lp5sl5 жыл бұрын
    • melvin tayko 😂

      @LNLN123@LNLN1235 жыл бұрын
    • Bless you! I was about to start ugly crying before I read your comment!

      @joshuabrazile@joshuabrazile5 жыл бұрын
    • YES THIS IS EXACTLY WHAT I THOUGHT

      @nataliafernandez8644@nataliafernandez86445 жыл бұрын
    • Melvin...hahhahhahahahahhaaahahahhaaaaaaaaaaa

      @birdyelke775@birdyelke7755 жыл бұрын
  • A kiss that shows you who you are? Could this be any more romantic?

    @MsFlipped365@MsFlipped3654 жыл бұрын
    • Right. I had a similar experience. I SO related to that elegant emotion.

      @rhanna5188@rhanna51883 жыл бұрын
    • @@rhanna5188 you are counted among the blessed. Be well ❤️.

      @MsFlipped365@MsFlipped3653 жыл бұрын
  • THIS NEEDS TO BE A MOVIE OMG!!

    @MrYougotcaught@MrYougotcaught4 жыл бұрын
    • His story is similar to CALL BE BY YOUR NAME.

      @HJ-mg3dg@HJ-mg3dg4 жыл бұрын
    • YES OMG. It would be such a hit!!

      @toxicperson8936@toxicperson89364 жыл бұрын
    • @@HJ-mg3dg IM SCREAMING! THAT'S WHAT I THOUGHT WHEN I SEEN THE "Death IN Venice" CLIP!!!

      @alexrodriguez6581@alexrodriguez65814 жыл бұрын
    • IKR??? Call Me by Your Name vibes.

      @marvelousTUD@marvelousTUD4 жыл бұрын
    • IKR he’s an amazing story teller

      @maxinee9752@maxinee97523 жыл бұрын
  • My dad told me that on his mission he was with these two other guys, they were real sticklers for the rules, they followed each one to a T. Many years later my dad found out that they had gotten married. He was very shocked but they were happy, but that's all that mattered. I honestly believe that they had a big part in my dad accepting the LGBT community (:

    @eprongles@eprongles3 жыл бұрын
    • ❤❤❤

      @jesuscardenas2347@jesuscardenas2347 Жыл бұрын
    • 1.- How did they fall in love with each other? 2.- Why did they fall in love with each other? 3.- After many years, were they still sticking to the rules? Or have they changed a bit? How are they now in their way of being? Sorry if I ask, but I like to learn from other people. I like it a lot.

      @jmrabinez9254@jmrabinez925411 ай бұрын
  • I honestly thought he would stay with Gianni. I'm actually a little heartbroken right now.

    @RubyOpheliaQuinn@RubyOpheliaQuinn8 жыл бұрын
    • ikr

      @ornachia2489@ornachia24895 жыл бұрын
    • Me too

      @cristianleal2954@cristianleal29545 жыл бұрын
    • Yo saaammee I was just like in my head “run back to him like every love story please”

      @graceaguilera2594@graceaguilera25945 жыл бұрын
    • I know! Just let him walk away through the trees. :(

      @themoongoddess1190@themoongoddess11905 жыл бұрын
    • The mormon programming is intense and he was at his most indoctrinated being on a mission. If he had chosen to abandon his mission and stay he would have had to walk away from his family and entire support system. And likely he would have hated himself. He really took the only reasonable choice. I'm sorry he had to marry before he woke up and got out.

      @kristinwright6632@kristinwright66324 жыл бұрын
  • I'm a lesbian living in a quite homophobic country, I was crying the whole time watching this.

    @no_one2197@no_one21974 жыл бұрын
    • Lucy Ferr shut up poocy

      @funandcooljokes@funandcooljokes4 жыл бұрын
    • @Lucy Ferr shut up poocy

      @user-mv1hv5ce3b@user-mv1hv5ce3b4 жыл бұрын
    • In the days of old, there was a blind traveler that wanted to travel the world for fun and did so by starting in Russia of all places. Now he wasn't blind from birth and maybe that lent to his abilities later in life but his charm and charismatic humor furthered his ability to feel his way through his travels. The path was not easy but friends were made, new foods were shared and the trip around the world did come to be! I thought about this (true) story more then a few times while enduring the divorce from my birth mother at 13yrs old,.....no one has your path but it will come to be, you will see. Now then, what is your next step?

      @rachelrenee5604@rachelrenee56044 жыл бұрын
    • To no one: I hate that you named yourself no one and that you aren't free to express your love openly and honestly. Take some small comfort in knowing that some of us listen and some of us care. Try to live happily whatever path your life takes and remember, you are doing NOTHING wrong. You are the victim of homophobia and you should change your name to Someone!

      @seriouslyseriously1063@seriouslyseriously10633 жыл бұрын
    • It broke my heart.

      @carrotjuse@carrotjuse3 жыл бұрын
  • ..... who here digs this guy’s hair 😎👍🏻

    @TheSpaLife69@TheSpaLife695 жыл бұрын
    • Kinda reminds me of Garfunkel. I like it

      @heggy_69@heggy_694 жыл бұрын
  • “I’m going to do what I need to do. You do what you need to do.” He invented “you do you boo boo” in his own way lol 😂 What a beautiful story. I hope to have a story half as beautiful as yours one day.

    @RodrigorReyes123@RodrigorReyes1234 жыл бұрын
  • So engaging that I spent half the day wondering if Gianni ever stopped smoking. Excellent.

    @nilesoien7867@nilesoien78678 жыл бұрын
    • Hahaha! I hope so.

      @sbpeterson@sbpeterson6 жыл бұрын
    • Niles Oien Its making me want to quit even more

      @ttp436@ttp4366 жыл бұрын
    • I've never stopped smoking and I'm still alive!

      @giovanniintrevado6246@giovanniintrevado62466 жыл бұрын
    • Tom Clark has a website that continues the story :0)

      @IvyRoad@IvyRoad5 жыл бұрын
    • WithMetta CAN YOU POST A LINK PLS.!? WHAT A BEAUTIFUL TALE OF UNREQUITED LOVE. WOULD MAKE A BRILLIANT CONTEMPORARY MOVIE.

      @wordscontrolminds@wordscontrolminds5 жыл бұрын
  • Tom Clark you are a master of the verbal paintbrush. Your words and emotions created a sad but beautiful portrait in my mind. I hope you found love and peace within yourself at some point in your life.

    @dandylion7697@dandylion76977 жыл бұрын
    • It is to be much hoped.

      @Absurdist1968@Absurdist19685 жыл бұрын
    • Beautifully said Danny!

      @elainewarren8552@elainewarren85525 жыл бұрын
  • As an ex-mormon this made me cry. It's interesting how for whatever reason one decides to leave the Mormon church, it is always the birth of their true self

    @rainepanda@rainepanda4 жыл бұрын
    • Really???? That's crazy cause when I went from atheist to becoming a member of the church of Jesus Christ of latter day saints, that was my awakening!

      @spazzpopmania5080@spazzpopmania50804 жыл бұрын
    • @@spazzpopmania5080 you see things differently when you were raised in it. I was Mormon for 25 years.

      @rainepanda@rainepanda4 жыл бұрын
    • I agree. Will never go back and have had to overcome sexism, racism, and homophobic ways of thinking to get where i am today. Religion is a disease.

      @33rdstreetknits@33rdstreetknits4 жыл бұрын
    • Sometimes leaving religious doctrine is the route to finding yourself, because you now are not living someone else ideal of you but your own. Religion doesn't always bring us together as much as it pushes and keeps us apart.

      @randysmith7189@randysmith71894 жыл бұрын
    • @@spazzpopmania5080 So did my mom, she converted when she was 14, and believed in it up until this year (She’s 56) She discovered the lies the church told, especially about Joseph Smith. He was just a power hungry pedophile. 30+ wives, some of which being as young as 14. I recommend you research the horrible things he’s done.

      @arashf6094@arashf60943 жыл бұрын
  • This is the worst heartbreak ive ever been through.

    @notagain.12456@notagain.124564 жыл бұрын
    • Same lol

      @mizztia5303@mizztia5303 Жыл бұрын
  • Oh this is so beautiful and heartbreaking at the same time. Pls write a book about it, i want to read it.

    @docpirate46@docpirate467 жыл бұрын
    • The Book of Mormon, the awakening,

      @ronaldoroda403@ronaldoroda4036 жыл бұрын
    • I want the movie too... 😢

      @tchannel9354@tchannel93546 жыл бұрын
    • I know how we Italians are, so I know Johnny blew out that Americana culo out with such passion that night. I love these stories, I lived these stories. My story was me from a born again Christian family (Italian American) and a strict Muslim (Kuwaiti American) both of us 20 and feel in love so deep, so strong. We held on to that love for almost a decade, he always told me he would die without me if he had too go back and live a fake like, that one day came and after a couple years of not seeing him and only hearing that he indeed move back per his parent's and died in a traffic accident. How I still long for that love we shared, only he and I knew the strength, value and depth of it.

      @pjberra@pjberra5 жыл бұрын
    • Tom Clark has a website.

      @IvyRoad@IvyRoad5 жыл бұрын
    • Paul Joseph Berra ..... I'm so sad to hear it turned out so tragic.

      @vivian4949@vivian49495 жыл бұрын
  • You asked God many a time to take away your “weird feeling “ Don’t you think His silence was His answer? He will not destroy what He created.

    @melflo4651@melflo46516 жыл бұрын
    • beautiful and true

      @tootsiePOP745@tootsiePOP7456 жыл бұрын
    • You are so right. God's silence was his answer. He was trying to tell you, you're feelings were not weird. Love is Love.

      @barbaraarmstrong4529@barbaraarmstrong45296 жыл бұрын
    • Mel Flo You guys are delusional

      @izzamario3108@izzamario31085 жыл бұрын
    • Krystal Joseph i agree

      @smaller5764@smaller57645 жыл бұрын
    • Yea

      @chelseaheineman4620@chelseaheineman46205 жыл бұрын
  • The passion in this man's voice when he tells this story is very warm & comforting.

    @CamxCam.@CamxCam.4 жыл бұрын
  • I wonder how many Mormon missionaries fall in love while they are out on their missions. It must be heartbreaking.

    @meredithfraser3726@meredithfraser37264 жыл бұрын
  • I hope Gianni gets to see this someday, your reunion would be amazing

    @ishamaini1@ishamaini18 жыл бұрын
    • If you read the article link it says they are still close friends

      @maggiejohnson9304@maggiejohnson93046 жыл бұрын
    • taltal milal Haha. AIDS jokes. Certainly not edgy.

      @caramel7050@caramel70505 жыл бұрын
    • KoivuTheHab Gods forbid my autocorrect isn't perfect.

      @caramel7050@caramel70505 жыл бұрын
    • KoivuTheHab Ah, so now a grammar mistake makes me intellectually inferior? Nice to know. I use it for convenience, that's all. Sometimes it doesn't work. No polytheist, just a person that likes adding every deity to the idiom for a change. It's kinda rude to leave out most of them, y'know?

      @caramel7050@caramel70505 жыл бұрын
    • KoivuTheHab So kind of you to be so instructive to all. Certainly sure if your opinions aren't you? But Please remember they are just that YOUR opinions. Please do not presume to inform me and others of what or whom we may believe in. I'm not insisting that you hold any belief system, not an I telling you how you may express yourself. If you check a dictionary you will find that Faith is described as believing in the unseen. My and others faith or lack of us none of your business, this documentary stated that he left the denomination he grew up in it never anywhere said he lost his faith

      @amsodoneworkingnow1978@amsodoneworkingnow19784 жыл бұрын
  • I love how tell his story without putting down Mormon believes. He is right and a great guy

    @giona632009@giona6320096 жыл бұрын
    • Giovanna Cruz Fritsch He sure didn’t read the part in the Book of Mormon that says “Marriage is between a man and a woman” though. Whatever, he could go ahead and do what he wants I guess.

      @utisti4976@utisti49765 жыл бұрын
    • Giovanna Cruz Fritsch he should be putting them down :)

      @aubreywilliam9048@aubreywilliam90485 жыл бұрын
    • ΛutistiЄ Probably the book 📚 f mormons was written by a straight guy

      @elisaagnew5070@elisaagnew50705 жыл бұрын
    • @@utisti4976 Yeah why don't we all live according to a single book that should go well

      @hopedean6424@hopedean64245 жыл бұрын
    • @@elisaagnew5070 A straight guy with "only" 40 wives... (source: www.nytimes.com/2014/11/11/us/its-official-mormon-founder-had-up-to-40-wives.html)

      @nekilof-2363@nekilof-23635 жыл бұрын
  • Love is love, whether it's first, fleeting or forever. To feel love is one of the greatest cosmic gifts we have.been given. Any thing, person or idea that tries to shame u for feeling it does not deserve your allegiance.

    @adamgardiner5869@adamgardiner58694 жыл бұрын
    • Adam Gardiner those are wise words my friend, & beautifully put too. i agree with your views on love 100%. too bad more people couldnt look at something so obviously beautiful, pure, and absolutely vital to our survival of this human experience as LOVE, & simply see it for what it is. if that were the case, im certain there would be far less of the ugliness & the hatred that we're all constantly force-exposed to on a daily basis. if only everyone could recognize love & simply accept it without feeling the need to try to label it a "sin," cast a dark shadow upon it, hide it/cover it up, warp/twist/pervert it, deny it completely, or try to present is as something its not, something we have to be ashamed of....then the world would be a much better place for all of us. to anyone who actually reads this comment all the way thru, thanks. Namaste. 🙏👌👋🙌

      @Vox.n.keyzzz@Vox.n.keyzzz4 жыл бұрын
  • As an active Latter-Day Saint, I applaud Tom for his courage to share his story and also the fact that he doesn’t bash the church. He seems like a really nice and authentic person.

    @slamdunk406@slamdunk4065 жыл бұрын
    • Ben Parker I agree with what you wrote about Tom. I doubt if I would have been as charitable when it comes to talking about the mormon religion though.

      @2326038@23260385 жыл бұрын
    • 2326038 Yeah, it’s truly admirable

      @slamdunk406@slamdunk4064 жыл бұрын
  • Riveting, sad and beautiful simultaneously.

    @jwalt8019@jwalt80198 жыл бұрын
    • This is so beautifully told. Thank you!

      @jacobopstad5483@jacobopstad54836 жыл бұрын
    • I love your profile picture. Hush hush is awesome.

      @mariewelch5073@mariewelch50736 жыл бұрын
    • Snaggle Toothed Yes

      @AmbyJeans@AmbyJeans4 жыл бұрын
  • So beautifully sad. This should be made a movie.

    @dillonlynch92@dillonlynch927 жыл бұрын
    • dillon lynch I know What u mean but dont you think Its Just special as it is

      @ttp436@ttp4366 жыл бұрын
    • dillon lynch there is a trilogy and I believe it is based on this story. It’s really good, you should check it out. The first movie is called The Falls.

      @PassionGrows@PassionGrows6 жыл бұрын
    • I think not so much. As a documentary short it works just fine. As a scripted narrative feature, no major studio would fund it, though maybe someone could convince Netflix. And really, as a scripted feature, too much of the story would get changed to make a "more compelling" drama for the masses.

      @Absurdist1968@Absurdist19685 жыл бұрын
    • Call Me By Your Name is like this!

      @hellofromtheothersideee@hellofromtheothersideee5 жыл бұрын
    • Noooooo

      @tanuashealth9791@tanuashealth97915 жыл бұрын
  • Why is there so many heartbreaking love stories in Italy

    @kristalfisher7304@kristalfisher73045 жыл бұрын
    • kristal fisher Bwcbw

      @Topesio66@Topesio664 жыл бұрын
    • That was the same thing i asked myself

      @musaka9651@musaka96514 жыл бұрын
    • Same here. I'll travel the whole of Italy one day to heal myself.

      @muymuy777@muymuy7773 жыл бұрын
    • What does “Bwcbw” mean?

      @kristalfisher7304@kristalfisher73043 жыл бұрын
  • This was so beautiful. I’d love to know more. These stories of our elders are so important. I’m crying.

    @simplyselina@simplyselina Жыл бұрын
  • Gianni was a breathtaking, gorgeous young man.He is an artist and takes care of his mom... very fine fellow.I hope he is happy.

    @michaelearendil6843@michaelearendil68436 жыл бұрын
    • Thanks Michael, I am amazed at the things you know about me and having your best wishes of happiness makes me even happier. I do not know you but I am sure you are a beautiful person and I wish you a life full of love.

      @giovanniintrevado6246@giovanniintrevado62465 жыл бұрын
    • Thanks Gary, I am happy to know that there are people like you in the world, I have done many beautiful things in my life but my masterpiece is my work on my mother who is almost a hundred years old and is fantastic! I've always thought that in life you do not have to regret especially when you love people, I still have a beautiful relationship with my first known love when I was 17, before it happened "elder" and with Tom I'm always in touch and we update on our lives even if we are far away. The smoke of the cigarette is the most negative thing in my life, every day I tell myself that I have to stop, I hope to get up one morning and never smoke again I promise you that I will do my best. Gary I'm glad to meet you, I wish you so much happiness

      @giovanniintrevado6246@giovanniintrevado62465 жыл бұрын
    • Giovanni Intrevado what a beautiful couple you two made! Wonder why you guys didn’t reunite after your missionary work and find your unique love story where you left it and live happily ever after ... hope you found happiness ! Best Cecilia

      @cclaplatatizio5160@cclaplatatizio51605 жыл бұрын
    • @@giovanniintrevado6246 You are a beautiful soul inside and outside. Much love to you from Pakistan.

      @ParvaizRaja@ParvaizRaja5 жыл бұрын
    • How nice to know that there are people like you in the world. So much love for you from Pescara

      @giovanniintrevado6246@giovanniintrevado62465 жыл бұрын
  • "It wasn't just about love, it was my awakening." - My tears express what I would like to say....

    @billsmiley1294@billsmiley12946 жыл бұрын
  • It reminds me of when I moved to Scotland and left my boyfriend behind. All I could think was "how can we be so in love, but the universe wont let us be together." This made me cry real tears

    @emmaconn1627@emmaconn16274 жыл бұрын
    • Why did you though?

      @prithakshrestha@prithakshrestha3 жыл бұрын
    • @@prithakshrestha I got into my dream school and it was an opportunity I couldn't pass up

      @emmaconn1627@emmaconn16273 жыл бұрын
    • how about now? did you guys meet

      @user-gv2pk6sf8n@user-gv2pk6sf8n2 жыл бұрын
    • @@user-gv2pk6sf8n we're still together doing long distance. Its hard but worth it

      @emmaconn1627@emmaconn16272 жыл бұрын
  • Tom! I had been thinking of you of late and happened upon this video! I recognized your voice before I did your pictures! You were a huge part of our High School memories with Sue, Brenda, and Marty! So glad to have finally located you!

    @lindaseaman4065@lindaseaman40654 жыл бұрын
  • My heart just broke. I so hoped to hear him say, "And so I stayed with him," even though I knew it would end up this way. Sad.

    @gnju9xd@gnju9xd5 жыл бұрын
  • well they had to contact Gianni for the additional photos and his permission to be used in the story so they probably spoke again

    @stephanietanniss@stephanietanniss6 жыл бұрын
    • Stephanie Tannis the photos and videos were taken with consent in Europe during the 70s(?). I don’t know but I don’t think consent in posting matters at this point.

      @justinorear5861@justinorear58614 жыл бұрын
    • In reply I think the fact that he has left his comments here about his art, his smoking and his mother shows that he not only was aware of this video but approved it be shown. My blessings to two very brave men long may your friendship continue

      @amsodoneworkingnow1978@amsodoneworkingnow19784 жыл бұрын
    • There's a follow-up article that says they're still friends, so yeah.

      @paigepena6330@paigepena63304 жыл бұрын
    • Justin O'Rear 🙄

      @wuestion9473@wuestion94734 жыл бұрын
  • My family and I were banned from the Mormon church worldwide for helping a Mormon escape from the church. They had taken his passport and kept him locked up, eventually considering suicide. We got him out and he's now happy in his new life.

    @fantabaz1@fantabaz14 жыл бұрын
    • I know many people who have left the church. It's not something you have to "escape" from. You can just not come to church anymore and that's fine. There is the FLDS which is an unsanctioned branch-off of the Mormon (LDS) church that still practices polygamy. That religion is disgusting and members do have to "escape". Was that what this guy was a part of? What were the conditions around helping this guy?

      @kaityoar9125@kaityoar91254 жыл бұрын
    • @@kaityoar9125 Maybe that guy was higher up in the chain or was family member of someone important to the church. As is with any religion, the higher you are on the chain, the more difficult it is to get out, some are even threatened for their lives if they try to renounce their religion, I am thinking this is a similar case.

      @hirat9730@hirat97304 жыл бұрын
    • I know you’re lying

      @carsonmiles7168@carsonmiles71684 жыл бұрын
    • That's FLDS (they are just weird). I'm a Mormon(LDS) and I know we would never do that

      @graceAMW@graceAMW4 жыл бұрын
    • Slytherin Queen I’m sorry but y’all do do that. There are thousands of documentaries. Look up “ I escaped the Mormon church” or “ why I escaped the Mormon church”

      @leoleyva4719@leoleyva47194 жыл бұрын
  • "I'm tired of hurting."

    @ebybeehoney@ebybeehoney5 жыл бұрын
    • Then change your thought process. Happiness is a choice, just as unhappiness is.

      @normajeanray@normajeanray4 жыл бұрын
    • Norma Ray congratulations u cured sadness !!

      @rnckgo2410@rnckgo24104 жыл бұрын
  • I'm italian, I'm going through something similar with this guy, who is american, who I may am falling in love with. He may is too. He's leaving in a month. I know that I should be living the present, but I don't think that we as humans are capable of it; we lay on the memories of the past and hopes of the future. I don't really know how this is going to end, but I wish that faith won't turn the beautiful gift of love into a torture for me

    @stefanoacquasanta6041@stefanoacquasanta60416 жыл бұрын
    • Wow so Call me By Your Name is more common than we think lol

      @lamingtongirl123@lamingtongirl1236 жыл бұрын
    • You must live the present not the possible future!

      @giovanniintrevado6246@giovanniintrevado62466 жыл бұрын
    • Dearest futuristic monster. We have one life brother. Use it wisely. Godspeed! 🇦🇺 ❤

      @juswuzz8929@juswuzz89295 жыл бұрын
    • futuristic monster I pray for you ... I hope you have a happy ending!

      @johnboys4697@johnboys46975 жыл бұрын
    • And how did it ended? I'm really curious

      @theelvenprince6701@theelvenprince67015 жыл бұрын
  • Touching story... it's exactly my story. Same scenario. Same feelings. Same internal fights. Same prays to God... word by word. You in Italy, me in Mexico. Regards! R.

    @raulescalante1899@raulescalante18996 жыл бұрын
    • Cuéntame tu historia

      @cristinasubirats3237@cristinasubirats32374 жыл бұрын
    • Live your life how you want it, and dont be afraid of those who dont accept for they arent important

      @xochitlzuniga9413@xochitlzuniga94134 жыл бұрын
  • This is the most beautiful love story I have seen. It crosses the realms of faith, culture, politics, respect ... and brings two humans together in love. Their journey was too short ...

    @CaricatureQueen@CaricatureQueen5 жыл бұрын
  • Beautifully done. As an ex Mormon. I can say this is not only sad, it's tragic.

    @gregghanson6095@gregghanson60955 жыл бұрын
    • same 😞

      @carichaos1651@carichaos16514 жыл бұрын
  • I Love How They Have Actual Pictures And Videos Of Those Times❤😢

    @narelysnegron6140@narelysnegron61405 жыл бұрын
  • Beautiful, painful, gorgeous, heartbreaking, beautifully crafted small film. Near the end, I checked how much was left because I didn't want it to end. I wanted Tom Clark to tell me about his whole life.

    @IvyRoad@IvyRoad5 жыл бұрын
    • How does one pull so much emotion in 13 minutes. I think because we've all got our own, secret, wistful love story in there somewhere we can relate to this guys story so deeply. Or is it in his own unique way of telling. I'm not sure, but this story bit me on a visceral level. Thank you for sharing it. Could do with a bit of love today! 😊

      @juswuzz8929@juswuzz89295 жыл бұрын
  • I'm imagining his companion watching this 30 years later and thinking, "how did I miss that?!" I wonder if the rules are stricter than they used to be. We were supposed to be in the same room with our companion all the time, and of course to be in bed asleep by 10:30.

    @garfieldnate@garfieldnate4 жыл бұрын
    • Nathan Glenn it’s basically the same. You can only be alone when in the bathroom or president interviews. You know, so you keep the “good” Jesus thoughts

      @ricobuttonpusher7061@ricobuttonpusher70614 жыл бұрын
    • @@ricobuttonpusher7061 absolutely insane, I would get socially exausted from a week of constantly being around people at summer camp, let alone for 2 year to be free advertisement for a cult.

      @DeepfriedBeans4492@DeepfriedBeans44923 жыл бұрын
  • "It wasn't just Love but also the Awakening in Me"!!! This is just Divine! I felted in my heart.

    @alexandrasantos4648@alexandrasantos46484 жыл бұрын
  • Thank you Tom for your story. Did you ever see or hear from Gianni again? Terrible that you were put on Thorazine for being gay. Your time in Pescara, Italy was your moment of awakening. Its important to know thyself (Socrates).

    @robmckay5421@robmckay54218 жыл бұрын
    • I just looked it up. They've maintained a deep friendship internationally, even though Tom now lives with a partner. He left the Mormon church apparently.

      @KaiseaWings@KaiseaWings6 жыл бұрын
    • Kai Sea Thank you for the update. I am glad they are friends, also that he has left the "church" that indoctrinated him. Heartbreaking, but beautiful.

      @chokinonashes61@chokinonashes616 жыл бұрын
    • He has a website that answers that question :0)

      @IvyRoad@IvyRoad5 жыл бұрын
    • Kai Sea thank tou

      @mikeybanks4965@mikeybanks49654 жыл бұрын
  • I just don’t get how they never got back together if the loved each other so much

    @myahouston20@myahouston204 жыл бұрын
    • Sometimes you need to have a love that doesn't last.

      @MsAdlerHolmes@MsAdlerHolmes4 жыл бұрын
    • @@MsAdlerHolmes -- Watching this film, to me, shows that this love still exists.

      @winsboy@winsboy4 жыл бұрын
    • me too....

      @hoihoi4453@hoihoi44534 жыл бұрын
    • @@MsAdlerHolmes -- Absolutely on one needs that ...no one!

      @winsboy@winsboy4 жыл бұрын
    • There's a good chance that he would have been shamed and/or disowned by his Mormon family and friends. He probably decided he didn't want to risk that.

      @johnyjohny5559@johnyjohny55594 жыл бұрын
  • I've watched this over and over again in the past year. It's so beautiful.

    @jennwill80@jennwill804 жыл бұрын
  • This was incredibly well made. The part when he said sound stopped and then the audio went out... gave me goosebumps.

    @aren3113@aren31134 жыл бұрын
  • Well done. My first boyfriend was a married Mormon. I was a smart and tough 20-year-old atheist working my way through college; he was 37 and losing his religion fast. Set in early 1980's AIDS epidemic onslaught in San Francisco. There was high drama. Now, as an older man, I can appreciate that he was "culturally Mormon" but not a literal believer.

    @chrisvandevert8117@chrisvandevert81176 жыл бұрын
    • What the deal with gays having an age gap between them?

      @andro7862@andro78626 жыл бұрын
    • I'm a writer, and I think this would make an amazing piece of literary nonfiction. If you ever want to share your story, hit me up.

      @lllaaauuurrraaa@lllaaauuurrraaa6 жыл бұрын
    • Wow, hi Gianni! (Kind of amazing to hear from you, honestly.) I was actually commenting on Chris Vandevert's original comment about his own experiences - however, I'm glad you reached out! This video is Tom's story, but I have no doubt your side of it is no less compelling. If you've ever be interested in sharing it, I'd love to talk to you.

      @lllaaauuurrraaa@lllaaauuurrraaa5 жыл бұрын
    • No problem! I'm glad for the mix-up! I've found you on Facebook and sent a message, so feel free to contact me there.

      @lllaaauuurrraaa@lllaaauuurrraaa5 жыл бұрын
    • the history of the communist is stupid. In Italy there have never been communists as you mean Americans, surely I would not have given my vote to Trump, I am a progressive and not a conservative.

      @giovanniintrevado6246@giovanniintrevado62465 жыл бұрын
  • The videos and pictures along with the story were so sweet.

    @believeinyourself7511@believeinyourself75114 жыл бұрын
  • Having also experienced forbidden love and the heart break that goes with it, I was very touched by this story. Beautifully done.

    @jd2008765@jd20087653 жыл бұрын
  • I feel like theres a lesson here for me. Contemplating my current situationship and i may well need this story to move on with grace and dignity.

    @JTScott1988@JTScott19884 жыл бұрын
  • i adore this documentary so much. thank you. this was inexplicably beautiful and my heart is full knowing happiness came of this, albeit they did not end up together romantically

    @yas-ob4hd@yas-ob4hd4 жыл бұрын
  • This story should be turned into a movie

    @mihaelahatch3738@mihaelahatch37384 жыл бұрын
  • Why isn’t this a movie yet??? I can already see the title! “One Night in Venice”, “Gianni”, “The Awakening of Me”. It would be amazing.

    @marvelousTUD@marvelousTUD4 жыл бұрын
  • 07:30 "How can you be that much in love and not being together"

    @fidatazkiyah4338@fidatazkiyah43385 жыл бұрын
  • How come this is not a film yet?

    @aandre311@aandre3116 жыл бұрын
  • What a story... brings me to tears every time and reminds me of my own experience growing up. Molto molto grazie!

    @rawrfee@rawrfee6 жыл бұрын
  • So much emotion rolled over me when I watched this, the way he describes Johnny and Italy with so much love is so tremendously heartbreaking and beautiful at the same time. I was so touched by this, It felt like I could feel all his pain and love as he was telling his story. I hope you both live happy lives nowadays whatever that may mean.❤️

    @heh2084@heh20845 жыл бұрын
    • Grazie!

      @giovanniintrevado3116@giovanniintrevado3116 Жыл бұрын
  • I rewatch this documentary every other month or so - it slaughters me every time! A great story, very well told.

    @littlekiwi9724@littlekiwi97245 жыл бұрын
  • never leave your soulmate if there's even the slightest possibility to stay together. it's so rare to meet this person in life at all.

    @miasolala8415@miasolala84153 жыл бұрын
  • My heart goes out to you even now. Your story brought a tear to my eye and brought back memories of my first 15 year relationship when my lover told me almost on my 50th birthday that he no longer loved me. I was stunned and totally caught off guard. He wanted to go out and fuque the world and when he did he ended up HIV positive and has been on welfare disability for some time now because he cannot hold down a job because of what the drugs do to him. What always breaks my heart is unrequited love, and when I watch these stories I am very touched.

    @benth162@benth1627 жыл бұрын
  • What a love story. Religions creat such heart aches. Your love was so pure and simple.

    @lindymcleod@lindymcleod5 жыл бұрын
  • It’s already such a miracle that both partners love each other, why would anyone try to tear them apart 😭

    @tshirt9872@tshirt98723 жыл бұрын
  • I cried through this beautiful story remembering my own awakening. Thank you for producing this story and sharing it with us. :)

    @briankraemer8139@briankraemer81396 жыл бұрын
  • This is one of the most romantic and heart wrenching and beautiful stories I’ve ever heard

    @jessicaday22@jessicaday223 жыл бұрын
  • This was honestly so beautiful. The way you worded everything combined with the video clips was perfect.

    @emmabarton98@emmabarton985 жыл бұрын
  • You can tell he’s an artist because he tells such vivid images

    @hayden9802@hayden98024 жыл бұрын
  • Thank you for documenting it so beautifully. What happened next to either or both of you?

    @KoldingDenmark@KoldingDenmark6 жыл бұрын
  • This is such a beautiful and important story to tell because I was raised Mormon and it’s so complicated, you love the gospel, but then you realized you don’t want to be part of it cause you have different views about gender, love, and the lifestyle you want. I think that we all have different stories, I got divorced and left the church this year, so it’s difficult cause it’s like you lose your community, but you know you don’t belong there.

    @magdaramirez3024@magdaramirez30244 жыл бұрын
  • I'm like no don't end with a black screen yet - and it did. Still, I'm glad they still maintain that connection - like I wish I could or did but people are really different nowadays. I can't help shake off the idea of this story that is so morose yet it brings me some sort of gladness that there are people who loved each other and retain what they have.

    @dulcineazulueta@dulcineazulueta4 жыл бұрын
  • This is so beautiful- something I can relate to at very extraordinary level. Thank you.

    @pacopecas100@pacopecas1004 жыл бұрын
  • Im in tears love your story. Hi from Milano

    @wifi5526@wifi55266 жыл бұрын
  • I’m in tears, I cannot understand how someone could punish this kind of love. It’s even too beautiful to be true, to be believed.

    @eyesglow1777@eyesglow17774 жыл бұрын
  • Gosh. "my inside was coming out" Who would not cry for this? Felt that..... So badly 😭

    @themsaka4177@themsaka41774 жыл бұрын
  • You're story is beautiful. I feel you did the right thing and I hope you find the peace, love and the support you need in the future. May God bless you.

    @origamiunicorn3474@origamiunicorn34745 жыл бұрын
  • Tears. So many tears. :-(

    @sorbenjamin7695@sorbenjamin76958 жыл бұрын
    • Sæþór Benjamin b

      @ellekatherine4641@ellekatherine46415 жыл бұрын
    • Yes!!

      @jimmbobb@jimmbobb5 жыл бұрын
  • Sad, beautiful and absolutely amazing. Hope they make his story into a movie. I'm already crying.

    @mrdavidgreen6242@mrdavidgreen62425 жыл бұрын
  • To convey the very essence of your thoughts, feelings and desires through the experience of being ripped from your soulmate in life is absolutely priceless!... I LOVE this and I deeply appreciate you for opening this chapter in your life and allowing all of us in!... You are AMAZING my friend!... Hands down!....

    @_A4A@_A4A5 жыл бұрын
  • How is this not a movie? I want to know more. I have so many questions. Did they ever see each other again?

    @jasminemiller1563@jasminemiller15634 жыл бұрын
    • I think movie title is ...call me by my name

      @lynnkesh254@lynnkesh2544 жыл бұрын
    • watch call me by your name and you can experience a similar story of an American doctrate student visiting an Italian family in Crema, where he meets Elio. They fall in love, yet there were so many boundaries...the rest of the story is very similar to this one too. There is a book of the same name describing the same if you want to read that!

      @mrsandman8849@mrsandman88494 жыл бұрын
  • This was so beautiful, is so hard to find that person that you can truly connect with, like him 'is not a matter of love' is that red string that brought them together, even though they didn't stayed together, they are that beautiful dream and memory. ❤️

    @hopie3273@hopie32732 жыл бұрын
  • Such a beautiful, touching story...had me in tears.

    @PanamaRubia@PanamaRubia8 жыл бұрын
  • An amazingly sad yet triumphant story. So many people deny themselves their path in life because of social conventions. I have known in my own life such conflict and only through the passage of time, was I able to be what I needed to be. This fellow and Gianni changed each other's lives forever and were so much greater for their time together. Just a a beautiful story with a less than flawless ending. Tears flow now...thank you for making this video...it will help countless people be who they are...thanks...

    @bennomedina-quinsella4763@bennomedina-quinsella47635 жыл бұрын
    • Hello, I'm Gianni from the movie "elder", you wrote a nice and right comment, you're definitely a special person, so thanks to you!

      @giovanniintrevado6246@giovanniintrevado62465 жыл бұрын
    • @@giovanniintrevado6246 ...bless you for writing...your story is timeless...be well...and be happy...

      @bennomedina-quinsella4763@bennomedina-quinsella47635 жыл бұрын
  • How beautiful. It reminds me of Jane Oliver's love songs. You touched my heart. God bless you and Joni where every he is... "down that road." Thanks for sharing. Sincerely.

    @charlesdavis7087@charlesdavis70875 жыл бұрын
  • What a beautiful story

    @sadguyfoundout11@sadguyfoundout118 жыл бұрын
  • My heart hurt watching this. May you both find yourselves together and continue your story in the next life, if love and togetherness is not to be your fate on this earth. God bless you both.

    @kellymarieconlon6320@kellymarieconlon63205 жыл бұрын
  • What a great story to end the night. Will be sleeping with a broken heart though... I wish I could go back in time, when stolen kisses and holding hands were everything.

    @almalynbautista3745@almalynbautista37454 жыл бұрын
  • The image of him walking away, it tears at the heart

    @emmaolivera3018@emmaolivera30185 жыл бұрын
  • ...I cried....

    @busmar48@busmar488 жыл бұрын
  • Living near Pescara and seeing places I recognize in the video makes this story so surreal. I can't believe a story so beautiful has happened where I live...

    @yellowremy5085@yellowremy50854 жыл бұрын
  • Thank you for sharing your experience. Bless you

    @cindychurch925@cindychurch9255 жыл бұрын
  • This was so profound, terribly sad and beautifuly told. Thank you for sharing your story with us

    @zamangwanezikhali1052@zamangwanezikhali10524 жыл бұрын
  • Beautiful history. I'm speechless. What an amazing production too...

    @victorcraraujo@victorcraraujo6 жыл бұрын
  • Please please please... reunite with Gianni 🙏 I need to know how this beautiful yet sad story ends... or continues or whatever... I once felt love like this and had to let go of it.. I was never quite the same after 💔

    @Amyrhianna101@Amyrhianna1014 жыл бұрын
    • The post response just under the video explains that they were able to stay in touch as the years went by But they did not reconcile as lovers only as friends

      @Donnie-Lee-Gringo@Donnie-Lee-Gringo4 жыл бұрын
    • The fantasy is much more exciting than the reality. This was the best ending.

      @normajeanray@normajeanray4 жыл бұрын
  • This is an amazing story, beautifully narrated, and with videos! It deserves to be made into a movie. Thanks for sharing it. Gracias

    @marcelogranda@marcelogranda Жыл бұрын
  • "Angels in America" deals with similar themes. Glad you had the courage to come out and the sense to stay friends with each other. I lost my partner to mental illness recently but we decided to re-define our relationship from "girlfriends" to "family." Wasn't easy but it kept us close like you and G. Big hug from Munich!

    @loopyluu9302@loopyluu93024 жыл бұрын
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