Don’t Fear Being DISLIKED! ⚠️
STOP caring so much about what other people think of you!
Julien Blanc (AKA JulienHimself) is a Swiss-born, U.S.-based self-help speaker, entrepreneur and transformational coach.
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Don’t Fear Being DISLIKED! ⚠️
No one knows you as well as you know yourself! In this short, Julien Blanc (AKA Julien Himself) reveals how to be confident in any social situation, how to be confident around people and how to be grounded during social interactions!
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STOP caring so much about what other people think of you! ⚠
Thank you sir you are helping me alot
For me, all my life I’ve lived like I don’t want people to see the real me or be vulnerable. Being judged because I like certain kinds of music, movies, etc. 38 now and I still feel like I have to put in a front so no one will judge me but people will be people and it is what it is. Thank you Julien for all you do! 🫡
It *can* have a lot of impact depending on the number of people disliking you and you needing something from those people.
exactly
Yep, especially in childhood.
Been watching julien so long, his ridiculous clothing actually goes unnoticed 😂
That proves his point
he definitely goes noticed. i see at least one comment on every video talking about his attire takes away from what he's saying.
What I don't like is the insidious things people do when they dislike you. It's their behaviors that makes me uncomfortable.
Very true. For whatever reason that they dislike you, they add things to to further “demonize” you.
yea its sad man but i feel like this is purposely done by the universe to make us stronger because at a certain point of time we have to give a f about all that man
The reason they dislike you is themselves, they demonize you because they are externalizing why they do not like you, and in order to make the delusional mindset make sense they have to create false realities to demonize you @@jokesterr119
exactly. it does effect you
I'M not afraid of being disliked, my nervous system is, obviously I can consciously understand that it doesn't matter what people think of me, but you try telling that to my nervous system. If it was as easy as just thinking "oh yeah it doesn't matter" and then magically being fine then self help wouldn't even be a thing, it's way way way more complicated than just understanding something intellectually
Exactly. Well put.
Yes, totally! I think it is because we attach a certain situation with it, that made us feel some way, so actually we attach the emotion. If we can identify that emotion or that situation and surrender to and relive it, we might 'work through' it with some concious effort. Most of the times we are stuck in that past experience, which will press a rewind button in our brains, and we relive it nevertheless. The more often we relive it, the stronger the feeling gets. But if that's happening on autopilot we might strengthen the negative emotions. So.. because our brains do not know the difference between imagination and reality, we might try to relive the past and give it a different outcome, like.. rewrite the script. A good comeback, or the problem gets dissolved by talking, or whatever you need to happen. At the beginning it might feel unrealistic and difficult to do. But after a while you'll get used to it. And then it might feel normal. Personally, I also tried positive affirmations on KZhead, that kind of fit my situation to help soften the words of my inner critic and ease my mind a bit, mostly to stop myself from ruminating in bed. Hope this is helpful to you as well ❤
The answer is the need to fit in and the fear of being alone.
Cravings and fears. Wish I had more of those
It's scary because you're afraid of being left out. Of being alone. Of loneliness.
Meditate on that and ask: is being alone that bad? Another question to explore: you're the only one living your life, so aren't you always alone anyway? (Spoiler: there are no 'others', you were always alone)
I love being left out I love being left alone I love being in last place I dare a motherfucker to knock me out of last place
You need to be okay with being alone.
Julien dressing style is amazing
I hope its sarcasme, because everytime I laugh so hard about it 😂😂
@@Tigros4same 😂 and I know he dressed the way he does to send a message but it's still funny af
I feel peoples energy, that hits more than the words
It's the approval. The knowledge that what you did was accepted by others. It releases endorphins, it can brighten your mood, it's great. The problem comes when you only try to get that approval from others and ignore getting your own approval. Focus on what makes you happy, truly happy (often this comes from facing fears, a topic for another day). Over time, this will improve your self worth and self esteem, which will naturally make people more drawn to you and more open to liking you as a person. ...mic drop
Danke Julien, du hilfst tatsächlich. Viele Leute geben viele Tipps doch nicht immer sind sie hilfreich. Sprichwörtlich jedes deiner Videos gibt einen gute Informationen die einen helfen
He's really breaking this down 😂😂😂😂😂
The dislike from a family member is what triggers me as opposed to a dislike from a stranger.
Being disliked means remaining alone. Who likes that?
Short answer? Because many humans run a lot on emotions no matter how much we try to fight it. To be liked or better yet loved puts your life in easy mode when it comes to socialising. We can't fully control our lives but being liked or loved does make it much easier to be influential which is one of the next best things! Unless the paranoia of not being liked becomes too great...
More of this please completely dissolves the fear, ITS JUST SOUND 😂
Afraid to appear better than others. More so it’s important to be liked, or you’ll get left. Thats my abandonment fear. But it’s just sounds and words with a feeling attached. Get aware and you won’t be caring as much. It was never about you anyways.
Conscious shit, he spitted🎉
What should i do if someone purposely tarnished my reputation in my town with false accusations? I'm a musician and am not liked anywhere it feels because a narcissist decided to spread false rumors about me and people are more likely to believe him than me. He is a social chameleon and good at it and has more connections than me so he has the upper hand here I feel. It's a small town by the way... He left my town shortly after i found out that he was doing that(idk if that was coincidence or if he was afraid i was gonna retaliate a certain way) but people still view me in the way of the rumors he was spreading. i believe i could even press charges over this, right? This is my hometown and i seriously think i might have to move and start over which really sucks. Idk what else to do. Does anyone have advice or have had a similar situation?
You are all screwed up with the narcissist. This is what they want. Somehow you have to let it all go, and forget them and go about doing you. If you can’t do this you have work to do with yourself. How do I know? Spent many years with one. As Julien has said in one of his videos, some part of you likes what is happening. It’s a safe place.
@@tonywright8342 Re-read my comment.
I kinda miss people being mean. It makes me smile
When someone doesn't like someone they don't tell you they just do evil wicked things behind back
facts!
You should only care about the utility of being liked within a workplace, otherwise it doesn’t matter. Keep the ones who like you for you and everyone else can disappear
Because sounds can easily be turned into action. And action can get scary.
Past fear of exclusion
Ok, let's go then. So, I have a band and one of my bandmates is a longlife friend, we're super loyal to each other, but I feel disconnected to him, as a friend. We can count on each other, but we don't seem to be closer, I wish I could be more "free" around him, I feel trapped. Cuz' it feels like he feels annoyed about so many things or stuff I say and sometimes he doesn't even reacts to stuff I say. So I stopped being more expressive as time went by, I hate the "all goody 2 shoes" person I became and I just don't know how to break out of this... What should I do?
You need to break it off. When a relationship reaches that stage, there is no way out. You can't even be yourself because you aren't accepted. The sooner you leave the better, it will only get worse. Happened to my old mates, brother, relatives etc. Replace them with people you are compatible with.
@@choonblaze Thx for the insight👊
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😂 I love it
why would I not want people to like me?
Professional yapper
At this hes just talking rubish
No he's not
This guy embodies "hard times create soft men, soft men create hard times" 2024 and we are at the threshold of softer men creating the hard times
We need soft men
Is he gay?