Social Rejection, Ostracism
2011 ж. 28 Мау.
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Distinguished Professor Kipling D. Williams PhD of Purdue University discusses the origins of his ostracism research study "Cyberball", in a clip from the feature documentary REJECT.
"Our need to matter and our need to belong are as fundamental as our need to eat and breathe. "
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Rejection hurts. Especially when all you want is to socialize. I have been down that road many times.
Right! Humans are 'social animals'. I find Steven Porges' model of our "social engagement system" particularly fascinating!
Rejection is constant for me, I don’t even leave the house anymore. Or participate online much.
Hi, I saw your comment when you made it. And it's been 8 months since then, how's your life? It's more about perspectives, so do you try psychedelics?
I feel like this happens to me often. I no longer even try.
Me too 😓
It's interesting what we can learn from the dog, who wasn't included at all, and still kept running and wagging his tale, unphased. The trouble with ostracism is when it is on a large scale, it's a death of a person, who gets to live through it. Loss of connections, income, opportunities, freedom, dignity.... What a crime it truly is.
A dog is a completely different animal who is not capable of directly socializing with humans so it doesn't really make sense.
Thanks for the upload. This is interesting to me since I always try to be inclusive and non-offensive towards any friends/peers and i am fascinated by both my reaction to being rejected and their willingness to reject. I seems to be insecurity or intolerance within the person rejecting.
finally found the video! Cool
How fascinating. I took part in such a study years ago at the University of Toledo. It was around 1991. I think they paid me $50 for it. I'm curious, though...you could glean a lot of information from a high number of different sets of subjects with the tennis ball thing, but what if you wanted to find out how long-term ostracism and rejection effects someone? Is there a way to do it?
There are studies done now with data from counselling sessions and things, evidence drawn together from a wide range of sources show the long term effects... even talking with one person deeply, if taken down the right path, can show you exactly how they turned out due to their ostracisation.
Why did I laugh so much
What's the name of the scientist?
Dr. Kipling Williams, Purdue University
Perhaps they just don't want to bother him for long?
It's all about your expectations. On the one hand there is a kind of invitation to the person incidentally "hit" by the frisbee - but nevertheless the two frisbee players let the new player join them on a voluntary basis. Of course, this voluntary decision can be cancelled at any time. If you expect them to let you play on and on you certainly have a problem.
That is definitely one way the stoics dealed with a problem like this. The problem was you expected a world where all the frisbee's are always thrown at you. If you ask me, he should have thanked the guys for letting him play for 4 minutes, since he was just a random person.
So, if I get invited to a party I should expect to have to leave after 20 minutes? An invitation doesn’t mean you’re welcome?
@@germanhd1211 Well, 20 minutes, that's quite some time when you're playing frisbee. When it's a birthday party it'd be rude to kick someone out after 20 minutes! So it depends on what the invitation is based upon - but basically you must be prepared to be in it as long as the inviter may "tolerate" you/LOL!
it only works in this context, destroying someones expectation is morally corrupt in this case the consequences aren't meaningful but in other cases the consequences can be devastating. If you are doing your job would you argue that you shouldn't expect to be compensated? The context matters because morality can be bend to suit a narrative, you'll quickly realise that humans are willingly morally corrupt depending on the context alone.
@@adelMN2 Expect(ing) to be compensated? Well, that's why we have contracts ...