The Secret to Stopping Fear and Anxiety (That Actually Works) | Mel Robbins
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Learn the secret to stopping fear, anxiety, and panic attacks.
I'd tried tons of strategies to stop fear and none of them actually worked. I decided to create a new technique, combining the research-backed 5 Second Rule and the latest findings on the topics of fear and anxiety.
When nothing else worked for me, this technique did. It allowed me to beat fear, anxiety, panic attacks, and negative thoughts-and as I shared it with others, it worked for them too.
For the first time, I'm explaining it here.
You can learn even more about this simple yet highly effective 3-step strategy for stopping fear and anxiety in my new book, The 5 Second Rule: Transform Your Life, Work, and Confidence With Everyday Courage.
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Fear=Excitement. That is mind blowing. Never thought of it before.
Do people really believe this?
Dee Gee why wouldn't they!? this is fool proof!
+brad zatar Are you joking?
ofc not, why don't you believe it!?
+brad zatar bc it's a gimmick and it's not true. The chemicals released in your brain are different with fear or excitement. That's why they feel totally different. Anticipation of sex feels different than someone car jacking you. That's why you're not thinking "fight or flight" when you're a about to have sex. It's just sad that this many ppl are lost enough to believe this. It may help some ppl. But it's no solution. It's a psychological band aid basically.
Good stuff. Thank you! 😃
you are the best 💕
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Happy this wasn't a scam to get me to buy something. Thank you.
It may not be a scam but it does SUGGEST you buy her book "The 5 Second Rule: Transform Your Life, Work, and Confidence With Everyday Courage".
I watched this video a year ago and following Mel’s advice I lost my fear of travelling alone, i traveled and now live in a different part of the country and I’m so happy. Now I’m about to start my own business and I am experiencing that same fear as one year ago. Completely forgot about this video and it just popped up at the perfect time. Thank you so much for helping me in my journey to a new life. ❤️❤️❤️
Travelling alone is cool you learn to be really confident and live with your decisions character building exciting
Blucat. Youre not giving yourself credit for your ability to face your fears. Unless you were born into money., you seem to have been able to afford yourself a comfortable livin enough to travel. To get where you are w/o being a trust fund baby means fear at some time, was not an option.
DOLLAR SHOULD RISE
This is what I’m about to do! I would love to know how you used this to travel alone :)
i prefer to travel alone
Thank you madam
Very good content.
I was fearing to go to a new job and having to start over and relearn everything from what I was used to , until I saw this video. I’ve turned that fear into excitement ! I’m ready to start a new beginning. I’m ready to face something unfamiliar. Why be afraid brain? Be excited about this ! 😮🎉
Yessss🎉🎉🎉
😊❤
Same here. New job anxiety after a 23 year career where I had no fear lol.
me to
Starting over here. I had to relocate to my sons home. Now finding a new place to live. And paying more money. Be excited about this. 54321 let’s go
If you don't find a means of multiplying money, you will wake up one day to realise that the money you thought you had, has finished. Investment is key.
I agree with you mate. Investment is the key to sustaining your financial longevity. And not just any investment but an investment with guaranteed return.
"To earn more you are required to have a multiple diversified means of income", which is why Investment is an avenue of making more money once it's profitable.
Most failures and loss on Investment usually happens when you invest without proper guide and the analysis of the profit and risk percentage of the Investment.
@@kombuchafigo7701 So how do you get your proper guide and the analysis you mentioned? Because I have incurred huge losses while investing by myself
@@bandilempho1627 it's safe to have an investment manager who has vast knowledge about Investment, to make you profits from your Investment on your behalf while you monitor the Investment growth.
So True, Never thought of it llike that before,
Love you mel❤
I am tricking my brain by my brain. Oh poor brain! I am losing brain..
Erkhes Maddox lol. :-D
Erkhes Maddox lol 😁
Erkhes Maddox lol
Erkhes Maddox lol, u r so funny.
Hahahaha I'm going to say that to my self next time I have anxiety. That comment helped me control my thoughts.
I’m going to try this with driving 😆 , I’m fighting driving anxiety….. and I’m going to win this fight😘 thank you universe for being me here😘😘
Thank you very much
This actually worked thank you very much
I used to have a chronic fear of flying. Then I saw a slogan for a parachute school that said "Knowledge dispels fear". I applied this to flying, sat down and tried to learn everything I could about flying and aviation. Flying is now my greatest passion in life and I am training to be a pilot. Knowledge DOES dispel fear.
handcrafted30 Very great insight! THANKS.
That's actually pretty damn crazy. Hope your pilot training is going well
Thank you for this great quote!😍 Blessing from Taiwan! 😇
Did you have a fear of flying...or a fear of falling. Maybe by learning to fly you put your mind at ease about falling.
this is really inspirational. thank you for sharing :)
1. 5 second rule - countdown from 5 seconds 2. Anchor thought - create a contextual thought to keep you focused 3. Reframe thought from fear to excitement
hahahah
Thank you, I will try next time I m flying!!!
I like the "anchor thought" idea....Will implement it
I have lived a life full of fears. Tears are flowing in my eyes now.
I have been seen as clueless, empty-brian and stupid by people who seemed to respect me for what they knew about me, thanks to fear. I hope this would help me.
Same😭😪
Hope your tears are wiped away friend
Tears for fears..
This is so amazinggggg I really love eeet
OMG! I am literally crying because I just used your technique and it actually worked. Me and my mom we’re thinking that I was having panic attacks or developing anxiety but we didn’t know from what. I’ve been sick from school for nine days and I’ve been nervous about going back and I don’t know why and I found your video and I tried your technique and it’s a miracle. Thank you!
This is a good technique and use the anchor thought of coming home when going to a bad assignment!
Mel you’re so pretty!
Had anxiety for years, got to the point where it is so exausting to do everyday things. This is so good, one video that actually helps. Thank u Mel tons...genious stuff.
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Keep on practicing you might need a low grade med before it all gets better or there’s up and downs to panic and anxiety
@Christina Megan what nonsense.🤣🤣🤣
Try read the bible! Maby it helps u mentaly making u stronger
I can’t sit in a quiet car, cinema, classroom, just any quiet place because I get so anxious of my stomach making noises…sounds weird ik, but it has ruined so much for me and I’m so exhausted of it. Starting school soon and I just don’t want to feel the anxiety of my stomach making noises 24/7…
Thank you for the 5 second rule....it have literally changed my life. I have been using it for the past 6 months , testing it on things I have never been able to conquer and trying to make the rule fail. It has never.....never failed. I am in control on my life, I do things that I never even would have tried a year ago. I don’t procrastinate any more, I don’t say no to things I have never tried, I just forge ahead as if I have done them a million times. The sad part to this is I am 68 years old and it took me all this time to find out about the 5 second rule. Think what I could have achieved if I had known it at 25?? But nothing will stop me now...I’ll just need to make up for lost time. Again Thank You. You have made a difference in my life for the best. I now control my life not let other people or situations control it. You’re the Best!!
Thank you for this review! I'm glad to hear that it's working for you. I'm going to start implementing this in my life.
Remember, It’s never too late to do the right things. I’m glad you have made a difference in your life.
So glad for you! When God comes to take His children home, we will have eternity to do and enjoy ALL things we can't even imagine now. This is my anchor thought! We will even get to explore this Earth that we were born in! Thank You, my Father God!
Hi baby how are you doing now i hope you are really doing good you are awesome looking at you baby makes happy when I look at your picture it is beyond my imagination that a creature like you really exist like a rose you make the garden so beautiful You are a diamond to any man that have eyes to see goodness of a womanhood Baby am Ben easy going person very understandable Am a civil engineer and a contractor I work at so many places like Asia Europe and Africa I love art craft and I write music I like ideal people when I see your picture am impress I want a good woman that understand what real love is all about who will understand me and perfectly be for me So we can build our world strong enough to care for each other I want you to be mine and I hope to hear from you soonest thanks
Very good
Never in the HISTORY of Calming down, has ANYONE calmed down by being TOLD to Calm down.
RIGHT ON 👍
This isn't saying to 'calm down'. You should still feel shaky, sweaty, tense etc. But If you can find a reason to be excited instead of anxious, your mind will accept it because your body is already in that physical state.
But this one works she's the goat of calm relaxing and meditation
Once my dad and I were in Vietnam. These scooter taxi dudes were harassing us to tack a ride with them. I was a little pissed off and told him it wasn't going to happen. He started screaming " you calm down, you calm down "in a thick vietnamese accent. My dad and I started laughing, it was so ironic and filled with passionate comedy, that we ended up getting a ride with them. Nowadays it's a family joke between us that if either of us start getting testie we are reminded in vietnamese accent to " you calm down!".
D Holland I’m sorry but that statement was soo funny 😂😂😂 but true
wow you are one of the great self help gurus other than tony ,ferris and a few more who really want to help everyone Thanks
Thank you, great message.
Thank you!!!
A few months ago I had the epiphany that every time I was so scared to do something, for example driving is one, I have actually always survived! I now try to be thankful and acknowledge the moments each day that scare me and I survive, and I feel stronger after each challenge.
Yeah, fear keeps you alert and enables you to survive. One of the things you don't get frightened by is likely to be what will kill you, out of the blue. Healthy fear keeps you alive.
That's really powerful to read & thank you. I loved driving & 9 years ago, fear took over & and Satan stole my liberty by making me fearful of driving my car. I so want to overcome this. Maybe I'll get another car & create a new beginning combined with what has been advised in this post. Any positivity is welcome 🙏
Now I’m waiting to welcome alot of fears that would approach me.
Thanks for Sharing...❤
Thank you 👍
I'm excited to have a panic attack!
Lol!! This is great! 😍🤣
😄😄😄😄😁😁😁
So great..I’m with you..
😂😂😂🙌
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Felt an instant change in my brain after watching this. Thank you so much for this
NICE, THANK YOU SO MUCH.
The same when we have a toxic work environment and we get to stay!
Thank you so much! I managed a 2 hour flight without medications first time in my life with an anchor thought of landing. I am so grateful!
I just want to say I’m truly touched because I’ve never heard someone explain so descriptively and on point word for word it was perfect, I’m 21 and I never thought I’d hear a person explain anxiety the way she just did, this video gave me hope that I might actually be able to life a joyful life and not have anxiety consuming me 24/7 thank you so much for making the tine to make this video it means the world to me and I’m sure you’ve touched a lot of other people watching this. Thanks again and wish me luck!
🙏thanks
Feel the fear without oppose
im gonna try this with driving, i get so nervous and my heart rate gets up to 160 bpm which is crazy! but i always had that vision of going to my favorite places in town and be fully present and so grateful for this little ride. wish me luck
I used to feel the same few years ago but had made a lot of progress. You should watch some youtube videos: How to overcome the fear of driving. Good luck!
Hope everything worked out for you and all went well .
How are you doing, I'm currently afraid of driving right now. Don't know what exactly triggered it but I'm not exactly happy about it. I feel like it's affecting my everyday life.
@@natnatalie1517 I’m still trying to get better, thank you for asking! But the best strategies i found so far is to drive at off-peak hours since it will give you the freedom to drive with very few cars around. I also just found out that i have caffeine sensitivity which makes my symptoms and my anxiety so much worse when driving so i must avoid it at all cost. And i keep taking very short trips at least once a week as an “exposure therapy” and it actually boosts my confidence every time. I’m not sure if my fear is due to a past event, but what I’m sure about is my main fear of driving with cars around, i get very self conscious when i see how they’re illegally over-speeding while i’m driving just at the speed limit or a bit less and I get scared of making them mad because I’m driving “slow”. I know I’m doing everything right and i shouldn’t be too stressed out like that, maybe i need to be conscious of my negative self talk or my inner thoughts in general. I hope we will overcome it this year! Let me know for any updates, i would love to share our progress every now and then.
I can’t thank you enough. I was terrified of doing a speech in front of my colleagues yesterday and nothing was helping me. I felt completely revved up and afraid. It was horrible. I then listened to your advice and kept saying to myself that what I was feeling was excitement, not fear and that’s when I even started smiling as beforehand I was withdrawing and wanted to run away. I did really well in my speech. I kept on chatting and smiling with my colleagues beforehand so by the time I needed to present, I was nowhere near as revved up as I thought I was going to be. Thank you so much. ❤
Well done! :)
Awesome! Simple and effective! Love it!
Thank you Mel!!!
As a human living with anxiety/depression and several other issues, I've learned that I thrive and in a higher state of happiness when I have "something to look forward to." Even when I'm not thinking about that "something," I'm still in a generally better mood and can accomplish more. So this makes perfect sense to me.
True its with me too
Love listening to mel.she helps me so much.
I like how you said "as a human" like we're going to think you're an alien
@@i_exist1872 I guess I said that because I know that animals (of the furry kind) also experience anxiety.
@@kathykaura7219 This is very true for me as well.
Thank you Mel, even though this might sound strange I refrained my thoughts of fear into existement. My husband is having a liver biopsy soon which will finally determine what illness he suffers from - I have been searching for an answer for the last 5- 6 years. Instead of feeling fear I am excited about the access to doctors that are specialized in this field, I am also excited that there is no more guesswork on my part. Thank you for this process it is something that goes into my gratitude journal. ❤️
it works tnk you
Wonderfully explained Mel, Bless u
I'm 73 and I used to be fearless. Now, I fear everything, every situation.
What caused the change in both of you?
I wouldn't say you fear everything or certain type of thing. I think being in your 70s plus you paid your dues growing up. You did what your body was able to but now you're older and know your limits. That's why ppl retire is to live their best moments. Your not in your teens or even 40s anymore. I know the feeling. I know my limits my body or the law will let me get away with lol.
Are you listening to Fox News?
@@ogeo.8966 Prescribed drugs, sorry, medications. Benzodiazepines.
@@suziegriffith ?????????
A freaking amazing break through! Thank you forever and beyond 😄😀
This is brilliant.
Thank you so much!
I appreciate you Mel. You're bringing so much good into the world. You enrich the lives of people who you interact with. I hope that your heart is fulfilled because you are worthy of all the wonderful things life has to offer.
I totally agree with you. She is my idol
Thanks!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I have been teaching the excitement/fear concept for years and using it myself and got a kick hearing you say it, I am now going to start incorporating the anchor thoughts, I see that as a powerful combo to implement with your 5-second rule, The book is great
@Hello there, how are you doing this blessed day?
Helps a lot❤
I learned this is my public speech class years ago and my life (for real) never been the same! This REALLY works! Thank you Mel for this video
I know all too well what it's like to be emotionally paralyzed by fear. As suggested here I also found that reframing my fear into something positive helped me to completely transform my life. Now I'm able to face fearful situations without nearly as much trepidation. Fantastic video.
Despite the control over your mind, with a strong body and good coordination you can raise the tolerance for the well-aware state. It's not that you won't be afraid of a rollercoaster anymore, if you were before. But with a stronger body it's much less of an effort to keep tension. Less effort means less stress for your brain and you wont feel as frightened. If your body gets used to a state of agitation the signal to your brain might be so weak that it get's ignored as long as you don't bother too much.
I'm fighting fear too
@@MrHaggyy thank you
Thank you so much for this, Mel! I love thinking about my fear as excitement, just a mental reframe!!
This helped me so much ! Thanks Mel!!!!!!
❤❤❤❤ LOVED THIS.. THANK YOU MEL !!!!!
She's so right. Fear can be immobilizing.
Thanks Mel ... You are great What a smart lady,,you are incredible and what you are telling us makes complete sense,,,thank you so much for sharing this info
My principal told me the same thing.... Gonna follow this trick from today ❤
Even thinking about fear becomes painful...
This is such a simple and effective formula. I especially love the visualizing your anchor thought and the breathing 5-4-3-2-1 countdown. I do notice a difference in my reaction to counting back and counting forward believe it or not. It's like my awareness shifts from inside my mind to all around me.
At first I have fear on leaving comments on KZhead videos but after I watched this I am now excited to leave comments! Thank you
I wish my fears were this little, no offense in glad for you tho
Thanks a lot... 👍❤️
Thanks ❤
I have been married 10 years this June. 2022. I have 2 kids and have struggled with this for so long. My husband sent me your link and I have such a good feeling now! Thank you soooooo much for this advice! Thank u for giving ME a chance to get my life back! Much live from Missouri! ❤️
Mel, I have anxiety myself and this actually helped me a lot... Thank you so much! #5Secondrule
Thank you SO MUCH ❤
Thank you
Thanks for your amazing informative podcast.
Thank you so much for sharing this invaluable technique!
Very useful practically.
Yes!
I find this video while having severe anxiety attack few times since morning but this technique really calm down myself. Thank you very much for guidance 🙏
Me too...my panic attack will happened during morning...
well you just mentioned anxiety in your comment, Sorry for replying but i want to explain something very important about anxiety, As you may have faced or experienced so many times that a fear which seemed to happen to you but that never happened and never existed. It only waisted your time and just it kept your brain constantly thinking and picturing the worse seen which was gong to be existed. Like you had some problems with one of your close friend and you were thinking that my friend can reject or quit me. But that never happened. So never over think or pre-think let the things come the way they are. Thank you
May I ask what your anchor though is for panic attacks?
I don't know where I have been these past few years and that I just bumped into this video. I am not the type of person who will put effort into putting up a comment but I want to put out a huge shout-out to Mel (wherever you are now) that you ROCK! This really works and I hope people take a deep dive and really understand what you are sharing. This is life-changing! Thank you so much Mel and more blessings to you!
Thankyou so much ma'am for the information ❤.
Thank you for your help with Overcomeing My fear 🎉🎉🎉
First video in a long time I have found on youtube that actually says something new about fear and anxiety. This insight that fear and excitement are essentially the same thing and how to covert fear to exitement is both simple, useful and deep.
Thanks great video. I can relate to something’s. But driving on freeway I still can’t do. 🤨😕
Anthony Robbins tought me these techniques in his Personal Power program. It works great.
Life changing advice, thank you so much for putting your video and expertise out there for those of us who really, really needed this to understand more about why we are the way we are. You are a beautiful person for doing so. Thank you again.
Mel, I just want to say thank you for all of the info you put out on youtube, I really appreciate it. 🥰 x
Thank You for all the help you giving!! Greetings from germany .. Love you..
Im very excited to start this... im all alone and lights and water are due to cut off soon ( little more than a week and still no job) so its a big one 😂 but here i go... will report back. Love you Loads ❤❤❤❤
Love this.. This channel deserve millions subs. Thank you for sharing this I hope the blessing always on you Mrs Robbins :)
Fear is so real to me it has literally destroyed me
Same …
Tony, I have dealt with social fear most of my life. I have found that using my body, AKA, exercise and hard physical work help to calm me down. Also , right now I am working with a hypnotherapist on creating positive outcome images in my mind. Good luck,,, I feel that we are here to learn lessons and to grow and become better people,, AKA, learning to love oneself and others as well. Bill
Trying to save myself
@@billp4380 b.s. I'v been having this for 30 year now. Together with depression. It's the point in the same part of the brain that is not right. You can love all you want to, it will not help you one bit when you have this. And I've been living with it for 30 years. I've had every therapy and treatment known to man. And it didn t help me one bit. Just trying to life with it.
It gets better. My severe panic attacks went away completely.
Your a genius baby
Thank you very much Mel Robinson. I subscribe you now
Oh, boy, I am so excited for the Coronavirus pandemic!
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Hecc?
Bruce Wayne ......😂😂😂
Me too
Thank you so much,I will use this during my interview
I have a lot of fear omg!!!!
It really helps❤
OMG...That Anchor thought was the same trick I used as my own hack without getting advice from others. Here I found U teaching that trick. M excited.
what anchor thoughts do you use? Excitement?
Mark van Dalen When I played 360 for the first time before buying ticket I recalled God and went to play.While I was playing at the very time I had so much fun and felt like I did it.So whenever I find Something fearful I recalled the moment of 360 and it turns into excitement...In this way I made my Bunge Jump exciting...Many more things to come in my life n m gonna hack it by my above mentioned trick...U can have your own excting story that can be used as ur own trick fren.
that is amazing man! Thank you for sharing! So you count backwards from 5 to 1, think about excitement and then you DO IT?