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@theschooloflifetv5 жыл бұрын
The School of Life thank you for being here when I need you :)
@dazzawesome5 жыл бұрын
The School of Life To me I feel that love is hard to find.
@asielmilian385 жыл бұрын
We need translation to Arabic
@baselalshikh49185 жыл бұрын
The School of Life I have also found it is easier to forgive when you make the effort to understand. So many of us tend to believe (incorrectly) that others purposely set out to hurt us, when actually they are just trying to get their needs met as well and may not always recognize they don’t choose the best action. One important thing to note, however, is that my ability to look at others “with love” to understand them better came about as a result of my ability to do this with myself. Tough to do as I had to rid myself of the unnecessary toxic shame I carried from a lifetime of feeling devalued for not being perfect. But the hard work I did has definitely paid off in not only having more serenity in my own life, but being able to connect with other people better because I judge less and understand more. BTW....LOVE your videos!
@searchforserenity80585 жыл бұрын
@markj6700 Love is a verb rather than a noun. It is something we do rather than something we find
@laricasims1245 жыл бұрын
You can be loving enough to understand the motive behind someone's dysfunctional behavior towards you and at the same time set boundaries and not accept to be treated in this dysfunctional or harsh manner.After a while you need to realize that you cannot choose what happens to you in life,but you are always responsible of what you make of it (how you respond to it).Holding people responsible for their unpleasant behavior towards you and refusing to be their emotional scratch post/doormat will be uncomfortable at first,but it is a radical act of self love and a huge step towards honoring your self growth.
@jaemaxx4 жыл бұрын
I’ve discontinued some friendships after patterns of behaviour that I just couldn’t really deal with. While I understand the many mitigating factors, I didn’t feel it was my job to be someone’s personal scratch post. I think emotional hygiene is a thing.
@gent89405 жыл бұрын
@Genevieve Tran I applaud your strength. I hope someday I have the same. Working on it.
@muppetallica5 жыл бұрын
I have PTSD from a violent upbringing (42 now). I walked away with the help of others at the age of 15. Never looked back. To me, life is empathy, which explains why I'm a likeable guy to many. To the monsters who were my parents? Well, like all who hurt me, I just let the universe serve up it's own poetic justice.
@plathrop77375 жыл бұрын
@@plathrop7737 I applaud your strength, as well. It's a harsh Club quite a few of us seem to belong to. Glad to see you're one of the survivors with a healthy attitude.
@muppetallica5 жыл бұрын
Good. By being their scratch post, you also allow them to continue their dysfunctional behavior.
@TheGerogero5 жыл бұрын
I'm totally with you on this.
@blackcoffee94705 жыл бұрын
Loving other people is all about making ourselves vulnerable.
@unleashingpotential-psycho94335 жыл бұрын
In this video they're not talking about how you should treat sinners, they are just explaining an absolute truth! If someone is a guilty murderer we should absolutely put him in jail so that he doesn't kill more people. All this video is trying to do is to widen our perspectives and to help us see things as they are.
@yacineaouimeur5 жыл бұрын
But if we don't love people, we'll be very sad people
@Lia-xx4od5 жыл бұрын
Hard thing to do Ryan. We are afraid to be judged and close ourselves of too much. As my favorite thinker Alan Watts says, "I love you" should be said to more people and more often!
@noahdanielg5 жыл бұрын
You are stronger with love because you see the truth, the reality.
@yacine_scherzo5 жыл бұрын
Maybe you are right, you first have to make yourself vulnerable to your own flaws to grow and become a stronger person
@musicformed5 жыл бұрын
Summary: * 2:00 *Imagination* _Use your imagination to picture why someone might have done a regrettable deed and yet could remain a fitting target for a degree of understanding and sympathy - perhaps they got very frightened or were under pressure of extreme anxiety and despair._ * 3:09 *The child within* _Remember the child within them - our wrong doer may be grown, but their actions will always be connected up with their early years - and sympathize with the angry confused infant lurking inside._ * 4:24 *Patience* _Take your time and remain serene in the face of obviously unimpressive behaviour._ * 4:50 *Redeeming features* _Interpret everyone as having strengths alongside their obvious weaknesses - almost everything on the negative side of a ledger could be connected up with something on the positive._ * 5:52 *We are sinners too* _Be aware that we are also deeply imperfect and, at points, quite plainly mad - the enemy of generosity is the sense that we might be beyond fault._ * 6:22 *Conclusion* - _There is no such thing as a bad person - there is pain, anxiety, and suffering that have coalesced into unfortunate action._ - _This isn't merely an exercise of being nice, but getting to the truth of things._
@fertheodoro3 жыл бұрын
People aren’t bad, they are simply damaged from past tragedies. Suspend judgement and recognize that you would be just like them if you grew up as they did. Recognizing this truth makes understanding, forgiveness and loving others much easier.
@HeatleyBros5 жыл бұрын
Some people actually _are_ just nasty and by their own volition, though.
@RoninCatholic5 жыл бұрын
Okay this is absolutely true but how about when their tragedies actually transform them into these hateful persons or when they push you to your limits while you just try help them is this okay? They should also manage their lives and let others help and not just turn their anger on us.
@lucaciel64035 жыл бұрын
Nathan Is a Mouse what do you by « their own volition » ? There is no volition without causes is there ?
@TeTeOUgro5 жыл бұрын
Corvos 26 Corvos 26 You mean that even if we suffered very much there is no excuse to become a bad person ? That we always have the choice ?
@TeTeOUgro5 жыл бұрын
Exactly. Thank you.
@margarethamaartje37165 жыл бұрын
I think I've got a good handle on the love thing.
@thejesuschrist5 жыл бұрын
If you say JESUS backward, it sounds like SAUSAGE.
@doctordilanka5 жыл бұрын
Your followers could use a bit more of your knowledge. Too bad so many of your churches are corrupted by political agendas.
@flyings.monster68455 жыл бұрын
Shut up Jesus *Peter Griffin voice*
@cvilla56315 жыл бұрын
Happy Birthday.. Sorry I am late
@totalme3025 жыл бұрын
I'm not impressed, do it again.
@erikphillips74865 жыл бұрын
Condemning people will make you resentful and fill you with hate. Sometimes it's perfectly justified. My dad was physically and emotionally abusive. I hated him for smacking my mother, me, and my younger brother around. I hated him with every fiber of my body. It was his childhood and strict religious upbringing that was his eventual downfall. I am in a much better place and so is my mom. It made me an avoidant person but if I didn't recognize that in my father, I'd never be able to work on myself.
@therock3435 жыл бұрын
How horrible these people have parent like that.
@l-lraito28635 жыл бұрын
@@l-lraito2863 but this is truth. There are some parents, who just want their peace of mind. They make their kids priorities on second or third option.
@sanaSana-bv4jx5 жыл бұрын
Religious? That guy was a dirty, rotten, violent animal with no sense of morality. I hope his little religious friends made fun of him.
@sarah184975 жыл бұрын
sarah18497 This is exactly how I feel. Forgiveness is for suckers, isn’t it?
@ryancalcaterra49465 жыл бұрын
@@ryancalcaterra4946Lol I ain't no sucker. It's more about letting go, and using that anger to fuel you to better yourself rather than letting it eat away at you. When you let it fester it turns to bitterness.
@therock3435 жыл бұрын
I've definitely noticed that when dealing with adults with anger issues, the best thing that works for me is to treat them like a child. Try to calmly calm them down by petting their head or arm, letting them know it's okay instead of arguing. The mentality of "this is simply a child having a tantrum" really works for me. Because of this mentality, I don't get scared of anger or shouting anymore, I don't try to argue and make the situation worse, I just pity it. Also, the mentality of "They are trying to make me angry" works too because I keep that in mind I really DON'T want to get angry. In the end, anger is just another way of showing that you are scared.
@user-mn3oe4pp2y5 жыл бұрын
I'm working on not reacting to people's provocations
@senzizwane86355 жыл бұрын
Sounds good. However, don't forget to check that you haven't maybe overstepped their boundary or mistreated them somehow. Sometimes people get angry because other people aren't listening to them. Anger is a valid emotion, and expressing it without attacking is vital. It doesn't justify poor behaviour of course, but sometimes, we need to get better at listening to angry people, and perhaps better at hearing them when they ask us quietly to stop doing something, and not dismiss them. We have a part to play in every conflict. Your approach does sound good though, as long as you try to understand them as well.
@simeon545 жыл бұрын
Careful, make sure to take into account who you are dealing with. Depending on the individuals culture, treating them as children may be viewed as an hostile act.
@michaelpettersson49194 жыл бұрын
@@senzizwane8635 The entire western world seem to behave like that right now and we are on our way towards a demographic cliff for it. Not reacting to provocations can be a suicidal behavior.
@michaelpettersson49194 жыл бұрын
@@michaelpettersson4919 Reacting to people's negative emotions is suicidal. We can't kill fire with fire but we can kill the flames with water or sand.
@senzizwane86354 жыл бұрын
Empathy is literally the key to life ... great video
@VicDamoneJr825 жыл бұрын
I might argue Understanding the truth is a good candidate of such a thing called "a key of life". Empathy only gets us so far in imagining an experience, understanding implies much much more. It's important also through empathy not to feel or take on the feelings of others but to understand them
@deadislander5 жыл бұрын
it's not.
@ranchmang5 жыл бұрын
Love it when People use "literally" when its actually a metaphor ^^
@simon_70775 жыл бұрын
@@deadislander if we assume that with understanding or empathy (or any word to be the key to life) that we use it in life, then 'wisdom' trumps both of those words.
@winterworld5 жыл бұрын
Please stop using the word literally if you don't understand what it means.
@wrongthinker44755 жыл бұрын
Oh, love is such a wonderful feeling. It's a feeling of letting it all go. You've got to be vulnerable. You have to, at times, make various sacrifices for one another, but you do it gladly, not holding any grudge or angst in your heart. Above all, it's a feeling of absolute bliss. It's a feeling of warmth at the edge of the cold, dark night.
@ahmedmubashir72315 жыл бұрын
It is completeness, wholeness and yes perfection. It's all about knowing that you don't know the answers to everything and yet you have no fear in not knowing. You love and you love and it never runs dry nor gets tired. It's because you are empty and yet so full, you just live.
@jJust_NO_5 жыл бұрын
If you find the right person it can be like that.
@tracesprite60783 жыл бұрын
Moral of the story is treat people like children. Got it.
@tree2juan0305 жыл бұрын
Lol and people hated you for obvious reason. People doesn't want to treat like a child
@l-lraito28635 жыл бұрын
No, the moral is to behave like a parent.
@arshyadean82745 жыл бұрын
arshya peirov that's better... Sorta
@joyitadarling58155 жыл бұрын
Oh my gosh, I feel surrounded by kids. Some are harder to handle than others.😂😂😂 lol
@69LOLIN5 жыл бұрын
@@l-lraito2863 it was a joke ya dork
@trashbeast4 жыл бұрын
I agree BUT the fact that someone had a rough childhood, or is struggling with anxiety or something else, doesn't give them the right to continuously hurt others. For example, I've been bullied as a kid, therefore, if I turned into a bully myself, you could say that there is an explanation for that and I should be understood and not judged. Still, the beauty of good (for the lack of a better word) people and adults in general is that they are able to fight their own demons and come out the other side stronger and more empathetic towards others who are struggling, instead of being more likely to put others down. Unlike children, who can't grasp how things that happen to them affect their being, adults are self-conscious enough to work out why they're behaving in the way they are, and then try to solve the problem for the benefit of all. This video made some excellent points, but it could also somewhat be used as a way to show how we're not responsible for our actions and words, and that we're not in control of ourselves in adulthood. That, in my opinion, is wrong.
@SanyaTheShe5 жыл бұрын
Just think of it before judging some one it will make you gentle and reduce rage in heart
@pradeepkharta59535 жыл бұрын
@@pradeepkharta5953 I don't judge people, nor do I have rage in my heart. Going back to my bullying example, I forgave everyone because I understand that we all make mistakes. My point is that we also all know the difference between good and bad, and therefore shouldn't let ourselves act however we want simply because we have negative and hurtful experiences lurking in our pasts.
@SanyaTheShe5 жыл бұрын
@@SanyaTheShe i also suffered the same bullying but does it mean i should burn my heart from hate anger and frustration Move on and life will be more beautiful what you say .
@pradeepkharta59535 жыл бұрын
@@pradeepkharta5953 I think you're failing to understand what I'm saying here. I have moved on, that's the point of my comment. People can forgive and cleanse themselves from anger and become better, and not use that as an excuse to keep up the vicious circle of treating others poorly. We are on the same side here, I basically agree with you.
@SanyaTheShe5 жыл бұрын
@@SanyaTheShe then what else can be done do you have an idea
@pradeepkharta59535 жыл бұрын
“You love others because most of the time, you love yourself.”
@MikhaelAhava5 жыл бұрын
Ayyyy majure green flag here :)))) Load yourself up with so much selflove you can start throwing it around like candy out of a pinata! accept the flow of candy never runs out and you get the decide who receives the sugary goods :3
@MrPartyplopper Жыл бұрын
Yes, but you can't just pick someone and have a relashionship with that person just because you have empathy towards them. You also have needs that needs to be met. Love is unconditionnal, relashionship isn't.
@thisisntallowed95605 жыл бұрын
The more I learn about people the more I love my dogs.
@pulsey20015 жыл бұрын
iTony lol sounds like a recipe for clinical depression
@peterturner3455 жыл бұрын
I agree.. If you want a friend..get a dog..
@michaelosullivan54334 жыл бұрын
I have this on a picture on my wall 🤣
@pamcoulter63413 жыл бұрын
I knew of unrequited love before any other love..
@itsaboutwhatsfair15325 жыл бұрын
I'm sorry... It is the same for me. And, honestly, I wouldn't wish that for anyone.
@Feber20015 жыл бұрын
The School of life has a beautiful video on that. "In praise of unrequited love"
@vothuclinh5 жыл бұрын
Lil Wayne's time to shine
@legorocks995 жыл бұрын
legorocks99Gaming this made me smile.
@astoldbynickgerr5 жыл бұрын
Hahahaha Comedy gold
@maina.wambui5 жыл бұрын
Thanks for this laugh
@emilyncrabbe36815 жыл бұрын
This was my immediate thought when I saw the title
@stephenmoore16065 жыл бұрын
Yesssss 😂😂😂😂😂
@Phay7425 жыл бұрын
I don't want to love everyone, i don't have enough lifetime for a psychoanalysis for every people i find bad.
@Arhod15 жыл бұрын
You dont have to judge people not to let them push you around.
@hteur15 жыл бұрын
@@hteur1 I judge people and I don't care about being "moral" or "good", except for my family. I think not judging makes you becoming passiv.
@Arhod15 жыл бұрын
I remember in my senior year of high school, this was exactly my thought process on people. I would rarely ever get mad at people because I was able to analyze why they could have such flaws. After I went through major peak of depression for a whole year, all of that faded away and I became too cynical. I only saw the bad in everyone and even if I was still able to analyze why someone was "bad," I only worked it in my favor to justify why I still would get angry or upset with them. I blamed them rather than what I initially did in HS where I knew ultimately they were a product of some sort of mistreatment that they had no control over. Now after that peak of depression, I'm slowly trying to regain that mentality. This video just reminded me of how much I should work on it. Thanks!
@LeCyanMan5 жыл бұрын
well i just found out that i'm looking at everyone through the eyes of love...and let me tell you something: they treat you like sh*t when you do that.
@asena43965 жыл бұрын
They sure fucking do
@moralezfamily30475 жыл бұрын
yes. agree. and same case is with me and over the past years i have learnt one thing that do good with the right person and don't expect anything back.
@sanaSana-bv4jx5 жыл бұрын
🤣🤣
@pierres.48945 жыл бұрын
You refute yourself. You would not characterize their reaction as such if you were serious.
@TheGerogero5 жыл бұрын
True but mother Teresa once said. " I have found the paradox that if u love until it hurts, there can be no more hurt, only more love" The right path is always the difficult one to follow and has the most obstacles. Those who take the easy way out will face a boulder later on. Be the lone wolf, ur behaviour represents u. Their behaviour represents them. Good luck
@jocomola3045 жыл бұрын
Thank you Alain, for blessing us with your presence. I met this beautiful soul with many problems. I saw his inner child so early on, it's hard to let him go. I see past his addiction and struggles, I feel like I can always be there, somewhere, for him. Even when he says he isn't worth anyone's time. How can you not love a man who goes to bed thinking of his parents well being? A man who loves children, a man volunteering to be cradled to sleep like a kid when he finds the chance to, a man who controls his younger brother's breathing when he's asleep in the night? Some people struggle highly with the fact that life turned them into adults. They just want to crawl back to their earliest times, away from everything bad. We all want a warm embrace, a wing to be covered by. I find this compassion within me since the first times I heard this way of thinking. I love him. I love people like these. May God/life put such pure and childlike souls on our path and help us show them a better world than what seems to be there is.
@SueRibelle5 жыл бұрын
💜💜
@veluprabhakar73355 жыл бұрын
To love is to value. To love is understand the essentials of human character and judge a person if they process quality of character or not. It is not to let people get away with dishonesty, laziness, stealing, hypocrisy or evil. You got it all wong.
@mughat5 жыл бұрын
You gave words to my thoughts
@James_Philip9155 жыл бұрын
To love is to accept being hurt and accepting nothing in return.
@lovemecom38325 жыл бұрын
I think the way you wrote this is misleading. i think i know what you mean. To love is to be willing to get hurt and to, also, even, *expect* nothing in return
@Nick19219453 жыл бұрын
If you want to know how to love first you must know what love is. The best description of love that I know says that: Love is patient and kind, it does not envy or boast, it is not prideful and it doesn't dishonor others. It is not self seeking (selfish) nor is it easily angered. It keeps no records of wrong doings(forgives) it does not delight in evil or someone's misery but it rejoices with the truth, it always hopes, it always trust, always protects and perseveres. Source: 1 Corinthians 13: 4 - 7 Too many people mistake love for a strong feeling of infatuation and idolism. Love is much more than that. It is much deeper and meaningful than the shallow definition it is given in tv shows, movies, celebrity life and high school relationships. Love takes time and it takes the maturity of two people willing to make their relationship meaningful and not just some past mistake or casual hookup every now and then.
@simonem.73855 жыл бұрын
Simone M. A .
@monicafaustino40025 жыл бұрын
Apart from the tiny typos.. I'll go with that Bible quote. I was about to criticise the entire video for being superficial and idealistic (I'm just crawling away from a partner who I knew had a terribly sad childhood.. But then so had I..-difference being- he is available totally untrustworthy cheating liar; I am an altruistic empath with an honesty obsession- none of which is covered in this video) til I hit your comment. Thank you. I'm an atheist but I might dig out Corinthians later. Seems someone had a good handle on 'LOVE' back in the day... ☮️
@sliewood5 жыл бұрын
Interesting, thanks
@ememmanuelenendu37065 жыл бұрын
@@sliewood Sorry about the typos haha
@simonem.73855 жыл бұрын
@@simonem.7385 I'm guessing that love does NOT delight in evil.... etc?? Wasn't dissing your grammar! I think I might beautifully stitch this whole quote for a frame. ☮️
@sliewood5 жыл бұрын
All this sounds like an invitation for empaths to keep putting up with narcissists. Sometimes we need to be more realistic, dont we?
@zhanetab98075 жыл бұрын
Zhaneta B that’s not true. What they are saying is that when you see it from a place of compassion and empathy, you will understand the reason why people do the things they do. They are not saying stay with someone who ill treats you, they are saying don’t take anything anyone does personally. It has nothing to do with you. When you truly understand this, you won’t be as offended by what people do anymore and you tend to move on from heartbreak quicker because you know that your value isn’t dependent on what people say or do to you. When you do this, you can love freely without fear. Cause if someone takes your love for granted and ill treats you, you forgive them easily and move on without the baggage and pain. I think you misunderstood what they are really trying to say.
@drknow19975 жыл бұрын
Tamika Brewster yeah tell that to all the dictators that have rape n murdered unicorns people including children it's because they are damaged yea let's show them more love
@Detailsmatter1235 жыл бұрын
Blackman and Robin smh that totally went over your head. I don’t have to tell them anything. You are not giving love, you are seeing it through the eyes of love. So what’s better, let’s look at life through the eyes of hate and consume ourselves for no good reason. That making any sense?
@drknow19975 жыл бұрын
Tamika Brewster no it didn't bro.. just hear me out you don't have to look at the world in a negative light like the first commenter said we have to be realistic u can't make excuses for every bad person yes some people make mistakes because they are misguarded or something bad happened in the past yes but, the fact is some people are horrible and lack no empty human history will show u this.. let us not forget that the only reason we have empathy morals is because of the prefrontal cortex the newest part of the brain in mammals so the ability n extent to which one can empathize differs from one individual to the next and morals are totally man made and with all of that people still murder and kill without remorse yes love is key but my problem with this video is it over generalize humans and the complexities if I wanna go deep into it I can write forever but the fact is some people are good some are evil that's life for you yes don't judge people through tiny lenses and people should be given a chance to prove who they really are but putting things d way d video does over simplified it. That is one thing the elites understand that's why they make weapons have armies to protect each themselves I don't support this n I would like everyone to love and leave in peace but it's impossible because people are greedy.. look what happened to the native Americans for example they showed kindness to the visitors only to be murdered and have their land stolen from them , now try and justify those actions with this video ..
@Detailsmatter1235 жыл бұрын
Agreed
@user-gy7bg1rv6o5 жыл бұрын
This video made me realise how increasingly "hard" I've become over the years ...I hope 2019 will be a love filled year for us all ..where we learn to have more sympathy and patience with others. Thank you for the message !
@ellacronje23205 жыл бұрын
how did that go
@ineedamilkshake10 ай бұрын
Damn that didn't age well
@aehe-vn1wl10 ай бұрын
THIS IS SO PROFOUND!!!!! I am lost for words...........................this channel should be required watching/reading at schools, universities and throughout life and business!!!! Once again one of the best (and maybe the most important lessons in life) has been strung together in few sentences with absolute clarity!!!!!! TOTAL WISDOM!!!
@Xyz19781i5 жыл бұрын
Whenever I'm having a problem examining life and other people, a School of Life Video appears to help me. Thank you and keep up the great work!
@MrMusicman4565 жыл бұрын
There are many books and psychological explanations in the terms of doing love right and not judging others. If you love yourself and seeking the dust of positivity in the storm of negativity, you're going to surround yourself with similar. We're far from flawless, each one of us. Temptations push us to limits. Even if it hurts to love someone, you can react. But don't get caught up in ideal beliefs about yourself, or the person you love. That's how you mess and fall emotionally. Where there is vulnerability and honesty, there is love and affection. Other then lies, pretending and false will. People filled with those personalities are actually harmful.
@davida72754 жыл бұрын
There are indeed monsters. On one hand I find the video's reasoning naive and self-deceptive. On the other hand I agree on the need to go deeper on people´s motivations and circumstances.
@tommygarcia5685 жыл бұрын
I was looking for that comment! There are definitely monsters out there. But I agree with what you're saying.
@helena.n40642 жыл бұрын
I just learned this a week ago in social psychology class about the power of situation
@faz36623 жыл бұрын
Rules I basically already know and live by I’m so happy someone has expressed this so intellectually
@tashblatcher28465 жыл бұрын
his voice is so soothing! i need to try that kinda voice in my videos HAHAHA
@HengHuiMei5 жыл бұрын
This is one of my favourite videos...everyone must watch this
@yacineaouimeur5 жыл бұрын
Tbh constantly understanding others is a pretty thankless job especially because most of the time is a one-sided road, and then people quickly understand that they are being understood and forgiven and happily settling on your all-loving neck. I truly believe that empathy and compassion are the saviours of the world but only if it's mutual
@PopkornStar5 жыл бұрын
It almost goes without saying, but I would only add that viewing others through the lenses of Love does not mean you have to subject yourself to any amounts of undue torture and pain to love someone else. You can be understanding, insightful, and guiding, while also maintaining an appropriate distance if the other is toxic or abusive. ❤️
@michellerivera8975 жыл бұрын
I appreciate the fine line of language used in this script. Seeing through the eyes of love doesn't mean allowing toxic relationships to continue; finding explanation and truth for why a person's actions are what they are is helpful - in determining whether or not you can remain in contact with that person and still maintain your own safety and health. Understanding why a dog is rabid does not immediately imply that you may not euthanize the dog. At the same time, this sort of evaluation is more useful because of how hard it is: you have to take the time to think about it. Snap judgment is usually flawed. Even when it's about yourself! Well done.
@Beryllahawk5 жыл бұрын
Loving those who hurt me is something I've been practicing a while, especially as a KZheadr.. It's going to take more time for me. :-)
@CarolynsRVLife5 жыл бұрын
How do you do that when they methaphorically speaking always sing: " - Bully bully! Bully bully!"? I´m sorry I should never have watched Full Metal Jacket.
@renehenriksen17353 жыл бұрын
Your videos always make sense to me. Thanks for this one.
@clickprofileimage5 жыл бұрын
I would like to express my gratitude for this channel. 💜💜
@veluprabhakar73355 жыл бұрын
A great proposal. I would like to be like that, but most of the time I can't. I like to be around ppl, but when I catch some of their flaws. I don't want to see them anymore!
@69LOLIN5 жыл бұрын
Great visual work in this one! Loved it!
@AfraMusikFlamenco5 жыл бұрын
That is very tricky though, as many manipulative people can also appear charming, making us think that they have their good moments and making it more difficult to maintain a distance or get out of that situation. I agree that we should not immediately jump to conclusions about people, but there is value in moderation - showing love and being patient, while also making sure we establish our boundaries and stand up for ourselves.
@JJ-jh6dk Жыл бұрын
Very Good video! Really enjoyed it. The stamina necessary for love is much greater than we think. Solitary practice of love can lead to absolute depression if it is never reciprocated. 🙈🙈
@antonieklopper23885 жыл бұрын
Life is so much more beautiful when see thru the eyes of love.
@GarrickPinon2 жыл бұрын
This is definitely one of my favourite videos.
@morematcha3 жыл бұрын
Great work! The visual work here is stunning!
@insidethefire68405 жыл бұрын
This is exactly what I needed right now.
@Spreadthep0sitive5 жыл бұрын
These videos are as great a gift to humanity as all the art of the Italian Renaissance, the philosophy of ancient Greece and the Music of the Germans , future generations will thank you for this
@hamzasaleem38975 жыл бұрын
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@James_Philip9155 жыл бұрын
The highest form of wisdom is kindness.
@---yx7ti5 жыл бұрын
The visuals help me understand with more certainty, I like the originality of the images
@deagoldylocks83373 жыл бұрын
This approach applies to most, but definitely not all people. Trying this approach towards those with certain pathological personality disorders would needlessly open one’s self up to endless abuse. I wish this channel would amend this video to make this important distinction.
@d.nakamura95795 жыл бұрын
The most satisfying voice I've ever heard. Subscribed.
@escapadechannel83795 жыл бұрын
These are some of the most awear and mindful videos I've seen on this sight.
@supersaintshaun5 жыл бұрын
Talking about love: I LOVE these animations!
@ZweiZombies5 жыл бұрын
Hey, this is pretty much exactly what I try to do with people. I hate seeing people as just bad people and always rationalize why they did what they did
@lordzombieboy Жыл бұрын
I have became a love thinker over the past year ❤️
@Twyfall5 жыл бұрын
Beautiful video. Thank you.
@kathykaura72195 жыл бұрын
People just need time, to know they can be who they are, so show their core and be accepted. It took me 6 years of growing and i was able to show myself to my fiance. Give people a honest chance to grow.
@Zarghami5 жыл бұрын
Great video! Beautiful editing!
@haimause97975 жыл бұрын
Read Erich Fromm’s Art of Loving. 👍🤙🏻
@janroker5 жыл бұрын
Really great book!
@extriolol5 жыл бұрын
I was about to start with it today,thank you
@husseinkleit59415 жыл бұрын
Thank you
@dazzawesome5 жыл бұрын
I'd like to think of this not just as a guide on how to love others, but how to love ourselves too.
@carlaramos38685 жыл бұрын
Excellent content 👌
@trinachakraborty13305 жыл бұрын
Watching this so i can love my mother better ...relized that i've been empathyc with everyone but her ...
@assia10685 жыл бұрын
The school of life videos Are terrific. They give me a lot To think about, but are very difficult for simple comments
@margarethakloots5287 Жыл бұрын
Completely understand what the point here is. Just begs the question at what point or criteria should adults be held responsible for their actions or is it never?
@dyhppyx5 жыл бұрын
Always. You can have empathy for a scum that had a rough childhood but you can't strip him of his moral choices.
@James_Philip9155 жыл бұрын
After losing my dad a few months ago, very unexpectedly, maybe something from these life lessons will teach me how to cope better.. Maybe work my way into feeling happy again, and learning how to live life again, letalone love properly, again. It's difficult, I have MS as well and I'm still learning and navigating.
@Azuraion5 жыл бұрын
Boy: _Dad, I have a girlfriend._ Dad: _Congratulations._ Girl: _Daddy, I have a boy friend._ Dad: *picks up axe* Cupid: _Am I a joke to you?_
@poweroffriendship2.05 жыл бұрын
Isnt funny
@hugomartinez23875 жыл бұрын
Friendship True.
@asielmilian385 жыл бұрын
@@asielmilian38 Fake :-)
@hugomartinez23875 жыл бұрын
There does seem to be a bit of a double standard there. You forgot the scenarios of the boy announcing his boyfriend, and the girl announcing her girlfriend.
@natashamudford40115 жыл бұрын
Idk.
@MikhaelAhava5 жыл бұрын
I LOVE this.
@daynelawless5 жыл бұрын
This video, the philosophy behind this logic. I cannot believe this. I've felt alone in this way of thinking my entire life. To the point of literal psychosis in fear of being left in a world of people who cannot grasp the bigger picture, the deeper thought. Although this video does not touch on the intricacies of what leads ones mentality to deteriorate the comprehension of what makes us choose to ignore reality, I suppose that would make the video several hours long and that's just not realistic (sadly). With that said.. I am simply awestruck. I do not know what to think or even say. I can tell this channel is a group effort so I cannot even be sure this is the reasoning of a single mind. All I know is for once, in my miserable existence of 33 years, for once I have found someone who sees the world through my eyes. That no thing is or ever should be finite. That there never has to be an end if you truly understand the beginning. That who we are as people can be so much more if only we'd let ourselves hold onto what we seek for ourselves, in others. That the good in our souls matters more than the girth of our pride. To reach beyond the void of misunderstanding and to find that which we all truly yearn for. Jubilation. That's the only word I can truly attest to this path of reasoning. This truth. Thank you, thank you for making me feel not alone for once in all of my miserable life. Thank you so much. To all that made this video possible, I love you all unconditionally to no end. Thank you.
@GodlyAtheist5 жыл бұрын
I think love needs to be learned and practiced,I feel so lonely that no one around me shares the same values as me
@fardinahmadpor1225Ай бұрын
Excellent.
@ashleylemmer80165 жыл бұрын
Fantastic channel
@nadine16275 жыл бұрын
I like this video and this has been me to a tee my whole life. Sometimes, though, you do have to just walk away from others. Also, it’s very easy for empathic people to get caught in a web with a narcissist. Do you have a video on sociopathy/psychopathy/narcissism?
@twinny5555 жыл бұрын
Given the implicit hard deterministic approach (with which I agree, btw) to this analysis, perhaps would be important to say a few words about the need to sometimes be firm in our guidance towards those we love - because we are also part of their experiences forming their future selves. Also, do a video on free will! Thanks, keep up the great work!
@andreasmoyseos59805 жыл бұрын
Awesome and informative video
@mjstory19765 жыл бұрын
Had to spend a lot of time hating to learn how to love. Time well invested :)
@leirgauk5 жыл бұрын
Personally I’m already like this and ik people will hurt me but at the end of the day what gives me meaning is that I am kind or at least I try to be kind and understanding. Ik a lot won’t agree but its just how I choose to live
@adrianguardado17572 жыл бұрын
This is a great synopsis and I agree that it is a good idea to practice, as well as mostly true. However I also believe that malevolence and evil are choices that some people clearly make. I think by not including this idea, even in a cursory way, some people will be misinformed and perhaps even victimized, and some will not be able to reconcile the concept based on the malevolence they have experienced.
@bradenscottmedia22855 жыл бұрын
:o Putting us into others' shoes is so important
@Vivi-xq1gg5 жыл бұрын
After considering all of this for the last months, I only have one question: Where and Why do we cross the line? If we consider everyone's motifs, if we are infinitely patient, empathetic and forgiving of our partners (and anyone close to us) does that mean that people will walk on us, infinitely making mistakes and us forgiving them? That sounds like being fooled and liking it and accepting it. I am really baffled by this.
@PragmaticOptimist5 жыл бұрын
I really enjoy your videos. I have a question on this one though. What if we ourselves are suffering through anxiety or pain ? How can we still consistently have love for others?
@samradhniwankhede76615 жыл бұрын
Lovely!
@unicorndelhi92205 жыл бұрын
Wonderful video, I commend you all. I feel it's important to share my observation that monsters do exist though.. it's just far more rare to encounter than we conclude. I believe it's defective people that don't exist.
@staind.raindrop5 жыл бұрын
Truth is the path to love - Freedom is the expression of love.
@djkymaera5 жыл бұрын
i like to think ppl are like mirrors and are (from tony robbins) speaking/acting from either love or fear/hurt n it allows me to just forgive everyone & work with them if their hurt bc there's just mud on their mirror. Not counting evil intent ofc that exists n it's hard to forgive
@ridden47095 жыл бұрын
in b4 people with pristine rooms tell me i shouldn't forgive and should urinate on thy neighbours desk disagreeably
@ridden47095 жыл бұрын
But how long do you look at a person with love and understanding, before that turns to abusing yourself. When is it okay to okay to say, I've tried enough, and to move on with out feeling like a horrible person because you finally choose to love yourself
@mdinunzio76105 жыл бұрын
This was like sharing how the magic is performed but it does not give you the skill to do it. The Christian in me is so glad you shared these secrets
@Jofin1015 жыл бұрын
What a good video.❤
@mlungisindlela6810Ай бұрын
Empathetic love makes the best relationship
@fasilatsanusi74313 жыл бұрын
Brilliant
@hibathebird3 жыл бұрын
Understanding is the resolution.
@ArletRod5 жыл бұрын
I wish for car drivers to concider this a little bit more. But also those who insult car drivers.
@MaryArts5 жыл бұрын
I was expecting a serenade from Lil Wayne, but this will do just as well.
@BoxoutMusic5 жыл бұрын
Best channel ever.
@rodrigo37325 жыл бұрын
One must differentiate judging people from dealing with them.
@hteur15 жыл бұрын
Basically we need more empathy and understanding for other people
@Lena-mj3kr5 жыл бұрын
I just saved this to my "Holy Spirit" playlist. The "fruit of the (Holy) Spirit" is LOVE, joy, peace, PATIENCE, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. -Galatians 5:22
What do you think of our guide to love? What would you add? Let us know in the comments below or we have a discussion going on right now on our app available free here for IOS, Android and Desktop: bit.ly/2BA37HO
The School of Life thank you for being here when I need you :)
The School of Life To me I feel that love is hard to find.
We need translation to Arabic
The School of Life I have also found it is easier to forgive when you make the effort to understand. So many of us tend to believe (incorrectly) that others purposely set out to hurt us, when actually they are just trying to get their needs met as well and may not always recognize they don’t choose the best action. One important thing to note, however, is that my ability to look at others “with love” to understand them better came about as a result of my ability to do this with myself. Tough to do as I had to rid myself of the unnecessary toxic shame I carried from a lifetime of feeling devalued for not being perfect. But the hard work I did has definitely paid off in not only having more serenity in my own life, but being able to connect with other people better because I judge less and understand more. BTW....LOVE your videos!
@markj6700 Love is a verb rather than a noun. It is something we do rather than something we find
You can be loving enough to understand the motive behind someone's dysfunctional behavior towards you and at the same time set boundaries and not accept to be treated in this dysfunctional or harsh manner.After a while you need to realize that you cannot choose what happens to you in life,but you are always responsible of what you make of it (how you respond to it).Holding people responsible for their unpleasant behavior towards you and refusing to be their emotional scratch post/doormat will be uncomfortable at first,but it is a radical act of self love and a huge step towards honoring your self growth.
I’ve discontinued some friendships after patterns of behaviour that I just couldn’t really deal with. While I understand the many mitigating factors, I didn’t feel it was my job to be someone’s personal scratch post. I think emotional hygiene is a thing.
@Genevieve Tran I applaud your strength. I hope someday I have the same. Working on it.
I have PTSD from a violent upbringing (42 now). I walked away with the help of others at the age of 15. Never looked back. To me, life is empathy, which explains why I'm a likeable guy to many. To the monsters who were my parents? Well, like all who hurt me, I just let the universe serve up it's own poetic justice.
@@plathrop7737 I applaud your strength, as well. It's a harsh Club quite a few of us seem to belong to. Glad to see you're one of the survivors with a healthy attitude.
Good. By being their scratch post, you also allow them to continue their dysfunctional behavior.
I'm totally with you on this.
Loving other people is all about making ourselves vulnerable.
In this video they're not talking about how you should treat sinners, they are just explaining an absolute truth! If someone is a guilty murderer we should absolutely put him in jail so that he doesn't kill more people. All this video is trying to do is to widen our perspectives and to help us see things as they are.
But if we don't love people, we'll be very sad people
Hard thing to do Ryan. We are afraid to be judged and close ourselves of too much. As my favorite thinker Alan Watts says, "I love you" should be said to more people and more often!
You are stronger with love because you see the truth, the reality.
Maybe you are right, you first have to make yourself vulnerable to your own flaws to grow and become a stronger person
Summary: * 2:00 *Imagination* _Use your imagination to picture why someone might have done a regrettable deed and yet could remain a fitting target for a degree of understanding and sympathy - perhaps they got very frightened or were under pressure of extreme anxiety and despair._ * 3:09 *The child within* _Remember the child within them - our wrong doer may be grown, but their actions will always be connected up with their early years - and sympathize with the angry confused infant lurking inside._ * 4:24 *Patience* _Take your time and remain serene in the face of obviously unimpressive behaviour._ * 4:50 *Redeeming features* _Interpret everyone as having strengths alongside their obvious weaknesses - almost everything on the negative side of a ledger could be connected up with something on the positive._ * 5:52 *We are sinners too* _Be aware that we are also deeply imperfect and, at points, quite plainly mad - the enemy of generosity is the sense that we might be beyond fault._ * 6:22 *Conclusion* - _There is no such thing as a bad person - there is pain, anxiety, and suffering that have coalesced into unfortunate action._ - _This isn't merely an exercise of being nice, but getting to the truth of things._
People aren’t bad, they are simply damaged from past tragedies. Suspend judgement and recognize that you would be just like them if you grew up as they did. Recognizing this truth makes understanding, forgiveness and loving others much easier.
Some people actually _are_ just nasty and by their own volition, though.
Okay this is absolutely true but how about when their tragedies actually transform them into these hateful persons or when they push you to your limits while you just try help them is this okay? They should also manage their lives and let others help and not just turn their anger on us.
Nathan Is a Mouse what do you by « their own volition » ? There is no volition without causes is there ?
Corvos 26 Corvos 26 You mean that even if we suffered very much there is no excuse to become a bad person ? That we always have the choice ?
Exactly. Thank you.
I think I've got a good handle on the love thing.
If you say JESUS backward, it sounds like SAUSAGE.
Your followers could use a bit more of your knowledge. Too bad so many of your churches are corrupted by political agendas.
Shut up Jesus *Peter Griffin voice*
Happy Birthday.. Sorry I am late
I'm not impressed, do it again.
Condemning people will make you resentful and fill you with hate. Sometimes it's perfectly justified. My dad was physically and emotionally abusive. I hated him for smacking my mother, me, and my younger brother around. I hated him with every fiber of my body. It was his childhood and strict religious upbringing that was his eventual downfall. I am in a much better place and so is my mom. It made me an avoidant person but if I didn't recognize that in my father, I'd never be able to work on myself.
How horrible these people have parent like that.
@@l-lraito2863 but this is truth. There are some parents, who just want their peace of mind. They make their kids priorities on second or third option.
Religious? That guy was a dirty, rotten, violent animal with no sense of morality. I hope his little religious friends made fun of him.
sarah18497 This is exactly how I feel. Forgiveness is for suckers, isn’t it?
@@ryancalcaterra4946Lol I ain't no sucker. It's more about letting go, and using that anger to fuel you to better yourself rather than letting it eat away at you. When you let it fester it turns to bitterness.
I've definitely noticed that when dealing with adults with anger issues, the best thing that works for me is to treat them like a child. Try to calmly calm them down by petting their head or arm, letting them know it's okay instead of arguing. The mentality of "this is simply a child having a tantrum" really works for me. Because of this mentality, I don't get scared of anger or shouting anymore, I don't try to argue and make the situation worse, I just pity it. Also, the mentality of "They are trying to make me angry" works too because I keep that in mind I really DON'T want to get angry. In the end, anger is just another way of showing that you are scared.
I'm working on not reacting to people's provocations
Sounds good. However, don't forget to check that you haven't maybe overstepped their boundary or mistreated them somehow. Sometimes people get angry because other people aren't listening to them. Anger is a valid emotion, and expressing it without attacking is vital. It doesn't justify poor behaviour of course, but sometimes, we need to get better at listening to angry people, and perhaps better at hearing them when they ask us quietly to stop doing something, and not dismiss them. We have a part to play in every conflict. Your approach does sound good though, as long as you try to understand them as well.
Careful, make sure to take into account who you are dealing with. Depending on the individuals culture, treating them as children may be viewed as an hostile act.
@@senzizwane8635 The entire western world seem to behave like that right now and we are on our way towards a demographic cliff for it. Not reacting to provocations can be a suicidal behavior.
@@michaelpettersson4919 Reacting to people's negative emotions is suicidal. We can't kill fire with fire but we can kill the flames with water or sand.
Empathy is literally the key to life ... great video
I might argue Understanding the truth is a good candidate of such a thing called "a key of life". Empathy only gets us so far in imagining an experience, understanding implies much much more. It's important also through empathy not to feel or take on the feelings of others but to understand them
it's not.
Love it when People use "literally" when its actually a metaphor ^^
@@deadislander if we assume that with understanding or empathy (or any word to be the key to life) that we use it in life, then 'wisdom' trumps both of those words.
Please stop using the word literally if you don't understand what it means.
Oh, love is such a wonderful feeling. It's a feeling of letting it all go. You've got to be vulnerable. You have to, at times, make various sacrifices for one another, but you do it gladly, not holding any grudge or angst in your heart. Above all, it's a feeling of absolute bliss. It's a feeling of warmth at the edge of the cold, dark night.
It is completeness, wholeness and yes perfection. It's all about knowing that you don't know the answers to everything and yet you have no fear in not knowing. You love and you love and it never runs dry nor gets tired. It's because you are empty and yet so full, you just live.
If you find the right person it can be like that.
Moral of the story is treat people like children. Got it.
Lol and people hated you for obvious reason. People doesn't want to treat like a child
No, the moral is to behave like a parent.
arshya peirov that's better... Sorta
Oh my gosh, I feel surrounded by kids. Some are harder to handle than others.😂😂😂 lol
@@l-lraito2863 it was a joke ya dork
I agree BUT the fact that someone had a rough childhood, or is struggling with anxiety or something else, doesn't give them the right to continuously hurt others. For example, I've been bullied as a kid, therefore, if I turned into a bully myself, you could say that there is an explanation for that and I should be understood and not judged. Still, the beauty of good (for the lack of a better word) people and adults in general is that they are able to fight their own demons and come out the other side stronger and more empathetic towards others who are struggling, instead of being more likely to put others down. Unlike children, who can't grasp how things that happen to them affect their being, adults are self-conscious enough to work out why they're behaving in the way they are, and then try to solve the problem for the benefit of all. This video made some excellent points, but it could also somewhat be used as a way to show how we're not responsible for our actions and words, and that we're not in control of ourselves in adulthood. That, in my opinion, is wrong.
Just think of it before judging some one it will make you gentle and reduce rage in heart
@@pradeepkharta5953 I don't judge people, nor do I have rage in my heart. Going back to my bullying example, I forgave everyone because I understand that we all make mistakes. My point is that we also all know the difference between good and bad, and therefore shouldn't let ourselves act however we want simply because we have negative and hurtful experiences lurking in our pasts.
@@SanyaTheShe i also suffered the same bullying but does it mean i should burn my heart from hate anger and frustration Move on and life will be more beautiful what you say .
@@pradeepkharta5953 I think you're failing to understand what I'm saying here. I have moved on, that's the point of my comment. People can forgive and cleanse themselves from anger and become better, and not use that as an excuse to keep up the vicious circle of treating others poorly. We are on the same side here, I basically agree with you.
@@SanyaTheShe then what else can be done do you have an idea
“You love others because most of the time, you love yourself.”
Ayyyy majure green flag here :)))) Load yourself up with so much selflove you can start throwing it around like candy out of a pinata! accept the flow of candy never runs out and you get the decide who receives the sugary goods :3
Yes, but you can't just pick someone and have a relashionship with that person just because you have empathy towards them. You also have needs that needs to be met. Love is unconditionnal, relashionship isn't.
The more I learn about people the more I love my dogs.
iTony lol sounds like a recipe for clinical depression
I agree.. If you want a friend..get a dog..
I have this on a picture on my wall 🤣
I knew of unrequited love before any other love..
I'm sorry... It is the same for me. And, honestly, I wouldn't wish that for anyone.
The School of life has a beautiful video on that. "In praise of unrequited love"
Lil Wayne's time to shine
legorocks99Gaming this made me smile.
Hahahaha Comedy gold
Thanks for this laugh
This was my immediate thought when I saw the title
Yesssss 😂😂😂😂😂
I don't want to love everyone, i don't have enough lifetime for a psychoanalysis for every people i find bad.
You dont have to judge people not to let them push you around.
@@hteur1 I judge people and I don't care about being "moral" or "good", except for my family. I think not judging makes you becoming passiv.
I remember in my senior year of high school, this was exactly my thought process on people. I would rarely ever get mad at people because I was able to analyze why they could have such flaws. After I went through major peak of depression for a whole year, all of that faded away and I became too cynical. I only saw the bad in everyone and even if I was still able to analyze why someone was "bad," I only worked it in my favor to justify why I still would get angry or upset with them. I blamed them rather than what I initially did in HS where I knew ultimately they were a product of some sort of mistreatment that they had no control over. Now after that peak of depression, I'm slowly trying to regain that mentality. This video just reminded me of how much I should work on it. Thanks!
well i just found out that i'm looking at everyone through the eyes of love...and let me tell you something: they treat you like sh*t when you do that.
They sure fucking do
yes. agree. and same case is with me and over the past years i have learnt one thing that do good with the right person and don't expect anything back.
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You refute yourself. You would not characterize their reaction as such if you were serious.
True but mother Teresa once said. " I have found the paradox that if u love until it hurts, there can be no more hurt, only more love" The right path is always the difficult one to follow and has the most obstacles. Those who take the easy way out will face a boulder later on. Be the lone wolf, ur behaviour represents u. Their behaviour represents them. Good luck
Thank you Alain, for blessing us with your presence. I met this beautiful soul with many problems. I saw his inner child so early on, it's hard to let him go. I see past his addiction and struggles, I feel like I can always be there, somewhere, for him. Even when he says he isn't worth anyone's time. How can you not love a man who goes to bed thinking of his parents well being? A man who loves children, a man volunteering to be cradled to sleep like a kid when he finds the chance to, a man who controls his younger brother's breathing when he's asleep in the night? Some people struggle highly with the fact that life turned them into adults. They just want to crawl back to their earliest times, away from everything bad. We all want a warm embrace, a wing to be covered by. I find this compassion within me since the first times I heard this way of thinking. I love him. I love people like these. May God/life put such pure and childlike souls on our path and help us show them a better world than what seems to be there is.
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To love is to value. To love is understand the essentials of human character and judge a person if they process quality of character or not. It is not to let people get away with dishonesty, laziness, stealing, hypocrisy or evil. You got it all wong.
You gave words to my thoughts
To love is to accept being hurt and accepting nothing in return.
I think the way you wrote this is misleading. i think i know what you mean. To love is to be willing to get hurt and to, also, even, *expect* nothing in return
If you want to know how to love first you must know what love is. The best description of love that I know says that: Love is patient and kind, it does not envy or boast, it is not prideful and it doesn't dishonor others. It is not self seeking (selfish) nor is it easily angered. It keeps no records of wrong doings(forgives) it does not delight in evil or someone's misery but it rejoices with the truth, it always hopes, it always trust, always protects and perseveres. Source: 1 Corinthians 13: 4 - 7 Too many people mistake love for a strong feeling of infatuation and idolism. Love is much more than that. It is much deeper and meaningful than the shallow definition it is given in tv shows, movies, celebrity life and high school relationships. Love takes time and it takes the maturity of two people willing to make their relationship meaningful and not just some past mistake or casual hookup every now and then.
Simone M. A .
Apart from the tiny typos.. I'll go with that Bible quote. I was about to criticise the entire video for being superficial and idealistic (I'm just crawling away from a partner who I knew had a terribly sad childhood.. But then so had I..-difference being- he is available totally untrustworthy cheating liar; I am an altruistic empath with an honesty obsession- none of which is covered in this video) til I hit your comment. Thank you. I'm an atheist but I might dig out Corinthians later. Seems someone had a good handle on 'LOVE' back in the day... ☮️
Interesting, thanks
@@sliewood Sorry about the typos haha
@@simonem.7385 I'm guessing that love does NOT delight in evil.... etc?? Wasn't dissing your grammar! I think I might beautifully stitch this whole quote for a frame. ☮️
All this sounds like an invitation for empaths to keep putting up with narcissists. Sometimes we need to be more realistic, dont we?
Zhaneta B that’s not true. What they are saying is that when you see it from a place of compassion and empathy, you will understand the reason why people do the things they do. They are not saying stay with someone who ill treats you, they are saying don’t take anything anyone does personally. It has nothing to do with you. When you truly understand this, you won’t be as offended by what people do anymore and you tend to move on from heartbreak quicker because you know that your value isn’t dependent on what people say or do to you. When you do this, you can love freely without fear. Cause if someone takes your love for granted and ill treats you, you forgive them easily and move on without the baggage and pain. I think you misunderstood what they are really trying to say.
Tamika Brewster yeah tell that to all the dictators that have rape n murdered unicorns people including children it's because they are damaged yea let's show them more love
Blackman and Robin smh that totally went over your head. I don’t have to tell them anything. You are not giving love, you are seeing it through the eyes of love. So what’s better, let’s look at life through the eyes of hate and consume ourselves for no good reason. That making any sense?
Tamika Brewster no it didn't bro.. just hear me out you don't have to look at the world in a negative light like the first commenter said we have to be realistic u can't make excuses for every bad person yes some people make mistakes because they are misguarded or something bad happened in the past yes but, the fact is some people are horrible and lack no empty human history will show u this.. let us not forget that the only reason we have empathy morals is because of the prefrontal cortex the newest part of the brain in mammals so the ability n extent to which one can empathize differs from one individual to the next and morals are totally man made and with all of that people still murder and kill without remorse yes love is key but my problem with this video is it over generalize humans and the complexities if I wanna go deep into it I can write forever but the fact is some people are good some are evil that's life for you yes don't judge people through tiny lenses and people should be given a chance to prove who they really are but putting things d way d video does over simplified it. That is one thing the elites understand that's why they make weapons have armies to protect each themselves I don't support this n I would like everyone to love and leave in peace but it's impossible because people are greedy.. look what happened to the native Americans for example they showed kindness to the visitors only to be murdered and have their land stolen from them , now try and justify those actions with this video ..
Agreed
This video made me realise how increasingly "hard" I've become over the years ...I hope 2019 will be a love filled year for us all ..where we learn to have more sympathy and patience with others. Thank you for the message !
how did that go
Damn that didn't age well
THIS IS SO PROFOUND!!!!! I am lost for words...........................this channel should be required watching/reading at schools, universities and throughout life and business!!!! Once again one of the best (and maybe the most important lessons in life) has been strung together in few sentences with absolute clarity!!!!!! TOTAL WISDOM!!!
Whenever I'm having a problem examining life and other people, a School of Life Video appears to help me. Thank you and keep up the great work!
There are many books and psychological explanations in the terms of doing love right and not judging others. If you love yourself and seeking the dust of positivity in the storm of negativity, you're going to surround yourself with similar. We're far from flawless, each one of us. Temptations push us to limits. Even if it hurts to love someone, you can react. But don't get caught up in ideal beliefs about yourself, or the person you love. That's how you mess and fall emotionally. Where there is vulnerability and honesty, there is love and affection. Other then lies, pretending and false will. People filled with those personalities are actually harmful.
There are indeed monsters. On one hand I find the video's reasoning naive and self-deceptive. On the other hand I agree on the need to go deeper on people´s motivations and circumstances.
I was looking for that comment! There are definitely monsters out there. But I agree with what you're saying.
I just learned this a week ago in social psychology class about the power of situation
Rules I basically already know and live by I’m so happy someone has expressed this so intellectually
his voice is so soothing! i need to try that kinda voice in my videos HAHAHA
This is one of my favourite videos...everyone must watch this
Tbh constantly understanding others is a pretty thankless job especially because most of the time is a one-sided road, and then people quickly understand that they are being understood and forgiven and happily settling on your all-loving neck. I truly believe that empathy and compassion are the saviours of the world but only if it's mutual
It almost goes without saying, but I would only add that viewing others through the lenses of Love does not mean you have to subject yourself to any amounts of undue torture and pain to love someone else. You can be understanding, insightful, and guiding, while also maintaining an appropriate distance if the other is toxic or abusive. ❤️
I appreciate the fine line of language used in this script. Seeing through the eyes of love doesn't mean allowing toxic relationships to continue; finding explanation and truth for why a person's actions are what they are is helpful - in determining whether or not you can remain in contact with that person and still maintain your own safety and health. Understanding why a dog is rabid does not immediately imply that you may not euthanize the dog. At the same time, this sort of evaluation is more useful because of how hard it is: you have to take the time to think about it. Snap judgment is usually flawed. Even when it's about yourself! Well done.
Loving those who hurt me is something I've been practicing a while, especially as a KZheadr.. It's going to take more time for me. :-)
How do you do that when they methaphorically speaking always sing: " - Bully bully! Bully bully!"? I´m sorry I should never have watched Full Metal Jacket.
Your videos always make sense to me. Thanks for this one.
I would like to express my gratitude for this channel. 💜💜
A great proposal. I would like to be like that, but most of the time I can't. I like to be around ppl, but when I catch some of their flaws. I don't want to see them anymore!
Great visual work in this one! Loved it!
That is very tricky though, as many manipulative people can also appear charming, making us think that they have their good moments and making it more difficult to maintain a distance or get out of that situation. I agree that we should not immediately jump to conclusions about people, but there is value in moderation - showing love and being patient, while also making sure we establish our boundaries and stand up for ourselves.
Very Good video! Really enjoyed it. The stamina necessary for love is much greater than we think. Solitary practice of love can lead to absolute depression if it is never reciprocated. 🙈🙈
Life is so much more beautiful when see thru the eyes of love.
This is definitely one of my favourite videos.
Great work! The visual work here is stunning!
This is exactly what I needed right now.
These videos are as great a gift to humanity as all the art of the Italian Renaissance, the philosophy of ancient Greece and the Music of the Germans , future generations will thank you for this
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The highest form of wisdom is kindness.
The visuals help me understand with more certainty, I like the originality of the images
This approach applies to most, but definitely not all people. Trying this approach towards those with certain pathological personality disorders would needlessly open one’s self up to endless abuse. I wish this channel would amend this video to make this important distinction.
The most satisfying voice I've ever heard. Subscribed.
These are some of the most awear and mindful videos I've seen on this sight.
Talking about love: I LOVE these animations!
Hey, this is pretty much exactly what I try to do with people. I hate seeing people as just bad people and always rationalize why they did what they did
I have became a love thinker over the past year ❤️
Beautiful video. Thank you.
People just need time, to know they can be who they are, so show their core and be accepted. It took me 6 years of growing and i was able to show myself to my fiance. Give people a honest chance to grow.
Great video! Beautiful editing!
Read Erich Fromm’s Art of Loving. 👍🤙🏻
Really great book!
I was about to start with it today,thank you
Thank you
I'd like to think of this not just as a guide on how to love others, but how to love ourselves too.
Excellent content 👌
Watching this so i can love my mother better ...relized that i've been empathyc with everyone but her ...
The school of life videos Are terrific. They give me a lot To think about, but are very difficult for simple comments
Completely understand what the point here is. Just begs the question at what point or criteria should adults be held responsible for their actions or is it never?
Always. You can have empathy for a scum that had a rough childhood but you can't strip him of his moral choices.
After losing my dad a few months ago, very unexpectedly, maybe something from these life lessons will teach me how to cope better.. Maybe work my way into feeling happy again, and learning how to live life again, letalone love properly, again. It's difficult, I have MS as well and I'm still learning and navigating.
Boy: _Dad, I have a girlfriend._ Dad: _Congratulations._ Girl: _Daddy, I have a boy friend._ Dad: *picks up axe* Cupid: _Am I a joke to you?_
Isnt funny
Friendship True.
@@asielmilian38 Fake :-)
There does seem to be a bit of a double standard there. You forgot the scenarios of the boy announcing his boyfriend, and the girl announcing her girlfriend.
Idk.
I LOVE this.
This video, the philosophy behind this logic. I cannot believe this. I've felt alone in this way of thinking my entire life. To the point of literal psychosis in fear of being left in a world of people who cannot grasp the bigger picture, the deeper thought. Although this video does not touch on the intricacies of what leads ones mentality to deteriorate the comprehension of what makes us choose to ignore reality, I suppose that would make the video several hours long and that's just not realistic (sadly). With that said.. I am simply awestruck. I do not know what to think or even say. I can tell this channel is a group effort so I cannot even be sure this is the reasoning of a single mind. All I know is for once, in my miserable existence of 33 years, for once I have found someone who sees the world through my eyes. That no thing is or ever should be finite. That there never has to be an end if you truly understand the beginning. That who we are as people can be so much more if only we'd let ourselves hold onto what we seek for ourselves, in others. That the good in our souls matters more than the girth of our pride. To reach beyond the void of misunderstanding and to find that which we all truly yearn for. Jubilation. That's the only word I can truly attest to this path of reasoning. This truth. Thank you, thank you for making me feel not alone for once in all of my miserable life. Thank you so much. To all that made this video possible, I love you all unconditionally to no end. Thank you.
I think love needs to be learned and practiced,I feel so lonely that no one around me shares the same values as me
Excellent.
Fantastic channel
I like this video and this has been me to a tee my whole life. Sometimes, though, you do have to just walk away from others. Also, it’s very easy for empathic people to get caught in a web with a narcissist. Do you have a video on sociopathy/psychopathy/narcissism?
Given the implicit hard deterministic approach (with which I agree, btw) to this analysis, perhaps would be important to say a few words about the need to sometimes be firm in our guidance towards those we love - because we are also part of their experiences forming their future selves. Also, do a video on free will! Thanks, keep up the great work!
Awesome and informative video
Had to spend a lot of time hating to learn how to love. Time well invested :)
Personally I’m already like this and ik people will hurt me but at the end of the day what gives me meaning is that I am kind or at least I try to be kind and understanding. Ik a lot won’t agree but its just how I choose to live
This is a great synopsis and I agree that it is a good idea to practice, as well as mostly true. However I also believe that malevolence and evil are choices that some people clearly make. I think by not including this idea, even in a cursory way, some people will be misinformed and perhaps even victimized, and some will not be able to reconcile the concept based on the malevolence they have experienced.
:o Putting us into others' shoes is so important
After considering all of this for the last months, I only have one question: Where and Why do we cross the line? If we consider everyone's motifs, if we are infinitely patient, empathetic and forgiving of our partners (and anyone close to us) does that mean that people will walk on us, infinitely making mistakes and us forgiving them? That sounds like being fooled and liking it and accepting it. I am really baffled by this.
I really enjoy your videos. I have a question on this one though. What if we ourselves are suffering through anxiety or pain ? How can we still consistently have love for others?
Lovely!
Wonderful video, I commend you all. I feel it's important to share my observation that monsters do exist though.. it's just far more rare to encounter than we conclude. I believe it's defective people that don't exist.
Truth is the path to love - Freedom is the expression of love.
i like to think ppl are like mirrors and are (from tony robbins) speaking/acting from either love or fear/hurt n it allows me to just forgive everyone & work with them if their hurt bc there's just mud on their mirror. Not counting evil intent ofc that exists n it's hard to forgive
in b4 people with pristine rooms tell me i shouldn't forgive and should urinate on thy neighbours desk disagreeably
But how long do you look at a person with love and understanding, before that turns to abusing yourself. When is it okay to okay to say, I've tried enough, and to move on with out feeling like a horrible person because you finally choose to love yourself
This was like sharing how the magic is performed but it does not give you the skill to do it. The Christian in me is so glad you shared these secrets
What a good video.❤
Empathetic love makes the best relationship
Brilliant
Understanding is the resolution.
I wish for car drivers to concider this a little bit more. But also those who insult car drivers.
I was expecting a serenade from Lil Wayne, but this will do just as well.
Best channel ever.
One must differentiate judging people from dealing with them.
Basically we need more empathy and understanding for other people
I just saved this to my "Holy Spirit" playlist. The "fruit of the (Holy) Spirit" is LOVE, joy, peace, PATIENCE, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. -Galatians 5:22