Why I stopped swearing (but you shouldn't)
What parts of us exist only as a reaction to pressure?
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Here's the shirt: www.hybridcalisthenics.com/hello-mfs Here's the original thumbnail, which I was concerned might violate some of KZhead's new content policies: imgur.com/a/ZOQveHg. Probably not. This is a Coffee With Hampton episode that I sometimes do on the channel. It's about life, mental health, self development, and more. I'm considering a second channel where I do longer videos on it. Plus, that'd give me to make some videos that are often requested but don't have much demand (such as how to manage anger, make friends etc). Will update you all. Have a wonderful day!
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Hampton I first discovered you through your shorts, but now I think your longer videos are really good, a second channel for those sounds great!
Swearing is just very unrefined. If you think about the meaning of the word that you say, chances are you won’t say it. You are a person, not an animal-so act like it!
Thanks but I don’t want to swear at all if possible.
The original title is hilarious, it's a shame that it can't be used.
My man's turned a short personal anecdote into a full blown motivational speech on the purpose of life
True his a very good youtuber
For sure! Might even say roadmap of life
😂😂😂
You have inspired me so much. I am a 13 year old boy who has been struggling with my weight and being self conscious and people at school have called me fattie and stuff. But I am trying to lose weight and you have helped me with that and I gust want to say thanks.
that aint cool for those guys to be doing. Keep going at it king, you got this. dont let others define who you are
u dont have to change yourself for anyone else, only if you want to !! those people calling you mean names just suck but hopefully they will grow out of it and become better people. never let yourself become like them. :)
Thanks man
I'm glad I can help! Sorry to hear about those people at your school. Perhaps they'll learn not to belittle others someday. If it helps, life can really open up after school. You have tons of potential and life left. Cheering for you, my friend!
Wish you all the best man. It's the bullies who are insecure for having to push others down for feeling good for themselves. Teenage years can be rough but you've got this mate, I'm sure of it :)
I recently got a degree in Psychology, and I'm 100% sure that Hampton could be a counselor From the tone, to the body language, to the meticulous/careful wording, and the genuine compassion. This man is one of the most inspiring people I've seen
I’m about to graduate w a psych degree and I’ve seen so many useful concepts come so naturally through his videos I love referring to them when I want something taught simply if it applies well to school lol
Congratulations! and yes i agree with you, he has very good nonverbal skills
DBT therapy is often what he seems to be speaking too, many of those effective skills. If your not familiar learn and love it, super good stuff
He has scripted it all from start to finish. It won’t be this flawless right on the spot.
@@thisguyhd6591 obviously?
This is and probably will be my lifes struggle. All my childhood I was praised for being kind, smart and "angelic". My nickname actually used to be "mother theresa". I was so sweet and liked by pretty much everyone. As a teenager I wondered "AM I actually nice? Because what I feel inside is sometimes jealousy and anger and hatred". What I was and what other people thought I was got so mixed up that I, to this day, cannot clearly see what the nuances are for me. What helps, however, was going the polar opposite. Swearing, getting a stupid boyfriend, skipping law school for a few years and farting frequently in front of my prude dad might seem like bad life choices but they have been so freeing that I was able to comfortably go back to my actual goals and pursue them. Law school feels much easier while swearing, being kind is much more fulfilling when you do it to actually help others instead of impressing others and dumping the stupid boyfriend was easy after accepting that every stage of me is lovable. Even if I don't really know what "me" is.
One quich thought that is part of a longer comment that I posted myself. I believe that it is okay for your outer presentation to be different than who you inwardly think that you are. What I believe is important is that you actively choose how you want to present yourself and also chose who you actually are. And it's okay if those two things are not necessarily the same.
@@anyascelticcreations I like that thought of making a conscious choice to be a better person or just a different person even if your inner self has different desires. However, to me it felt very limiting to not express myself. I felt trapped. It depends on the person I think
@@itsnemosoul8398 I agree that it depends on the person. I think it might depend on age and life experiences for some people, too. When I left the religion of my family at about age 25 I very much did want to express that to everyone. I couldn't stand to proclaim for one more second that I believed something that I very much didn't. It was very important to me to portray myself as accurately as possible. To do otherwise felt like a complete lie that I wasn't willing to do. But that choice to so obviously proclaim my disbelief and my choice to leave the religion cost me most of my family. Many years later I decided that having a relationship with my family was more important to me than portraying myself 100% authentically was. I had already been through declairing my truth to the world. My fire was vented. And in many ways my personality calmed. Now I make a point to alter my vocabulary depending on who I am talking to. Because it seems to me that the same truth can be referred to in many different ways. And I'm okay with whatever vocabulary the person I'm talking to chooses to use. But I definitely wasn't that way when I was young. I have mellowed with age. And my priorities have changed, too. Not that I feel that my priorities were wrong before. They are just different now. Anyway, I guess I'm meaning to say that I understand. And in ways, I have been there, too. ✌️
@@anyascelticcreations I understand this fully. And it's funny because I'm actually 25 years old. I'm slowly coming to a similar solution where I accepted that I cannot break out of a certain box because I wouldn't have a good relationship with my dad. (I have a narcissistic father who still is very loving) But in that box I want to be as free as possible which is sad but not possible any other way. I really wish I was able to claim basic respect from my dad which will not happen. So I will accept love/support as a compromise and hopefully I will find peace in that like you did as I get older. There has to be a middle ground for us children who love their abusive families. Because a) we don't want to be fully seperated from them and b) once they die their beliefs die with them. So all that is left is us and our choices. And we have to live with that. I really don't know how much I can bottle up of myself to continue experiencing love as a trade for respect.
Love ya sister
I personally never was into swearing, bc my mother was very against it growing up. I realize now when i swear, it really has a weight and it doesn't feel just vulgar, it really means i'm mad and upset.
Death and life are in the power of the tongue...thus we should ask what the language we use brings to our life.
Same. I never really cared to do so since it was such a bad thing to do as a kid. Never did it as a kid, so that habit of avoiding the words stuck. However, when I'm really flustered or I get hurt, some choice words definitely come out. If I'm cursing, you know you've done something serious.
i grew up like that too. Everyone used to make fun of me because i never swore. After i met my ex (who was a very judgmental person) i got into the habit of cursing in every sentence. Im trying to change but its hard
Same 😊
When I was younger i swore a lot in a playful way when talking to friends but nowadays i dont like swearing in conversations because i just feel like i dont need it. When im really mad like raging in a game but I don’t get to a point of disappointment to swear its always anger or frustation but its rare for me to swear because I believe its like the weight it carries.
I kinda went the opposite way! 😅 I spent years refusing to swear because everyone else did it and thought they were cool. But in the last few years, since my kids got older, and I don’t work anymore, I swear a LOT. I still speak politely around my parents, but only because language means a lot more to them than most of my family. I think it took me until I was 30 to really figure out who I am regardless of other people.
You know, I wonder if I was subtly influenced by this in a similar way "I spent years refusing to swear because everyone else did it and thought they were cool." I wondered if there's a SMALL part of me that's such an edgelord that thought swearing isn't counter culture enough, so I wanted to be counter counter culture. Who knows 😂. Really glad that you figured out who you are! I'll be turning 30... next year? New adventure!
@@goingvenus5603 an educated person with food vocabulary and expression capabilities shouldn't need to swear unless they casually choose too. I swear among friends, never among family no matter the age group or relationship
I know what you mean but I only made it until 10 or so. I was having a rough day being my clumsy kid self and the funny bone hit crossed the line. Went straight to fvck. Many times in a row 😂 My friend and her mother looked at me like a was possessed but after the initial shock they both thought it was hilarious 😂 I'm nearing 34 and swear as much as I'd like. Probably more than most would prefer, but I'm all for respecting boundaries if someone tells me I'm making them uncomfortable. And obviously there are times and places where I never - not even when I hit my funny bone lol
@@Hwoman1123 this is discriminatory and just simply been proven false numerous times. 1. Someones vocabulary’s does NOT dictate their intelligence levels 2. I have been told numerous times during Uni lvl English/creative writing classes that it has tended to be the opposite of your assertion.
@@Hwoman1123 there are studies that suggest many educated, articulate and intelligent people tend to swear more frequently than the general populace. However I think it’s very individual. Of course we can choose to express ourselves however we see fit, however adding in swear words adds occasional flare and context. Also, I have a ridiculously large vocabulary. It just really makes me comfortable to swear like a sailor! :)
I started to think about this too recently!! Asking "why am I not feminine like other girls"... after I realized it was because my mom was pretty strict and I saw my dad as a role model.. it became my defense mechanism. As soon as I realized that, my mindset immediately change, I'm starting to explore feminine stuff! like it's totally crazy, I didnt expect this at all!!!
That worked out great for you girl
It took me this year to let and allow myself to explore my feminine side, especially after yrs of denial i was gay so accepting that played a huge part in not letting stereotypes control me too
nice work, @@WomenRQueensNMyFaceIsTheThrome!
Hampton, you've propelled me into sitting for a whole hour with your video, just reflecting about all the choices I've made so far, and the things that influenced them. I don't know how to say it, gosh darn you actually made me think haha. Much love to you, my fellow world neighbour!
Much love to you as well!
Dude this is profound, many people don’t see themselves as their own and instead try to change their image for others. I’m definitely guilty of this
FYI I debated the background music to this for an hour before uploading it, trying piano, different volumes, etc. I think I was overthinking it. For each person that is bothered by it, I will shed one tear. (No but seriously if you want a music-free version I can upload one. Unlisted or something probably).
Sounds good man very peaceful
The music is great man
I can’t hear the music yet, BUT I usually find subtitles save me from any trouble discerning the music from the words (I have auditory processing issues).
@@terryenby2304 I'm experimenting with adding subtitles into the long-form videos when they're just me talking! I know some dislike it but others really like it. Will adjust! Hope you can discern this one!
My dude, I didn't even know there was music in this video before reading this comment. I need my ears checked apparently.
This video is not what I expected, but I'm grateful for what it is. "Where do you run when no one is chasing you?" This is such a profound and wonderful question to sit with.
Agreed!
I really appreciated the "where do you run when no one is chasing you?" That hit in a different way than I expected
this is a certified hood classic
Thanks rat!
@Bully Maguire 🅥 I missed the part where that's my problem
I love classic hood
Wisdom ❤ “Where do you run when no one is chasing you?”
I've realized as I've grown up that it's not the word themselves that are "bad", it's the connotation behind them. So, I don't have a problem with swearing at all (I swear a good bit) so long as the words have no malice behind them. I'm right here with you Hampton, I try to live my life doing things with a 100% self-initiated motivation. Unfortunately, I learned this lesson a bit too late in life and am now in a career and living situation that aren't really right for me and it's because of outside pressure. I'm trying to make the best of it and make what changes I can to live a more fulfilling life.
Despite many beliefs, I actually enjoyed being a teenager in the midst of covid and without social media. As he mentioned, being away from society was able to let me figure out what kind of person I want to be without as many pressures. While I have always been more introverted, Covid had helped me become the best version of myself, and I have been able to carry that with me as my life goes on. It had helped me to really think about my relationships with people.
Are you still wearing a mask? Just curious?
Covid never bothered me, as I have always been an extreme homebody and not overly social. What I found interesting is that going to school with masks on actually helped me grow as a person. I’ve always been very self conscious, and being able to cover my face along with everyone else allowed me to branch out more and feel more comfortable around others. My social skills have only improved since then with practice and age, and although I may not be good at starting conversations, I’m still glad that I’m growing
the beliefs you mentioned are kind of true. Covid did the opposite to me. It messed me up so badly that it's hard to recover. I distracted myself as much as possible, did janky things, developed many bad habits etc. And now I'm cleaning up what I've done and trying to make my miserable life better. I guess it's crucial for my character development...
Dude, yes! I literally just started examining myself like this, and came to the conclusion that I don’t believe in having enemies. I see people as people. Some are nice, others are arrogant, others are selfish, ignorant, or just deeply afraid. My relationship with them affects my relationship with myself, so I don’t want to have enemies. And I turned off a lot of people by making this change. They can’t accept my new position. And they can’t seem to accept that I don’t fight them about it either. Oh well.
I had sort of the same revelation. I don’t get as angry at others as I used to. I started to realize most of the time people disagree or argue with me, it’s because of their own baggage more than it is about me. For example, a coworker is very upset with me right now because she wants me to make a decision that will negatively impact a fellow coworker and I simply will not do it. She has tried everything to bully and cajole me into doing it. In the past, I would have gotten angry and argued with her. But being angry doesn’t help anything and it just hurts me physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. I’m sure the reason she can’t accept no for an answer is a very deep-seated issue for her, but she seems clueless to it. So I listen calmly and explain my perspective, but I don’t engage or react. My life is so much more peaceful and I’m much happier.
I want to do the same, but I have not understood how I would deal with people who would actually hurt me. Do I hurt them back? Do I just take it lying? What if they have a propensity to be mean continuously? If they keep hurting me, what do I do?
If you don't do others wrong there's no real need to worry about enemies, though it's nearly unavoidable to have a few who hate you for being in a better place. Don't engage, don't react, and don't feed their negative thought process and emotions; walk away from those who would potentially be violent, before it gets to that point. If you want to find a better state of thought, perspective, and understanding, Stoicism and Taoism both offer a lot of what people need, and modern minds seem to be lacking.
@@myownmasterpiece8788 well how about an example, what if you work very hard to precariously build something difficult that you're really proud of/happy about, and then someone just suddenly destroys it in one fell swoop? And they did it out of clearly intended malice, not out of honest ignorance. What does one do in such cases? The impulse to let your emotions (sadness, anger, despair) overtake would be strong, wouldn't it? What could be a Stoic way to handle that? When it's not just something small or ignorable?
This is blissfully ignorant of the reality of the human condition. You have enemies my guy, even if you don’t know it
I never swear. I never started swearing also. All my friends swear a lot. My parents and siblings also swear a lot. People find it weird that I speak politely and with respect to everyone and never choosing to swear. I don't stop myself from swearing. I just don't do it.
Same. Some people believe that you are "Forcing" yourself not to do it. Like no fam... I just don't do it and that's natural to me
Hey everyone!! I just wanted to share some good news with you all. Let's just put it this way, the Ten Commandments are called the Moral Law. Ask yourself this. How many lies have you told? Have you ever stolen anything? Have you ever used God's name in vein? Have you ever hated someone or ever looked with lust? This is for you to judge yourself, but chances are that you are a lying, thieving, blasphemous, fornicating, adulterer at heart and you HAVE to face God on judgement day. Now ask yourself this. If God judges you on judgement day by these Commandments, will you be innocent or guilty? Of course you'll be guilty because we've all done these things. The truth is that none of us are good people and we NESD God's grace to make it to heaven. We judt simply cannot do it on our own. These Commandments arecalled the Moral Law. You and I broke the law, Jesus payed the fine. So now what we must do to be saved is to repent of our sins and trust alone in Jesus Christ! To repent doesn't mean to just say I'm sorry, but to turn from our sins and let Him truly be our Lord continually. He said that many will say to Him, Lord, Lord I have done all of these things for you. And He will say I never knew you. Depart from Me, ye who work iniquity! And those will be cast into outer darkness and raging hellfire and loneliness for all of eternity!!! Because we broke His law, He is very, very just to send us to hell. If someone had murdered 4 people and said to the judge, I've done nice things too and have tried to treat people nice but it was just one time, the judge would then say, okay but you're going to jail. And the judge is very just to do that. One last thing, if you were 10,000 feet in the air and you had to jump, you wouldn't jump out and flap your arms and try to save yourself. That's ridiculous! You would put on the parachute. It is the same with Jesus. You must trust Him as you trust the parachute. We are not good and we cannot save ourselves with our own goodness. We must trust alone in Him to save us. In just a moment of time you can pass from death to life. Jesus said, "Verily, verily I say unto you, you must be born again." That is how we enter heaven. Through the blood and grace of Jesus Christ!!!!✝️If you ask someone how to enter Heaven, they will most likely say, "Be a good person." Well the Bible says that none is good, no not one. We like to compare ourselves to guys like Hitler and say, "Hey, I'm a pretty good guy compared to him." But when we compare ourselves to God's standard, we realize that the Bible speaks truth when it says that we all sinned and fallen short of the Glory of God!!! When we see this ( our sin in its TRUE light), we see how much trouble we are in and we say, "Well then there's nothing I can do. I'm going to hell for sure then." It's true that there is nothing that WE can do, but there is something that has already been done for you! God sent His One and Only Son to die on a cross as a sacrifice for our sins! So to recieve that eternal sweet sweet forgiveness, all we must do is repent of our sins (meaning to continually turn from them and confess them) and trust alone in Christ as you trust a parachute. If I was to push you out of an airplane, you'd want the parachute for sure! Don't try to flap your arms and save yourself, trust in the parachute! His finished work on the Cross IS ENOUGH!! He is the only way to Heaven, He said it Himself!! These other religions teach that we must he good and do good things and then maybe if we've been good enough, we will enter Heaven. But if that is true then we are all doomed to eternal hell because none of us are good. That's why this makes sense. Look at the Ten Commandments, they are written on your heart right now!! I promise that you have violated them. And you might still be doing that today. Therefore God is just to poor out His wrath on us because we deserve it!! But Christ died for us so that we can spend eternity in Heaven with Him! Turn to Him today, and He and only He will save your soul "Verily, verily I say unto you, you must be born again ( to go to Heaven)."✝️The true joy of Christ dwells in me!!! Does it in you? I know where I'm going when I die! Do you? I have an ETERNAL victory! Do you? I have more joy than ever because of what Christ has done. I have been down both roads. The road of the wicked and the road of Christ. Christ is way better and my cup runneth over with true joy and salvation. If you do not know the One true God and are not sure of your salvation, I promise He will never fail you. Turn to Him in repentance and faith. Repent means to confess and forsake your sins, never turning back to them. I tried changing on my own but I couldn't. It took the power of Christ on the inside of me to do it for me. He will give you a new and clean heart with new and clean desires and you shall be born again. A new creation in Christ Jesus! Hallelujah! Jesus said in order to enter the Kingdom of God, you must be born again! Thank you Lord Jesus!!✝️
Same. I have never swore while having a conversation with anybody before. The words just don't come to my mouth. I feel they are not necessary because we can still convey feeling or emotion without them.
Swearing is the opposite of polite?
@@BeautifulEarthJa kinda yeah?
On that religion thing it sent chills down my spine. My family is super religious and my parents raised us christian and I’m the one sibling that isn’t religious. My brother is religious loves it and is raising his kids that way. It’s the same thing that drove me away gives him peace it’s odd
This is a good example of “teaching how to think and not what to think”.
This was a lot deeper than I expected it to be. Very thoughtful even. I personally minimise how much I swear just because when I do use swear words, I'd like that they should hold more 'weight' than if I used that language very casually and often.
that's y i always remember this quote: "To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.” Ralph Waldo Emerson
I like how this guy sometime says “I think” and sometimes shows his uncertainty, it lets me know that he’s still human he’s not perfect, and he’s open to learning and being educated.
most fitness channels are all about the usual red pill, be a giga and get women etc. i really like this guy because hes the oppisite of that. hes nice, never really says "do this if youre really determined to lose weight" even gives advise if youre not strong enough for some workouts. this guy actually motivates me to work out even more, the others just sound really obnoxious and annoying.
I hear ya! Hypocrites in suits sounding polite & tactful doesn’t necessarily mean they are honest & sincere! Yes when I hear swearing, I am now self conscious of how vulgar I sound if I say a Salty word for emphatic emotion
Those are very good advices, young man. I can tell that you meditate a lot and/or are a natural-born philosopher. When I was a pup, I used to be easily controlled by almost everybody. I didn't think highly of myself and was often sad for no reason. I was also a very shy kid, to the point I would refuse giving oral reports in school because I feared what my school mates would say about it. So I, little by little, without noticing it, started enjoying being alone. While alone, without the noise of other people's influences, I started to self-analyze myself and the world around me. I thought about my existence, about God, about why things are the way they are, about why people are the way they are. I thought about why some people like to control other people and why some people let others control them. I concluded that the most genuine way to go through life is to think for myself, irrespective of other people's opinions. And to make sure I have very good reasons for all my actions or inactions. After awhile, I could not think any other way. I became a very logical person. People started accusing me of being stubborn but I would easily explain my reasoning and say, "I'm not stubborn, I'm just right". Soon, my shyness almost disappeared, my self-confidence went through the roof, my stress levels completely crashed. I could do oral reports and even feel proud of my performance. My grades skyrocketed without me even trying. It became easier to get girlfriends. By the time I started high school I already knew I wanted to be an engineer. Although the journey towards my goal wasn't easy, I think it would have been impossible for me if I couldn't think the way I did. Long term benefits: We've being married for 33 years and have 3 adult daughters that think and act righteously (most of the time). People have been telling me (and my wife) since my 30s that I looked a lot younger than I am. I've always attributed it to the low levels of stress in my life (a well paid easy job, same girlfriend, no enemies, no drama, great hobbies, not giving a bleep about what people think of me), regular exercise, a healthy diet, etc. My wife also looks young and she's just one year younger than me. And yes, I treat her like the queen she is. Now that I'm in my 50s, when I'm with one of my daughters in public people occasionally get surprised when they realize I'm not the brother or husband of my daughter and we all have a good laugh. I hope this translates into a longer life.
Boricua? No es muy común encontrar un boricua viendo estos videos. A mi me encantan los videos de este muchacho y admiro mucho su inteligencia, elocuencia, madurez, y la paz interior que proyecta al hablar. By the way, muy bueno tu comentario.!!!
It's hard not to swear in Australia since it is ingrained into our language.
bro i was born and live in australia and i dont swear its not that hard
I dont always feel supported in ways that I want or can easily accept, but you do that from behind a screen And always make my day better. When you arent even talking to me personally. I hope you never change
Pfft I get this. Ever since I was in pre-school my parents and peers would tell me how "mature" I was compared to other kids and blah blah blah. This led me in middle school to try and keep myself as innocent as possible not only for myself, but so people would like me (because that was the only way apparently). After eighth grade I couldn't maintain that persona anymore because I'd been forcing it for so long, I went the complete opposite direction and now I swear like a sailor all the time lol. I'm much happier like this, definitely less pressure and a lot more fun. It's also great talking to old friends and they're completely shocked at the 180 I took. But I'm still in high school now, so who knows how life'll go. Maybe I'll do another complete 180, but given my current thoughts on that I highly doubt it lol.
Lol great story, I can relate to it a little bit too. And also good luck finishing high school, we're in the same boat, me and you.
I've never liked swearing, never liked how the words felt in my mouth. I'm a writer and I believe words have significance. I work hard to find more creative or funny ways to write an insult or swear. It doesn't mean I'm not tempted to drop an f-bomb if I stub my toe or something, but I also believe in the importance of self- control and sticking to one's convictions. I'm fine with other people swearing, and regularly laugh at jokes that I personally couldn't repeat, but I also appreciate when someone tells a joke or story without swearing. I finally, officially moved out of my parent's house last year and now live alone. I get to choose everything from how I decorate to when I go to sleep at night. It was overwhelming and lonely at first, but it's helped me get to know myself without the influence of parents or roommates (like when I was in college). I think it's a valuable skill to be able to spend time alone with yourself and your thoughts. Not everyone can tolerate that, but if you can, you might be surprised what you learn.
I stopped in 2022, because in Egypt we have a saying "Who talks a lot does nothing" My anger/disgust is not expressed in talk anymore, I hold it to build character, but when I let fly... It's in action.
Hey Hampton, thank you for another great and thoughtful video. I don't always watch your videos, but when I do, I almost always come away from it with a new approach or understanding of life. It really helps me reflect on my choices, more so than when I take time alone for myself, and I want you to know I am very appreciative for all that you do with your KZhead channel.
You called me out! In the part, where you said, that people do something only because they were told not to do it. I fall for it so often, it’s unbelievable. And you helped me to put my predicament in the words.
I've learnt two things. One is that you must master yourself, so no one can master you. And that freedom is the ability to choose our responsibilities.
This was honestly the most truthful video I have ever seen. The way you conveyed your points were amazing. Thank you!
This is most def a Health and Wellness/ Wellbeing channel. Love this channel.
A very thoughtful video, and so true. Take the time to review where you are, your trajectory and decide / recognise whether you carry on or discard these influences - thank you for sharing 💯 your channel uploads are a highlight on my feed 😁
In my perspective, it's enriching not to swear - I have really learned to convey my emotions in an authentic way, because I give them their actual name. The F-Bomb is extremely generic and doesn't help us get to the source of what's causing our discomfort, while naming our emotions - sure it does, and helps us to work and improve. Anyways, thanks for the food for thought Hampton, you're amazing, God bless :)
Your video outlines some values that I have believed in for some time. I do try to live my life as authentically as I can without a lot of resistance. Realising this path has been interesting, because I learned a lot of resistance comes from others when you don't act/react how they expect you to. I think it's great that you made this. Encouraging authenticity in one's self is good all around.
6:30 and the bit about self-conscious influence really hit with what I've been feeling right now. Thanks for the video.
This is the content that we all love about you. You share your advice in a such unique way that I don’t even care if you go on different tangents just to explain your point. Your examples are always spot on to me too! It brings a big smile to my face that there are still deep thinkers out there like you who exist here. A person who likes to contemplate about the philosophical and spiritual aspects in life. This is what makes your message heartwarming and meaningful in the end. So we all appreciate your genuine input to enlighten and uplift the community, your doing good things! (Oh, I also relate to being cut off by my parents a lot too! I bet it’s an Asian thing where we’re taught to be submissive lol)
It’s so crazy that you made a point to talk about this, Hampton. I have recently realized that a lot of my goals, standards, and even nuances of my personality have been heavily influenced by a desire to please certain people close to me throughout my life. This has also lead me on a journey of self discovery to find out what “my” version of my life truly is. I adopted a slogan for this new year: “2023 is for me”. We all deserve to live a life that we chose and that we are happy with at the end of the day. Thank you for your insights, brother. I feel like you’ve given me a bump of courage to continue making some life changes that are in line with what I want out of my life.
The self analysis you're inspiring through this video is priceless. Thank you
Unrelated to the video but man you've helped me a lot in the last couple of months. I was having trouble with exercising and finding motivation to become fit and healthy. Then I discovered your channel and finally started my journey. Thank you so much brother Hampton!!
Love your content dude. I've been watching your videos since I first saw your video on push-ups and I will say that you such a genuine guy. Your words are always inspirational, so keep up the great work on the platform!
This is a fantastic video. I'm guilty of living most of my life pursuing what others thought I should do or be. It has made me terribly unhappy and regretful. I have friends who swear regularly and, seemingly to me, without reason. I do swear, but it's usually when I'm expressing, excitement, shock, disbelief, anger, frustration, etc. To me, using swear words constantly dilutes the weight that I think they were meant to possess.
Nicely said. Sounds like you did some deep-thinking on this 'matter of choices'. Ooh so many. Since you have many subscribers that is probably best. Love your videos & all the ways you do them. They are always quick, well-explained, nicely demonstrated, while keeping it positive & thoughtful. I couldn't ask for more. You are very helpful to thousands of people.
Solid video. It's really refreshing to hear such a calm and sensible approach to thinking that can help guide younger people in a positive way.
You are a real sweet young man, and I get a lot out of your videos. I think it’s ok to speak as you wish. I never taught my kids not to curse, and by teach, I mean, I did not tell them not to. I naturally swear very little. When I went through a rougher period, I cursed more. The kids hated it, and they said so. I love your take. I think you a wonderful young man and I admire you.
I like this video alot. It expressed a lot of the sentiments I've come to learn and comprehend the last few years as well... I find that this video better explains how I feel better than I could put into words, to my chagrin, but would act as a great tool to help give understanding and guidance to younger generations... My nieces for example.
I really appreciate this mentality of self inspecting our natural behaviours, and I really hope you could expand it in newer videos. It's something I have started to do more and more recently: asking myself why I thought something particular or acted in a certain way. Very nice video, I hope it will be useful to as many people as possible.
Tornado here. Hampton, watching these videos of yours are a form of self reflection for me. And i always wondered if being influenced was okay as long as i was conscious of who or what i was being influenced from. I have clarity now. Thank you!
I absolutely love how you upload what you feel like you should upload and not just mass posting vids about 10 exercises you should do to get abs and this and that.
Love the philosophical content as much as the fitness stuff
I actually loved this video. Its been a topic i've been contemplating it alot lately, and i think you shed a new, helpful,light on the matter
I love this video! I think this kind of self reflection and application makes people more genuine and true than just conforming to what society says makes a person seem genuine and true.
Your wholesome content warms my heart 😊
6:20 "Most of us know we have free will..." ... or do we? I love your videos! I can click on one of your videos intending to rewatch just one part and then I'm watching the entire thing. I think you're a great speaker and we can learn a lot from you.
A new video by My Brother Hampton! What a great way to start my weekend! Stay safe and thank you for sharing you.
You are so awesome. Thank you so much for existing
Thank YOU for being your wonderful self!
Great guy. Keep the good vids up!
Amazing vid, and thanks for the subtitles as well! Very nice accessibility feature
Just recently got into your videos and I’ve really found them to be really helpful and inspiring. Some of these things that you explain may be “obvious” to some, but there are times where it helps to simply hear it out loud. Anyway thanks for your honest content. You’ve just earned another subscriber.
Hello, my lovely friends! Hope all is well. Just stopping by to quickly say hello & thanks for sharing this upload. There are hidden gems of wisdom that I feel were meant for me to find. Tysm, Hampton! Always wishing y'all excellent health, increased success, lots of love, peace, laughter, and true happiness. Sending hugs of encouragement & strength. 🫂💕💯
I love how you manage to talk about topics like religion and politics without demonizing or praising any one side. We need more people capable of discussing these things without bias.
I needed this video. Hampton sending me the re-assurance that I need right now
“If we only do something because we’re told not to do it, then we’re just as easily controlled as if we only do what we’re told.” I don’t hear that very often, but it’s important to realize. Sometimes the people trying to influence you, even when they seem controlling, have your best interests in mind. So if you’re rebelling and your parents or authority figures aren’t in control, and you aren’t in control, then who is?
Great video as always Hampton. My experience was similar, when I was young I didn't swear at all because of my parents. Then maybe from 7th or 8th grade I started swearing a lot. Because I could. And now in my early 20s I swear very little as it just feels natural for me. And I don't feel bad for swearing a lot, I feel that it was just a phase I needed to go through to get to where I now am :)
God bless you Hampton. You’re definitely more of a puppy than a puppet. Have a beautiful day my friend. ❤
This one was thought provoking and thank you for that! I like your content so keep making them!!!
I love the deep topics you get into. Self analyzing is indeed an important trait :)
Kids are watching so thank you! Great content 👍
youtube kids is there for that. KZhead is for adult, it shouldn't be an issue.
@@semikolondev much appreciated 👍
"I think the reason I speak more quickly... I was cut off slot as a kid... 'Kids don't get options'." My parents did that too. I speak fast and blunt as an adult who grew up as the youngest of 5 kids in-house. I didn't realize you speak quickly. To my preference, in your videos you are right there in the ideal zone of words-per-minute. I consider you the calming, slow end of ideal. Good night, lol
Lol love the shirt 😂 This was unexpectedly deep and thoughtful. It gives me a lot to ponder about my life! Thanks for the video.
I found this video thought provoking and really well communicated. It was also a very pleasant experience, the music, the background ambience, your tone of voice, the subtitles. Wanted to acknowledge all the details that went into making this a great video overall. Keep up the great work!
This is accidentally something I was thinking about the last month - nothing and no one ever exists in a vacuum, we all get influenced by our environment, the people we grow up with/around, the cultures around us, whatever we hear in school/work/on the news etc. If we didn't have social media, pop culture, art, religion, politics etc. what would we be like as people and how would we make our choices. Almost seems like choice is an illusion and every outcome is predictable.
For most of my life I have never sweared, until one day I just reached a point of extreme stress, irritation, and anger that I just broke. I never sweared because the act of doing so made me feel terribly guilty as if I committed a grave crime, but after that one point in my life, during that day, I kept swearing until eventually I became used to swearing and now, I've pretty much embraced it.
Sometimes there are people who know that you have never sweared and seems like doing everything to make you so angry that you would eventually do it just to destroy your perfect score. I think that is what happen for you. For me making a creative sentences to express my anger/irritation helped, so I am still rather perfect scored with that one 😄
I love your content. The most wholesome person I know. Thank you.
Dude, you're exactly what the internet needs more of. Keep up the great work, thanks for sharing, and have a great day.
Growing up in Northern Ireland, we were always taught that swearing or cursing was 'fighting talk' and so it was completely banned in most households. When you heard someone cursing at someone else, you knew things were about to kick off... 👍🏻😎
Fantastic video, Hampton, thank you so much! 💖
I wish KZhead would put more of your vids in my feeds, it's been weak lately, love the messages and insights you have.
I appreciate this thoughtful video! I grew up in a rather conservative family (though of course "conservative" is always relative), so even saying "stupid" was a no-no during childhood. As an adult, I still prefer clean language... partly because I take words seriously and kinda literally. More than my parents do. So foul language is truly foul to me, almost like I can feel/smell the S word. :P I suppose my parents trained me in this direction. And maybe there's some rebellion mixed in there-I think I'm uptight enough on this and related matters that even my parents may think I'm a buzzkill. XD I don't expect or need people to modify their language for me. But I really appreciate when people take initiative to cut down on their swearing in our conversations out of consideration for me. This usually happens when they find out about my faith, or maybe when they just pick up on my delicate sensibilities. The unsolicited kindness and respect means a lot. ^_^
What you shared resonates with me a little too :) I don't swear because the words feel heavy to me, and I've noticed that whenever I'm in spaces with a lot of swearing, somehow it affects the atmosphere... Haven't quite figured out why, but I digress. I don't expect ppl to stop swearing around me, but when they make an effort it's something that is very much noticeable and that I, too, appreciate :) Out of curiosity, what is your faith?
Hey everyone!! I just wanted to share some good news with you all. Let's just put it this way, the Ten Commandments are called the Moral Law. Ask yourself this. How many lies have you told? Have you ever stolen anything? Have you ever used God's name in vein? Have you ever hated someone or ever looked with lust? This is for you to judge yourself, but chances are that you are a lying, thieving, blasphemous, fornicating, adulterer at heart and you HAVE to face God on judgement day. Now ask yourself this. If God judges you on judgement day by these Commandments, will you be innocent or guilty? Of course you'll be guilty because we've all done these things. The truth is that none of us are good people and we NESD God's grace to make it to heaven. We judt simply cannot do it on our own. These Commandments arecalled the Moral Law. You and I broke the law, Jesus payed the fine. So now what we must do to be saved is to repent of our sins and trust alone in Jesus Christ! To repent doesn't mean to just say I'm sorry, but to turn from our sins and let Him truly be our Lord continually. He said that many will say to Him, Lord, Lord I have done all of these things for you. And He will say I never knew you. Depart from Me, ye who work iniquity! And those will be cast into outer darkness and raging hellfire and loneliness for all of eternity!!! Because we broke His law, He is very, very just to send us to hell. If someone had murdered 4 people and said to the judge, I've done nice things too and have tried to treat people nice but it was just one time, the judge would then say, okay but you're going to jail. And the judge is very just to do that. One last thing, if you were 10,000 feet in the air and you had to jump, you wouldn't jump out and flap your arms and try to save yourself. That's ridiculous! You would put on the parachute. It is the same with Jesus. You must trust Him as you trust the parachute. We are not good and we cannot save ourselves with our own goodness. We must trust alone in Him to save us. In just a moment of time you can pass from death to life. Jesus said, "Verily, verily I say unto you, you must be born again." That is how we enter heaven. Through the blood and grace of Jesus Christ!!!!✝️If you ask someone how to enter Heaven, they will most likely say, "Be a good person." Well the Bible says that none is good, no not one. We like to compare ourselves to guys like Hitler and say, "Hey, I'm a pretty good guy compared to him." But when we compare ourselves to God's standard, we realize that the Bible speaks truth when it says that we all sinned and fallen short of the Glory of God!!! When we see this ( our sin in its TRUE light), we see how much trouble we are in and we say, "Well then there's nothing I can do. I'm going to hell for sure then." It's true that there is nothing that WE can do, but there is something that has already been done for you! God sent His One and Only Son to die on a cross as a sacrifice for our sins! So to recieve that eternal sweet sweet forgiveness, all we must do is repent of our sins (meaning to continually turn from them and confess them) and trust alone in Christ as you trust a parachute. If I was to push you out of an airplane, you'd want the parachute for sure! Don't try to flap your arms and save yourself, trust in the parachute! His finished work on the Cross IS ENOUGH!! He is the only way to Heaven, He said it Himself!! These other religions teach that we must he good and do good things and then maybe if we've been good enough, we will enter Heaven. But if that is true then we are all doomed to eternal hell because none of us are good. That's why this makes sense. Look at the Ten Commandments, they are written on your heart right now!! I promise that you have violated them. And you might still be doing that today. Therefore God is just to poor out His wrath on us because we deserve it!! But Christ died for us so that we can spend eternity in Heaven with Him! Turn to Him today, and He and only He will save your soul "Verily, verily I say unto you, you must be born again ( to go to Heaven)."✝️The true joy of Christ dwells in me!!! Does it in you? I know where I'm going when I die! Do you? I have an ETERNAL victory! Do you? I have more joy than ever because of what Christ has done. I have been down both roads. The road of the wicked and the road of Christ. Christ is way better and my cup runneth over with true joy and salvation. If you do not know the One true God and are not sure of your salvation, I promise He will never fail you. Turn to Him in repentance and faith. Repent means to confess and forsake your sins, never turning back to them. I tried changing on my own but I couldn't. It took the power of Christ on the inside of me to do it for me. He will give you a new and clean heart with new and clean desires and you shall be born again. A new creation in Christ Jesus! Hallelujah! Jesus said in order to enter the Kingdom of God, you must be born again! Thank you Lord Jesus!!✝️
I remember choosing not to swear when I was a teenager. It just didn't feel right and I could never bring myself to do it. I find it funny how people pick up on it and often adjust their language around me. This isn't what I want so I try to let them know that just because I don't swear that I think negatively on those that do, and they are free to cuss me out or in my presence. I just want everyone to be comfortable being themselves.
For real.❤
also have the same experience, but I just don't swear because I feel like it replaces more expressive and colorful vocabulary with the same swear words which seems less interesting to me. so whenever other people stop swearing around me (when I can tell that they purposefully hold themselves back due to my preference) it just kind of ticks me off instead of comforting me.
Love you bro you have a beautiful soul and the internet needs more people like you
I am 57 and i gain so much from your videos.I also like the way you speak FYI.;) Thank you for you videos!
Who are you when no one is looking?
"My lifetime dream was always to be a contract killer. I had given up on it, but now I'm gonna do everything in my might to make it come true! Thank you, Hampton!" When the wholesome message goes wrong. ^^
Dude, are you literally reading my mind right now? This sort of self-reflection and examination is precisely what I was talking about with the spousal unit this morning, then boom - I sit down to breakfast, fire up the interweeb machine and there's Hampton with a wonderfully well-articulated video on the topic. So yeah. Those two questions are what went into my reflection journal today. And while this sort of content may not be considered "fitness" in the traditional sense of the word, this sort of "internal fitness" absolutely a vital part of achieving whole-person fitness. And you being who you are, your delivery of it makes it so much easier to think about and integrate these topics from a healthy, nuanced, and gentle perspective. So thank you for making them. But also...that shirt reveal at the end? F'ing priceless. 🤣
thank you for this I really needed to hear this
I was also cut off a lot as a kid, so something I learned was to start sentences with a list indicator. I'd say something like "two things" before I'd say what all I'd want to say. That way, people would say "oh, but what was your second thing" after they cut me off. It's quite an unnecessarily complicated work around haha! Also, that shirt is awesome.
I do that too! I mean, I still get cut off quite frequently, which sometimes makes me wonder if it's really helpful :D (it does help in most circumstances). And, perhaps it's a little complicated, but I've found that it helps me structure my thoughts in advance which helps me be much more articulate. Even if it's not something that others necessarily notice, I just feel great when I'm able to express a thought, feeling, opinion in a clear, structured manner, which is actually now the main reason I continue doing it :D
I gonna stop cussing from today not just offline but online too, over the course of time swearing made me a very bitter person and absolutely insufferable to be around and just a straight ahole. This video is the little push i was needed i was contemplating many of my life choices for awhile but i will definitely start with this and slowly work towards patching up my life
I need to tell you you still can be named as ahole without swearing and also without realy trying to be one. So do not care about it to much, but it is very ok to think about others in nice way. Thats what i think.
i found myself to be kind of the opposite, where swearing casually makes me a lot more chill and carefree for me, i find swearing to just be the “informal/friendly” register of my own english language
this channel keeps surprising me. thank you for this one.
Yes. This is golden advice. I've been having the same realization.
I recently stopped swearing due to dramatically changed living conditions, because I don't have many people to talk to, and people that I have near me to talk to are people I shouldn't swear around. And suddenly I discovered that I don't really use cussing all that much. So I stopped, because it wasn't the hardest thing to do.
I personally don’t swear but the funny thing is if you don’t use swear words you end up with words or phrases that feel the same to you. It will be very confusing to everyone else but it makes you feel better. TLDR: words are learned, emotions are intrinsic
This is such a balanced a refreshing viewpoint!!!
You are really cool, I appreciate your calm and thoughtful approach to everything. You do great work and I think I speak to the majority audience when I say, you do a great job and I appreciate your work.
I'm a retired NCO, and Veteran. I live, eat and breath "swearing", even as a "Metallbaumeister" and while I was training my apprentices, I came to learn a few hard facts of life.. The most important thing is communication, PERIOD. Somethings can be conveyed in a jovial manner, other must be conveyed in a language that makes your bowels move, but I promise you, that you will never forget. If that keeps someome from "fudging up",... possibly saving someone's life,.. than so be it. If it hurt your feelings,... well, deal with the fact that you will die first.