Roman Kemp Opens Up About the Difficulties Making "Our Silent Emergency"
2021 ж. 16 Нау.
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Big up to Roman and Professor Green - getting behind backing men to speak up and get support. You're never alone gents.
After watching the doc on Caroline Flack, and Roman do this about his friend Joe, the whole world needs to wake up and realise that mental health is a huge crisis, so many lives lost, so much pain.. The powers that be need to invest in services. Social media platforms need to be more accountable with bullying . People need to be kinder. Please reach out to each other.
It about learning how cope I found ruby wax and Marissa peer their work on how mind work is so easy understand
@@laurenpaterson3475 true, there isn’t enough coping strategies taught throughout childhood. However people still need to go easier on each other, no one knows what each person has going on. Also a little bit of kindness shown to someone can really help them.
@a A have you heard of innocent til proven guilty. Your short summary of a very complex situation makes it seem very black and white. The fact that I’m being reprimanded for mentioning her definitely suggests the world needs more kindness.
I truly believe as a mental health sufferer that education is vital
No father figures
How can you dislike this video... Much love to Roman! He did such a great job with this documentary.
this is why i'm hanging on, no matter what i'm going through. it might hurt for me, but it will hurt for so many other people if i go.
Respect
@@scino3116 always!! men’s mental health matters just as much as women’s, we’re all human at the end of the day and all bleed the same blood :)
Stay strong ❤️
The world is a better place with you in it 💚
Stay here stay safe stay strong sending love from UK takecare here if need to talk x
I lost a friend 5 years ago, he was only 18. He used to phone me after work and I met him a few times just to talk, and I think that was his cry for help, but hindsight is 20/20. He went to uni, and took his life there. No one knew he was suicidal, not even his family, but I wish I had known so I could've met him more. Even if it was enough to stall him from taking his life, to rethink things. It's heartbreaking. Thank you for doing this, and thank you for sparking a very important conversation.
Omg this documentary was SO good. Very insightful and helpful and will deffo be using the “are you ok?” tip with my friends going forwards. Thank you for sharing your story Roman
Roman I'm just after watching your tv programme,I want to say thank you so much. One year alone I went to 4 male suicide funerals. It's absolutely heartbreaking. Say hi to your Dad for me,you have a great support network there. Just know that. You matter ! ❤️
That awful yes hard people find it hard pressure be the best keep up with society s norms be married be success I have been sucicidAl it hard you just feel so much pain and just joyless and cut off Marissa peer and ruby wax Louise hay their work has helped me to live each day slowly and feel good enough as I have dyspraxia which meant I am scruffy clumsy and disorganised I have had learn love myself even with this condition stop suicide I think best answer is to listen and not judge and accept people when I felt worse that was worse feeling of not being like every one else tell your friends when you done something stupid tell your friends your fears and your cock ups own them let your friends know that you will love them even when they scared when confused when unemployed when ill say you will be with them hen they sad that you not just their friend because you need a laugh or somebody for game playing make them feel special and important and appreciated tell them you cannot imagine being without them tell him you can contact me 7 days a week day or night offer to meet them when they scared when they confused teach them how to relax give them a massage if they tense watch co,medics with them take photos praise your mates thank them for all you shared with them don’t be afraid to live them fully ans show them that they ate in your life for good
lauren paterson you are so unique. Lauren you matter,you are loved,I'm so glad you can speak about it ,about how you feel. That's very important. We all need to learn ,to talk and then to help. Please have a person that you trust that you can go to. How are you feeling today? I hope you're doing ok after watching Roman and seeing how his friends loss is affecting him. Every single thing can be fixed,you remember that. There is no problem too big that can't be fixed. You hang in there ,life is precious. You are precious. Mind yourself friend. 👋👋
@@beastyboyBlue feeling ok Watch lot of videos on stress and what causes it my friend Stuart killed himself many years ago I felt guilty as he admitted he was low I should have told his mum Or somebody but I was not mature enough now I would tell somebody but then he was in a mental support unit so I presumed he would have told them he never knew how talented and wonderful he was helped me get out of hospital after my suicide attempt gave me attention and love which I needed to get out pf rut depression is a rut you give up everything and that becomes normal just sound nothing but worry I believe in god I feel I Need do things before I die as was nor my time thanks your comment Gabor mate his videos and books are great he uses science to show how we are influenced by stress from babyhood onwards he very clever chap
lauren paterson don't feel guilty at all. He knew you were there for him,I think sometimes this world is too cruel for some people. It's too hard for them,in their mind,and the will goes. I'm so glad for you Lauren it's all about baby steps. You keep watching those videos and please keep talking,that's very important. Be gentle with yourself.👋👋🌸🌸🌷🌷💐💐
@@laurenpaterson3475 i told my fiances family and I knew but could do nothing to convince him how loved he was. The doctors knew but did nothing. I truly believe that I did everything but once he had his mind set there was no going back. He walked out the door knowing he could have turned to me for anything but he said nothing that day
Respect too Roman. well done mate for bringing this subject up. im a British Indian and depression is rife in our community and u did make me cry watching the documentary,
Is it? I haven't seen anyone depressed in the South Asian community, they are usually all hard hearted and selfish enough not to be affected by anything.
Well done kiddo stay strong stay safe I get mental health it stinks speak out nothing to be ashamed about 16th March 2009 I died 26minutes hypoxia spent weeks months in coma rehab hospital learning talk walk again been a recovery massive discovery never ever give up two my beautiful nephews took their lives mental health proud of you kiddo doing amazing things sending love from headway Nottingham UK takecare xxx
Roman Kemp I totally agree and understand I have sever mental illness and a few times i've wanted to give up thank the lord i didn't its ppl like you that keeps me going cheers mate
Brilliant documentary! Shown all my mates
Thank you Roman, it is a mental battle every day to keep going right now. Making this film you will have saved lives, no doubt about it. Poorna Bell's book Chase the Rainbow is harrowing but well worth a read for those looking for answers for why their loved ones leave. It is such a desperately sad state of humanity that such a huge percentage of the population are fighting these thoughts and right now having to do so without their usual coping mechanisms.
Thank you very much Roman! 🙏🙏
I described in detail how dark I was feeling then felt guilty so never did it again. Watching this gave me my confidence back- it’s not a taboo, describing EXACTLY how you feel REALLY helps!
Roman kind deeds change lives. May this kindness find its way back to you. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. My neighbour called me late one morning and begged me for assistance. His parents were away. He was just 14 years old and I explained to him that eating good food and sleeping has a huge impact on your mental health. He is now on medication and his Parents are grateful reached out to me. He had written a note to say sorry to his parenrs and I handed the note to his parents.
Thank you Ronan for your honesty! Such a tabu topic still yoday for many men. As a mother of a young man, 20 yrs old, this is a worry as he lives away from home at uni. Thank you again and please Kerp it on. X
I love you Roman kemp ❤
Wish we could watch this in Canada. Clips, Instagram reel, even this has moved me deeply.
use vpn!
theres a video on youtube that has the entire documentary uploaded, not sure whether you can see it or not but definitely watch it
An excellent documentary Roman. You covered everything. It’s great that you are rising awareness. I bet you will save many lives after people watching it. People will reach out to their friends and also by you sharing your story people will be more confident to seek support and be more open. Keep up the great work.
Roman you’re doing so well mate! RIP Joe💔
Bless him
You were the hero he needed. You were there for him even if it doesn't feel like it. I was told everything and yet nothing I did made a difference
My uncle ended his life back in 1998 when I was 19 it never easy it just gets easier especially when u witness it and can not do anything about that was tough for me and I have PTSD serve clinical depression soixal anxiety nightmares due to it. I just want to say from the bottom of my heart it ok to cry man should never be ashamed of that and I know it tough cause I ve been there
PILGRIMS PROGRESS,DOUBTING CASTLE, GIANT DISPAIR. READING THIS HAS HELPED ME. JAHBLESS.
Well done Roman 👏
Roman thanks loads for doing Our Silent Emergency and hope it will help people! Your mates seem great! ..just trying to find the rock on! hands symbol but just this came up 🚀 - nice one! Dunc
Respect. You covered some valid points there. I had to go on sertraline. Because my epilepsy is like a demon holding a gun to my head playing Russian roulette and saying "guess how many bullets" I attempted self ending by sitting in my garage with my motorcycle running. I said to my self I'll stick around for five more years and shout the engine off. Sold the bike so I could try again and I cant drive it things are looking up. That was four years ago.
Well done Roman 🎉🎉🎉
Ramen kemp you got me and your family ❤❤❤. I love you. I’m here for you anytime you need to talk about Joe I’m here for you I’m am here all listen to to you all time xx 😢❤
Most people just dismiss someone who’s feeling down, as if you’re just being negativistic and choosing to feel the way you do. And a little telling off or making you feel guilty about the way you feel because your life is “so perfect” will snap you right out of it. That’s why so many don’t talk about it. Hopefully one day we can change that. Small steps and this clip helps.
Great bloke. I know everyone is thinking Roman is the last person to struggle with depression. Never judge a book by a cover. Putting a brave face on is too common. I really feel for Roman, and I wish him all the best....
respect
Great programme the song real men are by joe Jackson sums up how stressful be a man
Yes men lead stressful lives, they bear children, are victims of domestic abuse, are constantly judged for their appearance, suffer from menstruation for 40+ years then the menopause, are discriminated against, treated like sex objects etc. The list goes on.
I've been through this, but lucky to get another chance. I fully understand erythema you say here ✌🏽💙
Hope you're doing well now
As good as can be thanks
@@andrewwatts2695 you're always welcome mate,cheers
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Kid at 3.13 🥺
Anywhere I can watch this from outside the UK?
use vpn!
so many people in the industry ridiculed caroline flack great doc
I spoke to a nurse a month ago she asked, are you alright, I replyed yes, then 2 mins later I said this that and the other, she replyed well then your not alright. I thought I eat, sleep and drink OK my leg is not hurting so I thought I was alright. I want people to fuss over me, but, they don't. So who can, it leaves me empty. Gradually draining away.
Wot on earth are you talking about?? Read it 3 times and I'm still lost 😵
I hope you feel better Chris x
Sending peace and all good vibes to you, Chris.
You want people to fuss over you?
@@jimmysmith736 maybe he wants love & attention
Can we watch in the US??
BBC programme
No
My best mate killed himself on my Birthday never ever thought hed do anything like that and its always in my thought at least once aday
Sorry to hear that. I hope you're doing okay.
If you have a friend who smiles all the time, put him on the watch list. Nobody is happy all the time.
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This is a insult to any one who lost a child he is behaving if it was . Losing a friend sad and tears . But come on
I'm strongly suicidal. I've never felt worse. I've never felt more empty. I can't believe what's happened to this world. It's just so tragic. The Pandemic might be the biggest catastrophe that can happen to this world. It's just So Senseless!!! Why couldn't Covid just happen to people whose whole lives have been doing whatever they want and who never ever learn what it's like to be nothing??? I also can't believe I'm in my early 20s and there's a lot of things I still don't have and didn't do when I was younger. I didn't have my first kiss in my early teens, I didn't start drinking in my early teens, I still don't have a driver's license, and I still don't have a girlfriend. It makes me feel like a loser since there are lots of people in their early 20s who have done so much with their lives and already have their own cars and are already in relationships. Why do those kind of people seem like the best of the best? Should I apologize to this world for existing? If I took my own life would it be a terrible mistake? Was I really put on this earth for a reason?
Hey "The Film Expert". I noticed that you wrote just 3 weeks ago. I wanted to reach out to you. I want to tell you, please stick around! I know how you feel, as I too believed that there was something wrong with me when I was your age {I am 62 now) because I compared my life to what others had. It is hard not to be influenced by societal pressures. Please try not to negatively compare yourself to others! What they have and what you have does NOT define the essence of the person you are nor does it define them. I can see by your words that you are a sensitive person, as everyone with a heart is. That makes you beautiful! Everybody has their own timelines of when things they want, finally happen to them, despite all their efforts. I promise that one day you will not care nearly as much about comparisons as you do now. You will get things in your own good time. What's most important is sharing your heart and skills with the world. I remember, I thought I'd "missed the boat" because I was not married yet at 22, and no boyfriend at 25. I married at 27, but you could not have convinced me that would ever happen. Everything works out for everybody, it really does. Please explore ways that you can be helped!! You matter and the world does need the likes of you! I hope you are still here! God Bless you!
Is he Ross Kemp son or spandeu ballets son
Is nobody asking why the world is such a horrible place to live in?
No, because it has always been this way.
When these guys kill themselves, is it because they have a chemical imbalance or is it because something has gone wrong in their lives? Because you hear so many stories about them looking normal the day before and not having any obvious person issues?
It's so many things. One common thing is unhealed trauma, which makes it hard to deal with life. Example: you had a parent say over and over that you're a useless piece of shit when you're a kid. You grow up feeling like you're not good enough, and you don't know why. No matter how much you achieve, you still feel inadequate. You don't realize that the inner voice criticizing you was just created in your brain from years of being "programmed" by your parent's opinion of you. You think that "everyone must feel this way, I shouldn't complain, other people have it worse", so you don't talk about how you're feeling and you don't get help. You bottle it up, you drink a lot of make the shitty feelings go away for a while. And then at some point, you get dumped. Or you lose your job. And you go from barely keeping it together to full-blown crisis. And your bad feelings go from a manageable 5, to a 9 out of 10. And it's only a matter of time before you want to end it all, unless things change or unless you get those feelings off your chest.
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