Jennifer Pan’s revenge on her 'Tiger Parents'
2019 ж. 7 Ақп.
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Is it a home invasion -- or is it the ultimate betrayal?
The true story of what happened inside the Pan family home, shattering the serenity of their normally quiet, upscale Toronto neighborhood.
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every kid with strict parents knows what their parents foot steps sound like
adora enthusiast lmaoooooo
And keys, lol
Yup...!! I would hear my mom's and avoided her around the house as much as possible....
adora enthusiast exactly!
Facts
Her father after waking from coma: “Even your hitmen were below average. What a disappointment.”
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I hope they highlight this comment it's under rated😂😂😂
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This comment is pure gold!
Holy shit that’s funny
She was of course guilty, but I hate when cops say people don’t act a certain way after a tragedy. No one can say how someone will act in that sort of traumatic experience. There’s no set way.
PTSD
Yeah the brain does some pretty weird things when it’s under a lot of stress. There’s a letter written by a Titanic survivor while she was on the Carpathia and she describes feeling really happy.
But police do know more than most given they deal with people in such circumstances every day
They are the pro's here. They do piss me off thinking they know when someone lies. They're not your friends either and some will get you in prison by pretending to be one.
Same, I hate that some cops will say, “we can tell someone is guilty of something at a routine stop when they’re nervous or shaky”
Strict parents or not, there’s no excuse. She was 18 and could have left. Dad gave her an out yet she chose murder.
Yes she was an adult she could’ve left that is tragic. They came to this country with nothing and wanted the best for their children.
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Money is the big motivator here! She's cold blooded!
it's not as easy to just leave for an Asian family. Family honor, 'losing face' among other reasons making living at 18 difficult. BUT that does not excused murder.
She is in prison so ultimately punished for killing her mother
You know what they say, “strict parents make great liars”
So what is your solution? Let your kids do anything they want and ruin their lives?
@@petrosaguilar8916 The fact that you see no gray area is the entire goddamn problem. You can responsibly parent without being a dictator. Hell, my dad was a strict parent, and even he didn't prevent me from leaving home after I turned 18 (jumping down my throat when I suggested taking a semester off to work more and save money, though...that's another story).
@@petrosaguilar8916 The best solution is befriend your kids make them like Your best friends.
Lmao
PhoenixRising87 I don’t understand how people are so dense and can’t comprehend what you just said. It’s like you are either a dictator or you’re careless. People don’t think and it makes me furious.
Parents: “Give me a degree” Jenifer: *gives 1st degree murder*
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I shouldn’t have laughed but I did
Dude watch out your comment!
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As an Asian myself I can understand the type of frustration and built up anger she had . The standard Asian parents have is almost unbearable at times . I have to say my anger was really bad until I got into college , going to church helped me a lot to learn to let go of all of the pressure I had . What she did was absolutely horrendous . I do not condone her actions at all . However that could be the reasoning behind it all .
The reasoning why she murdered her mother tried to murder her father is greed, psychopathy, selfishness, her lies and deceptions.
If you're not Asian, maybe its best to be quiet and listen and learn about the experiences of others.@@colouroflife1
True, but thats not the only reason. We are usually a product of our surroundings. For example, women with daddy issues most likely did not have a strong father figure (strong emotionally i mean) present. Idk how strict her parents were but as a kid to strict asian parents I understand the pent up anger and frustration that could lead to misleading actions. Only difference with people like me and probably 99% of other people who grew up in an environment with strict restricting parents is that we would never act on those frustrations to harm our parents physically, unlike jennifer pan
@lokindabbiru9944, so you would never act upon those Frustrations like jennifer Pan here did, but you would think of them? Or imagine? Or would you be pleased if your parents passed away naturally without you having to act upon it? My friend, nothing justifies murder, let alone parent's murder, that too when she can hear them screaming in pain. Coming from dysfunctional family is kind of common, not preferred but common, but if everyone started thinking this way, the world would see much more such tragedies. Thankfully, there are people like us who absolutely can not relate with Jennifer's thinking regardless of our strict upbringing.
Hate for her parents was enormous
Some people on here do not understand how psychological abusive these types of parents are. These abusive parents hide behind the guise of being “loving” when it is actually the opposite.
I agree. I had terrible home and I understand Jennifer. She didn't see other choice. I was lucky not to kill my parents in self defense and run when I could.
18 min of a horrible terror. What about over 20 years of psychological abuse to child?
Doesn’t give one a license to kill. She could have run away but she wanted money. Everyone in the world has some sort of trauma if we all killed the people who traumatized us most of us would be killed by now.
@@AT-eu4zu Its not that easy to run away. often these parents scare their children from being out in the world on their own. They're scared of being harmed by their parents (physical abuse is often part of the equation to assert dominance), or they maybe scared of being harmed by others if theyre on their own without any support. Sure, it doesn't mean all children should murder their abusive parents but theres elements that one can at least understand and should account for. what we should be asking is why abusive parents and sexualpredators are allowed to get away with it so much. Pedophiles barely get a slap in the hand. often the perpetrators are close family members of the child. Society fails to protect these children thats the ugly truth. not all snap, but that doesnt make it ok.
Preventing dating a drug dealer and living together with him and trying to give the daughter a good future is psychologial abuse? Nowadays everyone comes up with psychological and mental topics to justify anything brutal. NOTHING IN THE WORLD WILL JUSTIFY KILLING YOUR PARENTS. IF YOU CANT LIVE WITH THEM MOVE OUT AND DONT CONTACT THEM.
"her dad wanted her to be a doctor" that's typical asian parents.
yahh for asian parents doesnt need to pay for the hospital because they would have a doctor in their life (i guess)
Ice skating was the killer never met a figure skater that was white I have but there dad was my hokey coach lol
Ya my moms Japanese and she’s obsessed with me becoming a dermatologist.
I know. I have a choice of becoming a doctor, lawyer, or engineer. I told my parents I don’t want to become any of those and my ass got whooped lol.
@@TaeTae-df3wy what did you choose in the end?
The daughter plotted to kill her own parents, and yet her mother’s last words were for the gunmen to spare her daughter. That’s just tragic.
I will always love my kids even if one of them decided too take me out
If she cared enough to be emotionally aware she wouldn't have been crying out on the first place. The daughter is the real tragic victim here lol
@@churroscuro8624 victim how? she was given the choice to leave her family and live off on her own and do whatever she wanted yet SHE chose to stay.
@@raeo7963 so it’s true what they say and about marriage and parenting: it’s really does turn ur brain to mush and kill you slowly
Yup I would be one of those moms who’s brain was mush and let my kid kill me before I ever had a thought of reacting
Apple didn’t fall away from the tree. They killed her emotionally she killed them physically
💯 don t understand why nobody analysing it fully
Honestly. Knowing how horrendous these kinds of parents can be, I cannot imagine what kind of state her psyche was in. And people saying she’s a psychopath because she kept asking what was gonna happen to /her/, well… Maybe no one other than herself has ever cared about her. I’m not saying I’m excusing what she did, but I’m also not too quick to condemn her for it either.
Some people have really bad demons. Can’t put it on “not having been shown love,” she IS a psychopath. Many people have tiger parents not everyone plots to kill their parents.
@@JESUSLOVESYOU219 Just because not everyone reacts this way to abuse doesn’t mean it’s not abuse or that she’s a psychopath. Everyone’s w us to cope with shit is different.
@@mandarina4157 the point is you don’t murder, that’s crazy. This is what happens when people are spiritually ignorant. You’ll put everything on anything.
They cared for her, but set high expectations. She was 24...no need to try to kill her parents.
@@mandarina4157The Doctors on the show 'Signs of a Psychopath' have diagnosed her as a sociopath/psychopath.
so no one mentioned the fact that the investigator’s name was bill gates?
was just about to write that
isn’t it Bill Goetz or something...?
I caught that and smirked. I laughed that the boyfriend was labeled as a part time drug dealer. I turned to my wife and said “not even full time? What a loser.”
It’s Bill Curtez
+SweetenerLuvs NOPE
Her father probably is disappointed that she failed at murder attempt too.
Pleaseee I’m dead😭😭😭😭😭🤚🏽
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“What are you good for huh?”
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LMAFO YOU DIDNT HAVE TO DO THAT ✋🏽
Yeah, anybody who grew up with tiger parents understands Jennifer. Tiger parenting is emotionally and psychologically destructive. What we see here are severe consequences of child abuse. I can’t say I feel much for her parents because I don’t, I know what tiger parenting does to a child and it’s a form of child abuse. Her parents were her abusers. It’s unfortunate it went this far and she wasn’t able simply separate herself from her family. She had choices, including running away and never be heard from again, or contacting the authorities after being locked at home at 19. She chose to unalive her parents instead and though I think that’s a direct result of the child abuse she endured, she crossed a line she can’t return from and deserves her punishment. That’s not the way to solve our problems.
I cannot imagine being put under that much pressure by my own folks.
Unalive is NOT A WORD!! Stop watching marvel movies and grow up!
@@emmyo6678 I’m aware. It’s just how I censor my words in case the algorithm blocks comments. Now go direct your menopausal hot flashes elsewhere.
Pressuring one to excel academically and not complimenting their achievements is definitely abusive. Hann Pan (despite a victim) should've been charged for abusing Jennifer tbf.
@@emmyo6678 Dude...do you know what website you're on? This stupid site will shadowblock any comments that contain "forbidden" words. The female who runs YT treats language like an 11 year old would.
These type of parents put so much pressure on their kids that I am not surprised there aren't more cases and I can see why there are kids who runways. If you are of legal age, leave and live your own life, but please don't do anything illegal.
For wanting your kid to be their best friends 😅
I bet the editor is really sick of having to use the same two photos over and over again😂
Agreed
Lmao they kept changing the animations too keep things exciting 😂
Free The plug 😂😂😂😂
lol i see this comment while watching the pic at the same time
@@tripbee4745 haha yup they made effort
"Good ears" No. it's scared ears. Having strict parents gives you bionic ears
oh yeahyeah So true I can identify everyone by footsteps
Samantha Harris same
@@samanthaharris2094 Same omd
Samantha Harris Same! It’s crazy! I grew up in a house of 8 people and asshole parents..I still could identify everyone’s footsteps in the hallway.
So true
I have a similar background to Jennifer. My parents weren’t too strict as her’s but they also never showed me the direction I could go after graduating school. They just thought I will find my way like a fish in the ocean, while restricting certain things that costs money, regarding my education. After years of not being taught how to face the real world, I was lost. I’m just recovering now, I still have a long way to go.
I totally get that same here picking up the pieces
I'm going through a similar situation. Still to this day they control me so much that I never learned how to make my own decisions and live life by myself. I hope God helps all of us.
@shahnazparvin5055 I'm sorry to hear that sweetheart,how old are you?
@@shahnazparvin5055 He/she or it does :-) Never give up, love is the answer!
This one is much better then the one on Netflix, they didn’t go into details as much!
Why is every single, security camera footage seem like it was shot during the Civil War era?
shrapnel77 irk right then the mars rover is all good
on god
shrapnel77 Lol because they’re cheap. You’d think if you were gonna invest in a security camera you’d get a good one, god forbid you’d ever need to review the footage..... makes no sense. Cos when they DO need it, it’s hardly even viewable. Shrugs.
@@princessmorganoke 😂😂😂 honestly. How ppl gonna use trash footage in court with literal pixels
well i mean it was from a house across the street, the home owners didnt buy the cameras to record their neighbors house. And its meant to record the driveway and front of the house, which it does a good job doing. Its not 4k but you can see whats happening in the front yard. And cameras can be expensive as hell, also its fucking night time so the visibility is bad. And to the person saying they might as well not even have a camera if its low quality, at least if something happened, like a break in, the police would have video evidence and could analyze that shit. Im sorry that regular people cant afford thousands of dollars worth of high tech security footage (and the means to store said footage) so they can rewatch their home being broken into in 4k. I bet all the people talking shit on the cameras aint even got cameras of their own.
so basically, the mother gave birth to her killer
Well done!
So sad :(
Slim Essid woah.... I-
That's still fucked up. Tiger parenting should be illegal
She didn't gave birth to a killer, she accidently raised her as a killer
Yes she was old enough to leave home, and there is no excuse for killing them - BUT you do wonder what years and years of that kind of pressure and control from her parents did to her emotions and her mind when she was growing up. Sometimes 'tiger parenting' can slip into psychological abuse, and that her whole life may have twisted her emotions to the point that she genuinely believed her parents were better off dead than alive and disappointed in her. They didn't just want her to be happy and successful for HER, they wanted their kids to shine as accessories for THEM, showing what good parents they were. I wonder if she genuinely believed that if she couldn't give them what they wanted -her to be the perfect daughter- then at least she could give them not having to live with 'their' failure.
@Hello there, how are you doing this blessed day?
This was excellently written and composed. I had seen the suspect interview before and knew the whole story, but there is such quality to this delivery that I was still at the edge of my seat. The team that made this is stellar.
"A child not embraced by the village will burn it down to feel its warmth"
Who is the original creator of this please? Thank you.
@@missolesoul African Proverb
@@sylvieshuu Thank you so much.
a shit ton of people have crap parents that doesn't justify murder though. she was an adult at the time she could've moved out and got a job if she was fed up with it. But no let's kill mom and dad
@only destiel So you're saying murdering someone is normal.
Why do they think it’s suspicious that she can distinguish her parents’ footsteps? I can literally name everyone in my household based on their footsteps alone
K B I heard her dad sold the story to Hollywood producer for millions in a comment in the video by JCS. Her parents are disgusting.
me too .
If my parents use the soft slippers at home, and the killers wear the boots, I think I would easily distinguish their footsteps. And also at night, the parents go to the kitchen or toilet, they don't want to disturb their children.
@@xMaFiaKinGz her dad was almost murdered by his child. Give him a break.
katie No wont give him a break. He is sneak.
Having had a similar father I can understand this girl better than most. Parents really need to understand that there are consequences to their behavior. I never harmed my father but that was mainly because from HighSchool on I NEVER let him have ANY control over me. (He spent over 50 years trying)
Nonsense! when a child feels they're grown, they should pack and leave!
@@kelvinanungo7418 ok. The parents were right but one is dead and one shot up. Was being right worth it?
Why ? It’s not they abused her or beat the shit out of her. They offered her to move out she was 24 standing over her dead bleeding parents cozying up to intruder ! What is wrong with these idiot comments !
@@foxywhitetip7387she didn’t move out because she wanted insurance money 500k and share with her bf!!
Her father was right - her bf was no good drug dealer low life
I lived through horrific physical and verbal child abuse at the hands of my mother, and ignored by my passive father. I ran away from home and things went really bad from there, but I ended up joining the army, becoming a cop and getting my EMT certification and help others who have been abused. If it wasn’t for Jesus Christ saving me, I would be dead. He has also repaired my relationship with my parents. I don’t know what I would do without the Lord Jesus Christ.
Very beautiful thing for you. Amen!!!
Very inspiring
I’m glad he saved you
Do you still sin?
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She was 25 years old. This story makes you think she's maybe 18.
opentrunks or 14, psycho!
@@juanruiz-vb4bj 25 and her parents are this controlling? i don't even think this is about the whole date thing, if my parents wouldn't let me do anything other than piano lessons at 17, let alone 25, i'd flip
omeot she should have just moved out
@@mahamwaheed9192 yup agree.
Wait what !!?😂😂
“She apparently identified the footsteps as not her parents “ boi literally every kid with strict parents can tell the footsteps
Actually I can recognize the footsteps of people close to me without seeing them its not that difficult
@@NMA635 i can even recognize footsteps of my crush. I thought it is normal for every1 to recognize people's footsteps
Tbh recognizing footsteps is easy
Strict parents or not, if they are around alot you know their footsteps.
@@hoangnamdav the crush thing is a little weird. You follow her around or what?
My father was strict when I was growing up. Cared about us getting good grades but not about mental health, no friends, being bullied, just take care of your parents and the business. 😢 I been in one rehab...kicked out I was told.went to another. They couldn't renew, bc they needed the space for new patients. Understood. Hopefully they're getting better.
Hey same here dude😂
True, same here with my parents, i dont give a shit about making friends, they’re going to betray you in the end. As long as i have good grades thats good enough for me and have a high allowance job.
@Leshy_ easy to say that now. But when you're in 3rd, 4, 5 , grade and you're not invited a a kids birthday party, pool party, barbecue, movie at the house, it hurts.....you feel unwanted unloved,, kids think ur a loser, etc
@Leshy_ easy to say that but when friends, are talking about movies, sport, birthday parties, weekend pool parties and nobody invited me.......
Dang that’s sad for her and them. Sad she did alll that but in the same regard you can’t contain someone’s life.
Came here because of Netflix's "What Jennifer Did"
Sameee lol 😂
This clip’s sm better though!
“She somehow identified the footsteps as not being those of her parents.” Dude I knew when my parents were breathing outside my room
Oh god yes I have legit memorized the way each of my parents walk down stairs and open doors.
Agreed. Not to mention that in crime stories the kids always say they knew it wasn't their parents footsteps. You hear these people walk around for years and learn how they walk.
Ikr, my parents aren't even strict and I know their foorsteps.
Patricia Jankey when ur living in hatred/fear of ur parents that’s probably the most common thing a kid will say about their parents, “I know their footsteps” or something like that as an example if u have extensibly abusive parents who beat u everyday or something related u learn when it’s coming real quick just by listening to the footsteps
Cavern iOS I honestly knew my families footsteps. I lived with grandmother and grandfather. They walk differently.
"Somehow she identified the footsteps as not being her parents" "Good ears!" Are you kidding me. What kid DOESNT know what their parents footsteps sound like, its kinda engrained in your brain your entire life.
Yee yee 😂😂😂
True
at specially when you try to hide something from them it become kinda like a basic skill xD
@@jordantampubolon8694 no,, lol. almost every kid does??
@@TheOzziemozzie true
Yeah strict parents sometimes suck but … I’m thankful mine were. Unlike most of my friends … I’m the only one who didnt experienced teenage pregnancy… so yeah thank you mom and dad. I might have hated them as a teen but today I love them and understand their ways. Jennifer is crazy.
I've seen many of my friends who had understanding and loving parents (their parents weren't strict at all and they treat their children like best friends) and they grew up to be such good people, they were happy as children and happy as adults too. So no, you don't have to be a "tiger" to raise your kids right! Being that tiger only makes your kids either rebel or become a people pleaser, but nothing in between (may suffer from PTSD as well) 😶
You know one of the biggest things that shocked me when I came back to Japan? It was the fact that even here ‘tiger parenting’ is considered one of the most extreme forms of parenting. While I did not grow up in such a household myself, most of my other asian friends did and it was pretty much considered the norm. It was only when I came back here that I learned that not all households were like this and that even by their standards this was considered far too extreme. The city middle class and upper class tend to put a lot of pressure on their kids but for those born in a pretty standard family we’re raised pretty normally. For those who have grown under tiger parenting I hope with this you will understand that tiger parenting is abnormal and a form of abuse. It is in no way normal and shouldn’t ever be normalized.
But what kind of parents don't even go to their child's high school or college graduation??
Mine
@Pinkaugust 😂😂really??!!! 🙄
@Pinkaugust Parents who value all the wrong things, maybe?
asians
Workaholics, raised poor, trying to save for retirement and to provide luxury for their children that they were not given. This girl was evasive and made excuses to trick the parents into believing what she wanted them to. This piece is not very detailed... there is a more in-depth documentary on this which explains the situation much better.
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She looks like one of my friends but she has more of a small face lol even the same glasses
dont do school do drugs cool but the boyfriend is the one I was talking about and I can’t even with him
maya lol
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Why would you call her the Daughter of hell? More like parents from hell. Monsters are not born but created. She just wanted to enjoy her life, wanted to live as a normal kid but nobody talked about it. People who grew up with nice and lovable families and parents would never understand the struggle.
@@Totododofodo not for Asians, it’s different out there
So so sad. Parenting is not for the faint- hearted. Been through lots myself. I can't believe the father survived and could think or talk.
@Hello there, how are you doing this blessed day?
Jennifer’s logic: You can’t disappoint your parents if you don’t have any.
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Also Jennifer's Logic: If your parents are dead, you are free and no more pain.
Lmao 😂
That's a fact lmao
Well don't forget, she never graduated high school😵
No one talking bout Bill Gates being a detective.
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I was exactly on that part! 😂 imagine telling people my dad is bill gates
I burst in laughter when i heard that name.. Lol
vSpecky i was thinking that 😂
5/7/20......AFTER solving THIS case Bill Gates got involved with COVID-19 & his MIRACLE CURE VACCINE THAT THE WHOLE WORLD MUST TAKE!
Having children does not give you the right to own their lives and expectations - Jennifer seems to have been driven to figure a way out of her parents tyranny. I don't condone murder, but I do say, if you are abusive to children or pets, you'd better prepare for a fight. You never know what limits will be the last straw that end in a revolt you created the groundwork for.
It’s a parent’s job to do everything they can to setup their kids for success. You can’t be overly involved in your kid’s lives but you can’t just let them do anything they want. If Jennifer didn’t agree with her parents, she had the option to leave them. Just because you have strict parents doesn’t give you carte blanche to do something like this.
Exactly. They abused her in the worst way possible: they wanted to live their dreams in her body.
You are undermining it by saying "strict parents". I had friends with strict parents. These parents were disgusting.
Although what she did is inexcusable, the parents drove her nuts. Her parents were not innocent victims. They created the daughter she became.
Dude you have no idea how fking long have i tried to avoid watching this video but its been appearing in my recommendation constantly as if youtube wants to shove this video down my throat and force me to watch it... so yeah i finally watched it. You’re welcome youtube.
Kristaps H. Thank you for your service Sir!
Just click not interested after clicking the three dots
No one forced you to do anything. Your will is weak.
Lol it's done that to me too
@@lookingcooljokr9528 I did, like three separate times, only took a week for it to reappear
Girl: help I'm tied up Police: if your tied up then how are you calling rn Girl: 👁👄👁
Ondre' 3000 LMAO
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LOL 😂 I'm Weak!
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They explain that part in the video.
She tried getting away but her parents dragged her back home... What she did is extremely out there and violence is never the answer but as parents you also have to let your children make mistakes and grow as individuals with a open door policy.
I think we are missing the root of the problem in this case here and that is the possible abuse by her 'Tiger parents'. Of course it's awful that this has happened; but you must ponder why a child would have enough contempt to do this to their own parents.
Easy it is called resentment. I don’t condone this woman’s behaviour but a series of events lead to this. If only this woman chose to leave and have no further contact with them, things would been different. Now she has to live with the consequences of her actions.
As an Asian, I can tell you that cutting off family isn’t always that easy. Familial ties could run deeper than most non-Asians could understand. If you’re really “lucky, “ you could even become an outcast to the entire clan! She really found herself pushed to the wall. And her lying ultimately became her maladaptive coping mechanism. I don’t completely empathize with the parents for their abusive tiger parenting. But I do hope that everyone find the healing they need, eventually.
Don't they have more than 2 pictures of this girl?? I feel sorry for the editor having to keep reusing those two pictures and trying to make it look different each time, doing different zooms and pans and other sfx lolol
So true
Rite
different pans of pan i apologize
bat ka nandito hhahahah pota
Lolllll
*drove 2 luxury cars* shows an ugly Lexus and a broken Mercedes
Riot Kai 😂😂
Says the guy with no car. 😙
I would rather have a crappy 2019 Ford Focus instead
Mscello22 you feel personally attacked because you own a shitty old Mercedes or what? 🤨
@@aryanshawla117 so true. A countach is a piece of shit just because it old
I lived under the rule of a clinically narcissistic parent. Abused a lot. Tiger parenting can have lot of narcissism and projection intertwined in it. Depending on the degree it is absolutely child abuse and treating the child as a status symbol instead of a human being who has psychologic limits. While I don't condone murder or torture of the parents at all, the daughter was still the victim of decades of psychologic, perhaps physiologic abuse no doubt.
Narcissistic parents are completely different to tiger parenting Narcissistic parents play the most insane illogical mind games to manipulate Tiger parents while extremely strict only do logical things and enforce rules they think will help their children succeed
❤ exactly 💯 I was raised by sick family. My parents were both alcoholics, aggressively beating eachother, then my mom left with me and moved close to my grandparents. She continued drinking and abusing me emotionally. My grandparents made me take care of her and make sure that people don t see her drunk. They locked me with her and pretended there was no problem. I hated my family, I wished myself dead, my mother dead, everyone. Eventually I graduated and went to work. Moved out from the city, then from the country. I am done.
@monikabazyl387 good decision Can't imagine the psychological damage they inflicted on you
Strict parenting is a polite term for abuse, let’s not fool ourselves here. Lifelong resentments are harboured and no relief until both parents close their eyes for the final time. I hope this sad tale is a wake up call for strict parents.
Strict parents and abusive parents are VERY DIFFERENT. Strict parents: No, you must finish your homework before you get your phone. Abusive parents: your phone made you the idiot you are today and we're never giving it back, or we're smashing it. Strict parents: You cannot have McDonalds today because you had it yesterday, it's unhealthy. Abusive parents: Eat this oatmeal three meals a day because you broke our no-Mcdonalds rule. Big difference. I had the former. Wonderful parents. Strict, disciplined, turned me into a polite and disciplined human.
you don't understand what abuse is if you think trying to provide a good future and stable path for your child is abuse.
Sort of….but “strict parent” is a pretty vague term. Does that mean any parent who won’t let teens do whatever they want, or a parent who picks your career? Or how about advising a daughter not to date a small-time drug dealer? Some would call that good advice, others would call it interference. And had she been 18, maybe….but she was 24. People with truly abusive parents would rather be homeless on the streets, or immediately join the military, or move in with an older bf/gf, or couch surf,…..anything just to get away from the abuse. But she did little and stayed home, and then told ridiculous lie after ridiculous lie (it was all a wacky misunderstanding) and blamed everything she did on everyone but herself.
Strict parenting is not abusive though. It is a style of parenting. I do feel strict is better than spoiling at least. Regardless, her parents did seem to abuse her because it's wrong to lock your 18 year old in the house and control their love life.
@@JenniferHales what I have observed in my life experience. The wild child are the ones who come from overly strict parents. I also observed that child are often scared of their parents and chose not to confide in them. I have witnessed this some many times when the parents are hurt when they own children are unable or unwilling to come to them if they need advice. To address the point about a spoiled child, what is a spoiled child to you? Remember, children are not property they should be treated fairly and with a degree of firmness. Please let me explain firmness, this doesn’t mean threatening way, but a proper explanation why things have to be done in a certain manner along with the consequences when it is not followed.
Roses are red, Violets are blue, We all got recommended this, And we don’t know why.
Relatable
same here. how did i end up here 😑
it doesn't rhyme
lmfao yes
Lmao saMe here .
Apparently her father was wrong. she did have the stomach
You mean he was "Wong"...
This is a REALLY underrated comment
@@dorjjodvo1992 🤣🤣🤣
@@dorjjodvo1992 I feel bad for laughing.
This burn
Poor poor girl. I can't imagine the emotional torture and abuse she went through. All she would have wanted was to be a happy person. The people who brought her into this world couldn't do that for her. Just to be allowed to take decisions about the course of her life on her own. Its a pity theres no psych evaluation done for intending parents. Their poor upbringing created a monster, led to her terrible decision making and finally her incarceration. I weep for her and all kids worldwide that experience this sort of abuse. So sad.
This reminds me of a popular verse. It says..."Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honor thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise....However, parents, DO NOT PROVOKE YOUR CHILDREN TO WRATH.." Enough said.
“She had highlighters” That’s when you know it’s legit
Lmaoooo
XDDD
Heh
LMFAOO 😭😭😭
😭😂😂😂 ikr but then u can't sell ur books after our done with them
"..And her bad boy boyfriend.." **shows least intimidating person ever**
Looks like it’s an old highschool/middle school photo, people change. The investigator did say he sold drugs so yea that’s definitely not how he looks 😂
Nvm I finished the rest of the video that is how he stayed looking 😂
@@christianh5826 bruh 😂
Haha
@@christianh5826 he probably just sold weed .. lol
I love my mom she might be strict sometimes but i know that she loves me more than anyone in this world i love you mom ❤ and dad ❤️
Asian woman here and i see this type of parenting all the time. Its awful and abusive. The way they belittle their kids for not being amazing is hurtful. I totally understand for completely snapping. She probably felt they owed her for all the abuse
Mexican parents are like that too
It is awful, but by no means limited to Asian parents. Many parents demand that their kids do at least as well, if not better, than they did. My own mother would throw abusive, insult laden tantrums if I got an A-minus on an assignment in school, rather than another A-plus, and literally nothing was ever quite “good enough.” It has its own consequences, as I am not close to my parents and cut them off completely for a couple years in my 20s, before saying that any further relationship was going to follow MY guidelines on decent, respectful behavior. But that said, murder is “outrageous overshadow” where what one person does is wrong, but the other persons’ reaction is so extreme, it makes them the “bad guy.” And she was 24, in Canada. No matter how sheltered or brow beaten, she could have just left and made her own way. It’s not easy, but those with truly abusive parents prefer to be homeless on the streets, or join the military, or couchsurf, or anything just to get away from the abuse. I think she was more a “failure to launch” case like Chandler Haldersen or the other cases of adult moochers who kill parents for money.
She should have been an actress instead of pharmacist
No, she clearly failed at acting, that's why she got caught...
Nusret Bextiyar She only got caught because she was followed😂
Nusret Bextiyar HEHWHHWW
I don't that would work
Nice one nursret XD
“Part-time drug dealer” seems odd to me. “Hey man can I get a couple grams off you?” “Nah sorry, I don’t work on Thursdays”
Lauren Cheerio he probably sold drugs to support his own habit so he wasn’t really a dealer probably. More like a user who would sell
lol
Aww man.. Thursday is payday.
Lmao
Lmao...
That’s why you make sure to raise your kids with boundaries they understand from a very young age, don’t force them to choose a profession you want and you support their choices. My kids are all grown up and happy. They never gave us any trouble because they knew about consequences for actions from being toddlers…without any physical punishment. They all have great jobs, happy lives and I’m happy knowing they’re happy.
are you seriously trying to justify this cruel human beings actions? She was 24, fully capable of making her own decisions.
@@nma87How were they defending her? They were pointing out how poor the parenting of her parents was.
@@nma87you clearly don’t know what’s it like to disappoint Asian parents her household is different from the regular household most people come from
The reality is most people who are raised by strict parents or even abusive parents do not turn to murder to get out of it. Her parents' being controlling isn't any excuse whatsoever.
When my best friend's mom died, she just became numb to the world for a couple months. She didn't cry at the funeral, she cried behind doors, so that people couldn't see. I'm just saying...someone not crying at a funeral isn't horrible or suspicious. People grieve in different ways.
Sionnanful - In this case, her lack of emotion led to the truth! Amen!
Sionnanful my best friends adopted mom (her mom adopted her) and she passed from heart surgery.
agreed
Sionnanful My dad didn't cry at his moms funeral, because he had before that emptied out all the tears possible.
Sionnanful exactly my dad died when I was 10. I didn’t cry at his funeral
“She had highlighters” holy shit guys I think we have our suspect
y-YO I GOTTA GO HIDE MINE I-
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I read this just as they said it in the video
I'm reading her story and the more I read it, the more I see her as the victim. The dad was an asshole who micromanaged everything and put an enormous amount of academic pressure on her and also banned her from dating or hanging out with friends. And he was so harsh on her regarding her grades that she went to extreme length to forge them. I can't really blame her for snapping given how horrible he was.
tiger parents should face jail time, why on earth would they think its a good method when its simply emotional and psychologial abuse towards there child? look vid is a prime example
This is every lndian child’s life.
@@EXEcosmoman20 I agree. This is why I say Amy Chua is the worst celebrity in existence and should face the worst punishment
@@Rayis4444 that just makes India look bad
For those who thinks she is 24 and she could just leave … its easier said then done ! I am 28 . Still lives with my mom who used to emotionally , verbally and physically abusive . And sometimes she can be loving . And when I have money from disability she will ask me to contribute rent because she is almost legally blind and cant work And she even asked me to pay her back for the years I was underpaid and the years I used her money saying all those payments I need to pay back before I move out ! And everytime i mentioned about moving out she will threw a huge fit! And so does the rest of my family members does NOT support me move out ! And when I do anything I need her permission like even wasting money on a taxi she will get real angry !she insisted on me giving her money to buy us a house and live with her until 30 ! And if you never know what is like to grew up with Angry Asian parents and gaslighting you dont know what its like !Money is not the only issuue. Physically and fiancially we can move out but mentally we cant . We are scared of upseting our parents because how controlling they are . My mom never taught me how to cook , how to clean , how to fend for myselfnever be supportive of me when I was underemployed. And when lock myself in my room she will tell ne how lazy I am and how useless I am .and when i point out what she did wrong she will either yell at me saying all those mistakes I amde or somply lock herself inher room and never speak to me until the next day …. And i know that eventhough i am capable of moving out but mentally I cant . i am scared of making her upset . Its that we dont even know how to live for ourselves anymore . We dont know what is like to be happy for ourselves and fight for ourselves and what is it that makes us happy .. the only thing we know is what we are scared of upsetting our parents . Its like a dark shadow that is casting on us. And I believe that Jennifer Pan lies about her grades and her life not because she likes doing that . Its because she was scared of disappointment and punishment from her parents ! And she would rather kill them then upsets them because thats the only way she feels that she could be free. I relate to Jennifer Pan a lot and every day I am scared that myself will go crazy and turn into someone like her . Everytime my mom verbally put me down and called me names and attacks my character on every single mistake I made I buried my anger and hate and I am afraid I will go crazy one day to the point I started avoidng knives , cooking , and even driving And whats worse is that in people grew up in traditional American household never understand what we have to go through . Our parentsraised us this way because they grew up in Asian countries w everyone were poor. Farmers, and the only way they know love is by putting food on the table . Is like the Marslow hierarchy of needs . Their needs stuck with fod and shelter and while their children . Needs of love , social and accep never will be meet . And in the end they dont even understand why their children is depressed .
I understand what you're trying to say. I hope you've been able to receive mental health services in the past 2 years
Insightful sharing
I am stunned to see that all of us are going through hell because of our parents. I also wanted to kill my parents 3 years ago. And, I was so crazy that I used to post on social media saying "somebody please kill my parents, I'll pay for it" Well, thank God my boyfriend helped me a lot to manage my anger and stopped me from doing the unthinkable. Then, I started working on myself, and after 3 years, I'm eloping with my husband (the boyfriend that I mentioned earlier, we are married but I couldn't disclose it otherwise my parents would have killed me). Within a week from now, I'll be in a different country, free from all these chains ⛓️. 🎉
Thank you
How she “acted” at her Mother’s funeral doesn’t always show guilt...Her brother didn’t show emotions either ..
That right there shows that something was up with the household.
Investigators find a problem regardless. If she had cried they would have said she faked it or cried bc investigators were on to her...
Yeah, sometimes people are just in shock.
just because theyre asian they look emotionless? lol. they look like they acted normally on that one pic. you cant just assume how they act during whole funeral. +i think the information that she doesnt show any emotion wasnt according to that one pic.
Raymond Terutama It was “according” to her emotions, as they had filmed the funeral ~ I agree, everyone handles their emotions differently 🙏 Everyone ~
Did you really think you'd outsmart the founder of Microsoft?..
I was looking for this comment. Thank-you.
Its probably on tv with commercials so had to recap every now and then
U make me comfort after hearing this case! Thanks you
I dont get it sum1 answer
You mean apple???
The narrator describes her as the daughter from hell. But in this case it took parents from hell to create a daughter from hell.
Never heard of this term, but it makes sense. A lot of Asian parents are really strict on their kids and want them to be highly educated and achieve academic excellence. But to have the intent to hurt and end your parents life is beyond a crime! Why not just leave home?
Her parents never asked why they weren’t going to a graduation ceremony?
@Carl yes they fucking were? you're a dumbass?
Carl listen to the story, they’re immigrants who came by boat.
@Carl they only had 1 child
@Carl oh.
She told them that she could only get one ticket for the graduation so she’d rather give it to her friend so that it would be fair since one parent wouldn’t have been able to come
When you have strict parents, it’s not unusual to know their footsteps. Growing up in a very traditional asian family, I can identify who went out of their bedrooms, which car is about to park, which keys are for the house or the cars, and even their snores. It’s just something you learn when you are scared.
True. I memorize my family members foot steps.
Saaame...I know who’s using the bathroom without seeing them go in. Like it not a matter of fear tho, it’s more like who do I have to mentally prepare to talk to.
I feel you, I used to live with my brother-in-law, he’s a dad,also a HS teacher and he’s pretty much a strict person, not in a forceful way like other, he understand how things goes, he used to be an ex-gangster that’s why he didn’t want everyone else to step on that mistake especially me and his son,but still... I could definitely identify his movements, his habits, and other things, so overall I think My situation change since I move out.. well what a story, but hopefully your parents would go easy on you... much respect.
Trueeeeeeee me also know how they close the door 😂😂
So true. Even on who is on the kitchen, living room based on the noise or clacking sound they create lol
I am in tears at the end. So sad for all of them.
Let this be a lesson especially to Asian parents everywhere - BE BETTER PARENTS!
And my parents say I’m the worst daughter
Lucy Kue ikr
Id kill em
Fr ur lucky I’m not that crazy lmao
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ıoq ɥnʎ It’s the fanbase name of a popular kpop boy group named BTS
“jennifer’s story is not something you hear every day” yeah cuz the jennifer’s usually commit suicide before they get to the murdering part
true
this ^^ I tried telling my family that I was suicidal for over a decade because of how they treat me and a) my dad had no reaction, kept his face blank and didn't say anything b) my mom tried to keep a blank face and failed because she rolled her eyes and was annoyed and c) my NPD sister started screaming at me that I'm a liar because it seemed like we had fun together when we would occasionally hang out. Most of the time it seemed easier to remove myself than endure the abuse.
Suicidal for over 10 years? I can understand why they thought that, given to the fact that you are still alive.
@@rmisionero My scars definitively prove how ignorant and cruel your response is.
I admit I am ignorant of your suffering, but I believe your family is as well. However, there may be reasoning behind it. Maybe it is because they are tired of hearing you complain. People who are depressed tend to think way too much about themselves and whatever pain they think they have. This is why its called a disorder. Someone that doesn't have it doesn't understand. A normal person would think that 1+1= 2, while a depressed person thinks that 1+1 = 0. It doesn't make sense, and that is why its a disorder. I hope you are taking meds for it.
I sympathize with her. If you raise a child like that don’t expect them to love you. There is always resentment
How do you know how they raised her and the brother?
@@colouroflife1 it was a general state. If a child is raised like that don’t expect them to love you
@@sharona7428 Like what? Let me guess, you believe whatever lies that compulsive liar has to utter?
@@colouroflife1 not sure if you are a parent but for yourself as an adult I am sure you do what you want. Children do not OWE parents to go to university or college get good grades and become lawyers and doctors. When a child becomes an adult a parent does not have to support them, in fact they can lock them out of their house. She did not owe them anything because she did not beg her mother to give birth to her. We cannot and should not live our lives through our children. They are individuals with their own lives. Many parents are totally unaware of who their children are and will do anything to try and let them fit what they want them to be. As a parent ACCEPTANCE and knowing who your child is, is often difficult for parents to accept. But once you accept who you brought into this world everything will fall into place. Her parents should shelter a big chuck of the blame for the unbearable standards they set for a child who was unable to live up to them. It is tragic but loving and accepting your children is higher than PhD.
@@sharona7428 Guess I don't make myself clear. Your entire theory based on that compulsive liars lies whose entire life based on deception. I'm asking you to show me proof how her parents had too much expectations of her? She was a drug addict and had a drug dealer lover. Her father told her to pick either her drug dealer or family. She chose to stay in the family's house. She is 24 ( twenty four), thus very much an adult. She could have left her family, picked a full time job, studied whatever she wanted to, instead, she murdered her mother and tried to murder her father for money. That's how she sees them, ATM machines. Her goal by murdering her parents was to get their money, car, house everything they worked for. She is a psychopath and to be honest, the dumbest psychopath I've ever seen. She is utterly selfish, she doesn't care anybody else but herself. That's why she asked numerous times in the interrogations " what happens to me". The brother who was raised by the same parents turned very well or countless other Asian children's. It's only her who chose to murder her mother. I wish her parents had just kicked her out once she hit 18 as they wouldn't owe her anything anymore.
2:20 they act like this is a weird thing to be able to hear. But when I was a kid I could identify Who was walking up the stairs, mom, dad or my sister. If it was my mom or dad I had to turn of my Light real Quick but if it was my sister i could go on with reading my book. I bet she could identify her parents their footsteps from anyone elses. But of course we now know why she knew they where from someone else
Asians often take off shoes when go into house also so if not wearing shoes or wearing house slippers would sound different than street shoes or boots.
Cute
Some people skip the recommended videos But not us Not us
Ikr i saw it in it plus i seen it on news already but it popped up so i watched it again
Yep
Moment GF N BF LOOKS SAME
Well I like watching crime documentaries.
Some people move on... I like what you did there
If you don't know which family member is coming up the stairs based on the sound of their footsteps, can you even call yourself a family??? Hey 1k likes thanks guys
You can if they don't wear shoes and or have carpet in the house.
@@billylilly1251 we have carpet in the house and we don't wear shoes inside (slippers you know) and I can still tell my family members footsteps apart.
@@sal9801 nope, I'm actually not. :D
@@sal9801 why would you wear shoes inside??? that's fucking disgusting man, you'll make house dirty and gross
I even know how my father's car sounds like when he comes/drives home
I feel Jennifer. I know how it feels to have strict parents. When my mother found out at 15, I had my first bf. She just went crazy. She thought it was the end of the world for me like I'm gonna get preggy bla bla. She wouldn't believe me when I told her I'm not doing anything. She gave me a curfew. I had to be home by 6 pm. When there is school dance night, she won't let attend. But the more she makes it hard for me, the more rebellious i get. So one time she cut my hair, and I swear i hated her for that. I became a liar to them too because they wouldn't listen they wouldn't believe my reasons. Fast forward, I now realized that my mother only did that because she didn't want me to get pregnant too young, that she wants only best for me. Today, I am a mother myself. It's tough handling a teen, but I wanna make sure I won't be as strict as my mom did to her kids.
As a daughter with abusive and very strict parents, i would never go THIS far... Gosh
When you keep seeing the video in your feed so you finally give up and watch it.
LMAO I ignored it for two weeks. I finally relented.
🙋🏻♀️ Guilty
So do I
Yup
Yup, yup.
Bro everyone knows what their parents' footsteps sound like
LMAO! Yeah, this girl is definitely an idiot! I bet she probably thought that lie sounded good and convincing until she realized that's she a fucking moron! smh
True... I know the sound of my parents and siblings footsteps
Well ya.. if your upstairs... and your parents have not worn shoes in the house since the first move in day... and they are alot lighter then the men in the house. Heavier step with boots on. I can see how she would know it's not her parents.
Yeah I don’t get what’s weird about her saying that. When I lived at home I could always identify my mum, dad and brother by their footsteps. Some people walk more heavily or lightly than others, or have a different gait, or tend to walk at a different pace etc - I really don’t find that claim unusual at all :/
I haven’t lived with my mother for a decade and I still know when it’s her coming up the stairs in her home.
Her path was changed when she met her boy friend. That changed her life. Loving the wrong person can be life changing. Meeting the wrong people brought tragedy to their family. Also his strict dad was also not a good thing. Imagine if he wasn't strict and she never met her boyfriend.
This is a true Asian dad... Coming back from the dead and coma to make your life miserable
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Be careful how you raise your kids. This has put me off having kids. Some kids can be so ungrateful.
Lol
True.
Usually true, but I've met 2 kids who were raised by loving, hard working parents but were evil personified.
Lynn Lynn that is true I am a Asian and I’m evil but I am looking to change
@@yourlocalwalmart8760 😮
Meanwhile the son is away at college going WTF bruh???
Nope, boy chose to stay away from the parents apparently. It was a good choice man
Steak guy [DHMIS] you don’t know it where’s your evidence sir?
Steak guy [DHMIS] this thread made me laugh to hard.
@Steak guy [DHMIS] 😂 you're not right
Nah, I bet the brother was thinking "I should've known this was gonna happen, I lived in that household."
I just watched the documentary on Netflix, and to learn about it, it's just gloomy and so tragic that no one really ever saw it coming. The fact that expectation from any parent to their children on how to raise them to become a good or better person and become a model in society is challenging and tough one but to kill the ones you love because you want a different kind of love??? That's Surreal and Desperate! I think the song "Too much love will kill you" hits differently to every person who needs to be loved but with caution because it could hurt you deep inside. RIP to her mother it's so painful to learn and heard about it especially with the relatives and their love ones😢💔
Girl, You could have walked out the front door?! You did not need to kill your parents! I mean you had a job and you lived with your boyfriend in an apartment and you were over 18! Just because your parents disowned you doesn’t mean they won’t come around?!
'Be nice to your children. They pick your retirement home.' - Bumper sticker.
If your children put you in a retirement home they are shit children, though I agree
And the murder weapon.
More like they're the ones you live with in your retirement while you care for the grandchildren
@@lawrencebruan-vy2px Do you have any idea what it's like to live with someone who needs to be in a retirement home? My grandpa came home the other day from being released from the retirement home he was at............. in the hours I was away at work, he broke off door of the sink cabinet in our bathroom, threw powder Comet all over the walls, the floor, and the door, and anything that wasn't affixed to the wall, he threw and made a mess. So please, unless you're in this situation, don't speak for the people actually going through it. And my mom came over and had to call the police because my grandpa was being very aggressive and combative. He's back in the hospital now because honestly he can no longer live at home.
You're a idiot!
I could tell this story in 5 minutes
phatnigga86 I could do it in 2 minutes
And yet somehow they did it in 26 minutes
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5 secs
Rapping maybe 🤣
I hope all parents are watching this VERY carefully.
To much pressure on anyone could make them snap ! As a parent we all want the most talented child/dren ever and sometimes we have to take a step back when the seem overwhelmed
Yeaaaaah the “she didn’t cry at the funeral,” bit is a tad stupid. Some people just don’t cry at them, they can’t. Whether they’re in shock or they’ve cried so much they can’t let anything out anymore.
Yeah true like I don’t cry at all tbh unless it’s an animal
True. Everyone has different coping mechnism. Although no tears could be just a small red flag that motivated police to dig deeper to find more evidence, can't blame them.
@Illyria86 Not everyone can control their tears though. Do agree she could have been in shock.
Agree. My grandmother died almost 4 months ago and I never cried in her wake and burial. I love her so much but I needed to be strong for the people she left, so I didn't cry in front of many people, at least.
Rocky Rider unless it’s an animal what the fuck? 😂 so how do we describe being sensitive nowadays if there’s mfs crying over animals but not humans 😂
This murder case was so bad they had to hire Bill Gates to investigate it.
@@robinz99 r/wooooooshh
MICROSOFT POWER!!!!!!
Like he needs more money ·^·
msd187 thought I was the only one who caught it
Lol . the detective name Bill Goetz. Sound like Bill Gate
She had a choice to leave her family if they are really abusive but to kill them is gruesome and heartless..
Cry
@YashiFradkin your the 😢.......😂
Her parents were strict yes but what she did is unforgivable. She could’ve done anything else but really killing her parents? Taking a life? That's not justifiable at all. May their souls rest in power. And may their loved ones stay strong and heal. No matter how strict they did not deserve this. I wish for all the justice 🥺❤️
Of course she shouldn't have, but you're grossly oversimplifying things. Her parents weren't just strict, they were emotionally and physically abusive. When you're the subject of that type of abuse, you cannot "just" do "anything else". If you can't understand what I mean by that, then I'm happy for you; you've never known true, chronic abuse and I hope you never do. But don't make the mistake of applying what you perceive as common intuition to everyone, because it doesn't work like that. Humans can only take so much before they snap. Usually the "snap" is suicide, but in this case it was matricide and attempted patricide. You can piss and moan all you like about how unjustifiable it is, that's not going to stop reality from knocking on your door.
I feel like that's a little bit of an oversimplification. Unless we have been in their situation, we can't really judge.
While she should have choosen another path, "strict" parents ate often abusive too. I was in an officially "strict" household, but behind closed doors.... As a teenager I thought about hurting someone too. Those families are often narcissistic ( my foster mother has NPD ) with one or more parental figures with NPD. The abuse inflicted upon a child is unimaginable. It's not just hitting and yelling. Oftentimes sadism is a problem too. F.e. threatening to give the child into a childrenshome, setting up unreachable goals and then watch the child fail and panic and enjoying it, hurting the child while saying they only hurt them because they love them. I had a "tigermom" myself and know a few others. Narcissism and sometimes sociopathy are a big problem in these households. And the manipulation, triangulation and gaslighting. It's pure insanity. I'm in my 30s and still in therapy for c-ptsd and generalized anxiety disorder and panic disorder. No child with at least half decent parents would think about murdering them. Children are born with unconditional love for their parents. You really have to f**k up for the child to hate you like that.
dude they were evil!
Not justifiable but they forced her to do it