alone but not lonely in seoul 📖 life as an introvert in korea vlog (self confidence, solo dates)
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as much as i love building community, i also think that spending time by yourself is so important for confidence, self love, and artistic inspiration. i hope this chatty vlog helps inspire some of you who are a little on the fence about spending time solo to give it a try - safely of course! love always!
3:30 - how to be alone in a public place
12:00 - have a friend or safe zone
19:23 - wanting to share your experiences
21:40 - what you gain from spending time alone
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how to be alone but not lonely 🪺 life as an introvert in seoul korea vlog
“Even if you trip, in a couple of minutes you’ll be surrounded by people who never saw you trip” It’s such a simple sentence, but it changed so much in my mind…
Hahah yep just walk away fast 😂😂
A little tip from someone who loves travelling alone: places (especially cities for me) have a personality. I see them as living creatures, with their quirks and their uniqueness. So whenever the thought of exploring alone seems weird, remember you're not truly alone, you're hanging out with the city and getting to know them ❤ (100% agree, having writing tools is like having superpowers ✨)
You aren’t being watched, they are the ones being watched by you because they’re too busy in conversations with their companions to observe other people 😆 You can do this guys!
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@@caricakes …are you ND? I feel that fear of being perceived WITH MY SOUL 😅
I have v2k and synthetic telepathy, they watch our thoughts, feelings, and our soul hue!
“Every day the world gives you a gift.” I see things this way too. I think of it as looking for my “little moment of awe each day.”
as an only child and a big introvert who didn’t have a lot of friends growing up for numerous reasons i like doing things alone - from going to cafes, museums etc to solo travelling and queuing up early for concerts. sometimes my social anxiety tries to sabotage me and i need to keep persuading myself to leave the house, but i usually end up having fun and being glad i actually did it. there are still days when my social anxiety wins and i don’t go or i go and get really anxious, but i have learnt to accept that it’s ok to have these bad days and to try again next time.
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Actually, one of my favourite things to do alone is going to a café haha. I always carry a book with me, have a drink, go take a look at the closest book store, wonder around a park (if there's any in the area), take photos, and go back home after a couple hours. It's like a ''me time'' where i do what i like, as long as i want, without having to follow someone's else schedule. Like a mini vacations for myself hahaha
Exactly!! My mind craves those moments hahha
this is so interesting to me! im an introvert who also loves being alone in public spaces! honestly, the main thing that makes me anxious is my safety but otherwise I find it very healing. i also realised that I surprisingly love eating alone in restaurants, or at least have never felt conscious about it before lol
Eating alone anxiety hits me at the weirdest times! I think more casual places help (and i never feel weird eating in cafes??) but a sit down restaurant by myself? Im still working on that 😂😂
a few years ago i felt uncomfortable even walking outside, constantly felt like i’m being watched. and i couldn’t imagine eating in a cafe alone or something like that. then step by step i gained confidence by putting myself in all kind of situations. i grabbed coffee to go, went to a bookstore, set in a cafe, went to the hospital, to job interview. and the more things i did alone more comfortable i got. now i’m comfortable in all the situations☺️ and i loveee to spend time just by myself
Something that I always remind myself about whenever I’m confronted with doing something alone is that I will likely regret missing out on amazing travels or concerts or movies because I was too scared or anxious to do let myself do it alone. It’s definitely not a skill that necessarily comes naturally, but eventually I just realized I’d rather do it alone then not do it at all - plus literally no one will judge you for being alone, if anything I get more comments about how brave I am than how it’s pathetic/sad/lonely. Don’t miss out on life because you’re waiting for someone to share it with - you can share it with yourself!
I went to Malaga for 4 days solo and omg, it was the best trip I've ever been to. Having crepes for diner, booked a boat tour, explored castles on my own. It was so so special to me, eventhough i also enjoy trips with my partner. But, solo travel just hits different. In my town though, I'm terrified to taking cabs and it's the only way to get to my town's park or beach or cafes, but working on that. Thank you, Cari, for choosing to talk abt this topic ❤
we love the art of being alone but not lonely + people watching ✨✨
I think I stopped being anxious and awkward about going out alone once I started learning how to drive. Learning to drive was so hard that I don’t think there’s anything that can make feel more stressed, anxious, and panicky than that moment in time.
This video seems like a sign from the universe for me! As an introvert, I usually find it no problem to go around by myself. But, I just moved to Korea this spring with a new mindset of wanting to change myself and be more social. Only 2 weeks in and I’m already feeling blue because I haven’t been able to connect with people on a deeper level (not just saying hi and chatting for a while). I feel like a failure and more lonely than ever. Everytime I have a meal alone or strolling by myself I feel like I’m pathetic. BUT this video makes me realize that there’s nothing wrong with small talks and finding comfort in being alone. There’s nothing wrong with my old self that enjoy her time alone reading in a cafe and people watching at the park. I have given an effort to create a friendship (initiating a conversation with strangers which I have never been able to do before) and it should be enough for me to feel proud. Also, it hasn’t been that long so as I’m writing this I realized that I can’t forced a friendship in such a limited time…. and If that doesn’t work in the ends, so be it. You are enough. You have yourself as a faithful friend.
I lived by myself for about five years from 17-22, I was uncomfortable at first going out to eat by myself, walking by myself, etc. But the first city I lived in was San Antonio, and what helped was how walkable that city was. I would walk all day and there were some days where I would walk almost 20 miles without even realizing it. I grew to really enjoy traveling and being by myself. I have a trip coming up in July where I'll be in Japan for four weeks for an internship, but after that, I'll be in Seoul and then Tokyo by myself and I'm actually really really excited to explore those places by myself. So much time to think and do whatever I please. I enjoy sitting in places and people watch for hours and just enjoying the moment. I don't know why but it's really soothing for me.
one interesting thing that came to me when You Cari mentioned "some people don't have a place where they can go to" (similar to that). That whenever eg. im in Türkiye I read much more as there are more cafes and book cafes in almost every corner, I always grab my books with me and finish more books there as when I am back in Germany as we don't have a lot of cafes where you can just solely sit for a cafe and a cake. Mostly you have restaurants for pizza and kebab shops or a bubble tea space without seating. So I realized, indeed having a place for just sitting with a book and a coffee (or cake) makes a lot of difference :)
The “one thing on my agenda” issue is a struggle for me as well 🤦🏻♀️. I have to be able to mentally prepare myself. Nothing puts a damper on my day faster than if the ONE store I’ve prepared myself to go to for the day doesn’t have something I needed. I envy the ppl who can easily go to a follow up store when necessary.
i used to be scared of going places alone without my phone or without something to do (like my phone or an activity) because like being alone to me meant you had no one and that was a scary thought to me at the time. I think around a year ago was when this started to change because i was in a very emotionally heavy friendship that took so much of my life and mental space that i started to cherish my time alone when i can just think in my own head about my own thoughts without having to worry about the other person’s emotions. This morphed into me taking a lot more “quiet moments” like enjoying the time i spend driving in silence (i know, horrible) or just people watching when i’m walking between classes 😊
I lived alone for a year in Paris, of course I have some friends that like to hang out with me but I usually spend my day alone. Whether I went to a cafe or just sat on a bench in a park, I always bring my journal with me. At first I just done it for my weekly assignments as I was a creative writing student, but then it became a habit. I just wrote everything that I felt and I saw at that time. Sometimes if I forgot to bring my journal, I wrote it on the notes on my phone. When I looked back at it now, it really helped me to feel comfortable being alone. I think it is the greatest way of be alone without being lonely✨
I really identified with what you said about being a people pleaser and genuinely being happy with whatever as long as the others are happy, but then also learning more what you yourself like from being alone! I'm totally the same. And I think that's why hanging out with just myself gives me so much joy, cause then I feel truly free to just do and enjoy whatever I want :) You've really inspired me these last couple of years to really treasure my little adventures and also to dare to solo-travel! So thank you for showing the beauty of these things
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I think it's about feeling confident in one's own skin, and I noticed this gets easier as I age (I am now 40). I bet by age 50 or 60 I am going to be super at ease x 100
omg i feel like i haven’t watched one of ur videos in forever😭 ur honestly one of the most relatable vloggers ever!!
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My marriage ended somewhat unexpectedly last year. This video means so much to me because I can say that I was PARALYZED from the fear of being alone all of the time. This video was both helpful and reassuring, as I've been on a journey of spending time alone and being okay with that.
That's so true about travelling with others vs travelling alone. I make memories with others but I truly find peace by myself because I see so much value in just walking around. In London I did 40k steps and my feet were literally bleeding but I came home so relaxed and refreshed and all I did was walk and go to bakeries and go see hamilton at Kings theartre
I have never been afraid of doing things alone except traveling. Honestly, I never had a desire to until I started following you. Now, in a few months, I'll be going to my 1st solo trip ❤
There is a huge difference between being alone and being lonely. I have felt lonely whilst being amongst lots of people because I felt I had nothing in common with them. I have been alone in big cities and not felt lonely because there seem to be lots of others who are on their own.
Learning to enjoy time on my own was one of the biggest game changers in my anxiety recovery. I remember when I used to feel anxious to sit at a restaurant alone and so I started going to a restaurant nearby my work on my lunch breaks and becoming familiar with the staff. Once I felt more comfortable to do that, I branched out to restaurants in unfamiliar places. I found that smiling at strangers and saying hi to people and having a chat helps me feel more at home in a new situation. Thank you for the tip of the journal privacy! Apple can be so sneaky. I checked and mine was set to share and now I turned it off. 😮💨
I'm very good at being alone nowadays, and I definitely recommend cultivating a "cafe hobby," like knitting, writing, coloring books, sketching, that is easy to take with you and doesn't require a whole big setup. You can work a few hours on something you enjoy and it's nice to get out of the house and have a change of scenery. I'm also a BIG fan of going to the movies alone. Although it's nice to have somebody to make comments to throughout the movie, watching movies is a basically solitary activity and nobody is judging you for going alone. and you don't have to share your popcorn!
I was incredibly shy and awkward when I was a teen, but in my mid-20s during my PhD I got to travel to the USA for work, and I reeeally wanted to go see, like, Death Valley and Yosemite, and other nature places, but no one else was available. So I rented a car, and drove myself on a week long trip to a load of out-of-the-way national parks. It was incredible, and ever since then I've really grown in confidence travelling alone (it was awkward at first to ask "table for one" so much but it goes away with time). I'm female, so I make sure I'm aware of safety (especially at night), but I've had so many incredible adventures since. And actually, travelling out in the middle of nowhere has given me more confidence to be alone in the city at cafes and stuff lol (smaller adventures, but adventures nonetheless!). I still get anxious about it from time to time, especially in cities, but having had such great experiences gives me a push to get over it a lot of the time now. Great video, Cari!
I like cooking and eating alone... shopping, walking and running alone. As a mother of two children, I appreciate the moments when I hear my thoughts :)
As I watch this, I’m sitting at a cafe-alone, in a new city that I arrived to just yesterday-and I feel so supported and content 😌
Thank you for opening up the conversation about doing activities alone. A lot of people find it taboo or when people tell me “oh I could never do that”. It’s nice to hear your thoughts and ideas about this❤
I found that Covid was great practice for me hanging out by myself and learning to love it. I learned that going for walks outside brought me peace, and I found great spots to sit outside and read. Also, if inner thoughts are an issue, I like to curate myself a playlist and just wear my AirPods/earphones outside and listen to music whenever I’m doing an activity alone 🥰
This feels like a vlog ill come back to when i seek comfort
thank YOU always! ❤
Comes from someone who really enjoy my own company up until highschool , Then college came around and moved out and lived in the university area which friends was lived close to one another and for the next 4 to 5 years i always had a company almost 24/7. Then life happened as we all knew, then back to being by my self, i was afraid and forget how to enjoy life by my self. And yes what u said was true, i just forced my self to go out alone, and now 2 years later i’m thriving that i already went everywhere including travel by my self, and i hoped you guys too will find it soon❤❤❤
I used to be very scared of doing things by myself but then I went to uni and there were so many things I wanted to do but no one to do them with. I didn’t want to miss out on doing things just because I would have to do them by myself so I started small and eventually worked my way up to going on solo trips. I still get anxious before sometimes but I know that the experience I will have it worth it 😊
I love doing Airbnb trips to new places with my dog. I think for me that's the happy medium, where I feel confident and like I have an "out" but I can be alone (kind of) and explore.
your videos are always so cinematic, and those little music filled montages are such a treat!! i revisit your videos all the time and you embody such a sense of home and ethereal love in these videos, so much love for you cari!!
oh my goodness thank you so much :') love back to you~
this is very timely to me 😅 I’m currently on a 4-month long solo trip, and even though I have travelled extensively before alone, and I’m so used to it (and enjoy it) the one thing that makes me incredibly anxious is going out for dinner alone. I can do breakfast/lunch/cafes etc. But dining even makes me feel lonely at times, cause usually that’s the time you’re more likely to be surrounded by groups of friends/families, having a good time, etc. I also find I feel intimidated when the restaurant/cafe only has big tables, clearly meant for groups of people and it makes me feel bad that I’m occupying a space that could easily fit 4+ people. So I end up getting take out and eat back at my hotel room 🥹
Oh my gosh 4 months is a looong time!! I totally agree - something about dinner feels more intimidating. But i also love getting take out and eating in my room reading or journaling so 😂
yeah that's the hardest thing for me solo travelling- I think part of it is just the absolute social conditioning we've had from the media etc that dining alone means you're a lonely loser! But I've started to say to myself things like "a table for two is the same space taken" and "my money spends just the same!". I usually watch something on my phone or take a book, and I've been training myself out of the anxiety- it IS socially acceptable to take a book to dinner in a nice Italian restaurant, I will singlehandedly make it so! 😂 I hope your trip is going well!
It's so intriguing to me that people worry about not having someone to "share" things with when it comes to solo travel. I'm so introverted that it's something that has never crossed my mind. Like if I'm traveling solo and visit a museum, I can take as much time as I want to look at a painting, exhibit, item, or whatever it may be. I can sit with my feelings, I'm analyzing it, I'm enjoying it's beauty, maybe it made me think about something in a new way. But I don't feel like I need someone with me in order for that to be a meaningful experience, or to validate the things that I'm feeling. Like you, if I'm traveling with a group I'm usually worrying about everyone else's experience, whether they're having a good time, whether they're bored, whether they want to do something else. I love my friends dearly and enjoy spending time with them, but I like being alone with my thoughts and feelings too. And if a painting is that mind-blowing and has changed my world, I'll share it with them after.
Yay! I was just sitting here thinking, "Cari, don't leave me hanging on Saturday night!" 🙂I too enjoy being alone. Hope your weekend is going well!
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Very interesting! I found ways around anxiety after i got a dog - not because he got me outside more or anything, though he did, but because he was really anxious around people. I started opening with people who were interested in petting him: "go ahead, he loves people but he is really socially anxious so it might take him a minute" and literally EVERYONE has responded from a place of empathy having also felt that social anxiety. I now find ways to acknowledge when im feeling awkward in new places/situations, etc and people have always responded kindly
"The gift" love that so much Cari! After my divorce I had to decide if I was going to allow that situation to rob me of my joy or not. So I had to learn to be happily alone, in a cafe etc. The benefits of traveling abroad alone is I can do whatever I want. I can be open to seeing the "gifts" in those moments. Lovely as always 💕 ⚘️
Surprisingly, you are my biggest reason I can be alone now! I moved from the desert in California to Pittsburgh and I have zero family here. I have used your videos as inspiration, I started taking books and my computer with me because I noticed you tend to bring something to do with you and the first time it was so scary but once I did it, It's all I want to do when I feel stressed. I definitely feel more in tune with myself because of it as well. I feel like spending time doing things I like without worrying about someone else is really what has helped me firmly plant myself in my own existence.
I am very lucky that I live in a place where I don't have to worry about safety that much, but I am deeply aware of it when I travel. Really loved what you said about "a gift a day", that's such a lovely way of looking at things. I'll add that if you are able take a picture of that gift so you can look back at it later on and smile :) As an introvert I consider going out by myself like taking myself to little dates. Going to a gallery or a museum, drinking new coffee, trying new food etc. It makes it easier! Sometimes the bigger problem is convincing myself to go out at all, because I love to stay inside, but I'm working on it.
It almost feels like this video was meant for me to see right now because I just got to Seoul a couple days ago for a solo trip. I have no issues being alone back home but being here is so different. This was the motivation I needed today to keep living freely and doing everything I want here even though I am alone. Thank you ❤
I used to love being on my own and doing stuff alone, until me and my partner broke up. Now it makes me actually feel alone to do things with myself. Hoping I will be able to find my way back to not feel so alone ❤ loved this video!
I used to feel so awkward being alone when solo traveling, or really doing anything alone. But I really do think that awkwardness fades (slowly at first) the more you push yourself to go to that cafe or bookstore just because that’s what you want to do. I feel like I’ve come so far-today, I’m in Denver for the first time, and I just finished talking to fellow graphic designers at a studio (that I reached out to cold-email style!) and had such a nice, flowing conversation. And now I’m sitting at a cafe, people watching and reading. And I’m considering wandering over to a nearby bookshop. I’m no longer aimless-I have a direction for these days that I find myself solo, and have come to love these moments.
i really resonate with all the tips you mentioned in this video. i have social anxiety and love being alone - i just hate going out to places where most people are with another person. the first thing that helped me was going to places i have already been with someone. I'll already know the environment, the process and what is available there (in a café or restaurant, for example) and that takes away some of the initial nervousness to even go there. now for checking out new places/travel i always ask myself: i really want to go there but i won't if i have nobody with me? and how i would miss out on things I enjoy, like going to a concert. i still have some things i can't do alone and i still feel very uncomfortable in some places, such as Restaurants/Cafes but there are also things i can and even enjoy on my own now! just yesterday i went to a nearby city all on my own, to an event at a book store. afterwards i got myself boba and then walked around the city. i got hungry and got something i've wanted to try for a long time: i got it for takeout because i was scared of sitting down but i still went - a small win!! in the evening i even went to the cinema alone, bought a ticket right there (not online) and sat down by myself, something i actually love doing now! i could not have done that 4 years ago. i've also been in therapy and on medication for some time now, but i still think doing things like this step by step can really help you out a lot, and watching your videos has also helped and inspired me a lot in the past years!!! :)
i made the mistake of drinking coffee on a day i was slightly anxious. and i’ll spend the rest of today by myself, and i’ll also be traveling, which is something that always gives me anxiety despite me doing this journey often. but i watched this video while eating my lunch, by myself in the library, and it really calmed me down. so than you :))
omg, I second everything you said about being the people pleaser and figuring out my own favorite places, dishes, and activities! I noticed a change in my perception of going somewhere alone when I moved to a different country. I didn't have friends yet and still was interested in exploring the city, so I guess it's curiosity that made me do things alone?.. also, I was imagining that maybe for someone I would be that cool mysterious person in the corner reading her book/sketching and it gave me courage to do stuff I like :D
cari i swear to god you have helped me more then any psychologist or meds lol i have also started going out alone because of you, also filming and taking pictures of the scenery personally my biggest issue with going out alone is that wherever i go i feel like i need to spend money (specifically talking about ME time here), like coffee, food, clothes, books, i can find a good excuse why to get out of the house, but it always gets back to spending more money. And i don't mind that usually, but since i've realized the little mental health walks i have are something i need to do daily, as a student it kinda gives me even more anxiety knowing how much i've spent, even if its splurging on myself as a treat
The song choices this vlog is nice. Its perfect for an alone but not lonely playlist
I really loved this video and the way you phrased everything 💖 It's nice to have spaces to share with people you enjoy spending your time with, even as an introvert sometimes doing all by myself was kind of sad, but as time goes by I'm so happy I'm so comfortable with my own company and don't limit the things I can't do because I'm afraid of doing them by myself. If I had been to scared, I wouldn't have traveled abroad, found amazing cafes, seen cool art exhibitions, been to concerts, tried new foods, etc. because at the time I either had no one to go with or simply didn't feel like my social battery could handle a companion.
The people pleasing thing resonated so much with me. I just enjoy being with friends and am most of the time happy with them choosing what they feel like doing. I also tend to feel very anxious when I am going somewhere by myself. Like in one moment I am so happy to be alone and absorb the things around me and in the next my anxiety hits. What I learned so far is to not get disappointed in yourself. You cant control feelings but you can take actions. So if you practice it enough, you will feel more and more comfortable. Step by step :)
I really needed the advice you offered on learning to find peace in being alone despite your anxieties. Its okay to be alone and to be comfortable with yourself, i feel like thats a really big step in self love too. finding solitude in yourself...thank you for that
I absolutely love having time to spend with just myself!!! in fact I schedule in a complete solo day almost weekly and I couldn't function as an introvert without them :") I'm also leveling up in the wole "doing things by myself" category as I booked myself a solo trip to nyc in april. I'm nervous as heck but since I've been to the city a couple of times before I'm pretty confident that I'll be just fine ❤ lovely video as always cari
I think being by yourself is easier for some personality types like INFPs or INFJs since they tend to live in their heads anyway. I enjoy people's company but also just as happy being by myself doing anything because then there is no intrusion or someone imposing their opinions on mine (basically I don't need to compromise on where I want to go, what I want to see, how long I want to stay or what I want to eat). And yes, having a book, notebook, headphones or sketchbook is a great way to while away the time and also signal that you don't want to be intruded. Also being alone really gives me an opportunity to watch others which I would not be able to if I had company as I would have/want to focus on them,
I watched this video a few days ago, and I finally got the courage to go out by myself to run errands and I ended up running into one of my best friends that I haven’t seen in a while!! Thank you for giving me the courage to go today! ❤️
In 2023 I was in such a life slump because I had finished graduate school but wasn’t able to get a job and I spent the majority of the year at home. On top of that, I’ve found it hard to go do things on my own without a friend to join/accompany me. SO, for 2024 I gave myself the goal of doing a Solo Adventure once a month. Take a book, look up a coffee shop or cafe I’ve never been to, and go enjoy being on my own in the big, big world. ❤
Love love loveeee your videos!!
I loved that you talked about the fact that we are more inspired when we are alone as we aren’t distracted by paying most of our attention to others. I’ve always felt that but I couldn’t put it into words, and it has prevented me for creating so much. I think it can actually help a lot of people who are hesitant to take a step into doing things alone! ❤ I know this will help me do even more things by myself so thank you again Cari, it was a wonderful video 🫰🏻
Last year was the first time in ages that I were traveling alone again. I went to one of my favorite places London. I don't know before it felt kind of scary but after I got there I felt really comfortable and had the feeling I am myself now again. It is like I were meeting myself and really enjoyed it. 😊
I've learned to love my own company over the years, and your video just solidified it! The idea that you could do a Skillshare class on this topic keeps coming back to me since watching this. Thank you for sharing your experiences!
i definitely agree, i feel i get more inspiration when i'm walking somewhere by myself. sitting in a cafe alone sometimes still makes me a bit anxious but listening to a podcast in my headphones distracts well
Love a Sunday Cari vlog ❤️
the realisation that some people won't like me regardless of whether or not I am trying to fit in, made me just completely embrace my own uniqueness and personality. Consequently, it made me realise that I am usually more content being alone because I don't need to be questioned or be judged. I can just enjoy those moments in peace.
how do people find out their likes, dislikes, values, opinions, icks, annoyances if they are never alone... you find yourself in solitude
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Realy love this topic ❤
Best thing about going places by yourself is how friendly people will be. When you're with someone no one wants to interrupt you but when you're by yourself I find that people in shops and cafe will have a conversation with you.
Oh i related to everything you said so much in this video!! I’ve kind of always been the kid that can play alone for hours and I still feel that way as an adult, but I definitely think that being alone in public is a practiced art! After many years of practicing by going to movies or cafes or restaurants alone (and also being forced to refigure out how to do things alone after my own best friend/roommate/attached-at-the-hip friend moved away), a couple years ago I went on a 10 day solo trip to Greece. The whole point was that I would get to craft the whole trip exactly as I wanted, with none of the compromising that is inevitable when you travel with others! It was an amazing experience (and I always had a book in hand, especially for eating at restaurants, which was the hardest for me too). But along the way I had lovely conversations with random locals and other solo travelers that I would have never had the chance to meet if I was with a group or another person! And I learned so much about myself and that I am capable enough to figure out any situation, like you were saying at the end of the video. Such an empowering experience!!
Being on your own in a public space is big main character energy! ❤
My best Sunday morning mood 💖
Cari I love ur videos sm! Thanks for the constant uploads :))
Sunday morning coffee in bed and a new Cari video ❤
The gift of the day concept is beautiful. Thanks for that. 😊
Thank you You make me feel like I’m shining today✨
Thank you Cari! Watching this as I started my solo trip in Seoul 🤍
I really want to travel to Seoul and I am trying to hype myself up to do it but I am so scared (hi anxiety) that I might run into communication issues and I'll end up sleeping on the streets because I can't find my hotel or something. I really admire your solo travels so much! On another note, inspired by your vlogs I started out looking for cafes etc and found out the local public library moved its location closer to me and had a complete overhaul. I went there to write last week and it was so nice! ☺️
Thank you for being kind and giving the advice.
Amazing vlog, Cari! I'm sure it will help and inspire tons of people🎉❤🎉❤🎉❤
I really really love your channel. It has such a soothing vibe❤️.
I do a lot of activities alone, I do however think the lack of "third spaces" is a major issue. I wish there was someplace to go that doesn't require me to spend money. I found a library 30 minutes away from me and I'm trying to go once a week but even then its a bit of a gas expenditure. I also think though, the beauty of doing activities on your own is that there's someone to come back and chat to about who you saw and what you did. I spend, I think, entirely way too much time on my own and what should feel liberating just feels a bit sad sometimes. But maybe that's just me! I usually enjoy my time out doing things solitarily until there's something that I really want to share with someone and then it kind of hits. But 100% with you on alone-activities being important! Especially because the alternative would be to sit alone at home which wouldn't help anybody haha. Great vlog as usual! 💚💚
this video definitely inspired me to try taking myself on many solo dates this spring!
your video was my gift today :) & a side note - i am FINALLY uploading my first youtube video this week! i've been so inspired by you and wanted to share my little piece of living daegu with the world :) i'm also hoping it makes me feel less lonely here too. thank you for the beautiful videos as always cari :)
i had always mainly found eating alone to be a very uncomfortable experience. i continually felt like i was taking up too much space or that i wasn't as "worthy" of a customer because i wasn't spending as compared to a couple or group. however, once i started to live alone it felt so frustrating to order delivery and have to eat it cooped up in my room. i'm still working on it, but now i feel somewhat comfortable eating by myself in public. my biggest tip would be to start small. in the beginning i would only go to japanese restaurants where i knew there would be single seating (check google maps for images!). after a while, i tried going to restaurants before they got busy and practiced with sitting at tables meant for two. i haven't attempted going to a busy restaurant by myself, but it's a work in progress. i truly emphasise with everyone struggling with being alone. but as cari pointed out, you can work on the awkwardness of it all. speak to yourself kindly. it's alright for it to be a bumpy ride.
The ideas you presented in this resonate with me so much and you put in words really well how it feels to go out and about and travel solo! Thank you
Thank you, excellent video, one of my favourites.
you're literally so comforting to listen too- thankyou for this video :3 i'm a big introvert and do alot of things alone. its nice to know someone else is similar
I am always afraid to go out by myself but when I am already out alone I feel the happiest haha so I trick myself to go out and then I can enjoy it 😋
I recently went on my first solo trip because you inspired me. It was amazing and cannot wait to go on another one! ❤
you make the best vlogs , in the season of the Cherry Blossom 🌸, cannot wait
i love love love that idea of sharing things with yourself. for me, reading is such an introspective activity for me and i kind of love that conversation i can have with myself while i’m reading. also i often feel pressure to share even the small experiences with someone else especially on social media, i think it’s so important to intentionally have these small moments like yeah, i exist and even if no one else knows i saw this random little detail, it happened and i felt it myself
probably one of my favourite videos you've done Cari! What a beautiful week and great advice
You gave me the courage to go on my first international solo trip and it was absolutely fabulous 😊
I adore how you captioned the shot with the adorable cat, "Gingers stick together." I always felt the same with black cats and when mine came for pats and scratches I would call her my 'Brunette Princess' 💖💖💖
As a formerly shy person, I love how you emphasise that u have to start with small things, and that in reality of course no one is really is looking at you or is thinking about you 🙌🏻 Understanding that might take time but starting doing simple things by yourself is really helpful 🖤
This video is my explanation to people and my answers to my anxiety. Thank you cari as always❤️❤️❤️
Hiii Cari ❤ this video and everything you said resonates with me so much, especially the chat at the end of the video. I just wanted to say that I love and appreciate who you are as a person. Have a lovely day!
I’m going on a solo trip to nyc alone from la and this helps me so thanks. 😊
Awww I love Mary Oliver's poems too! I hope you enjoy your new book.